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Think Small for Big Changes

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At the beginning of a new year, lots of people advise us to “think big. Don’t let limiting beliefs hinder your big dreams.”

I wrote recently about aligning yourself with God’s dream for your life. He’s the one who can think big. “Beyond all we can ask or imagine. . . .”

Big is God’s realm.

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And we certainly can limit ourselves from achieving God’s big dream by our own limiting beliefs.

Yet . . .  I don’t know about you, but when I think too big, I get overwhelmed. And that triggers the old “fight or flight” response to kick in, I’m in stress mode, and things do not flow.

When I get a glimpse of God’s vision for my life, what usually comes next is some small next step to take toward that vision.

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What works for me is to think small, in the sense of “baby steps.” (Remember Bill Murray in “What about Bob?”) Small changes are what seem to lead to the biggest results.

Small, but let me add, consistent steps in one direction yield the best results. I love the title of one of Eugene Peterson’s book, A Long Obedience in the Same Direction. That is what a good life looks like: a long obedience–step by step, day by day–in the same (good) direction. Small, daily choices. Things we can do: smile at someone, express appreciation, choose the vegetables over the pastry, get up and move instead of watching yet another episode of your favorite Netflix show.

As God sets the direction and offers you the vision, he also gives you the next “baby step.” He shines a light on just the next step, lest you get overwhelmed. Isn’t that kind of Him?

That’s a sign to me, actually, that you’re in touch with God’s vision–when the vision excites you but doesn’t overwhelm, when the next small step is revealed and feels very natural and right, when you are peace with “creating as you go” rather than having to see the end goal clearly.

What’s the next “baby step” in God’s vision for your life?

If you don’t know it, there’s probably a block of some sort. If you would like assistance in finding and removing the block, consider getting some coaching from me at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

 

 

 

 

 

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If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I hardly ever promote products (other than summits). 

That’s because, frankly, I have to get that “click in my spirit” that tells me there’s something really special about this, before I can really get behind it.

That’s only happened a few times in my life. Each time, the results have been significant–for me and for others.

It happened when I first heard about The Healing Codes. Result: thousands of people helped to heal through the book I helped Dr. Alex Loyd publish, and the clients I’ve personally coached.

 It happened when I heard about Immanuel Prayer, and got trained. Result: an ongoing, unbelievable personal connection with Jesus Christ, and many people I’ve facilitated experiencing the same thing.

It happened with the Halo. Result: I and many of my clients who bought it got healthier.

It happened when I signed up for a coaching program for Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs. Result: business miracles are already happening for me, as I’m learning tools to move me toward using my HS strengths (and developing some of my own–for you!). Side note: If you are Highly Sensitive and self-employed, or want to be, sign up here so I can keep you posted on resources that will help you, too, thrive.

It happened when I signed up for Julie Bjelland’s course and Sensitive Empowerment group. Result: the skills I’m learning to use to move from HS coping to HS thriving have been life-changing—for me and my clients.

These are the few products that have produced a “click in my spirit.” As I come across more, I will add them here.  If you have signed up for my Healing Heart Issues Weekly Digest, you’ll hear about them! Here are my further, more objective criteria for what I recommend.

I’ve been writing lately about aligning yourself with God’s dream for your life. As I work with clients to do this, we are finding God gladly is leading the way. It’s been practically miraculous.

God apparently is more interested in connecting us with his dream than we are. How encouraging is that!?

As I reflect on this for my own life, I can remember times that were key turning points for me. Times when I got what feels like a “click in my spirit.”

Could that click be my spirit aligning with God’s Spirit and dream for my life? You know, when something seems to fall into place, and just feel right, down to your very toes?

Seems so, as I look back.

When my father told me, when I was young, “If you love reading, you will never be bored,” I realize now there was a click in my spirit. I’ve been a reader ever since, and I’m never bored.

When an elderly friend once said, “Cultivate a lot of interests when you’re young, and when you’re old, you will have that to fall back on,” that clicked in my spirit as being a word of wisdom. I have lots of interests and trust they will help me continue to connect with life as I age.

