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Aug
26

Hidden Stressors-Part Five-Technology

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I received a phone call and email from a long-time reader of my newsletter, thanking me for what I wrote about how my nervous system got overwhelmed and threw me into a several-day near shut-down, complete with physical pain.

Paulette wrote:

You put into words what I have been dealing with for several years! On Saturdays we have been attending a [particular group] study via Zoom. It begins at 10:30 a.m. and continues until at least 2:30 p.m. with no breaks. The teacher’s entire life is spent studying [this topic] — I mean 14 hours per day EVERY day. She always says there is so much more she wants to share, but just doesn’t have the time.

macbook pro displaying group of peopleI have gotten to the point that after one hour I am ready to scream. All of her words run together for me. I really don’t hear much after that point. My husband doesn’t have the same problem. [My note: notice the difference between Paulette and her husband. Paulette is Highly Sensitive; her husband is not.]

About the same week I received your email, I said enough is enough. I told the group that [my husband and I] would be taking a break. Since we have left I am happier and more relaxed. Yesterday my neighbor commented that she had noticed a change in me.

Studying [this particular topic] when there is so much bad news all around us was more than I could handle. I have learned a lot over the past several years, but I think my health has suffered as a result of attending this group.

Thanks for putting into words what I have been feeling.

Paulette’s words to me reminded me that we often don’t recognize the hidden stressors that are sucking our energy and stretching our nervous system to the limits, because those stressors are such a part of everyday life. Read More→

Mar
11

Hidden Stressors-Part Four-toxins

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In this series on hidden stressors, I’ve mostly focused on the emotional aspects.

For many of us, this is the kind of stress that’s easiest to hide, especially if we’ve grown up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), or are high on the sensitivity spectrum.

Another reason I’ve focused on the emotional, is emotional issues can predispose us to being more vulnerable to yet another hidden source of stress: toxins.

All of us are subject to this hidden physical stress.

Toxins lurk in our food, water, air, cosmetics, household cleaners, even fabrics.

They also lurk in the energy around us, in the form of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF) and dirty electricity.

I don’t think I have to go into detail about all this. No doubt you’re aware of it, and may feel a little helpless about what to do about it all.

However, we are not helpless at all. There is one main thing we can do to keep healthy, and that is to focus on the immune and nervous systems. Read More→

As a wrap-up to my series on Hidden Stressors, I put together a list of things I use to either mitigate the effects of toxins, or support the immune system. Note that I am very picky about what I recommend. (Here’s my criteria.)

This list is not comprehensive, it’s just what I’ve used and found effective.

Also, in many cases I am an affiliate for said product, and will receive a commission if you buy from my links. (For which I thank you. It helps me to provide this newsletter and other resources for free.) You don’t pay more for using my links. Read More→

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Mar
04

Hidden Stressors-Part Three

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In Part Two in this series on Hidden Stressors, I talked about trauma.

How there are no “little t” traumas. Traumas have to do with how the nervous system responded to an event that was overwhelming at the time. Some people, especially highly sensitive people, may have more finely-tuned nervous systems that take in more information—hence, may be more susceptible to trauma.

I just finished watching hours of the Trauma Superconference 3 that aired the replays recently. It made me realize that a lot of us are carrying around unhealed, even unknown trauma in our nervous systems.

These traumas may be triggered by the recent (and current) collective trauma of the COVID-19 pandemic.

Especially the trauma of unmet needs. Read More→

Feb
24

Hidden Stressors-Part Two

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In a previous post I wrote about how my symptoms were beginning to flare, and how I prayed and got some insights into why.

The first was that I wasn’t honoring my sensitive nature enough, i.e. that I have the inborn trait of Sensory Processing Sensitivity: a nervous system that’s more finely tuned than 80% of the population. That makes me a Highly Sensitive Person.

The second insight was related to the first, but with more of an emphasis on recovery: Your nervous system needs to recover from the traumas you’ve been through.

I have known for a while now that Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) characterized my past, ever since I came across Dr. Jonice Webb’s excellent books, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect and Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships with Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children. (You can take the CEN questionnaire on my Free Tools page.)

I believed that I had overcome it all by now, between The Healing Codes and some therapy.

However, when my mother died and I had to deal with settling her estate with a co-executor (sister-in-law), I saw just what my family of origin really was like. A plethora of traumas revealed themselves—though a few years ago, I wouldn’t have thought of them as traumas.

