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What is Fear–Really?

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We have nothing to fear but fear itself–nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance,” President Franklin D. Roosevelt famously said in his inaugural speech in 1933, as he faced his first term of serving a Depression-battered country.

Yes, fear can derail you, paralyze you, block you from realizing your dreams. It can wreck your health if you are in a chronic state of unconscious fear.

You may have heard that FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. That’s OK as far as it goes. Many of our fears are really not based in reality. They exist only in our head.

But what if the fear is based on reality? What if the cancer you thought you had beaten came back? Or the marriage you worked so hard to salvage fell apart anyway, and things are devolving beyond your worst imaginings? What if someone sues you for something you never did, and your life is derailed?

What if you’re in the middle of a very real storm?

Fear that something may get worse is not always unfounded. Such fear can alert us to actions to take the prevent bad things from happening. (For instance, I found a powerful image of a boat in the storm from the Huffington Post. However, fearful that it might be copyrighted, I did not use it. Healthy fear!)

For the fears that are based in reality, I prefer a different rendering of FEAR: Forgetting Every Available Resource.

I first came across this in Kelly A. Turner’s excellent book, Radical Remission: Surviving Cancer Against All Odds.

Turner is quoting what Patti Conklin said in an interview with Turner. Conklin said the first thing a cancer patient needs to do is to get the physical body, the emotional body, and the spiritual body back into alignment, back into balance. Back into love (vs. fear). “I look at it as Forgetting Every Available Resource,” Conklin says. “And the resource is what we have inside of us.”

If FEAR is Forgetting Every Available Resource, the antidote is remembering. Remembering not only the resources inside of us, such as the body’s God-given ability to heal, and memories of times when we got through other difficulties.

I would add, it’s also about remembering there are lot of resources outside of us. Resources like people who support us, who pray for us. Resources like God himself, and all the promises to be with us, to help us, to strengthen us, to heal us.

Many, many times in Scripture God tells us to “remember.” Remember his faithfulness, both to his people in history, and to each of us in our own personal histories. (That’s why I wrote my book, Abundant Gifts. It records 260 examples of God’s goodness in my life and the lives of others. To help me and others Remember.)

I’ve written before about what makes something traumatic, what makes a UDIN: something that’s Unexpected, Dramatic, Isolating, and with No resources.

Remembering, and looking for, “every available resource” is another way to prevent trauma, to undermine a UDIN. If you reach out and find the resources of supportive people, it will also take away the I in UDIN.

All you have left is an Unexpected and Dramatic event. It does not have to be a trauma, then. You can make peace with it, and that’s when the healing begins.

Based in reality or not, fear does not have to paralyze you or rob you of joy. Scripture contains some form of “fear not” more than 300 times. We are only to “fear” one thing–God. And that’s a very different kind of fear.

“Fear of God” is awe. A recognition of the resources available in Him.

Have you ever read the Gospel story of how Jesus was asleep in the boat during a storm, and the disciples woke him up, accusing him of not caring if they perished? Jesus said they had little faith, and then he calmed the storm. The disciples were amazed and asked, “Who is this that can even calm the wind and the waves?” Their fear of the storm was turned a different kind of fear. It became awe, as they realized the Available Resource they had with them–Someone who could command the wind and the waves to be still. Jesus commanded peace. They had to stand in awe of that, for sure.

Making It Practical

So how can you use this for your healing work?

First, make a list of all your fears. (Some of mine: 1. fear of missing out; 2. fear of missing or forgetting something important; 3. fear of suffering; 4. fear of overwhelm. . . .)

Next, list some of the resources that are available to you, that can replace your fear. (For my first two fears: the inner resource of trust that God will give me what I need, when I need it, as he has done in the past. Also for #2, I’ve found some practical tools to help me keep track of things.  For #3: recalling times of suffering, and how I was not alone, how God and others helped me. For #4: the resource of gratitude and mindfulness: focusing on the positive with appreciation, staying in the present, and prayer–reminding myself of God’s ever-present help.)

In my Healing Code Prayer of Intention, I would name the fears and the memories attached to them. Then, I focus on the positive memories or Truth Focus Statements that correspond to each fear while doing the Code.

I also keep track at the end of my day of the “wins” and things I’m grateful for from that day. These “remembering” practices go a long way in helping turn around my fears.