When I fell in love with publishing in college, it was another click. Even though people told me “it’s impossible to break into publishing,” that is what I wanted to do and I knew somehow it would happen. And you know what? My very first job out of college, was in publishing. And I secured that job even before I graduated (a downright miracle back in 1978, when English professors were driving cabs because there were no jobs for English majors). That first job out of college, producing a radio program for a publishing company, remains one of my all-time favorite jobs. (I was doing what would now be a podcast, way back then!)

I look for that “click in my spirit” before I do anything, these days. The more you pay attention, the more you can recognize it. The more you heal the blocks to your own spirit and to God’s Spirit, the more you will feel it.

If you would like me to assist you in aligning with God’s dream for your life, it will produce a “click in my spirit” to do so. Sign up for coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

If you would like to know what few products I recommend that have produced that “click in my spirit,” go here.

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A Meditation for Forgiveness

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We all know how important forgiveness is, but in my experience it’s one of the trickiest things to do.

For one thing, you may think you have forgiven someone, but somewhere in your heart is a hurt little child who has not forgiven. The adult you forgives. The adult you can understand that your parents, for instance, didn’t give you what you needed because they themselves didn’t get it. Your adult you can forgive your parents.

But somewhere inside there may be a 4-year-old part that still doesn’t understand why mommy didn’t take the time to notice that big sister would always bully you. That four year old feels sad, confused, hurt and angry. The adult you can forgive all you want, but unless those feelings from the four year old part are addressed and healed, the trapped energy will remain in your body.

If you have an illness or disease, it’s worth exploring what unaddressed “heart issues” might be under the tip of the iceberg. The tip itself could be resentment, anger, frustration or hurt toward someone. If you find it hard to forgive someone, or even if you’ve made the “decision” to forgive but haven’t really explored and healed at a deeper level, then it’s worth taking some time to address that issue.

I have a meditation I and others have used that works very well with this. (You can even use this with someone who has passed away.)

Steps to Forgiveness Meditation

The first step is to make a list of the people toward whom you still feel any resentment. Include what each person did and how it affected you.

You will need to do the meditation for each person on your list. Start wherever you want: either the person you resent the most, or the least.

Imagine that person is sitting in a chair opposite you. There is a chain connecting the two of you, and a big hook in your heart and the other person’s heart as you are connected by the chain.

Read your list, aloud if you like. After each harmful action of theirs and how it affected you, say while “looking” at them: “And I forgive you.”

Once you’ve gone through your list, sit quietly, eyes closed, and imagine Jesus (or God) standing between you, a little off to the side of the chain that hangs between you and the other person.

Turn to God and ask him to cut the chain that connects you. This is an act of humility and faith. You acknowledge that this is something you really can’t do for yourself; you need God’s help. Know that God is very happy and quite able to do this for you.

Instead of cutting the chain, however, what he does is come to you and gently remove the hook from your heart. He lays his hand on your heart and heals the wound from the hook. Take your time with this. Allow yourself to feel that healing grace flow from his hand to heal your heart wound. You might even lay your own hand there. Feel the warmth.

Next, watch as Jesus goes to the other person, and gently removes the hook from his or her heart. Watch as he lays his hand on the other person’s heart and heals just the way he healed you. Let yourself feel compassion for the other person. He or she also had been wounded. And now you’re both healed.

Jesus throws away the whole chain into a vast abyss, hooks and all. There is no sign of any of it.

Now Jesus is inviting you both into a three-way embrace: you, the other person, and Jesus. Let yourself feel how everything is made right.

I believe that if you are willing to try this, and open to God actually doing something, you will be able to truly forgive.

I suggest you do this meditation outside of your Healing Code sessions. You may need to do some Healing Codes just to get to the point of doing this meditation.

After this meditation, if you still feel any residual resentment, keep doing Healing Codes, perhaps focusing as you do so on some aspect of the meditation:

  • the fact that there is a painful hook in each of your hearts that you really want removed

  • your desire for Jesus to remove the hooks and chain

  • seeing/feeling him lay his hands on the other person’s heart or your heart

  • seeing him throw away the chain

  • the moment when the three of you embrace

When you are able to feel that the embrace is “true,” and there is no “charge” when you think of that person, no resentment, you will know you have truly forgiven–from the heart.

