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Jun
30

Breathing Technique to Stop Anxiety

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Recently I watched a video presentation by Ari Whitten, on “Breathing for Energy” (replay here), which was, as is usual for him, excellent. (I have his Energy Blueprint program.)

Ari shared a number of breathing techniques, along with the surprising news that deep breathing is actually not good for you. Deep breathing does not oxygenate the blood, as is commonly believed. Ari explains the interaction between carbon dioxide and oxygen, and how oxygen actually gets delivered to your cells.

He also explains why we must breathe through the nose, rather than the mouth. Nasal breathing activates nitric oxide, which provides multiple health benefits, including killing virus particles that can lead to respiratory infections.

Most of us over-breathe. Optimal breathing is actually: Read More→

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Links shared on this video:

Sign up for the video event recording, written prayer and more:

HealingHeartIssues.com/pushbackdarkness

More about the Healing Codes (and to get started):

HealingHeartIssues.com/gettingstarted

I will be playing Elio’s Truth music in the background, but the selection is longer than the prayer. So here is where you can get the whole album if you like (with the Grief music included as well):

HealingHeartIssues.com/eliotruthmusic

Jun
11

Invitation to Push Back the Darkness

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Are you bothered by what’s going on in the world?

Perhaps you, like me, find that Emotional Inflammation flares strongly. (Emotional Inflammation: a state “not unlike post-traumatic stress disorder, but one that stems from simply living in today’s tumultuous world.”) The mass shooting in a Texas grammar school–horrific in itself—only added to the other troubling ongoing world events. War in Ukraine. Warnings of impending food shortages, and maybe another pandemic. Etc. etc.

And, to top it all off, four events springing up in my personal life underscored that evil’s presence is everywhere.

It can make you feel powerless. Hopeless. Paralyzed with fear.

When I feel powerless, I connect and align with the Source of all power. I prayed.

As I prayed, an idea formed.

What if I created an opportunity for people of faith to unite in prayer, while doing a Coach-Guided Healing Code, to push back the darkness?

I’ve already witnessed, again and again, the power of combined intention.

I’ve already seen that there is one prayer God always seemed to answer.

So why not unite to pray that prayer, and add a custom, coach-guided Healing Code as we do?

No one has to do The Healing Code part, by the way. I want you to share this with people who might not be familiar with The Healing Codes, but who do want to pray. Those unfamiliar with The Healing Codes will be pointed to resources that will explain it and show how to do it, if they care to learn.

The Healing Codes are simply a tool that clears the negative energy at a quantum level, which I believe amplifies the power of prayer. It’s an energetic technology that makes things manifest in the physical world, faster and easier—like using the remote garage door opener instead of getting out of your car to open the garage door. The frequency-based technology that sends a signal to open the door makes that task much easier than opening the door without it, but neither one is “morally” better than the other.

 Using The Healing Codes with prayer is like turning up the speakers in a stereo system: you need the sound in the first place (that’s the prayer part), but then you can turn up the speakers to create more powerful sound (in this analogy, to amplify the frequency of the prayer on that energetic level, so that results in the physical world are more easily manifested).

The authors of Emotional Inflammation suggest one way to regain emotional equilibrium during anxious times is to direct your energy into thoughtful, deliberate action. That is what this event will be. We will unite our intention, our faith in God’s power, and direct it into the various spheres of life, from politics and government to the educational system to the media and more.

If you are interested in joining this prayer event, sign up here so that I can give you more details. Signing up will also give you access to download the recording, so that you can pray and do this Healing Code again and again.

 

Mar
19

Grief and Isolation, Gloves and Mittens

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I have been writing about grief off and on over the past two years.

As you know, these last couple of years have brought not only a lot of loss and grief, but also isolation. Even though mask mandates have eased a lot, many places still require it. Having to wear a mask is somewhat isolating. When you can’t see a person’s full face, you can’t connect with them as you would otherwise. Numerous studies have shown that mask-wearing is socially and psychologically harmful—especially for children.

Isolation can also result from the social polarization rampant in our society.

How do we heal these things? Yes, we use The Healing Codes and prayer. But there’s another important component to healing.

Community.

We really can’t heal as well in isolation as we can in community. As we seek to heal the damaging effects of the past two years—not to mention our own personal heart issues—I want to give you a fun little visual.

