Archive for Healing Heart Issues
Top Five Deathbed Regrets
Posted by: | CommentsRecently I happened to read a blog post from a nurse who reported the top five regrets people have on their deathbed. I found it very moving, with lessons that can help all of us become happier right now.
The author, Bonnie Ware, worked for many years in palliative care with patients who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared, she said, as she spent the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. "People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality," Bonnie says.
Bonnie learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. "Some changes were phenomenal," she writes. "Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected: denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them."
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: Read More→
When the Holidays Bring Painful Memories
Posted by: | CommentsFor some of us, the holidays are anything but peaceful or joyful.
Perhaps the holidays bring up memories of disappointment, tension, even trauma.
If this is the case for you, I encourage you to do a Healing Code specifically on your negative holiday memories.
First, start with your current feelings and beliefs about the holidays. Is the belief that it's all up to you to make the holidays a perfect, special time causing you stress? Are you feeling anxiety over finding "the perfect gift"? Are you dealing with the old "not enough" feeling as you try to make your budget stretch to include gifts? Are you anticipating disappointment because you've always felt disappointed by Christmas? Are you feeling pressured to plan a great party, wondering if you can live up to others' expectations?
Whatever your current stress is, rate it (1-10, 10 being the worst). Then ask yourself, "What other times have I felt this way?" Jot down those memories, rate them, then start to work on the strongest or earliest memory with a Healing Code. (Use the universal Code from The Healing Code book, or one that fits your issue from The Healing Code Manual, or get a custom Healing Code from me.)
You can drain the negative charge from those earlier memories so that they don't have to color your current experience. You can enjoy this year for what it is, and create new, joyful memories. I pray you will let the Joy-giver whose birthday Christmas celebrates heal any negative memories, and break into your life with the joy and peace he came to bring.
When Healing Takes “Too Long”
Posted by: | CommentsIf you're discouraged about how long healing seems to be taking, listen to what one person, Alicia in Australia, told me recently:
"I'm ordering a custom code to do for my son because I know The Healing Codes work. I had suffered from insomnia for decades. I tried EVERYTHING, nothing worked. I felt so hopeless. Then I tried The Healing Code. At first things got worse, but I understood it was a healing response and persevered. I was surprised too at how many memories came up. After about a month and a half with The Healing Code, I began sleeping. I am so thrilled!"
I share Alicia's story to point out a couple of important things.
1. The Healing Codes really do seem to be superior to most, if not all, of the healing methods available. Those who actually test different modalities, such as Merill Ken Galera, MD and Medical Director of the Galena Center (and former Lead physician of Dr. Mercola's Natural Health Center), say The Healing Codes work best. (Read his endorsement on the back cover of The Healing Code or go here.)
2. You may feel worse before you feel better. Perseverance pays off, as Alicia found.
I myself have some issues that took quite a long time to heal. The deepest-rooted issues, such as the effects of my being in the hospital for weeks right after birth, have taken many months, perhaps years, to heal. But they are healing. I feel the effects of the healing every day, and so does my family.
Healing heart issues is THE way to go, whether with The Healing Codes or simply prayer. (For me, the way I do The Healing Codes is a form of prayer and meditation.)
However long it takes, be patient with the process. What's the alternative, really? To not heal, or to simply "cope" by controlling the symptoms seem to me the only other options. I believe God wants to heal us. He's in charge of the process, so let's be patient and know it is happening. In the meantime, there are probably lessons he's wanting to teach. Nothing is ever wasted with God–not one tear or drop of suffering. But he's patient with us, too, and will allow us to take all the time needed for his purposes to be accomplished through the process.
Ponder this parable from Jesus (and note, part of God's kingdom work is healing, or else Jesus would not have healed when he was on earth):
Jesus also said, "The Kingdom of God is like a farmer who scatters seed on the ground. Night and day, while he's asleep or awake, the seed sprouts and grows, but he does not understand how it happens. The earth produces the crops on its own. First a leaf blade pushes through, then the heads of wheat are formed, and finally the grain ripens. And as soon as the grain is ready, the farmer comes and harvests it with a sickle, for the harvest time has come." (Mark 4:26-29, NLT)
Thanksgiving: Good for Your Health
Posted by: | Comments“Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic.”
— John Henry Jowett
What if you could improve your marriage, find it easier to exercise, feel less depressed, sleep better, have a healthier heart, more life satisfaction, and increase your chances of living longer–just by a very simple practice?
A Healing Love Picture
Posted by: | CommentsIn my healing work with clients, a key practice is to focus on a Truth Focus Statement or a Love Picture that counters the negative pictures in the heart and/or the lies that have lodged there. (By "heart" I mean the inner person–conscious and unconscious parts.)
What we are doing is replacing the false, negative images and beliefs with true, positive ones. It's a form of meditation that is part of doing a Healing Code.
You don't have to do a Healing Code, however, to benefit from Love Pictures. To me, Love Pictures and Truth Focus Statements are a form of prayer and meditation. Prayer is not just about saying words. That uses only one part of the brain. Dr. Alex Loyd teaches that words are the language of the mind, while images are the language of the heart. Both the mind and the heart need to be healed.
Images go deeper, because images are what we had as babies, before we knew words. Using healing images will heal the deeper parts of us.
Here is my favorite Love Picture, which many of my clients enjoy using as well. I believe it heals many of the deepest hurts and fears. It speaks to the sense of being insignificant. It speaks to fear. To feeling like "it's all up to me." It speaks to insecurity, to feeling unloved, to worry.