That’s the thing—what our nervous system interprets as trauma might not be what our adult minds interpret as trauma. Read More→

Feb
18

Hidden Stressors-Part One

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All your physical issues are from stress,” my doctor told me. They were the last words I would ever hear from her; she passed away shortly after.

But haven’t I been working on reducing stress for all these years with The Healing Codes?

The answer is yes. And they have helped tremendously. I honestly don’t think I’d even be alive now if I hadn’t been doing all I’ve done since I got my various diagnoses before The Healing Codes (osteoporosis, IBS, GERD, Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, PTSD).

The Healing Codes, Halo, the c.Balance (now upgraded to the HOLOS) have all helped me not be hampered much in my daily life by these diagnosed conditions.

Now, however, the symptoms started popping up again, worsening. Why?

As always, I prayed for insight into this. Were there hidden stressors of which I wasn’t aware?

What came up surprised me.

  • You haven’t been honoring your Highly Sensitive nature enough.

  • Your nervous system needs to recover from the traumas you’ve been through.

  • You are finally ready.

Part One: The High Sensitivity Piece

I’ve known for a while that I have this trait around 20% of all species share, in which the nervous system is wired differently. Dr. Elaine Aron explains in her ground-breaking book, The Highly Sensitive Person, which put this trait on the psychological map, that HSPs are like a different breed. Great Danes and border collies are both clearly dogs, but they are quite different. So, too, HSPs and non-HSPs are human, but they are actually quite different in many ways.

(Find out more about whether you’re a Highly Sensitive Person here.)

Maybe for you, sensitivity isn’t the issue. Maybe it’s some other kind of “diversity” that is part of your nature that you’ve not been honoring.

Maybe it’s that you’re an introvert who gets energy from reflection and alone time, and you’ve always been pushed to be more outgoing. Or vice versa. Maybe it’s that you have ADD/ADHD and your brain works differently than others.

Whatever it is that may set you apart a little, so that you tend to push it away rather than honor it, could be a hidden stressor for you.

I’ve known about being Highly Sensitive, but I haven’t been living it.

I hadn’t been honoring my need to process things deeply and thoroughly, for one. The last few years have been particularly stressful for me. On top of all the stress of the pandemic (and HSPs, by the way, are more susceptible to Emotional Inflammation), there were several personal traumas: dealing with a mold issue in the home; settling my sister-in-law’s estate out of state and fending off a crook; breaking my foot; 16 months of hell settling my mother’s estate (with all the family of origin issues that brought up); and a devastating diagnosis of a close family member.

If you’re Highly Sensitive, you need to realize that such stresses affect you more deeply than other people. You take in more information than most people. You are more sensitive to subtle stimuli than most people. And then you absolutely need to process all that you are taking in!

I’ve written about my current focus on subtraction. As a HSP, I need to be aware of (and limit as much as possible) the amount of information that’s coming to me. More information = more needed processing time. When life piles up, and I don’t get that processing time, my symptoms seem to flare.

So ways I’m trying to honor my HS nature more is to limit the amount of information I take in, and then making time to process it completely.

This often means saying no to social engagements, no matter how enticing they seem. I have to stand strong when someone tells me why it would be so good to attend X. (Ever notice how many people think they know what’s right for you? Often, what’s right for “most people” isn’t right for an HSP.)

I’m also the kind of HSP who seeks a lot of mental stimulation and loves to learn. I need to resist the temptation to sign up for yet one more masterclass or telesummit. I have to revisit my own goals often and tell myself, “My commitment to (my goal) is more important than this (distraction) right now.”

Honoring my HS nervous system also means changing my environment. I’m finding that clutter really gets to me these days. I subtract as much from my environment as I can. Someone said every object in your home has a “to-do list” or a message attached to it. So true!

  • The pile of papers cries out, “Pay me, file me, check me for sales!”
  • The unused clothes in your closet castigate you: “When will you lose weight so that beautiful outfit will fit you again?”
  • The old computer monitor in the spare room? You might need it someday, if you current monitor goes out.
  • And what about the files and photos on your phone or computer? Shouldn’t those be organized so you can find them more easily?

Guilt, anxiety, feeling like you’re “not enough” or not doing enough creep in with these messages. If you’re HS, not only do you feel those things—you also feel them more intensely!

Perhaps these things don’t overwhelm you like they do me. But if they do, know that doing even a little clutter control every day will help you feel calmer and more organized.

