Are You a “Highly Sensitive Person”?


 Recently, I attended a retreat for “highly sensitive persons” with Elaine Aron, author of The Highly Sensitive Person and numerous other books. People with this trait, which Dr. Aron discovered and put on the psychological map in the late 1990s when her book was published, make up approximately 20 percent of the population. The distinguishing trait is that their nervous systems are more finely tuned than the rest of the population. As a result, they process emotions and experiences differently than most people.

Although only 20 percent of people have this trait in the general population, a much larger percentage of my clients–perhaps even 80%–seem to have this trait. I think this is for three main reasons:

  1. HSPs need higher quality nurturing, and most parents do not know how to parent HSPs. (Elaine has an excellent book on how to parent an HSP.)
  2. HSPs who do not get quality nurturing, research shows, tend to have more problems than non-HSPs. But also–HSPs who do get good nurturing do better in life than most people. So environment is key.
  3. HSPs tend to be drawn to a spiritual approach, and since The Healing Codes address issues from a “heart” or spiritual perspective, many are drawn to The Healing Codes as a mode of healing. (Also healing prayer and other spiritual approaches.)

Elaine Aron’s work fascinates me for a number of reasons. First, it was such a ground-breaking discovery for the world. No one had identified that trait before. At least, no one had done it in such a penetrating, comprehensive, and positive way before Elaine Aron.

Second, as a former publishing coach I’m fascinated by the success of the book. It is selling just as well now as it did when it came out in 1998, Elaine told me, with no real advertising. It is a prime example of success due to word-of-mouth marketing. People read the book, the light bulb goes off for them, and then recommend it to other people who might be highly sensitive also.

Just as I’ve been doing for clients, and am doing now.

Finally, I love the book because of how much it personally helped me. Like many HSPs, I was told I was “too sensitive” when I was young. It was seen as a defect, and most of my life I have tried to overcome it. Elaine Aron has shown me it’s not something to be overcome, but embraced. There are many benefits, to myself and to others, of this trait. And the challenges, such as needing more down time and time to process experiences and emotions, Elaine addresses beautifully in both the book and workbook.

If you think you might be a Highly Sensitive Person, take the Highly Sensitive Person  self-test and get the book, perhaps the workbook as well. My clients who have done so find them tremendously helpful.

UPDATE, 8/6/14: If you want to know what it’s like to be a Highly Sensitive Person, click to read this article, “Ten Challenges of an HSP’s Daily Grind.” If you find yourself relating, you can address some of the issues with a Healing Code –either the universal Healing Code for a custom Healing Code from me.

I have special meditations I use for  being influenced by other people’s energy. Here’s one of them: Picture yourself living and moving in a sort of bubble, with the edges being either a mirror (flexible of course, so you can move!) or an edge of fire. The edges of your bubble only allow love and other good things to come through. It either reflects back or absorbs the negative energy before it can get inside, to where you live.




  1. […] have written before about being a Highly Sensitive Person, because so many people who come to The Healing Codes are HSPs. HSPs feel and process things more […]

  2. Shirley Welling says:

    Hi Diane:  I have been doing healing codes for 3 months and although my heart issues test went from 188 (with 4 minuses) to 233 (with no minuses), no healing is apparent.  If I only had one health problem, this could be the case but I have many, so change should be apparent.  The only thing that is apparent is my increasing impatience.  I used to be considered a very patient person so I was looking forward to the Master Key as maybe the breakthrough.  I did not realize nor could anyone else that there were 2 programs. the one we paid for is the watered down version and apparently after paying for that, the next page announces that there is an advanced program with all the promises of the videos and we had to decide right on the spot to pay yet another $150 instantly or miss out.  I am so dissappointed with this whole situation  It feels like I have been scammed, not once but twice.  I have tried so hard for this to never happen to me again after the secret scam that hurt so many of us financially.  I am going to try to use the lesser version but all confidence waned when I found out the promises were all contained in the advanced program which was never mentioned.  "Those of us on limit incomes cannot just produce an additional $150 at the drop of a hat.  You have been so kind anytime I have talked to you and right now, the only one I trust.  Any suggestions.


    • diane says:

      Shirley, I can understand your frustration about not getting healing and so trying all these new things, still no relief, and always the sense that something new and better is down the pike.

      But healing is a tricky thing. So often, people who say, "The Healing Codes haven't helped at all, I don't feel any change," then go get some medical tests and find out that things have changed for the better.

      In your case, though, it sounds like your "heart issues" have gotten worse. I find when that happens, it's a sign that hidden issues are coming to the fore. Just work on healing those. And also, maybe it's the expecation that something "out there" will be THE ANSWER. The only "out there' thing that heals is God. I find that those who concentrate on getting to know God better, heal the fastest.

      Re: the Master Key, I do think that Alex Loyd truly believes in the Master Key. Having used it now for a while, I find it to be a very helpful enhancement to the Healing Codes. You can read my full and candid review of The Master Key at http://masterkeyinfo.com.

      You mentioned the Basic version, or first step. That is not a "watered down" version. It's just that the next version takes it to a new level, building on the first version.

      Please keep in mind that I do not have anything to do with the Healing Codes organization's business or marketing practices. I do not think it's a scam. Just not how I would market a product.


      • Anne Ney says:

        I think Alex is truly trying to help people, but I, too, found that the healing codes did nothing for me, so bought the Master Key and finally the ultimate master key.  Still no healing.  I keep getting emails about new and better products from Alex.  Like the last gal, there is just so much one can afford

  3. Sina (Hasina) says:

    Hi Diane:  I hope I did not bother you by writing to you during your vacation time, I did'nt know you were on vacation.
    Yes, I feel I'm Highly sensitive and you enjoy your vacation, I'll wait for you to return from your vacation.  Please feel free to call me; I've started doing codes, dont know though if I'm doing it right or not.
    Enjoy your vacation.

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