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Nov
25

Simple Health Rules to Live By

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There are a few simple rules I live by that have kept me functional despite multiple diagnoses (Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, GERD, osteoporosis, IBS–all of which seemed to be kept at bay):

1. Eat real food. And preferably, something that is live or raw at every meal. 

sliced orange fruits underwaterSeveral years ago I heard a theory about orgone energy, “a universal life force hypothesized by Wilhelm Reich, supposed to emanate from all organic material, that purportedly plays a role in physical and mental health.” Reich believed that live foods maintain this life force, and if you eat something live at every meal, it will energize your body.

Though the Internet has poo-poohed Reich’s ideas, it makes sense to me that live foods would have a life force in them, and I don’t see how it can hurt to eat something with the life force in it at every meal.

Besides, so many of the real breakthroughs in science and other arenas come from those who “think outside the box.” First their ideas are ridiculed, until more and more evidence starts to confirm them. Finally, their ideas are accepted and moved “into the box”–until there is another paradigm shift from others who “think outside the box.” (Unless, of course, the powers that be who don’t want any other narratives but theirs to prevail use that power to “deplatform” and silence those who dare think outside the box. But we haven’t seen that happen, have we?)

shallow focus photography of person walking on road between grass2. Exercise every day, preferably outdoors, in nature. Even 20 minutes every day will lower your mortality, according to studies. Get some sunlight every day, even if it’s through one of those happy lights. Cut the blue light in the evening.    

3. Live within your circadian rhythm. Every organ has its own little clock, and there is a master clock in your brain. Learn to know your own rhythms, especially optimal times for waking and getting to bed.

The HOLOS Balance devices really helps with this. It’s my all-time favorite wellness device, and in my opinion, better than anything else that’s way more expensive. Find out more here, and get 15% off if with this link.

 

4. Heal your heart issues. Start with your fears, and the lies you believe.

5. Practice gratitude. If you haven’t already, start keeping a gifts journal.

And if you need more personalized help with healing your heart issues, check out HealingCodesCoaching.com for options.

Nov
22

‘Tis a Gift to Be Simple

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This Thanksgiving (2023), I am focusing on gratitude and simplicity.

green leafed plant on clear glass vase filled with water

Subtraction and simplicity have been my watchwords this year.

I have been focusing all year on subtraction and simplifying (I have a ways to go!).

As I tried in this Black Friday week to fend off FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out–on great deals), and practice POMO (allowing myself the Peace Of Missing Out), the Shaker hymn “Simple Gifts,” written by Elder Alfred Joseph Brackett in 1848, has come to mind.

 

 

Here are the lyrics:

Simple Gifts

‘Tis the gift to be simple, ’tis the gift to be free,
‘Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be.
And when we find ourselves in the place just right,
‘Twill be in the valley of love and delight.
When true simplicity is gained,
To bow and to bend we shan’t be ashamed.
To turn, turn will be our delight,
Till by turning, turning we come round right.


And here’s my Thanksgiving greeting ecard to you, because I’m so thankful to those who follow me and read my blog posts and emails.

brown wooden board

 

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Nov
09

FOMO, FOMSI and POMO

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You’ve probably heard the term FOMO-the Fear Of Missing Out.

This seems to be a fundamental human fear. We don’t want to miss an opportunity. We don’t want to miss having fun.

I have struggled with FOMO. As I’ve worked with it, however, I discovered a perhaps deeper fear: the Fear Of Missing Something Important (FOMSI).

With so many moving parts to my life, with so many details to handle, FOMSI is something I often find myself doing Healing Codes for.

A traumatic background doesn’t help. Growing up with Childhood Emotional Neglect meant that I had to deal with life on my own. If I missed something important, I’d suffer for it. Trauma can lead to the negative coping style of hypervigilance, which is very stressful. It keeps your nervous system in fight/flight mode.

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Some of the thoughts/beliefs (often unconscious) that fuel FOMSI are:

  • I have to get it right, or else!

  • If I miss an important detail, something disastrous will happen.

  • Nobody has my back; it’s all on me.

  • There’s too much to deal with; I can’t handle it.

  • I might need [to do, now, have] that.

