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Nov
19

Turkey or Brisket? (Why It Matters)

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My client, M.H., told me a rather funny story about her family’s Thanksgiving (and gave me permission to share it). Yet it had a point that can apply to many of us, in one way or another.

All her life, M.’s mother made a turkey for Thanksgiving. Her mom loved turkey, and it’s the thing to do on Thanksgiving, right?

When mom entered assisted living and could no longer cook and host, M’s sister took over. She made the usual turkey, but also brisket, because they all loved brisket.

That year, no one ate the turkey. They realized mom was the only one that had ever liked turkey! M’s sister was furious, declaring, “I’m never cooking a turkey again!”

And so this family now happily celebrates Thanksgiving with brisket and other favorite foods. No more turkey!

What strikes me is that the mom never asked the others if they like turkey, and no one thought of speaking up. Isn’t this so typical of the way many of us do things? We go along with some tradition, never even taking a moment to tune in to our own desires and making our wishes known. We “eat the turkey” even though we hate it.

That’s OK for one day a year, but what if we’re living our whole lives that way? Those who grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, in which their emotions were ignored or even denigrated, often grew up “going along,” doing all the right things but feeling empty inside. Growing up with any kind of outright abuse can have the same effect.

If this is you, I’m here to tell you there’s more. And that you can have more, be more. If that nagging emptiness dogs you, that can be healed.

First you have to realize you’ve been living “eating the turkey rather than the brisket” you desire. Then, I invite you to check out my new program, Align with Your Divine DesignTM and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire. We’ll hop on a call to see how you can make sure every year you can happily “eat brisket not turkey” with others who feel the same way.

I received a text the other day that totally lit up my day. I hope it will fire you up about what’s possible with The Healing Codes.

Jose G. came to me five years ago with a diagnosis of leukemia. For four years it was pretty much kept at bay as he did custom Healing Codes to heal his heart issues. He also bought a Halo and used it regularly.

We worked on many of Jose’s heart issues, and also a number of generational issues. Realizing he is a Highly Sensitive Person was a huge shift for him. He began to accept himself even though he was different than other men. He began to know in a deep way that God made him this way and the trait was something to be cherished, not feel ashamed of.

Jose overcame a number of other physical challenges, including a very bad case of poison ivy, and COVID. He was hospitalized for the latter, but made it through.

Several months ago, Jose’s cancer markers got worse, and he had to decide whether he would undergo the medical treatments his doctors were suggesting. Being a doctor himself and seeing what such treatments do to people, Jose agonized over what to do.

I don’t know the specifics of what treatments he decided upon, but one thing we worked on was the fact that his father had had the very same diagnosis as Jose, and died five years after. It was hard for Jose to break out of the fear that he would follow in his father’s footsteps, as he faced bad news about his own health and was coming up on 5 years after diagnosis himself.

Of course we addressed that one from a number of different angles with The Healing Codes.

All of this groundwork paved the way, I believe, to the amazing testimonial Jose shared with me:

 

Jose is sorting through his own interpretation of this miracle.

My perspective so far is that because he had cleared away so many “heart issues,” his body had the resources to fight the cancer. The body is an amazing healing organism—if we allow it to do its work. No doubt whatever treatments he took were also a factor. But I personally don’t think we can attribute his healing solely to medical treatments. I have seen too many cases (and Jose saw even more) of people who underwent treatments and either the treatments didn’t work, or they impaired quality of life, or even killed the patients.

But I’ve also seen clients who have undergone medical treatments while also doing The Healing Codes experience great results, and even bypass negative side effects of the treatments. (I always advise people to include in the prayer of intention, where you mention the specific physical issues, “and any negative effects of the treatments.” I can’t remember any client who has added that to their Healing Code prayer experience debilitating side effects.)

Another important point: It was crucial that Jose changed that belief that he would follow in his father’s footsteps, lest that become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

(I remember working with my mother, who had a similar fear. When she was 78, she was very fearful that she would die of a stroke at 78, just like her mother. We healed that belief. My mother lived to be 88, and survived two strokes before she passed of congestive heart failure.)