Get ready for a new chapter in your healing, and perhaps in your relationship! Because when you truly forgive, you free yourself from one of the most destructive energies there is, and open yourself up to receiving more grace than you knew was possible.

For a printed version of this meditation, go here. For further help in healing your heart issues, visit HealingCodesCoaching.com and check out my coaching and the freebies there. For more on how Diane can guide you in healing connections with God through Immanuel Prayer, go here.

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Here is a question that is often asked in some form,  especially by those who are just starting out with The Healing Codes:

“The terrible feelings and thoughts are not going away, and even when I’m doing The Healing Code, unwanted thoughts get in the way of my positive focus.”

Read the whole question and my answer here.

More FAQ about The Healing Codes.

‘There are far, far better things ahead than

any we leave behind.’ C.S. Lewis

I wrote this on New Year’s Eve, 2019. But this process of evaluation and aligning yourself with God’s Dream for your life can be done any time.

I love this time between Christmas and New Year’s Day, when everything slows down and there’s time for reflection.

I’ve seen some excellent suggestions for reviewing the past year/decade and welcoming the new, such as this “Simple Guide to Reviewing 2019 and Creating Your Dream 2020.”

But as I was thinking through my own answers, I realized that I don’t only want to pursue my dreams.  I want to align myself with God’s Dream, God’s plan, God’s purposes. My dreams may or may not come about. But God’s dream . . . God’s dream for me will always happen, as long as I listen and cooperate rather than get in his way.

What I’ve done over the past decade (help people heal their heart matters)–that was God’s dream. I was an editor and publishing coach who was, frankly, burned out on the whole publishing industry. I desperately needed a change. I had no idea that I had any gift for helping people heal. NO IDEA. I “happened” to listen to an interview about The Healing Codes, eventually got the Healing Codes Manual, did the Codes, had the mini stroke (TIA), went through the procedure to close up the hole in my heart, only to find it had already “spontaneously” closed up in the 4 months I had been doing The Healing Codes. I contacted Alex Loyd, he asked me to work with him to get The Healing Code published, and the rest is history. Thousands of people helped, and a whole new direction launched for me that has proved wildly fulfilling.

It was God’s dream. God, “who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us . . .” (Ephesians 3:20). I had no idea any of this was even possible.

Now, I feel on the cusp of discovering a new dream he has for me. And I’m very excited about it.

How do we get in touch with God’s dream for us? Below are some steps to take. Everything starts with Connecting. Once were are connected to God, we can receive his messages through our own spirit, as informed by prayer and His Word, as well as our own past experiences with God. I can also ask my body, through the subtle energy testing I’ve learned to do.  The spirit and the body tap into an intelligence that goes beyond consciousness, I believe.

Then, we do the next thing. Take the next step that is clear. God’s leading me to my new direction more than a decade ago happened when I kept taking the next natural step.

The very first step is to Connect with God.

This may not be as easy as it seems. Many of us don’t really know who True God is. I say “True God” because I believe there is a true God that exists whether we believe in him or not, and he is beyond any distorted filters that cloud our vision. These filters stem from how our parents treated us. They were, after all, God to us as babies and young children. If we were not treated as if we mattered, if we were abused or neglected, then it’s hard for us to emotionally connect with God.

However, I suggest you keep trying. Ask True God to reveal himself. He desires to do so. Keep an open, humble heart. Learn about who he really is from the Scriptures, which is where he revealed himself. (You may need a little help with this. Get a modern translation, such as the English Standard Version, that is still true to the original language. Just read with an open heart, starting with the easier books: Psalms, and/or the Gospels. My experience is that Scripture is a living Word, if we open ourselves to God communicating to use through it. Remember, he’s seeking you more than you’re seeking him!)

Once you connect with God, however imperfectly, here are some questions you can use in this process of asking God to reveal his perspectives, his plans, his goals. Because I am a word person, certain words have come to mind as a focus point. I also like to address God by the many names and images he has given us.

