I just got back from a healing service at our church. It was part of the “Fully Alive” series my pastor and his wife are doing on sexuality.
In one part of this healing service, Stewart Ruch and his wife Katherine addressed mother wounds. As I sat there, I thought about my own history.
Within a week after I was born, I got very sick. There was some kind of abdominal obstruction. The doctor who operated on me said sewing up my skin was like sewing wet tissue paper; I was that fragile.
The operation was a success, and was written up in some medical journal. I, however, developed pneumonia and at one point, burst my stitches. They had to put staples in to hold me together.
All that kept me in the hospital for at least 6 weeks.
A nurse who worked in the NICU in that era told me what it was like: “The babies belonged to us. They never saw their mothers. We would prop them with a bottle to feed them.”
I did not get a chance to bond with my mother. It was not her fault.
When I came home, my mother was very scared she might do something wrong. She had to keep my older brother, who was two, away from me, because I was still so fragile. I think my first experiences of my mother must have been awash with fear and guilt.
Yet, sitting there in the healing service, searching my heart for any wound, anything to forgive, I found nothing.
Not even the memory of a wound.
That’s how complete that healing was, after several years of Healing Codes work.
My mother and I never were close until after she started doing Healing Codes herself, at age 76. She is a completely different person now. As her heart issues healed, our relationship bloomed. So did her relationship with God. Her memories of childhood came back, including some good ones that she at first thought she never had.
We now have the mother-daughter relationship I never thought possible. And remember, it didn’t start until Mom was 76. It’s never too late to heal!
This, my friends, is why I believe so much in the Healing Codes. They are a tool in the hand of God to heal. It is God who heals, but this tool makes it so much easier for us to position ourselves for that healing.
If you have a relationship that needs healing, I encourage you to take the free Relationship Issues Finder with that relationship in mind. It will help you pinpoint what areas of the relationship and your “heart issues” need the most attention.
And if you want to get some coaching and powerful custom Healing Codes for your relationship issue. feel free to check out my coaching at www.healingcodescoaching.com.
There’s a lot of fear out there these days.
I have noticed with clients that their own fears have been triggered by what’s going on in the world. The Highly Sensitive among us are especially susceptible to picking up on fear from others, adding to their own fears.
Back in 1933, the U.S. was facing another fearful time: the Great Depression. In President Frnaklin Delano Roosevelt’s Inaugural speech, he uttered the famous words, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” While one may quibble with that sentiment, there is truth, I think, to the idea that fear is a force that itself can bring on no good thing.
As Dr. Alex Loyd has said so often, in his books and his Cutting Edge calls, the fear or stress response dumbs us down; makes us sick; drains our energy; suppresses our immune system; increases our pain; raises our blood pressure; destroys relationships; causes anger, depression, shame, and worth and identity issues; and causes us to do everything from a negative perspective.
So how do you resist fear without sticking your head in the sand? Here are my suggestions. Read More→
Which did you enjoy more? (Be honest, now!)
If you said, “Receiving,” don’t be too ashamed.
We often hear the quote, “It’s more blessed to give than receive.”
In our materialistic world, that’s a good thing to be reminded of.
But consider this: Might it be just as blessed to receive?
Think about the recent holidays. Imagine that you had a gift wrapped beautifully for someone, but you didn’t see her right away. You told her you had a gift for her but . . . she never came to claim it. (This actually happened to me.)
How do you feel?
Now, imagine offering a gift to someone who receives it with delight and gratitude.
Don’t you feel blessed in the second case?
If we refuse a gift someone offers us, we rob them of the joy of giving. We break the cycle: gift offered, gift received, receiver blessed, giver blessed from receiver’s gratitude.
As we look into a new year, there are gifts waiting for you from a gracious God. Some of those gifts will look like gifts–all wrapped in nice packaging. Good health. Improved finances. Reconciled relationships. These are what we strive for, and receive gratefully.
But this year may also bring what I call “disguised gifts.” Things that don’t seem like gifts at all.
Health challenges. Loss of work. Business or financial setbacks. Relationships that go sour.
Last year for me delivered a number of such “gifts.”
But you know what? Because of what I learned long ago about gifts from God (I wrote a book called Abundant Gifts about it), I had developed a habit of thanking God for everything, of believing that everything could work together for my good.
And when you do that, even the most painful of “gifts” yield some kind of sweet fruit.
My husband and I took some time to look back at the past year and focus on the positives. We discussed some questions that you might want to use, too, as you look back on the past year.
- What do I feel good about from this past year in regards to my career/vocation? My family? My friends? My health? My prosperity? My spiritual life? My personal life?
- What changes did I make this year in any area of my life that made me feel more expansive and authentic?
- What were the best gifts from the past year? (Take time to really steep in gratitude for them.)
- What did I love about my life this past year that was different from any other year in my past?
- In what areas did I experience the most healing?
- Were there any milestones achieved last year? (Maybe other people wouldn’t call them that, but for you they were. Celebrate them!)
Looking back at the positives sets you up for receiving the good that can come to you in the coming year. If you need help letting go of any of the painful things from the past year, feel free to do Healing Codes for those things. And if you need extra help with letting go of the painful issues, feel free to get some coaching and custom Healing Codes from me. I’m here for you!