Let us Remember–and Recognize–Every Available Resource.

And if you need some extra help with anchoring this so that unhealthy fear is replaced with Remembering, consider getting some coaching and a custom Healing Code for fear that just won’t go away. Also, you might be interested in Abundant Gifts and keeping a Gifts Journal to help you Remember.

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Dreams: Clues to Your Heart?

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Have you ever had a dream that somehow seemed important, but you didn’t know why?

It may be a message from your heart about what needs to be healed.

I have long been fascinated by dreams, ever since college days when I studied Carl Jung’s ideas on dreams and the symbols of the “collective unconscious.” I was a literature major, so images and symbols fascinated me.

Now, as a Healing Codes Practitioner, I hear from clients who sometimes tell me their dreams, and I’m struck by how often the dreams give clues to heart issues that need to be healed.

For instance, one woman shared this dream:I was a young girl and was attacked by a tiger, but it seemed to only give me a tiny surface scratch on my upper arm.  Later in the dream, I lifted up my sleeve and the wound was HUGE and festering and disgusting and dangerous and I  knew it would kill me if I didn’t heal it!  And in the dream I had not been at all aware what was going on under my shirt sleeve!  I thought the ‘wound’ was ‘nothing’ until I ‘uncovered’ the wound and learned it was actually horribly infected and was killing me!  My mother and brother were in that dream (key players in my hurtful childhood).  Obviously, it was full of symbolism about the pictures of the heart (things that seemed small when they happened are really festering and deadly if not dealt with using the Healing Codes!).  Pretty cool, huh?”

This client was becoming adept at seeing the connection and receiving the message from her heart. In fact, she also shared this (see if you can make a connection between this and her dream): “Interestingly, I am suddenly able to do the ‘kindness’ code in the Healing Codes manual!  I was in complete denial about that one up until after I had done your last custom code!  Suddenly, it was absolutely clear to me that the ‘kindness’ issue was one of my MAJOR problems!  Suddenly, I could see how all the ‘problems’ connected with the ‘kindness’ issue DO apply to me perfectly!  SO STRANGE that I could NOT see that before!  I just refused to acknowledge it and refused to see how any of that applied to me.  It’s obvious now. So I have been focusing on the ‘kindness’ code from the HC manual since the last custom code ‘expired’ and I can REALLY feel things happening inside of me!”

After she had the dream, and had used the custom Healing Code I gave her, this client was able to break through and work on an issue that may well have been at the core of her most troublesome issues.

See how it all works? A custom code “jump starts” healing to the point where the heart can begin to trust that, if it opens the door and lets some memories out, they will be healed rather than cause more hurt. (As The Healing Code explains, the role of the heart is to protect you from further emotional pain.) Once some memories are healed, the heart offers up more. Those are healed, and you begin a beautiful spiral upwards toward fullness of life.

Often a client will tell me that they have no memories. Here is where dreams can be especially helpful.  Here’s the key: Use your dream as the “memory” you are healing. Identify the feelings from the dream, and insert in the prayer of intention, where you would normally put the memory: “. . .  from the dream about. . . .”

If you have had recurring dreams, pay attention! Try healing “the [feeling(s)” from the dreams about. . .” Again, these are clues from the heart about something that needs to be healed.

If you feel “stuck” in any way, start telling your heart that you will pay attention to your dreams. Try to remember them when you awake, and even write down any dream that feels especially vivid.

Feelings and images are the things to pay attention to. This is not at all about “if you dream about such and such it means this will happen.” It’s about what feelings your dream calls up, and the images from the dream. They are images that will mean something to you. For instance, the “tiger” in my client’s dream could be any number of things. We had to explore what that symbol meant for her. If you had a similar dream, the tiger might mean something completely different.

So welcome your dreams, and the healing that follows!

If you need any help “jump starting” healing for your issue, or interpreting your dreams, or you just want someone to help you find hidden memories or guide your healing journey, visit my HealingCodesCoaching.com site. You’ll find all kinds of free help, as well as how to pursue more personalized coaching options.

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Do you have an issue you keep praying about or doing Healing Codes for, yet it doesn’t seem to heal? Just when you thought it had healed, it boomerangs back at you!