  • Release.  Lord God, what do you want me to release from my life, things that no longer serve me or your purposes for me?
  • Restore. Heavenly Father, is there anything that was lost, stolen or taken from me, that you desire to restore to me?
  • Renew.  Creator God, is there anything that has gone into hibernation or even died, that you want to renew to new life? Is there anything brand-new that you want to create, that is beyond anything in my awareness now?
  • Heal. Jesus, what would you like to heal in my life? What old wounds that get triggered, what negative patterns do you desire to apply your power to heal? (I have realized I cannot do this on my own. I need God’s knowledge, wisdom, and power to find, open and heal deep-seated wounds. I get hints, through the things that triggered me. But only God knows the true source of my issues.)
  • Infuse. Holy Spirit, which of your wonderful qualities would you like to infuse into my spirit, that will flow to body and soul to continue the healing? (Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, trust, gentleness, humility, hope?)
  • Align. Heavenly Father, what actions do you want me to take that would best align me with what you want to Release, Restore, Renew, Heal, and Infuse in me? Are there particular people you want me to connect with, or causes that will move me toward your dream for me? (There’s a time for waiting on God, but when he gives you the next step, it’s time for action. “Nothing happens until something moves.”–Robert Ringer)

These questions excite me. I plan to spend New Year’s Eve and/or Day reflecting in my journal on these, and talking to my husband about them.

We are heading toward the year 2020. My prayer is that you will see with clear, 20/20 vision, God’s Dream for you. Or at least the next steps, which is often all he reveals at any given time.

I think I already have hints of what God intends for me.

Once in Immanuel Prayer, I got the image of Jesus and me sitting on a potter’s bench. He was behind me, his arms around me, his hands on mine guiding my hands on the lump of clay. I know nothing about making pottery, which is just where Jesus wanted me: totally dependent on his guiding me. At the time, I had no idea what we were making. I was to just yield to the process, to his guiding me. Yield to the intimacy of his closeness, arms around me, hands on mine.

A few days later, he did reveal what we were making: “A vase for flowers (beauty). Two mugs–one for just being present and enjoying a hot drink, one for holding your pencils and pens, because you are a writer. And a bowl for fruit–I intend you to be fruitful. Finally, a pitcher for water–to offer a cool drink to those who are thirsty.”

I look forward to finding out in the coming year all the ways these symbols will be manifested.

Ways to go deeper:

  • If you would like help in Releasing, Healing, Infusing or Aligning with God’s purposes, his Dream for you, contact me for some coaching at my HealingCodesCoaching.com site.
  • For more spiritual perspectives on healing go here.
  • Or, learn more about Immanuel Prayer, a process in which you can connect with Jesus directly to discern his dream for you.

The Art of Gift Giving

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“We do Christmas exceptionally well,” I remarked to my husband and two adult children at the end of this year’s long, leisurely, soul-filling day.

Christmas Day is one of my favorite days of the year, because it’s one day where we are all together, and we take our time with everything. My son usually goes to his best friend’s Mexican Christmas Eve party, where the gift exchanges don’t start until midnight and the party lasts until 3a.m. or later. So he was sleeping in on Christmas Day.

That was great. It gave the rest of us time to move through our usual morning routines. I do my morning pages (three pages of longhand on whatever comes to mind–a great way to get through any unprocessed issues and start the day off receptive to the new). Then I do my meditative readings (mostly Scripture and other inspirational/devotional reading), while using the Halo. Then, breakfast, my Healing Codes/healing prayer method (you’ll be hearing more about that), and my walk. Finally, shower and dress, and I’m all ready for the world.

This morning, Christmas, I also made our traditional Christmas breakfast, blueberry coffeecake. I stuffed the turkey and put it in the oven. We made our way slowly through the hours, eating the coffeecake, preparing more food, hanging out, chatting. Finally, just when the turkey was done, everyone was finally ready to open presents! Oh well. I left the turkey in the oven on warm and we opened our gifts.

We take our time with that, too. Christine was the resident present-passer, and we unwrapped each present, one at a time, taking turns.

This year it struck me that there is an art to gift giving. It is really about honoring the relationship. When I receive a thoughtful gift from someone, what makes me feel loved is that they actually saw who I am, and carefully picked out something they knew I would like. And it cost them something: money, the time to shop.