Yesterday morning, I was chatting with a small group of friends about Christmas preparations.
We were in my living room, where the Christmas tree stood, adorned with only lights. I explained how it was a lit tree, but this year, only the middle lights worked. We’ve had a heck of a time finding lights to fill in the spaces. All the new lights are LED, or 300 per string. Neither my husband nor I care to spend loads of time looking for lights. So there the tree stands as we decide whether this is enough lights, or we need more, before I put on the decorations.
One woman said last year, she never got around to putting on the ornaments. She just likes the lights. That may be what I do. And though all 4 other women agreed that my tree needs more lights, I just may say, “Enough.”
And then one of my friends said, “Anything worth doing, is worth doing badly.”
We all kind of cringed at this. We’re all women with lots of responsibilities and high standards. We’d like to believe this … but it’s not so easy.
We laughed when someone said, “G.K. Chesterton said that,” because we all believe him to have been a very wise man, so that means we can really believe it.
Why am I telling you this? Because so many of us have these unconscious, high standards that keep us in overwhelm or guilt. Especially at this time of the year.
Somewhere in our subconscious (Heart), there is this image of something of the ideal. Perhaps it’s the kind of Christmas you grew up with, and your images are all rosy, and you want to recreate that for your family.
Or, on the flip side, maybe your holiday memories are so painful, you want to do everything possible to create a perfect holiday season for your family now.
I remember when my image was born. It was in my senior year of high school, with a teacher I admired. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but she put forth the image of a really fine, admirable person as someone who “does all things well.” Unconsciously, I absorbed that image into the kind of person I wanted to be.
It’s been hard to let that person morph into a more realistic image of someone who only does a few things well, and is OK with doing in other areas just enough to get by.
I read somewhere that it takes 10,000 hours to achieve the level of mastery. None of us has 10,000 hours to master everything. Trying to “do all things well,” i.e. achieve mastery in everything, is impossible and foolish to try to attain.
This holiday season has brought out how I try to do too many things too well, so I’m working on this with my Healing Codes. I’m constructing a new persona that knows her strengths and builds on them, and is OK with “getting by” in other areas. I’m rewriting that old belief that the only worthwhile, admirable person is someone who “does all things well.”
So if you’re feeling stressed this holiday season, I encourage you to take a bit of time to reflect on what image you might be trying to live up to, or what unhealthy belief is driving you. Try to see if you can trace the origin of it. (But if you can’t, that’s fine—just address the feeling and/or wrong belief the any memories attached to it.) If you want help with that, I’m always here for you!
And if one of the things that’s stressing you is, “What do I give so and so,” perhaps you would like to give the gift of healing in the form of a custom Healing Code. Visit this page and see the options.
I pray this holiday season will be one of joy, not stress for you. I encourage you to focus on the One Thing you can do to make this holiday memorable for you and your family or other loved ones. Ask what would give others joy, and then see what you can do to make that happen.
And then, let go of the rest. Forget Normal Rockwell and Thomas Kinkade; those sentimentalized scenes were never real life anyway.
Do you have a dream for your life? Do you know how you are meant to make a difference in this world?
I believe God himself has a dream, a design for each person, and our great fulfillment comes when we know what that is and achieve it.
You were put on this earth for something. I hope you have at least an inkling as to what that is. It may have been squashed by other people’s doubts, your own fears, or circumstances.
But I want to encourage you to fan the flame of that dream, that desire to make your unique mark on the world.
Do it with The Healing Codes. Get some personal coaching with me if you need it.
Someone elaborated on something Henry David Thoreau said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation,” added, “and go to the grave with the music still in them.”
This quote makes me cry. I don’t want you to “die with the music still in you.”
You have a song to sing, and I have always had a passion to find ways to help people “sing their song.” As a publishing coach, what that looked like was to help people write and publish their books.
Now what it looks like is to help people heal their heart issues so that they can begin to hear their unique song, AND begin to sing it, to the world that desperately needs to hear it.
If success has been one of your issues–if you don’t know what your song is or how to sing it–I encourage you to find the heart issues that may be at the source of your success blocks.
I’m here to help you. Read my emails. Read the articles and FAQ at my Healing Codes Coaching and Healing Heart Issue sites. Follow me on Facebook and/or Twitter to get more of the things that touch me personally that I like to pass on.
Most of all, do your Healing Codes consistently on your heart issues. As you do, more and more of your uniqueness will emerge.
If you need help with any of this, I am available to come alongside you in your journey. You can either get quick, Express Healing Codes to address your known issues, or get Coaching along with custom codes to get more personal mentoring and access to the resources I’ve developed in working with hundreds of clients as a Healing Codes Practitioner.
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- Want to know the hidden connection between vaccines and Cancer, from Dr. Sherri Tenpenny? Check.
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I could go on, but you get the picture.
It’s pretty much everything you ever wanted to know about staying healthy in a toxic world, and fighting and preventing cancer and other chronic diseases, packed into one weekend.
Do it now, and please, mark your calendar for Nov. 25-27 to watch as much as you can.