The feelings of FOMSI are anxiety, fear, and overwhelm. Maybe helplessness, maybe anger too. Read More→

There is a story in the third chapter of the biblical book of Genesis that explains, in my opinion, the source of every single problem any of us has in life.

We, like Adam and Eve, fell for a lie.

In Adam and Eve’s case, it was one lie: that God can’t be trusted.

spider web with water droplets in macro photography

In our case, it’s a bunch of lies, a spider web of lies, but at the bottom of them all is pretty much the same lie. It’s some variation of “God can’t be trusted.”

Maybe it’s that you don’t even believe there is a God. You can’t trust a God that you don’t believe exists.

Maybe it’s that you believe there is a God, but you’re not sure what kind of a God it is.

Likely the “God” in your mind is somehow tainted by your experience of your own parents, who were certainly like “God” to your baby self.

(Let’s face it. No parent is perfect. So to believe, on a heart level, that the heavenly Father is perfectly loving, can be a stretch—at least to the heart, if not the mind.)

Think about it. If you could truly and completely trust that there is a Being who is all-powerful and all-loving, totally wise, who is always for you and is able and willing to turn any experience into a blessing in the end—wouldn’t you want to trust that kind of God?

Who wouldn’t?

The rub is, we have believed all kinds of lies that counter that kind of belief. Read More→

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Nov
04

Time Change Tips

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In the U.S. and elsewhere, the end of October/beginning of November, depending on where you live, signals a turning back of the clocks from Daylight Savings Time to Standard Time for many areas of the world.

These artificial time changes can wreak havoc on the body, though turning the clocks back an hour isn’t as challenging as “springing ahead” an hour for Daylight Savings Time.

As an aside, I believe so many people get sick when autumn turns to winter partly because of the time change, partly because of eating too many sweets around Halloween and the holidays, partly because we’re outside less, therefore have less exposure to the sun and more exposure to viruses via closer quarters in drier air.

person sleeping on sofa near the wall

When the body says rest . . .

The longer evenings are meant to signal our bodies to rest more, but do we? Most of us turn on our LED lights, continue looking at screens with blue light that blocks melatonin levels, and don’t get the rest our bodies were designed to get in the darker months.

With all these factors converging to lower our immune system, it behooves us to take extra care of ourselves at this time.

If you have a more sensitive nervous system, all these things may have an even greater impact.

Here are some tips to navigate the time change:

  1. The night of the time change, go to bed at your usual time (before you reset the clock), and let your body decide whether it needs that extra hour. If you awake after your usual amount of sleep, you’ll know that’s right for you. PLUS you’ll gain an extra hour and feel fresher than if you stayed up later. 
  2. Cut the processed sugar!  A research study done by Loma Linda University in which participants were fed different forms of sugar found that the effectiveness of white blood cells (our immune cells which fight infection) decreased up to 50% after 1-2 hours of eating sugar, and lasted up to five hours!
  3. Cut out the blue light at night. I use special glasses (and if you wear prescription glasses, you can get the kind that fit over them). There are many brands, but I like the ones with the red lenses that block out blue and green light.
  4. Get more rest. Listen to your body. Be willing to make the adjustment to more sleep over the winter months. It’s part of your divine design to live within the natural rhythms of life.
  5. Boost your immune system. Fruits and vegetables, broths, herbal tea, my two “healthy brews.” Warm liquids can soothe and open up nasal passages and provide healing nutrients.
  6. Guard your circadian rhythms. Find out your best bedtime and stick to it. I am amazed at the difference it makes if I get to bed before 11pm, vs. after. 

A device that helps the circadian rhythms of all your organs is the HOLOS Balance. Check it out here (and get 15% off if you order). This device has helped me to sleep better, have more energy and perform better, heal quickly from my surgery, recover faster from PTSD (the Balance Plus has a PTSD setting), create calm and peace, and much more! I absolutely love this device.

Alane Freund, an international consultant on High Sensitivity, has a YouTube video on adjusting to the time change you might also want to check out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8x869nFZigU

(I don’t resonate with her spirituality, but I do agree that this is a good time to lean on your spirituality, and she does have good things to say about sensitivity.)

I would add: If you are Highly Sensitive, be very aware of how much stimulation you are getting, especially at night. Because we process everything so deeply, everything we take in will need more time to process.