I live in the Midwest, and winters can be, well, brutal. Last month, and even last week, we experienced several cold snaps. One morning when I went for my daily walk, it was -9 degrees Fahrenheit. That’s -17.8 degrees Celcius.

You walked in -9 degrees?!” you may say.

Yep, I did. The only thing that keeps me from my morning walks is ice.

The secret is to dress appropriately for the cold. I know exactly how to dress for each temperature range.

So whenever it’s below, say, 10 degrees, I wear thermal underwear, a warm hoodie, heavy jeans, wool socks, my osteoporosis vest, a very warm scarf underneath my long down coat, a scarf around my face, and my very warm hat.

And—most importantly—mittens.

Gloves don’t cut it in this weather, no matter how heavy the gloves are.

You need mittens. With mittens, your fingers provide heat for each other.

With gloves, your fingers are separated.

With all this regalia, the only thing that was cold were my thumbs.

The thumbs that were on their own, apart from the other fingers.

You get the analogy?

Together, like my fingers in a mitten, we can “keep each other warm.” Isolated, like my poor thumbs in the mitten, or my fingers in a glove, we “get cold.”

Special Invitation to Heal Together

I want to invite you to a special way to heal together: my Healing Hearts Circle.

The Healing Hearts Circle is a great way to “heal together,” because of this phenomenon of group synergy and what is called the morphogenetic effect. (If you’re into science, here is a fascinating explanation of the morphogenetic field by Dr. Rupert Sheldrake, with amazing videos of how it works.)

Basically, when we get connected to each other through the group and the coach-guided Healing Code I give, every time one person does the Code for him/herself, everyone else benefits as well. In that way the healing effects are amplified.

(And don’t worry about “taking on their energy”; the way I set it up, the connection is through the shared morphogenetic field generated by the custom Code, not each other’s energy.)

People in the group who attend the live call have also said they benefit from hearing me coach the other members. They can relate to other members’ issues and gain insights into their own.

Find out more at http://healingheartscircle.com. I have a special going on: the first month is only $50, so you can try it out at a 60% discount.

Mar
12

How (and Why) to Process Your Feelings

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This past week dealt me several shocks, so this weekend I’ll be taking time to process the many emotions that came up.

When my therapist asked me what I was feeling about all that had happened, I mentioned a whole range of emotions, from outrage and shock to relief and gratitude, and more in between.

“That’s a lot of different emotions for your body to process,” she observed. “Each of them is producing different chemicals in your body. You need to make sure you take time over the next few days to intentionally process each of them.” She warned that if I don’t, it could affect my health in a big way.

This of course I knew, from personal experience and working with hundreds of clients on their “heart issues.” Emotions must be processed, because emotions are “energy in motion.” If that energy isn’t processed and healed, it will go into the body and cause havoc.

Still, I needed the reminder to actually take time to process it all.

Years ago, in prayer, these words came to me: “You have to heal it so we (God and I) can heal it.”

However, if you’ve grown up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), you may have no idea how to process an emotion. I’ve learned that while The Healing Codes are great at healing negative emotions, the processing work must come before you actually can heal any negative effects of uncomfortable feelings.

Providentially, this week in a class I was taking, I got a great refresher on how to process an emotion. So I thought I’d pass it on, in case you too can use a little help in this area. Read More→

I have been “pregnant” with this idea for a long time.

Aware of the isolation so many of us feel, especially since the pandemic began, I have longed to create a community.

A community in which people will be able to feel they’re not alone.

A community in which people can be free to be their true selves.

A community in which people can heal.

A community in which people can not only heal, but be transformed.

Transformed by aligning with their divine design—connecting with God, their true selves, and other people who are on this same path of healing and transformation.

Does this sound appealing to you?

If so, would you please fill out this quick survey to tell me exactly what would be most valuable to YOU in such a community.

By the way, this will be a completely PRIVATE community housed on a private platform, NOT a social media platform. There will be no ads, no tracking of any kind by any outside party. That’s one of the purposes of it. I want it to be a SAFE and private community in which we can share who we really are and what we really think. We will be a like-minded group in terms of our transformational path, though that path will be unique to each person.

I’m totally convinced now that we can’t completely heal or transform alone. We need community.

Hence the Aligned Living Community. Let me know what you want: https://healingheartissues.com/ALCsurvey

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Feb
21

Impossible Relationship Blocks

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Have you ever been in a relationship in which you want to love the other person, but you and they are coming from such different places, that all you can do is set a firm boundary and try not to get sucked in to all the drama or manipulation or dysfunction?

