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I wish someone had warned me about this. It would have made life easier for me when it happened.

That’s why I’m warning you now. I really didn’t want to write this post. (What woman wants to reveal her age?) Yet I felt compelled to, because it’s really important.

Something happens when you hit your sixties.

If you’re in your sixties (or beyond), you will probably nod your head and feel validated. I’ve talked to many of my friends and clients in this age group and they all say, “Yes! That’s how it is.”

If you’re younger, you will have been warned, as I wish someone had warned me. I’m hoping you’ll take to heart what I’m about to say, because it will make your sixties much easier when you do get there. The rumblings do start earlier–late forties and fifties.

So what it is that happens when you hit your sixties?

Simply this: All your prior coping mechanisms quit working.

Whatever you were doing that made life work for you suddenly–doesn’t.work.anymore.

For instance, if you depended on multitasking to get things done–you find you can’t multitask anymore.

If you dealt with emotions by pushing them down and moving on–that won’t work anymore either.

If you skimped on sleep and got by–you can’t do that anymore. Your body will start malfunctioning one way or another (sleep affects so much).

If you got along fine without God or religion, OR if you were comfortable in your spiritual practices and religious beliefs–suddenly you may find yourself either adrift, or questioning the very beliefs that heretofore held your life together.

If you feel like your body starts to fall apart in your sixties, I offer this thought: maybe that’s just an outward manifestation of what’s happening inwardly . . . the coping mechanisms fall apart, then the body follows suit.

What is actually happening, I believe, is that in one’s sixties, ANY unprocessed “heart issues” surface, in any number of forms, including physical ailments.

Not only that, but even the heart issues you thought you healed, if not healed entirely, will resurface and demand to be healed at a deeper level.

This may especially apply to Highly Sensitive People, who possess the traits of depth of processing (the pain and trauma go deep), and also emotional reactivity (the original emotions were strong). Unless a heart issue is healed completely, I can almost guarantee it will pop up again in your sixties.

And then, you will have to find a new way to deal with it, if you’ve just been coping rather than truly healing it.

I think it’s actually the spirit/body’s wisdom that makes all this happen. Your spirit and body want you to be healthy, to heal. The body knows that unless all the heart issues are thoroughly processed, that negative energy will compromise the body.

And Body does not want that at all. Body will send you messages. Body will prevent Soul’s former coping mechanisms from continuing to work.

Also, this is your spirit calling you to a much deeper level of being. It is your True Self calling. She/he may have been trying to get through all these years prior, but you were too busy to listen.

Too busy learning how life works and, perhaps, figuring out how to survive in a dysfunctional situation (growing up years).

Too busy figuring out who you were, what you were going to be when you grew up (adolescence).

Too busy building a career, raising a family (adult years until middle age).

Too busy ignoring the rumblings of your spirit and the messages from your body–and the disappointment of dashed dreams (we all have them by middle age).

Now, you’re in your sixties, and your body is screaming, your spirit is screaming: IT’S TIME!

This time you have to listen.

It’s literally a life or death matter. If you don’t listen NOW, two things will happen.

Your spirit will quietly sigh, and slowly withdraw. (Is this what aging really is?)

When the spirit withdraws, your body will give up. It is the spirit that gives life.

If you’re in your sixties, likely you know what I’m talking about. If you’re not yet there, look within. Can you honestly say you haven’t heard the rumblings of spirit and/or body, trying to send you messages?

Listen to what Body is saying; it will send clues. Example: for months I’ve had an itch in the middle of my back. The dermatologist said it was not a skin issue, but a neurological issue. A kinesiologist said my body didn’t agree with the doctor.

A business coach said that a sign you’re being called to something bigger is when you get the ITCH–when part of you just knows it’s time to go deeper.

My spirit lit up with the AHA when I heard that. My body sighed in relief. “She finally got the message.” That ITCH was about my calling to a new plane of spiritual healing and direction. When I recognized that–the itch went away!

What messages are your body and spirit attempting to give to you? Pay attention. Turn up the volume and really listen.

You are being called to finally shed the blocks to your true destiny. May you heed the call. Preferably NOW. Whatever your age, it will shorten the time spent avoiding, and lengthen the time living out, your destiny.

And if you would like help identifying what your spirit/body is trying to tell you, coaching will really help! HealingCodesCoaching.com

 

 

 

 

 

Train Your Brain Away from Pain

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Posture and movement specialist Sukie Baxter was interviewed by Julie Bjelland for Julie’s Sensitive Empowerment group, and I thought what Sukie said about pain was fascinating.

Sukie said if you are not in touch with your body and attuned to its signals, your nervous system can develop a sort of tunnel vision that begins to only recognize pain signals. That then pulls you into a negative loop, where the pain activates the Sympathetic Nervous System (fight/flight/freeze) response), which then makes the pain more pronounced, so that you focus even more on the pain–and so the negative loop goes.