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There can be many reasons why an issue doesn’t heal quickly or easily, or keeps popping up once you think it’s healed.

One way to address this is to make sure you heal any secondary issues by going through the 12 Healing Code categories.

Start by going through the 12 Categories (chapter 11 in The Healing Code, or the Healing Codes Manual). They are also categorized in the Heart Issues Finder, a free assessment that will help you determine which areas are weakest for you.

The 12 Healing Codes categories are: Unforgiveness, Harmful Actions, Unhealthy Beliefs (the 3 inhibitors to healing); Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Trust, Humility, Self-Control.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, I pray that you would find, open, and heal all known and hidden negative images, beliefs, cellular and generational memories, and all resulting physical issues, related to [insert the category, e.g. ‘any unforgiveness issues that are at the source of my X issue’], by filling me with Your love, life, and light. I also pray that you would magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optimal pace, and restore everything to Your original design. Thank you, God, for your willingness and ability to do these things.”

You can do this for the next 12 days, using either the universal Healing Code, the codes from the Healing Codes Manual for the 12 categories, or a custom Healing Code. Include anything that comes up for you as you explore that issue from all 12 angles.

You don’t have to be super strict about the order of the categories. If, for instance, on Day 4 a Peace issue comes up rather than a Love issue, address the Peace issue. Just make sure you end up addressing all 12 categories.

Always let your heart be your guide! It will “serve up” what needs to be healed next as you work with this process and become more and more in tune with it.

This is also a good protocol for praying or doing Healing Codes for another person, by the way. You probably don’t know the true issue, so praying and coding through all the categories for that person is a good way to ensure that you hit upon the real issue, as well as secondary issues.

If you would like a custom Healing Code for your issue and guidance in getting the most out of The Healing Codes, visit my HealingCodesCoaching.com site. There’s lots of free help there, too!

In my coaching, as I listen to clients tell me what’s bothering them most (the starting point for finding heart issues), I want to find the deepest issue their heart is ready to heal at this point in their healing journey.

I’m listening for what I think of as “the keywords to the heart.” These are words that have the most energy, that seem to encapsulate the essence of the heart issue.

When you put these “keywords” into your prayer of intention, your heart, like a search engine, will come up with the memories that need to be healed.

Your “keywords to your heart” could be one or more feelings. Or a phrase (see below for an example).

It could include one or more beliefs. Or a relationship. Or a harmful action–something they’re doing to numb the pain.

Or–all 4! In fact, I call these four areas the 4-part program: feelings, beliefs, relational context, and harmful actions. Most issues have at least three of these elements (not all issues have the Harmful Actions component).

If you want to speed your healing:

1. Identify your issue–what’s bothering you most? It might be a relationship issue, a health issue, a financial or success issue. Just jot down what’s bothering you most.

Important: Note how you feel about this, or any phrase that comes to mind about this issue. (We will come back to this later.)

2. Explore your issue a little further. Look for the 4 components of your issue: feelings, beliefs, relationship context. (Does this issue involve just you and how you feel about yourself, or some other person, or even God?) Are there any Harmful Actions or behaviors you do because of this issue? The obvious ones are taking substances to numb the pain, but there are many other ways to distract yourself or numb the pain. Working (too much) was always one of my harmful actions. Because I love what I do so much, it was easy to avoid unpleasant feelings and situations by working more.

3. Some people find it helpful to rate how much the issue bothers them, on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being unbearable and 1 being hardly bothersome at all. This can be useful to track your healing after doing a Healing Code. Other people, however, find it stressful to try to rate an issue. If it works for you, do it. If not, feel free to skip this step.

4. Tune in to your body for a moment as you think about your issue. Where do you feel that feeling/belief in your body? Again, if this is too hard, skip it. But it’s useful to keep trying. It will train your heart and your body to tune in to each other.

Now, as you hold that feeling and/or body sensation in your awareness, ask yourself, “When have I ever felt this before? What does this remind me of?”

Often what will come to mind is a memory. However, not always. If you’ve grown up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), for instance, memories might be few. Pay attention to whatever comes up. These will be the “keywords to your heart.” Put these into the Prayer of Intention, and just like putting keywords into a search engine, your heart will come up with all the associations with those keywords–and heal them!

Sometimes the keywords can lead you into the 4-part program. Let me give you an example from my own recent Healing Code session.