In such a relationship, often the other person wants something from you, and will resort to all sorts of manipulation tactics to get it. Some examples might be:

  • guilt-tripping and attempting to pull you into the Dreaded Drama Triangle by trying to make you the rescuer or perpetrator of their victimhood

  • gaslighting, where they ignore, distort or twist your words, actions or intentions to something other than you meant

  • playing on and exploiting your generous or compassionate nature, knowing that you want to think of yourself in these ways so will do what they want to keep up your image of yourself.

Having dealt with a few of these relationships in my life has been an interesting experience. (By the way, as I’ve healed and Aligned more and more with my Divine Design, there have been fewer such relationships in my life. That can be true for you, too.)

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In these unhealthy relationships, I saw all my “buttons” that were being pushed, and that awareness was actually a gift. It was an invitation to more transformation and growth. Self-awareness led to consciously healing the issues, with more of a sense of freedom and personal empowerment as a result.

I want to say a special word to you if you were born with the trait of High Sensitivity. (If you’re not sure, go here to find out more and take the quiz.)

We who are Highly Sensitive seem prone to attracting dysfunctional people. I think there might be some kind of invisible energetic radar that certain people like narcissists and predators pick up on. They can somehow sense the kind-hearted, generous people who will give anyone the shirt off their back.

It was so very helpful for me to become aware of this dynamic. It has led to a lot of discomfort, since I’m not used to being as “hard-nosed” as I’ve had to be in dealing with these kinds of relationships. I’ve had to contend with guilt, judgment (from the other person who knows this is one of my buttons, as well as myself), and the cognitive dissonance of having to “turn off” some of my best traits (like compassion) when I recognized the other person’s attempts to exploit them.

I’ve had to initiate some uncomfortable conversations in which I confronted the person with truths they didn’t want to hear, and who would then berate me to others for it.

And I’ve had to remind myself a lot of the wonderful 12 words I think God gave me awhile ago to deal with my guilt over not rescuing people from their own folly: “You must allow others the dignity of living with their choices.”

I’m also grateful for such painful relationship experiences because I think they help me understand perhaps a bit of what God might feel toward us, his children.

God longs for a close relationship with us. Too often, our distorted thinking and attempts to make him be what we want him to be, rather than who he truly is, make a relationship impossible. Yes, God can do anything. But he won’t do this: he won’t violate our free will. He himself allows each of us “the dignity of living with our choices.”

Even if that choice is to live in eternity without him.

I guess God prizes freedom that much.

(Do we?)

If you too would like to transform some old negative patterns and Align with Your Divine DesignTM , check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

Jan
22

An Empowering Way to Read the News

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Do you watch the news constantly—or not at all?

The continuous news cycle—especially these days—can give one a massive case of Emotional Inflammation, which the authors of that book called a sort of PTSD characterized by what one client called “a dark cloud of energy” around her.

I admit—I never used to watch or even keep up with the news at all. It just felt like too much; I’d always get a bad case of Emotional Inflammation.

Now I’ve found a better way.

First of all, I never watch the news; I only read the news. Images tend to stick in the mind and heart, and are much harder to filter than thoughts.

I skim a wide variety of sources. News sources are so polarized these days, you have to read widely to come to something close to the truth.

Because of my training in subtle energy testing, perhaps it’s easier for me to sense the lies. I can feel it in my body. That helps.

What I do to combat the Emotional Inflammation is to use the news as a springboard for prayer.

I pray this one simple prayer: “God, shine your life-giving light into this [name of situation], to expose evil, reveal truth, and point our feet to the path of peace.”

When I read the news, especially now, I’m always looking for evidence of that prayer being answered. I rejoice when I see answers. I keep praying this prayer into the dark situations I see.

This practice goes a long way to mitigate Emotional Inflammation and keep me in a state of hope, peace, and even joy when I see what seem like answers to this prayer.

But it’s not always enough, especially for a Highly Sensitive Person who picks up on energy easily. So I always include “emotional inflammation” in my own Healing Codes practice.

I invite you to do the same. There is a custom Healing Code for Emotional Inflammation on the Navigating the Times page, just for you. (I ask that you sign up so I can alert you to when I update the page with new resources.)

And if you need help healing the heart issues that come up from living in these unprecedented times, check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

Jan
22

A Lesson from Hair

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I have been seeing the same hairstylist, Joan, since 1987 or so. We really got to know each other. She originally worked from home, then sold that home and worked exclusively in the shop.