Let me give you some examples. Read More→

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Gifts from My Mentors

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From Thanksgiving to Christmas, I like to acknowledge the people who have enriched my life during the past year.

This includes, of course, my personal friends and colleagues. But you don’t know them. You can know and benefit from some of my “virtual mentors,” and those are the ones I want to tell you about.

As I reflected on those whose work has enriched either my spirit, soul, mind or body through sharing their expertise, several people came to mind.

Spirit. The most influential–and healing–approach I have ever come across is the Immanuel Approach, developed by Dr. Karl Lehman, a psychiatrist and the author of Outsmarting Yourself and The Immanuel Approach (which we Immanuel Prayer ministers, and he, refer to as “the big lion book” because it’s exhaustive at 759 pages!). From Outsmarting Yourself, I learned about “implicit memory” and how we get triggered, and how to calm body and mind. Dr. Karl Lehman’s work is all about how to let God come in and be with you in the pain, and thus heal it.

I was trained by Margaret Webb and Jessie Handy from Alive and Well in Immanuel Prayer, and continued with training from Dr. Karl Lehman through his Advanced Training seminar and monthly meetings in which local prayer ministers gather to watch and discuss a video of Dr. Lehman facilitating someone in Immanuel Approach. I also meet every other week with other prayer ministers to give and receive Immanuel Prayer.

What has healed me the most, and creates the bedrock of my spiritual life, are my direct interactions with the Lord through these prayer sessions. What has healed my clients the most are the times we use Immanuel Prayer in a Coach-Guided Healing Code. More on that, including videos of my facilitating and receiving Immanuel Prayer, and links to more information, can be found here.

I want to honor Dr. Karl Lehman and Alive and Well for their excellent work. There is no healing like the healing you get when Immanuel–“God with us”– directly intervenes into your issue.

Soul. By “soul” here I mean my emotions, mainly. (As distinct from my spirit, mentioned above; spirit is connection to God and others. I believe our spirit is meant to connect to God’s Spirit, and from that connection life flows to body, mind, and soul, and out to our relationships.)

My mentor in soul healing has been Dr. Jonice Webb, through her book, Running on Empty, and her excellent articles. From her I learned that I grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, and the impact that has had on me since. I learned why I (and so many of my clients) don’t have many childhood memories; it’s because memories are formed through emotion, and if there was not enough emotional support as a child, you don’t form many memories. You’re also haunted by a feeling of emptiness or “not being enough.” Dr. Jonice Webb has helped me identify my feelings and learn how to embrace and work with them. This has also helped me use Immanuel Prayer better, and to help my clients feel and deal with their emotions.

If you’re not sure CEN is part of your experience, take this assessment to find out and learn more about her excellent work.

Mind (and body and soul). I wasn’t sure where to put Julie Bjelland and what I’ve been learning from her about living well with Sensory Processing Sensitivity (otherwise known as being a Highly Sensitive Person or HSP), because it’s all-encompassing.

I have learned brain-training techniques, breathing techniques, how to calm my nervous system, how to track my stress levels, and so much more from Julie’s course and from her Sensitive Empowerment group. I have also received much validation about the unique experiences of being an HSP, through the Sensitive Empowerment community. And, since most of my clients are HSPs, I have been able to pass on a lot of what I’ve learned to them. Many express how life-changing it has been to learn about this inborn trait, which about 20% of at least 100 species possess, and how to thrive with it.

Thank you, Julie, and my fellow HSPs in the Sensitive Empowerment community!

Body. This has been The Year of the Summits, and I’m a bit tired out from it all. But one teaching stands out.

That would be Ari Whitten’s Energy Blueprint. Ari’s information is science-backed–he really takes the time to do the research, which I appreciate. (Julie Bjelland also keeps her guidance rooted in science.) I am learning (since I’m still working through the course) about circadian rhythms and mitochondria, and how they affect our energy and health at the most basic level. (Remember, I’m all about “healing AT the source,” the only way true healing happens.) While “heart issues” are at the source of so many of our problems, including physical, there is a dynamic interplay between our environment and our physical well-being as well. These days, so many things in our environment work against the way God designed our bodies to work. Ari Whitten is helping me understand how we are made, what environmental factors put extra stress on our bodies (especially true for HSPs, by the way), and what lifestyle changes we can make to mitigate the negatives and foster our own body’s balance and energy system.