I need the downtime to process. I need more sleep than I’m getting. I need to allow myself to feel. I need to be aware that I take in a lot of information and to do what I can to both limit it and manage it.

I need to honor my sensitive nature. Without, I might add, feeling guilty or “less than” because of these needs.

If you have seen a flare up of symptoms you thought you had healed, know you’re not alone. Many of my clients and friends are also experiencing this. Whether you’re Highly Sensitive or not, there are likely hidden stressors that are chipping away at your resilience.

Do what you can to identify those stressors, and heal what you can.

In future posts I will explore more about hidden stressors: how to identify them, what to do about them. Including hidden traumas—the second piece of the insight that was given me.

Stay tuned!

 

Mar
30

Better Health Resources

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We can’t align with our divine design unless we’re in good health.

Therefore, I will selectively start including resources to encourage better health, on this blog and in my newsletter.

Some of them will be summits, which are usually open to view for free for a limited time. I will keep this page updated on which summits are current.

Some of my resources will be products. I will link to the product reviews on this page as I add them.

I have pretty strict criteria for recommending products, which you can review here. Once I can recommend a product, I usually become an affiliate for it. You pay the same amount if you use my affiliate link, but I get a small commission. That helps pay for my time offering free information to anyone who cares to access it. I thank you for using my links if you decide to order a product.

Products to Help Mitigate Toxins

If you haven’t yet read my series on Hidden Stressors, I encourage you to do so. In Part 4 I talk about hidden physical stressors, such as toxins, that tax the nervous and immune systems without our really being aware of it. 

Here is a list of things I use to either mitigate the effects of toxins, or support the immune system.

To deal with toxins around the home: Truly Free

You can get all kinds of non-toxic products from this company, from dishwasher soap, laundry products that don’t leave any residue on your clothing, hand soaps, cleaners of all kinds, and more. Right now they’re having a sale on their Dishwasher Machine cleaner, which to be honest, I haven’t yet tried. I love their Dishwasher soap, laundry products, Aloe hand soap, and the Fruit & Veggie Wash. My experience has been that their cleaners work better than anything else: they get things cleaner and are non-toxic.

 

 

To Clean the Air: Air Doctor

Air Doctor products While there are many other good products on the market to clean your indoor air, I personally use Air Doctor. I have one on each floor, and it’s been interesting to discover that it turns onto high often when our gas stove is going. I’m learning that gas stoves can release carbon monoxide, formaldehyde and other harmful pollutants into the air. The fact that the Air Doctor turns on high when I’m cooking confirms that. I’m glad I have an Air Doctor! Not only does it clean the air well, it’s one of the most cost-effective air filters out there. (I looked into other options before I settled on the Air Doctor.) 

To filter your water: Berkey Water Filter

What I love about the Berkey:

  • it uses gravity, not electricity

  • the water tastes great

  • it removes just about everything 

For a while the PF2 filters, which is all I know that can take out fluoride and arsenic, were not available. Happily, I just ordered some, so I’m hoping Berkey was able to solve their distribution issue.

I also have a water distiller, which gets out everything but I don’t like the taste. Also, it uses a lot of electricity. I go back and forth between the Berkey and the distiller. I also treat all my water with the Halo: you first “structure” the water by shining the Water Structuring vial into the water, then can add the other chemistry by simply shining the light in the water with the vials in place. In this way I can add back vitamins, mineral, EFAs and much more, and continually “drink my medicine.”

Products to Support Healthy Functioning

The products below, among many others, are all based on the emerging field of biofield science, a paradigm that, in contrast to a reductionist, chemistry-centered viewpoint, emphasizes the informational content of biological processes; biofield interactions are thought to operate in part via low-energy or “subtle” processes such as weak, nonthermal electromagnetic fields (EMFs) or processes potentially related to consciousness and nonlocality. (Here is an interesting review of  many successful research studies that clarifies the potential of frequency-based devices.)

Halo Light Systems: Plants and Light for Healing

The Halo, invented by master chemist Michael Thomas, uses photonic light of a special frequency to transfer the energetic essences of select botanicals directly to your body.

No doubt you take supplements of some sort. Most supplements are based on plants. If you were to try to take the equivalent of all the plants, mushrooms, and other botanicals Michael uses for his formulations, you would spend a fortune.