In 2020, with the pandemic, Joan’s shop was closed for a while. I switched to a new hairstylist who worked from her home. It was very difficult to tell Joan I was going elsewhere. How do you “break up” with a hairstylist you’ve been seeing for more than 30 years?

At the same time, I thought I was ready for a change.

“So,” my new hairstylist, Rina, said cheerfully, “what would you like me to do?”

I told her some of the things I thought I’d like my hair to do. She tried to please me.

At first, I kind of liked it. But by the next visit, I had changed my mind. I came in with a picture of someone whose hair I wanted to emulate.

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Rina did her best. But . . . somehow it didn’t work on me.

And—now it was shorter than I wanted. Truth be told, it looked horrible.

Rina tried and tried to please me. Neither of us knew what went wrong. My hair was looking worse and worse.

Finally, I called Joan back. She seemed delighted to have me back, which blessed me greatly. When she saw my hair, she merely said, “It’s never been that choppy before!”

I said, “I know. I don’t know what she did wrong.”

Joan said, “You have to go by how your hair grows, what it wants to do. She texturized your hair, which should never be done with your hair; it’s too fine. I will fix it, over time,” she added confidently.

You have to go by how your hair grows. That’s the key!

All these years that I had the same basic hairstyle, albeit with Joan’s expert touches that made it up to date, I thought Joan was just being rigid. But she wasn’t. She was going by the way my hair naturally grew. She was working with reality, not trying to make reality conform to some idea of how I wanted to look.

You see the point? It’s true for our lives too. When we work with our natural design, the way God made us, with our particular strengths and even weaknesses, we will be our best self in the world. When we try to conform to something that “looks good” on someone else, or that’s “the latest trend”–well, you end up with “choppy hair.”

It takes time to correct that. Thankfully, hair always grows out. And you always have the possibility of moving back into the groove of how you’re made.

I call it being Aligned with Your Divine Design(TM), or, as e.e. cummings put it, “being nobody-but-yourself.” My real goal in helping you “heal your heart issues” is to remove the blocks that keep you from being Aligned and “nobody-but-yourself–in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else,” to again quote e.e. cummings.

It’s the heart issues that make us succumb.

If you need help healing the heart issues that block you from Aligning with Your Divine Design (TM), check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

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Dec
28

A Fun Way to Set Yearly Intentions

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I don’t know about you, but I’m not big on goals or setting “New Year’s resolutions.” Somehow setting a goal the typical way, especially with a deadline, ends up being more stressful (Life always seems to get in the way). Then, too, it’s discouraging if I don’t meet the goal.

Instead I like to set intentions. Usually it’s just a word or phrase to set the direction, and then I try to stay Aligned and tuned in to God’s direction day by day as I go.

Being a word person, I like to set a little rhyme. Since I just turned ____-five, my rhyme for this birth year is “____-five, the year to thrive.” That is my intention—to thrive no matter what life throws at me.

You can use this approach to look back, or look ahead. ___-four was “the year for more,” and boy was it ever—mostly more stress. But also more insights, deeper ministry and growth; more ideas and plans. Just—more of everything. A full year of both challenges and blessings.

You can also make an intentional rhyme for each year. Though I wanted 2021 to be “the year of fun,” I doubted that would happen and instead dubbed it “the year to be done.” Done with settling my mother’s estate, done with certain dysfunctional relationships, done with my old patterns that weren’t serving me.

And you know what? I did get all those things done. (Though the “done with dysfunctional old patterns” is a work in progress, as that is something no one ever gets done addressing.)

I am dubbing 2022 as “the year to be true.” True to my deepest values, true to my “Touchstone to Alignment,” and dedicated to deciphering what is true about these unprecedented times.

2022: The Year to Be True

What was 2021 for you? What will 2022 be for you? The year for the new? The year to finally do (something you’ve always wanted to)? The year for few (as in, fewer things, commitments, responsibilities)? What about the birth year you’re in?

Set your two intentions, visit them often, and see if it’s easier and more effective than setting New Year’s resolutions. (Studies show people usually don’t end up keeping them past February.)

I’d love to hear what your intentions are! Post a comment. Declaring it publicly somehow gives it more power, so studies show.

And it you would like some help connecting with your Heart to set your intentions, and addressing the heart issues that would keep you from manifesting those intentions, check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

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