I watched many of the presentations when they aired live, and then the replay weekend, and made many adjustments to my life for the better. But there’s so much here, I ordered the recordings and plan on going over them again and again.
How many times have you heard the advice from self-help gurus, “You’ve got to get out of your comfort zone”? As a former self-help junkie, I always heard that, and assumed it was true.
So I came to believe, unconsciously, that discomfort leads to success, comfort leads to failure.
Guess what? That’s a lie! One I had to heal with The Healing Codes. (And it was a stubborn one.)
A more accurate phrase that is true is you have to get out of your FAMILIAR ZONE, as Noah St. John points out in his book, The Secret Code of Success and his wonderful programs.
The distinction is crucially important.
The FAMILIAR ZONE is that place that is NOT comfortable, yet it is so familiar that you fear to leave it. But what’s behind the fear? Usually the negative belief that “change is always bad.” This belief may come first of all from your family (how did you parents view and feel and act concerning change?). It may then have been reinforced by every risk you ever took that didn’t turn out the way you wanted. “See,” your heart came to believe, “risk is bad. It never turns out well. Best to stay where you are. At least then you know what to expect.”
That’s the kind of programming you can address with a Healing Code.
What’s the Comfort Zone? It is that place where you are comforted.
Ideally, when you were a child and say you fell down and skinned your knee, and you cried and ran to mom, she would validate your feeling, (“Ouch, that knee looks like it hurts some,”), comfort you with a hug and/or a kiss, and then reoriented you to right perspective (“I’ll just clean off that scrape and put a Band-aid on and you’ll be fine”). Thus validated, comforted, and your issue taken care of, you can move on.
What that good mom did was to both acknowledge and validate your feelings, and then apply truth to the situation. The truth was that you are loved and lovable, you fell down and scraped your knee, it hurt you, but it can be taken care of.
Truth always comforts. And that is how we can get and stay in the Comfort Zone: by seeking and finding the whole truth about a situation.
You will find the most comfort when you seek and find the biggest truth.
So, let’s say that you are upset by the election results and fearful of what might happen in the future (a fear many in the U.S. feel these days, and perhaps in other countries as well). What is the deepest truth here? Read More→
I and a friend have been reading and discussing one of those few books that you just know, if you take this book’s message to heart, it can be life changing.
The book is called The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results.
The “surprisingly simple truth behind extraordinary results” is that if you ask and answer the right questions, you can get uncommon results. “Life is a question, and how we live it is our answer. How we phrase the questions we ask ourselves determines the answers that eventually become our life.”
One question trumps all the others. They call it the Focusing Question:
“What’s the ONE Thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”
Think about that for a moment. Your answer to that question can focus what you do for the next moment, and also shape the direction of your whole life.
In terms of your healing, let me ask you this:
“What is the ONE THING you need to heal such that, by healing it, everything else in your life would improve?”
I challenge you to actually write down your answer to that question.
In fact, if you will not only write it down but also share it with me, through this quick survey, you will be helping yourself to move in the direction of that ONE THING that will propel you toward that healing.
How? Just by asking and answering that question, the forces of your own mind and who knows what else (more on that in another post) will begin to come together to propel you in the direction of that very healing.
To help ME help YOU, would you also be so kind as to answer a SECOND question, also on that survey:
“What is the ONE THING that I can do as your Healing Codes coach to help you YOU heal your ONE THING?“
Go ahead, go here to take this two-question survey.
Then look for emails from me that will answer question #2, which will help you answer achieve the answer to your question #1.
And then, come back here to tell us how things start to change for you!
It’s been 9 years since the Labor Day weekend that my whole life began to turn around completely. And all because of The Healing Codes.
I had started doing The Healing Codes in 2007, way before The Healing Code book came out. I had heard about The Healing Codes in 2004, told a friend about it, she bought “the big package” for $700, and started raving about all it had done for her and her family.
For three years I listened to her rave about The Healing Codes. Still I couldn’t afford the package.
(How fortunate that now it’s available for so much less–free for the universal Code if you view my video and take advantage of my free ecoachng, or you can get the various Manuals downloaded instantly for a third of the original cost.)
Anyway, my friend eventually sent me her Healing Codes Manual, and in June 2007 I started doing The Healing Codes.
Three months later, on Labor Day weekend, I had a TIA (ministroke), from which I recovered quickly and apparently completely.
But doctors wanted to know what caused the TIA, so they did tests and said it was due to a PFO (hole in the heart).
What I want to mention here is that, as I experienced, sometimes when you do The Healing Codes, things can temporarily get worse, or seem to get worse. I want to emphasize this, lest you give up prematurely and miss out on the wonderful results you can experience.
When I first started working through the 12 Healing Codes categories, as is suggested in the Healing Codes Manual, a few days into it I had what I now know was a massive Healing Response. I thought at the time it was food poisoning. As I recall, I was working in the Peace category, and had some major issues there.
Then there was the TIA–another Healing Response?
In the year that followed, as I did my Healing Codes very regularly, all kinds of symptoms would pop up–then in a few weeks, resolve.
Until I caught on to what was happening, Read More→