I’ve had to limit myself to listening to podcasts or watching videos in the evening, because I need that time to process what has already occurred that day. If I add more to process, it interferes with my rest.

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Oct
21

Why I’m Not on Social Media

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I used to be on Facebook, and encouraged people to follow me. I have a few YouTube videos as well. (There’s one on how to do The Healing Code, by the way, but the better quality one is here. YouTube won’t let you replace videos and keep your stats.)

Astute readers of my Healing Heart Issues Digest newsletter who have followed me for a while (there are many of you—thanks!) may have noticed that I no longer include links to my social media pages.

I still have an account on Facebook, and a few on X (formerly Twitter), but I never post. I only keep the FB account so that I can participate in private groups for which I have paid for access. (They’re supposed to be private, but . . .)

There are several reasons for my avoidance of social media. I’m going to go beyond the stuff everyone talks about—how it’s easy to get depressed when you see all these people posting all these wonderful things about their lives, for instance—and tell you about some of the reasons why I personally choose not to participate much at all in this milieu.

Perhaps it will help you rethink, or confirm, your own social media choices. (I’d love to hear your perspectives, too!)

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Oct
12

Call for Prayer for Victims of War

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The Hamas terrorist attacks on Israel on October 7, 2023 are shocking and horrific, and now is the time, more than ever, to pray the prayer below. 

The most disturbing thing to me was the report that people around the world were rejoicing over the killing of innocent people, the raping and kidnapping of women, children, and the elderly. Hamas was sending out videos of the atrocities they were committing, as if they are proud of it. The Nazis at least tried to hide it.

It also seems that the terrorists care nothing about the citizens of Palestine, either. They are quite willing to sacrifice them, too. Israel had always gone to great lengths to protect civilians when they were about to attack. (Note: Please don’t click on the link above unless you don’t believe me. If you’re sensitive, don’t click on it. Just trust me.)

Who rejoices over destruction, death, and suffering? Only those sold out to evil. Those who actually believe they are pleasing God by acts of atrocity. (What kind of god, you may ask, would encourage such a thing?)

Who protects and defends the innocent? Only those who value life. (The Israelis have always done everything they can to warn Palestinian civilians to evacuate before they bomb. Hamas hides their headquarters and military assets behind or under mosques, hospitals, schools. Hamas tells their citizens not to leave their buildings.)

As Ben Shapiro points out in this podcast explaining why he’s showing pictures of the atrocities, the terrorists don’t think like you do. They do not have the same values. 

It seems to not be fashionable to call something or someone evil. But what else would you call it? “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!” (Isaiah 5:20) I will call it what it is. 

And I will hate it. In the scriptures, it says to hate evil. Not evil people–we pray for them as our enemies–but evil itself. And we do what we can to eradicate it, if necessary.

The desire to enslave or destroy the Jews entirely has reared its ugly head since the days of Moses. Yet God has never allowed that to happen, and he never will, if you believe the Bible (and history). 

Perhaps not coincidentally, this very week I have been reading the Book of Esther in my regular two-year Bible reading plan. It is one of my favorite books of the Old Testament, and it’s quite timely now. The poetic justice in this story  is very sweet. (I pray, “Do it again, God! Do it again. Deliver your people yet again.”)

​​​​​​​(Interesting note: in Esther, Haman was the enemy that tried to destroy the Jews. Now it’s Hamas. One letter different.)

Prayer is a big part of spiritual victory of any kind. So pray the prayer below. Pray it often, pray it from the heart. You will be doing something important. 

We are not battling against flesh and blood, ultimately (Ephesians 6:12).

This is a spiritual war, fought with spiritual weapons, which are more powerful than any earthly artillery.

Don’t forget . . .

Be a light and push back the darkness!

Remember to pray!

(Have you been paying attention to how God is answering this prayer? That’s how I read the news now….)

life-giving light prayer

 

 

Do you beat yourself up when you make a mistake?

I used to. As a recovering perfectionist, I used to get down on myself whenever I didn’t do anything optimally.

I didn’t really think I could get it “perfect,” but I did strive for optimal. Was I using my time in the best way possible? Was this approach in my business the best way?

If it took “too long,” or some better way appeared, I would feel bad.

Optimization was a prison. Making mistakes was not allowed.