You can take his extensive, free Energy Blueprint Masterclass by signing up here. Click here or on the picture link to get his free eblook on science-backed supplements for energy enhancement.

Relationships. I’ve already mentioned Dr. Jonice Webb. Her second book, Running on Empty No More, talks about how CEN affects relationships. If you grew up with CEN, or your partner did, please read this book as well as Running on Empty.

Another influential book for me in terms of my marriage is How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. My husband and I took a class on this a year ago, and continue to meet with an amazing group of couples who are uncommonly open and honest. It is a precious group.

You can take the Love Styles quiz to find out how you learned to relate to people based on your family background. I highly recommend it and ask my clients to take this before our session, as it gives a better context for our work together.

There you have it–my current mentors for spirit, soul, mind and body, carefully curated for you. Check them out as you feel led. You can find the assessments for CEN, Love Styles, and High Sensitivity here.

 

My daughter asked me the other day, “What can I get for you for Christmas and your birthday?” (which happen to be one and the same day). It was Cyber Monday, you see, and she wanted to shop online.

She had asked me the same question on Black Friday. As I thought then, and the other day, about what I needed, I was coming up blank.

For the past few months, I have been “editing my life” by eliminating things that were not truly essential or important to me. This arose from a feeling of chronic overwhelm, which I was working on healing. I realized part of the answer to overwhelm lay in subtracting clutter of all kinds that had somehow accumulated when I wasn’t paying attention.

So when my daughter asked me what I wanted or needed, my first thoughts were of things that you can’t find in a store or online, things you can’t wrap and put under a tree.  A greater sense of margin in my life. Hope that the future will be better, for myself and the world, despite many signs that things are going in the opposite direction.

I realized as I pondered what my daughter could joyfully give me, and I could joyfully receive (for gift giving is my primary “love language“), that I already have all I need. Anything she or anyone could give me would just be icing on the already-sweet cake that was my life.

I have a wonderful husband, two amazing, loving adult children who are on their own and who enjoy being with each other and their parents. I have a home that, while it could use some updating by the world’s standards, suits us very well. I have plenty of clothes (still getting rid of some), I know how to cook wonderful and healthy food. I have a reliable car (which I seldom need to drive because I work from home). I have work I love, many people I love, and I’m (finally) part of a caring community, both in my church and a smaller, more informal group that loves to connect with Immanuel and grow in grace.

I am in the process of understanding and healing the wounds of my past, and I have amazing tools that help me get and stay healthy. I am also coming to better understand my (and my husband’s and son’s) trait of High Sensitivity, and am learning to thrive as an HSP and help others to do so as well (a huge percentage of my clients are Highly Sensitive People, and The Healing Codes are particularly well suited to the deep healing HSPs need).

Is my life perfect? No, not by a long stretch. There are secret sorrows as well as the frustrations most people face in this modern world. However, when I dwell on the things that matter that I mention above, the “less than ideal” aspects fade into the background of gratitude.

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What do I need, what do I want? All I need was given by the One whose coming I celebrate on December 25, the One whose birth was announced by angels with a song about “peace on earth, good will toward humankind.”

Settling into the energy of “enough,” I’m finding great peace.

One of the “Truth Focus Statements” I like to use when working on healing my “not enough” issues is: “I am enough. I have enough. I do enough. I know enough. There is enough.” I have added this to the Truth Focus Statements that are available here for free.

I did.

For a long time, my body was trying to talk to me.

It was trying to tell me, ever so gently, that I was pushing it too far. That I was not paying attention to the signals that I needed to rest.

I was good about giving it nutritious, clean  food, and my body was grateful. It showed its gratitude by keeping me pretty healthy all my life, and at a fairly even weight all my life. During those times when I ate a bit too much junk food, Body put on weight, making me uncomfortable in my clothing. I didn’t want that, so I quit the junk food and my body shed the pounds. Effortlessly, I might add.