What is the way out? Read More→

I wrote already about a course I took with Julie Bjelland, about how to embody the gifts of High Sensitivity, otherwise known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity.

I am thrilled to announce that Julie has started a very reasonably-priced membership site, Sensitive Empowerment.

This global community will not only give you a way to continue to get some of Julie’s best teachings, but also to learn from experts she will interview. For instance, a naturopathic doctor will be talking about “How to Care for Your Highly Sensitive Body.” Replays of interviews, QA with Julie will also be available.

Perhaps one of the most valuable aspects of membership, however, is the community you will connect to. Validation of our trait is one of our main needs as Highly Sensitive People. Read More→

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“Editing” Your Life

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From the beginning of my career, editing has been a huge part of it. I was an English major, and started working in publishing after graduation. My first job was a dream: I edited radio programs, little mini-interviews with authors, and wrote scripts for the announcer. It was the precursor to what are now podcasts; this publisher was way ahead of the times!

(A side note of historical interest: Though the publisher was ahead of the times, the technology was not. We had the author interviews transcribed on paper, I would edit on paper, and the technician would actually splice the tape. I still chuckle when I think of how we used to do it.)

After the radio program was discontinued, I became a marketing writer, then a magazine editor, then I moved to editing books. My final formal book project was editing The Healing Code for Dr. Alex Loyd, which changed the course of my career. Yet because writing is still a big part of my life, I still find myself editing.

Which got me to thinking about how it’s a good idea to be editing our very lives, on an ongoing basis. To be most effective in our work, to be happy and fulfilled, to gain clarity on the meaning and direction of our life, we regularly need to do the same things I do to edit a book or article. Read More→

What Is “Goovil” to You?

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I have invented a new word: “Goovil.”

It refers to anything that can be either good or evil, depending on how you use it or your attitude toward it.

It is something that is Good in your life if you are its master . . . and Evil if it has mastered you.

It’s also something that you can’t get away from. Something you have to deal with somehow in your everyday life.

Such as eating. Spending money. And, for most of us, dealing with technology.

In fact, I invented the word as I thought about my relationship to technology.

Technology can be very Good. I could not do the work I do without technology. It allows me to meet with clients from all over the world (36 countries to date, including China!)–right from my own home. How cool is that?

Without technology, I could not run my business, since it’s largely Internet based. I’m switching to an amazing platform (Kartra) that does things that make my head spin.

Most jobs nowadays depend heavily on technology.

So technology can be very Good.

When might turn it to the (E)vil part of Goovil? Read More→

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Do you believe a lie?

Of course you do. We all do. We all believe many lies.

And every lie we believe is the source of an issue in our lives.

According to the account in the first book of the Bible, Genesis 3, the whole world is under a curse because our first parents, Adam and Eve, believed a lie. They believed the serpent’s lie that God was holding back from them by not allowing them to eat from the tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.

This worldview says that we were never meant to know evil. We were only meant to enjoy the goodness of all the other trees of the Garden of Eden that God had given them “freely to enjoy.”

When Adam and Eve “fell” because they believed the serpent’s lie, all of creation was affected.

The human race has been living by lies ever since, which is why the world is not perfect. When we believe a lie, we are affected in every area of our being: body, soul, and spirit. Starting with spirit. 

God had said, “In the day that you eat of [the forbidden tree], you will die.” Adam and Eve did not die physically that day. They did die spiritually.

What did that look like? Read More→

I tend to get reflective every September, because it was in September 2007, the Saturday of Labor Day weekend, that I had a TIA (mini-stroke) that ended up changing the course of my life–very much for the better, but in an entirely unexpected way.

The full story is told here, but the short version is that as the right side of my body was suddenly paralyzed, I slurred to my husband, “I think I’m having a stroke.” He, my daughter and I hopped into the car and he drove us to the hospital, 4 minutes away (when there’s no train coming). By the time I got to the hospital, I was already recovering.

Somehow I never felt worried; I had a settled peace that I would be fine. And indeed, in less than an hour I seemed to be my normal self.

Of course multiple tests were run. It being Labor Day weekend, not much was done until Monday. I remember being told Monday night I would have to stay up all night so that they could run some brain test. I tried valiantly to do so, but I had never pulled an all-nigher, ever, not even in college.

Come Tuesday, I was told that they were sorry, they couldn’t run that test that day, I would have to stay up all night AGAIN.

I flat out told them, “I am not doing that. You either do the test today, or it won’t get done. I CANNOT do that!” (Honestly, were they CRAZY? Did they know anything about sleep deprivation?)

Next thing I knew, they were wheeling me down to do whatever test required me to be in a sleepless, nearly drunken state. Read More→

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I got off the phone feeling really pleased with the conversation: My friend  had decided to start coming to the Bible study that has so fed me spiritually.

I’d been telling Louise for years about how much I love the unique way Cathy Deddo has of opening the Word of God so that we actually encounter the living God. It’s not just head stuff, it gets to the heart somehow. People who have moved away still attend the Bible study remotely, through Skype and the audios I record for us. We’re all hooked!