I found out where that came from. Two foundational memories.

One was such an early memory, it’s amazing I remembered at all. I attribute the memory to a “cellular memory” stored in my body and spirit, that my spirit revealed to my soul (consciousness).

baby on incubator

My first six weeks of life were here.

When I was a week old, I got very sick and had to have abdominal surgery to cut away intestinal blockages. I was in the hospital for the first six or seven weeks of my life. On top of that, I burst my stitches at one point, and also got pneumonia. I was one sick baby.

In 1957, they did not let the mothers see the babies in the NICU. (Actually, the whole concept of a separate hospital unit for sick infants was itself in its infancy.)

So there were attachment issues for me as well. (Who did I actually bond with?)

It’s amazing that I can remember anything from so young an age. But I definitely have this hazy memory of a head nurse scolding my nurse, saying, “You can’t make a mistake in here. You could have killed that baby,” referring no doubt to me.

pencil with no eraser

No erasers allowed!

Another formative memory was first grade, when the teacher didn’t allow us to keep erasers on our pencils. She said it “encouraged us to make mistakes.” (In first grade!)

One night, I did my arithmetic homework, and realized I’d made a mistake. I erased my answer as carefully as I could, and wrote in the correct answer.

Nevertheless, the next day, the teacher still marked it wrong, because I hadn’t gotten it right the first time.

I’ve since healed both those memories, and now see mistakes as being a necessary part of learning and growth. Besides The Healing Codes, I want to share another thing that helped me with this.

It was being open to seeing mistakes as not being mistakes at all.

It started when my husband (who always did the grocery shopping) would sometimes not get what I’d put on the list, but something else.

At first I’d feel frustrated. But then I begrudgingly had to admit (to myself at least), that what he’d gotten instead was better.

I started being open to seeing what good could come out of other “mistakes.” Astonishingly, I saw that very often, God turned what seemed to be a mistake, or some frustrating experience, into something good.

One shining example of this was when I had ordered something online, and I couldn’t download it. I contacted the company owner, and somehow we ended up being great friends for years. She even supported me when I published Abundant Gifts. She loved it so much, she gave me $1000 to promote it! She also tutored me in online copywriting.

woman in gray long sleeve shirt reading book

God knew I love my books!

Another example: For years I chastised myself for not moving more of my books from my office to the basement, where we had all kinds of space for storing books. Well, after a basement flood and subsequent mold issue, we had to get rid of all the basement contents. I felt God had kept me from moving those books into the basement because those were books he didn’t want me to lose. (Being a writer, my books are among my most precious possessions.)

Because of these two things—healing the memories, and being open and even expecting “mistakes” to turn out well in the end—I no longer beat myself up when I do make a mistake. I look for ways to correct it, and if I can’t, then I wait to see what good can come out of it. Actually, I pray that God will bring good out of it. Then I look for how that prayer will be answered.

Whatever you do, don’t beat yourself up for making a mistake. That, I believe, only puts up an energetic block to whatever good God might bring out of it.

Perfectionism and optimization, be gone!

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Sep
21

Aligned Decision Making

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I recently faced a big decision.

It was one that would affect me, my family, and many other people—for years to come. I felt I had to get it right.

Of course I prayed for wisdom and guidance.

I started working through a grid called the OOVL Decision-Making Guide, which guides you in thinking through options, desired outcomes, how much you value each outcome, and the likelihood that each option would achieve your desired outcome.

It was helpful.

But . . .

The problem was, I didn’t know how likely it was that the desired outcome would happen, in most of the cases.

Or, it came down to a trade-off: more likely in the short term, but not the long term. Or vice versa.

And then came this question to my spirit: Which option requires the most faith? Read More→

Sep
09

Tending, Mending, Clutter and Trauma

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Have you heard of the phrase “tend and befriend” to describe a way to deal with stress and get your nervous system back on track?

The term was coined in 2000 by Shelley Taylor, a psychology professor at the University of California.

The “tend and befriend” theory says that when faced with a perceived threat, humans will tend to their young and rely on others for connection and support. This, she and her group of researchers observed, was especially true of humans, and human females in particular. Laboratory animals, when shocked, would attack each other. Humans, when threatened or stressed, typically affiliate with one another instead of attacking each other. Read More→

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