I rejoice over Jose’s healing. I told him it made my day (really: week, month, year!). I hope you find it inspirational, too. I hope that it motivates you to regularly do this healing work. You never know what it may be staving off for you, or when you will need the foundation of healing it affords to get you through a health crisis in the future.

And if you need some extra help, check out my coaching options at https://healingcodescoaching.com.

Oct
22

“That Doesn’t Work for Me . . .”

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Have you ever read (or heard) something that sounded like great wisdom, great advice . . .

and you try it and it doesn’t work for you?

Then you think, There must be something wrong with me.

I just read some advice about how to feel better when you’re feeling down. The writer called her sponsor and said she was upset about something. The sponsor told her, ‘Get over yourself and go find someone to help.”

The person took the advice, and felt better, she said.

Maybe this works for some people, like her. But for me, as a Highly Sensitive Person who also grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), it’s all wrong. (If you’re not sure if these apply to you, take the free assessments here.)

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Oct
15

Are You Celebrating Enough?

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Someone I have followed for years confessed in an email that 2021 was a very tough year for her, and one of the things that suffered was that she quit showing up the way she was used to doing. She was holding back. Mostly out of fear—fear of judgment.

Since she wasn’t used to holding back, she didn’t feel like herself. She set the goal to get her mojo back, hired some coaches to help her, and is now meeting her goal.

That got me to thinking. I think the past two and a half years have been difficult for all of us. Not only was there the pandemic and the host of problems it unleashed on all of us, but no doubt a lot of your own personal issues either came back in a new way, or were exacerbated by the Emotional Inflammation from all that’s going on around us.

I know that was true for me. But here’s the thing that I realized when I read my friend’s email: I kept showing up. Read More→

Sep
23

Pray for Haiti’s Dire Situation

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Ever since I graduated as an undergrad in 1978, I have sponsored a child through Compassion International.

My Compassion child in Haitie, Marie Michel, Haiti, age 9

Marie Michel, Haiti, age 9

I am now on my fifth child, Marie Michel, who is now 9 years old.

(I had the privilege of meeting my then-current child in Haiti in 1990. It was an unforgettable experience. It broke my heart to witness firsthand the poverty of the people, and to see that my child was sick. Yet, the courage and commitment of the Compassion workers totally inspired me. THEY were not depressed like I was by the circumstances.)

I just got the following update from Compassion, and ask that you would pray along with me and others for this desperate situation.  (If you feel led, please also give to the relief fund.) We need God to shine His light of mercy here!

 

What to pray for Marie Michel

What to pray for Marie Michel

Please pray for our brothers and sisters in Haiti as they face a dire situation. Fuel subsidies have ended and caused major price increases. Many are protesting this in Haiti’s major cities, leading to violence, looting and blocked streets. Street blockages are causing banks and business to close — and preventing water and basic necessities from reaching those who need them most. As the situation worsens, families are forced to shelter in their homes to avoid the increasing violence. This grim situation follows a year of painful events for the people of Haiti, including a devastating earthquake and intense inflation.

Over half of Compassion’s Frontline Church Partners in Haiti are in areas reporting unrest. To keep children and staff safe, programing is paused, and staff members are reaching out to children and families over the phone to assist in any way they can. We hope to get children back into child development centers as soon as it is safe.

I know that hearing about the unrest and shortages in Haiti may weigh heavily on your heart. Would you join us in prayer? We ask you to pray with us for:

  • Protection for children and families living in areas of unrest.

  • Quick aid, including water, to be delivered to those who need it most.

  • Safety for Compassion staff as they assess and help.

Thank you for your commitment to praying for and ministering to children in poverty.

In Christ,
Steven Marble
Senior Director, Supporter Care
Compassion International

P.S. Will you prayerfully consider giving to the Disaster Relief Fund to help children and families in Haiti during this difficult time?

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Here in the Northern Hemisphere, summer is drawing to an end (though we technically have a few more days of it).

I actually love autumn as well, and the change of seasons in general. (I just wish we didn’t have basically six months of winter here in the Midwest.)

I hope you’ve enjoyed your summer as much as I have. I relish my morning barefoot walks in the dewy grass, sometimes with my son’s dog Chester.

And I’ve enjoyed taking care of my pretty annuals. From which I have derived a few lessons about heart issues.