If it resonates with you, use it. Let God change it for you. Listen to what he may be saying to you personally. Take it and make it your own:
Picture yourself as a child, crawling up on Jesus' (or your Heavenly Father's) lap. He welcomes you, and holds you securely with one arm–his left arm. With his right arm he is conducting all the affairs of your life and indeed, the whole world, as a conductor would conduct an amazing symphony.
In this picture he is also singing. With you on his lap, he is singing about how much he loves you, how delighted he is with you. He is singing, "You are my beloved son/daughter, with you I am well pleased." He tells you to rest, since he has done everything that needs to be done. All you have to do is receive all he has for you. He is bursting with joy at all the gifts he has for you..
He also rejoices in his own ability to conduct the affairs of your life and the whole world, how he will make sure everything is OK. Every atom in the universe is subject to him, and he is Love, and wisdom, and he is the mighty warrior who has conquered everything and will one day finish what he started, to make all things right and all things new.
He has already begun that work, in you. He is shining his light into all your dark places, he is working all things together for your good, he is straightening out the bent places and smoothing out the path before your feet. His life-giving light shines all the time, and it brings complete healing, peace, and right relationships with him, with yourself, and others. His life-giving light brings peace, and joy, as he fills you with his love.
Listen to him singing; feel his love and delight in you, as well as his quiet confidence in his ability to save and to conduct the affairs of the whole universe. From the smallest subatomic particle to the details of your life to whatever it takes to keep the heavenly bodies in place, he is quietly confident in his ability to take care of anything and everything and to work it all into a beautiful harmony.*
*This Love Picture is based on many scriptures, but especially from Hebrews and my favorite verse in the Bible, Zephaniah 3:17. The Bible is so full of beautiful "love pictures" that I believe will have a very healing effect as we meditate on them. That's why they were given!
For Truth Focus Statements based on the Bible, visit www.ChristianHealingFromTheHeart.com.
Learning the Language of the Heart
Posted by: | CommentsAs I work with clients on healing their heart issues, it occurs to me that learning to understand how the (nonphysical) heart works is like learning a new language.
Recently we had an exchange student from Spain living with us. As Teresa tried to communicate in English and we in Spanish, it was awkward, funny, and frustrating at times. My daughter and I struggle to roll our r's, and I suspect Teresa wonders what's the big deal.
You may feel the same awkwardness about learning the language of the heart.
What I love about languages is the way it opens up your perspective. Though you're dealing with words, it goes beyond words to a whole way of perceiving. That is the enriching part. For instance, when I call my cat "Gatita," there is no exact English equivalent that captures the warm affection "-ita" expresses.
As you learn this new "language of the heart," it will expand your perception of yourself, other people, and the world. The "grammar" of this language, as I wrote elsewhere, is governed by association, images, metaphors. To learn this language, you must be open to these non-linear, non-logical ways of thinking.
The language of the heart is largely governed by feelings. It's the feelings that we trace to the memory. The feeling is the clue. It's also the energy that is causing the negative frequency, the stress signal that's causing your cells to go into "closed, death mode" rather than "open, growth mode."
So to learn this language, you start with feeling. You are open to seemingly illogical things, such as a certain color sparking panic. A client began to tune in to the fact that she had a stress reaction to the color red. Why? She had no idea. We traced it to an infant memory of terror associated with the color red. As that healed, her overall stress level went down dramatically.
Dreams can give us big clues as to what the heart wants to heal. Again, you're looking for images and feelings. One client shared a dream with me and it became clear that her heart wanted her to heal some fear memories concerning her father.
If you commit to learning the language of the heart, your heart will begin to send you more and more clues. It's quite fun, actually. Of course, if you need a little help decoding, feel free to contact me for a coaching session.
Benefits of Helping Others Heal
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When I discovered how bamboo grows, I thought it an apt image both for how heart issues develop AND how they heal.
Knowing how heart issues are like bamboo may help you both understand the healing process and be more patient with it.
Bamboo's growth starts underground, where the rhizome system that supports the canes are developed. For three whole years, the plant establishes itself underground and there is no apparent growth. Absolutely nothing appears to be happening. For three years!
In the fourth year, shoots appear. The bamboo canes grow in height and diameter for only 60 days every spring. After the 60 days, that particular cane will never grow again.
However, because of the rhizome system, the next spring the shoots that come up will grow much taller and faster in those 60 days. After a bamboo grove has been establishing its rhizome system for 5 years, the canes that grow in that fifth year can reach as much as 90 feet (for certain species, in certain conditions)–all in 60 days!
This picture also applies to how heart issues form, and then manifest eventually in our lives in some health, relationship, and/or success issue.
Like the rhizome system that forms underground, memories and beliefs accumulate in the subconscious mind. If Read More→
Balloons and Popsicles, Children and Jesus
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It slipped out of me when talking to a friend on the Fourth of July weekend when she mentioned that she was going to the parade the next day.
"I hate parades!" I said.
Where did that come from?
Then the memory came. Every year my family attended the parade. Every year there were two things I wanted that so many other children seemed to have: a helium balloon, and a soft pretzel. As a very young child, I thought brightly colored helium balloons were almost magical. I wanted one so badly.
I asked my parents: "Can I have a helium balloon?"
"No." They may have added, "If I got one for you, I'd have to buy one for your brothers, too. We can't afford it."
One time perhaps wouldn't have made a difference. But always it was the same, year after year. I never did get a helium balloon that I can remember, not even on my birthday. I suppose at some point I quit asking, so perhaps they never knew how much I wanted one.
Like the "Popsicle memory" mentioned in The Healing Code, such a memory seems trivial, almost embarrassing to recount. I'm sure had I not read that book, I never would have understood that such memories plant destructive seeds based on lies that grow and choke out out the good fruit of life. Read More→