I knew I was working on some kind of grief or sadness issue. In fact, I began to cry. As tears rolled down my face, I heard the words in my mind, “What’s wrong with you, that this bothers you so much?”

I don’t remember any specific times when this was said to me, but it sure was the tenor of my experience in my family. The beliefs I came to hold (which I am healing now) were, “I can’t have my feelings. Feelings make others reject you. Feelings are dangerous. Feelings slow you down. You don’t have time for feelings.” Harmful action: avoiding feelings. (When I took the Love Styles quiz, not surprisingly, I scored high in Avoider. I come from a family of Avoiders.)

The “keywords” that led to the beliefs and grief were, “What’s wrong with you, that this bothers you so much?” I realize now that my Highly Sensitive nature made me feel things at a depth that many others don’t. I didn’t know that then, though. Reactions from others to my highly sensitive nature led to much shame, guilt, and wrong beliefs.

But the good news is–I am healing these now! And you can, too. You can heal whatever “heart issues” are holding you back from the things you want most in life–the loving relationships (including with yourself and God), the success in fulfilling your destiny, and the good health your body is always seeking.

Emotions have great energy, and if we don’t “feel and deal” with emotions, especially those long buried, they will erupt in physical symptoms. But that’s the subject of another article….

Download the free “4-part program Tracking Form” I use with my clients. If you would like help in identifying the “keywords to your heart,” check out my coaching at https://HealingCodesCoaching.com.

I‘ve often thought that one of the reasons The Healing Codes work so well is that you spend the bulk of your time focusing on something very positive. It’s this meditative aspect that makes them work, I believe, possibly more than the technique itself.

Yes, you identify the negative “heart issue” to be healed (in your prayer of intention at the beginning). But then when you point to the Healing Center positions of a Healing Code, you make the energy coming out of your fingertips positive because of your positive thoughts.

(This may sound “woo-woo” but it is actually a quantum physics thing. The energy of your intention actually makes something happen in the world of matter.)

Knowing this, the question becomes:

“What is the most positive thing I can focus on while

doing a Healing Code?”

There really is no formula. It is whatever positive thing you want to. Whatever works for you. Experiment.

Having said that, I know some people want some specific tips. So . . . Read More→

One of the things that fascinated me from the beginning about The Healing Codes  is the correlation between the different body systems and what Alex Loyd calls “the nine virtues” (love, joy, peace,patience, goodness, kindness, trust, humility, self-control).

If, for instance, you have a thyroid condition, it’s likely that you have a love issue that needs healing. Thyroid falls under the endocrine system, and the endocrine system is correlated with the Love category. (The full discussion is in The Healing Code book and the Healing Codes Manual.)

In this system, then, your physical symptoms can be a clue as to which heart issues need healing.

I have found this to be very true, and very useful. When strange skins spots showed up, I asked myself, “Do I have a joy issue going on?” (Joy is correlated with the skin.) Sure enough, I did identify a joy issue. As I worked on healing the memories and unhealthy beliefs, the skin spots disappeared.

The opposite is also true. If you have an issue with, say, patience, healing that can help your immune system immensely, as that’s the category that correlates with the immune system. If you don’t address the issue, it’s quite likely some kind of immune system disorder will show up.

Illness as Metaphor

If you have an illness or a disease, your body might be trying to tell you something even more specific. Illness can often be a metaphor: your body is trying to tell you something important about what needs to heal.

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A friend of mine said something to me I’ve been mulling over ever since.

This friend, Clare Masters, has had incredible health challenges (read her gofundme posts here). Botched surgeries, constant pain, and the pressure of trying to live on $4000/year could easily have stolen her life.

While every day is a challenge for Clare, you would never know it if you talked to her. She is always positive, always looking for ways to give back. She’s the kind of person you want to help out as much as you can. She never complains (though if you ask and really want to know, she’ll be honest), and she’s always looking for ways to give to you.

At a recent hospital stay, a nurse asked her how she is able to stay so positive. Why wasn’t she bitter about the cards life handed her? Read More→

Have you ever seen a loved one headed for a train wreck, and you tried to warn them but they wouldn’t listen?

Agonized over just such a situation with several family members, I prayed about what to do. Every instinct in me wanted to rescue them.