Every year I buy petunias and plant them in containers (easier to take care of). I love the color and variety of their beautiful blooms.

Every year, however, they would get leggy and then they would die. Early this spring I discovered why.

You have to deadhead them diligently, I learned. I thought, “This will be a great daily reminder for me not only to deadhead my petunia blooms, but to daily get rid of things I don’t need, that don’t serve me now, even if they did in the past.”

That’s something that I really felt I needed in my life: pruning. Much has changed for me, and I knew I needed to get back to “editing” my life—discarding the excess. This would include physical objects, papers, old files, emails, outgrown beliefs and negative energy patterns, information stored on my computer, etc. Even the way I’m doing business.

Well, things moved along beautifully with the petunias. I enjoyed seeing them thrive and diligently watered, fertilized, and deadheaded the spent blooms.

Until one day . . . they started to look sick. Something was munching the blooms and sucking the juice out of the stems.

I researched what could be the problem. I discovered it was: budworms!

Budworms are the larvae of some kind of moth, and they like to feed on petunias.

I bought some spray that was nontoxic and diligently followed the directions.

Soon my petunias were beautiful again!

But . . . the budworms kept coming back. I had to keep spraying.

This summer could be dubbed “My Battle with the Budworms.”

And I’m winning! But it requires me to stay diligent.

Every. Single. Day.

Are you getting how this applies to heart issues? We need to cultivate our heart by “watering and fertilizing” it with truth, gratitude, and positive focus.

 

We also need to beware of the “budworms.” When those “budworms” aka heart issues–old negative patterns, thoughts, beliefs, memories–start to sap our joy, undermine our health, we need to pay attention! We need to swiftly apply a remedy.

For budworms, Bon-Neem is the remedy. For heart issues, healing prayer and The Healing Codes are the remedy.

Gardens are a source of nourishment and beauty. So can your heart be, if you diligently “weed, feed and get rid of the budworms.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Keep your heart with all

diligence, for from it flow

the springs of life.” –Proverbs 4:23

What in your life needs “deadheading, pruning, watering, fertilizing, weeding out or treating with a remedy”?

If you’d like some coaching to help you do any of the above, check out HealingCodesCoaching.com.

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A very high majority of my clients possess the inborn trait of Sensory Processing Sensitivity, making them what’s commonly known as Highly Sensitive People (HSP).

HSPs make up 20-30% of any population (it shows up in 100 species and is equally distributed among male and female), so we are automatically in the minority. (I say “we” because I am one; so is my husband and son.) Since there is a huge difference in how HSPs and non-HSPs experience the world, it’s extremely helpful to know whether you have this trait or not.

Yet, just because you may have this trait, that doesn’t mean you’re like all other HSPs. I love what Dr. Elaine Aron, who put this trait on the psychological map with her ground-breaking book, The Highly Sensitive Person, says on her blog: “All living beings are [different from one another], but even within the group of HSPs, or maybe more in this group, we are so different. After all, if our trait is about being more sensitive than others to our environment, that should mean that we vary more than others coming from similar environments.”

When clients discover they are Highly Sensitive, it’s often one of the biggest ahas of their life. “So that’s why I had so much trouble with . . .” or “So that’s why I seem to absolutely need . . .”

It reframes their experiences in a whole new way. It opens the door to begin to accept themselves for who they are, and to craft an environment that fits them.

But I’m not just interested in people understanding the trait. As Dr. Elaine Aron pointed out, even among HSPs, there are many differences.

I think it’s most helpful to know how this trait, if you have it, shows up for YOU.

image for Sensitvity FingerprintSo I created the Sensitivity Fingerprint(TM), and I’d love for you to have it. It’s a way to get to know your Highly Sensitive Soul—how the trait expresses in your life.

The first step is to take the Getting to Know Your Highly Sensitive Soul survey. This will prime the pump for you, and it will help me know how to serve you better.

After you submit the survey, you will get the Sensitivity Fingerprint(TM) for your own records. There will be an opportunity for you to further explore how to not only get to know, but to heal the wounds of your Highly Sensitive soul.

After all, healing and transformation is my calling. And I’m super excited about the plans God is unfolding for me—and, perhaps, for you.