I chuckled as I remembered how I started coming to Cathy’s study. My friend Nancy had also bugged me for years before I finally started coming.  That was back maybe 10 years ago, at least.

Thinking of Nancy suddenly brought a wave of grief. She had been killed very tragically in May 2018, and the wounds are still somewhat fresh. The special times Nancy and I had driving together to and from the Bible study were a big part of the spiritual and emotional nourishment of the whole experience. She was like a mother to me.

Right after the wave of grief and sadness, these words were impressed upon my spirit (that’s the best way I can say it when this sort of thing happens):

“Just because it isn’t the same, doesn’t mean it

can’t be good.”

Just because I could no longer go to Bible study with Nancy, doesn’t mean it won’t be good going with Louise. Immediately I got back to feeling glad that Louise and I would be sharing this experience together.

I realized this principal applies to other losses as well. Just because we lost our basement contents–including our wedding pictures–due to a flood, doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy having less stuff and a spacious place to store what I have.

I know someone who is going through a heart-wrenching divorce. All she ever wanted was a family, and now that dream has been shattered. But perhaps it can be true for her, that just because she doesn’t have the exact family she wanted, doesn’t mean that her life can’t be good in a different way.

Just because I don’t really have a biological family near me, doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy community in another way.

Just because I can no longer talk to my mother like before due to her two strokes, doesn’t mean what we can say now can’t be good in its own way.

It occurs to me that to embrace the now, I have to be willing to let go of what was. I had to let go of wanting what I had with Nancy, so I could embrace what I will have with Louise. I have to let go of all the “stuff” I lost in the basement, so I can enjoy the simplicity of life with less stuff.

I have to let go of what I had with my mom so that I can be fully open to what is now possible. Seeing a loved one age and lose their faculties is difficult, and we do have to grieve the loss. But always there is hope: “. . . doesn’t mean the new can’t be good too.”

Letting go of what was, to receive what is. Not a new concept, of course. Just a reminder.  Where does “just because . . .  doesn’t mean . . .” apply to you and your losses? 

If you would like help in healing from your losses so you can fully embrace the new “what is,” consider coaching to find and heal the negative memories, beliefs, and feelings attached to “the keywords to your heart.”

 

 

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Update on EMFs and 5G

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After being unwillingly forced to investigate about the possible dangers of electromagnetic frequencies (EMFs) after an electronic gas meter was installed (against my wishes), I emerge from a week of research with what I hope is a more balanced perspective.

Bottom line for me so far: You have to test your own situation before you get hysterical about things. I bought a Trifield TF2 meter which tests different frequencies (Radio Frequency, Electric voltage, and Magnetic, which is the induced current), in both standard (to measure against “standards,” which the owner’s manual found online gives you), and “weighted,” which will display the measurement of fields in which the higher frequencies are counted more heavily. 

If this meter is accurate (Amazon reviews make me wonder; how can I know?), I don’t have much to worry about in my home.

UNLESS of course, I develop EMF Hypersensitivity. To me, the jury is still out about whether we each have a personal threshold beyond which we display symptoms.  An engineer I spoke with explained the ranges of concern, and my readings fall below that.  I did remove the iHome next to my bed due to high levels of EMFs.

The engineer also explained that the electric “smart meters” were of more concern than the gas or water ones, because they pulse more frequently. However, testing it with my EMF meter, I found that the gas meter, at least the day I tested it, pulsed around every two minutes.  And it’s the erratic pulsation that seems to be problematic to our cells. Much depends on where the smart meter is located. In my case, thankfully the electric meter is outside the garage door, and not near any bedrooms. Proximity is a big deal–or so they say.
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I didn’t want to be writing this at all. But something happened recently that is of such concern, not only to me but to just about every person in the developed world, that I had to say something.

What happened: the gas company came by and told my husband, who was out doing gardening, that they were going to change out the gas meter as part of their “Meter Modernization Program.” They gave him a flyer that told all about this program.

My husband, who struggles with memory issues, did not connect this with my rants about “smart meters.” “They did not call it a smart meter,” he said.  (Memory loss, fatigue, sleep disturbances, brain fog/difficulty concentrating,  light sensitivity, anxiety are some of the symptoms the Austrian Medical Association call telltale signs of EMF overexposure. My husband already has these. You can perhaps understand my concern about exposing him to yet more EMFs, when we’ve been doing so much to limit exposure.)

By the time I got outside, the gas company installers were just finishing putting the new meter on. I said, “Take it off! I do not want this.”

“It’s too late,” the woman said smugly. “We already put it on, and can’t take it off. Besides, he gave permission,” pointing to my husband.

I asked her if she knew that what the frequencies from the device do to human cells. “Oh, it’s just like your cell phone,” she said. “There’s this little antenna on the meter, and it sends signals every 4-6 hours to the tower–“ Read More→

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