As I prayed, these words came to me: “You must allow others the dignity of living with their own choices.”

Wow! I would not have thought of it that way. I believe they were God’s words impressed upon my heart.

I believe that because those twelve words set me free and gave me great peace–which is what God’s true messages always do for me. Also, the tone was gentle, almost sorrowful. As if God knew that living by these words could cause pain, as well as freedom.

I shared these words with a friend, and she remarked, “How kind of God.”

Yes. It was not God saying punitively, “People have to live with the consequences of their choices.”

No.  It was all about allowing them the dignity of living with their own choices.

Which, as I thought about it, is what God does with us. That is what love must do; it will not force itself on another person.

I shared this with a client, and it led to a breakthrough for him. Read More→

The subtitle of The Healing Code promises it heals the source of any relationship issue. How does it do this?

First, remember that The Healing Codes only address issues of the heart, which is based on what King Solomon said in Proverbs 4:23: All the issues of life flow from what’s in the heart.

As best we can understand, The Healing Codes change the frequency of the negative images and beliefs which are stored as cellular memories. When that happens, the physiological stress is removed that caused you to view things in a negative light.

When you see things more as they are, rather than with the overlay of past hurts, you are able to live more in the present moment. You become happier and more peaceful. This can’t help but affect your relationships. One client told me, “I’m much more patient and peaceful with my children, and that’s really improved our relationships.”

Also, The Healing Codes focus you on key relationship issues, such as forgiveness, unhealthy beliefs, harmful actions (the three inhibitors to healing), as well as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, trust (a huge issue in relationships), humility, self-control. All of these obviously affect how you relate to others.

As you resolve your love or trust issues, for instance, you will become more loving and people will want to love you back. As humility and kindness characterize you, people will be drawn to you. Someone told one of my clients, “You have such a peace about you. I just like being near you.”

It was the changes in me and my improved relationships within the family that persuaded my once-skeptical husband to do Healing Codes for himself. The Healing Codes have deepened our marriage because now we can share what heart issues we’re are working on, and can pray together and do Codes for each other and our children. We know each other in deeper ways as we share our healing journeys.

Another way to improve relationships is to do The Healing Codes for others. One huge, important caution: Do not do Healing Codes to get a person to be the way you want them to be. That is manipulation and it won’t work. It is a misuse of The Healing Codes.

When you do The Healing Codes for someone else, it must be in love and truth for that person’s highest good. You must do it trusting God to work in that person’s life and let God decide how to give the person what is needed.

Author Alex Loyd says that The Healing Codes are more powerful when you do them for others than if they did them for themselves, provided you do it in love and truth. The love that motivates you to do the Codes for others amplifies the power. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. (God is love, remember!)

If you would like to order custom Healing Codes for yourself or a loved one, I invite you to check out the options at  www.healingcodescoaching.com.

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THE Key to Healing Code Results

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If there is ONE THING I can point to that will make the most difference in healing, it’s this: consistency.

I often say, doing Healing Codes or practicing healing prayer (the two approaches I’ve found to be most effective for healing) is more like taking vitamins than taking an antibiotic.

An antibiotic is specific to addressing one kind of ailment–infection–and it can knock the infection out in usually 14 days. Then you don’t have to take it anymore.

Vitamins you need every day, because every day your body uses them up.

You need to address heart issues daily because of . . .

The Stockpile Effect

Heart issues don’t just add up, one on top of another. When you’ve experienced a trauma, your body, soul and spirit record it.  (Note: a trauma could be anything from the famous “Popsicle memories” mentioned in The Healing Code, to childhood emotional neglect and the absence of nurturing, to outright abuse.)

That’s not the end of it, though. Whenever something happens to you that’s like the original trauma, the negativity of the memory is intensified and compounded.

Thus you go through life, stockpiling, magnifying and compounding the pain of the original memory–often unconsciously.

When you interrupt that process with The Healing Codes or healing prayer, that’s a good start. But if you spent the better part of your life building on these negative memories, it’s going to take consistent, persistent effort to heal it all the way down.

You will be peeling an onion, layer after layer.

Surprising Results

The beautiful thing about the process, though, is results don’t come only when you have peeled all the layers of that onion. No, results often come quickly, often in surprising and unexpected ways. Read More→

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