So please take the Getting to Know Your Highly Sensitive Soul survey, and stay tuned!

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Jul
30

Your Healing Curriculum

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I have really sharp clients. Often, because they are in the process of healing and transformation and getting more and more aligned with their divine design, they come up with nuggets of wisdom.

Here’s something from Laura W. (who gave me permission to share it):

When we’re being asked to grow, the stretching often hurts. But it’s not: I have to do all these modalities to fix me. Rather, it’s a healing curriculum, it’s a certain kind of container I think of as Purpose Academy. College is one kind of container: you learn specific skills, but then you have to go out and live it to really get it and achieve mastery. But all of life is Purpose Academy—there’s a purpose to what God allows in, and it’s all for us to better discern our own purpose.”

Well said, Laura! Your transformation has been awesome.

I especially like what she said about doing things like The Healing Codes not to fix us, as if we’re broken. We may feel broken, but it’s more like we’re wounded, and the wounds knock us out of alignment with our divine design, our unique purpose for being on this earth. Through the rigors of Purpose Academy, the wounds are revealed so that they can be healed. When we heal those wounds, spiritually and energetically, then we can come into that Alignment. Read More→

Jul
09

Heal the #1 Heart Issue of Most People

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If there’s one “heart issue” almost every client I know addresses at some point, it’s some variation of “not enough.”

This unhealthy can show up in a number of forms, leading to various outcomes. For instance:

  • “I’m not enough” (leads to low self-esteem, perhaps a sense you have to prove yourself; sometimes harmful ways of trying to fill the void).
  • “I don’t have enough” (leads to anxiety and often actual lack).
  • “I’m not doing enough” (leads to the harmful actions of overgiving, over-doing, workaholismm, etc.).
  • “I don’t know enough” (leads to endless learning rather than actually doing).
  • “There isn’t enough” (time, money, love, etc..–leads to despair).

Can you relate to any of these?

If so, remember—you’re not alone!

Some of us also experience almost the flip side of this: “too much.”

Too much expected of us. (And there are “not enough” resources to deal with it.)

Too much stimulation (especially true for those with the trait of High Sensitivity).

Too much to know before I can feel safe.

Lately a little “mantra” has slipped into my mind that helps me deal with the “not enough” issue (which for me is often, “I don’t know enough” or “I’m not doing enough”).

The mantra is this: “Let it be enough for now.”

Let it. Allow it. I have a choice: to allow, or to resist and fall back into the old “not enough” pattern.

“Let it be enough. A whole new energy comes in when you say “enough.” At least for me, it’s like there’s a sigh in my soul. Aahh . . . it can be enough.

Let it be enough for now. Not forever. This is not procrastination. It’s a choice to let whatever I’ve done, whatever I know, whatever I am, to just be enough, just for now.

In this moment, I can choose to be enough, to have enough, to know enough, to let what I’ve done be enough, to trust that there is enough.

You might make that a Truth Focus Statement for your Healing Code: “Just for right now, I am enough, I do enough, I have enough, I know enough, there is enough. I can let where I am right now be enough.”

See what this does for your nervous system.

And let me know if it helps you!

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Jul
02

Adrenal Cocktail Recipe

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A naturopath friend of mine, Jeanne Wilson, gave me a simple recipe for an “adrenal cocktail” that gives you the right balance of potassium, sodium, and Vitamin C.
 
She says it can play a critical role in replenishing and balancing mineral levels, hydrating, reducing fatigue, and increasing overall health.
 
Since I’ve been drinking this twice a day on an empty stomach, I have felt terrific! I mean it. I can hardly believe it. My head is clear, I’m sleeping well, and my energy level has skyrocketed. Many of my recent symptoms that have been flaring off and on (headaches, cough, digestive issues) are mostly gone.
 
Here’s the recipe:
  • 4 ounces of organic, pulp-free orange juice (not from concentrate)
  • 3 ounces of organic coconut water (make sure there are no other ingredients, such as citric acid)
  • 1 generous pinch of good sea salt
Mix together and refrigerate. Drink a cup 2x/day on an empty stomach.
 
Let me know how it works for you!
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