I have used mine daily since 2017 and wouldn’t be without it. The Halo will provide your body with the energies it needs to repair what needs to be repaired and keep your microbiome and immune system in top shape. More on the Halo here, and feel free to contact me for more information on the latest chemistry and prices.

The Holos devices (next generation from the c.Balance)

Perhaps you’ve heard of PEMF (Pulsed Electro-Magnetic Frequencies—not to be confused with the damaging EMF radiation). What I love about the Holos devices is:

  • they’re  wearable

  • gives 24/7 personalized energetic support

  • works on all systems of the body to bring everything into balance

  • no complicated programs

  • “boost” programs offer personalized support as needed

  • and much more!

Click to learn more about this amazing device.

A COUPLE OF THINGS TO NOTE:

  1.  This device provides immediate relief with NO SIDE EFFECTS for any kind of discomfort: headaches, digestion, joint/muscles/spine/neck pain.

  2. Use coupon code EBLE15 for 15% off any product (excepting #3 below).
  3. If you currently have a c.Balance (the first generation of Holos) and want to upgrade to a Holos Balance or Balance Plus, contact me for a special discount code for your order.

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This week we lost power for almost 2 days.

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The outside temperature was 90°F/33°C, with a dew point of 73°F. (I have learned that the dew point is a better indicator of humidity than “relative humidity,” and anything over 60°F is uncomfortable. I haven’t seen a dew point much higher than 73°F here, so this was nearly unbearable.)

On top of that, the night before the power loss, our kitchen faucet handle was about to break off. I called at least eight potential handymen (before we lost power). Only two got back to me. One said he could come the next day to fix it at 5pm, but then texted me at that time saying he couldn’t make it after all. At 5pm the faucet handle broke off completely. Two and a half hours later, with a lot of dishes to be washed from dinner, the power went out.

It reminded me of the children’s story I used to read to my kids: Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst.

For us, it was two days.

I can’t honestly say it was all terrible, horrible, or no good, though. Very bad, yes. But here’s how God helped me, and what I discovered about alignment, intuition and, surprisingly, electricity and sleep.

Hunting for the Graces

Because of what I had learned about how gratitude fosters resilience, I kept looking for things to be grateful for.

First: the storms that knocked down trees and power lines did not dump a lot of rain. With the power out, the sump pump would not have worked. Had it rained heavily, the basement could have flooded. That potential disaster did not happen, despite the storms that hit both nights our power was out.

Second: A handyman came that first morning after we went dark. He installed the new faucet my husband bought the night before. He did it in the dark kitchen, with a flashlight (bless his heart!). He left his phone and a screwdriver behind because it was so dark he couldn’t see that he’d set it down. Soon enough, we had a functional kitchen, which lessened the stress a little.

Third: A neighbor said we could put our frozen food in his freezer.

Fourth: We have a gas stove, so I could cook.

Intuition

As soon as we lost power, I went up to shut down the computer correctly. I have a BackUp Universal Power Source that is a surge protector and a battery backup. It allows your computer and peripherals to keep going in a power failure until you can shut it down properly.

Here’s where the intuition part comes in. Read More→

Sep
09

Tending, Mending, Clutter and Trauma

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Have you heard of the phrase “tend and befriend” to describe a way to deal with stress and get your nervous system back on track?

The term was coined in 2000 by Shelley Taylor, a psychology professor at the University of California.

The “tend and befriend” theory says that when faced with a perceived threat, humans will tend to their young and rely on others for connection and support. This, she and her group of researchers observed, was especially true of humans, and human females in particular. Laboratory animals, when shocked, would attack each other. Humans, when threatened or stressed, typically affiliate with one another instead of attacking each other. Read More→

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Last week, I attended three days of an online business retreat that I thought, at the time, was fantastic.

I experienced transformation. I got ideas. I connected with people.

And it threw me into a massive 4-day healing response.

It was, apparently, too much, too fast.

The next day after the retreat, I was the usual Sunday tired.

On Monday, however, I was in pain. More stress hit when I had to drive my husband to a dental appointment in the teeming rain, where I couldn’t see in front of me and I was flanked by trucks also navigating construction barrels on the two highways I traversed.

Tuesday the pain got worse. It seemed to move all around my body. (I learned from a trauma expert that this can be a sign of trauma—trapped energy stored in the body.) I slept poorly that night.

Wednesday I could barely move, I was so tired and in pain. I rescheduled a client appointment–something I think I’ve only done two or three times in the past 13 years of coaching. (I’m nothing if not dependable!)

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