I was also good about giving it exercise. My body was happy about that, too. It obliged by keeping me energetic and fairly flexible.

(If you listen to your body, you see it is totally on your side. Your body is all about you surviving and thriving. It is always striving to keep everything in balance and functioning according to design.)

Now my body is desperately trying to tell me there was one thing I lack, one important thing that could make or break everything else.

I need more rest.

Not only more sleep, but more rest.

I hardly knew what that meant. I was used to go, go, go. Wasn’t that why Body was giving me so much energy, after all?

For years Body has patiently tried to instruct me that that energy needed to be restored periodically. Body was very patient with me, reluctantly obliging my pushing through the fatigue by pumping out more adrenaline and cortisol. It tried to tell me there would be a price to pay down the line.

I wasn’t listening. I took the extra energy boosts and figured I was OK. That “second wind” in the evenings was just what I wanted to get my creative work done. Thank you, Body.

Body shook her head and sent another quiet reminder that there would be a toll to pay eventually.

Now Body is growing more urgent. Like the email that pops us saying “your bill is due on such and such a date,” Body is telling me that my time is almost up. I must change–or else.

I don’t want to know what “or else” looks like. I’ve written about the wake-up call I got when I read about what happened to Mark Virkler. He ignored his body’s signals, too, until–he had a heart attack. That was his “or else.”

My first step in being able to listen to my dear Body was to pinpoint what “heart issue” was causing me to ignore Body. When I read a section in Dr. Jonice Webb’s Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, I found the answer. Since my parents were not in tune with me emotionally, they did not pay attention to my signals that I needed rest. So I never learned to tune in, either. In addition, my first weeks were spent in the NICU, fighting for my life. “Rest” then would have meant not surviving. Or so my heart came to believe.

Once I began healing that “heart issue” first through healing prayer and The Healing Codes, I was ready to start listening to Body.

Body is doing her best to help me. She gives me signals, for instance, when I’ve been sitting at the computer for too long. That pain in my neck means I need to get up and move–preferably taking a break to do some of the exercises my physical therapist gave me for my neck.

Periodically checking in and asking, “How am I feeling in my body? What does my body need right now?” does wonders–when I remember to do it. I have a sticky note in the bathroom to remind me (and one in my office, to remind me that I might have to use the bathroom!).

At a certain time in the evening, way earlier than I want to stop, Body starts giving me signals that it’s time to quit everything and close down. I no longer seem able to keep on pushing past that fatigue point.

In order to listen to Body, I have to change some things. I am seeking ways to Do Less. I work in a more focused, intentional way during the day to get things done, and am more vigilant about allowing distractions. I am trying to focus on what’s the “One Thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unnecessary.” Body tells me that One Thing is rest.

Specifically, more brief rest times throughout the day, and getting to bed earlier at night. “That ‘second wind’ time is best used for the rejuvenation that will come from the deep sleep cycles between 10pm and midnight,” Body tells me. (She can be very specific.)

When I tune in and let Body call the shots, she’s very, very happy. She gives a lot back to me for  my obedience: energy, joy, patience, greater flexibility and a sense of well-being.

One thing she did ask, ever so shyly. “I would appreciate an apology,” she said. “I’ve worked very hard for you all these years. I’ve carried you through so much, protected you, and I store all the events of your life. I’m really glad to do so, and I’m glad that you have been working on healing and releasing the negative images, beliefs, and memories. Can you thank me for all I’ve done for you? And can you apologize for the times when you didn’t listen to me and I tried my best to serve you anyway? Can you apologize for all the warnings you ignored?”

“I’m so sorry, Body, for ignoring your signals. Forgive me, please. Thank you for all you’ve done for me, all these years. Thank you for how smart you are–you know how to do so many things automatically without my even thinking about it! How can I not trust your wisdom? Help me to listen better. Help me to make your work easier.”

Have you ever felt your whole body smile?

If you would like some help in listening to your body and healing the things that get in the way of your best life, consider getting some coaching. Even if you feel you don’t know how to listen to your body, your body will talk to me through my energy testing. Once you start listening to your body and loving it, it will love you back in unforeseen ways!

 

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