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Should We Look For Truth Inside Or Outside Of Us?
Posted by: | CommentsIt’s popular in many “spiritual” circles to poo-poo the idea that we can look for the truest answers outside of us.
Many even look down on people who look to, say, religion for “answers” to the big questions in life. The places some look to outside themselves are seen as a crutch. “The answers lie within,” they insist. “Reality is what we perceive it to be.”
(This can be backed up, to some extent, by quantum physics. Because our perception actually changes the thing perceived, they can say that there is no “objective reality,” as everything is a matter of perception. Unless, of course, there is an objective reality outside of perception.)
These spiritual people may even use scripture to back it up, quoting Jesus as saying, “the kingdom of God is within you” (Luke 17:21). (This is a misquote, by the way. More on that below.)
Others (often of a religious stripe, of course), insist that one can’t trust one’s “inner knowing”; human beings have a “sinful” nature, and can’t trust it. They too cite scripture: “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9).
This is an important issue for anyone who truly wants to live out their spirituality authentically.
So where do we turn for truth? How can we know truth?
Here’s my take on it.
As usual, posing this as an either/or option is not accurate. (Either/or thinking seldom is; it’s usually a sign of dysfunctional thinking.) It’s a matter, in my opinion, of order.
Some don’t believe there is such a thing as absolute truth. I do. There is an objective reality which we call God, who exists above and beyond us, and above and beyond human perception. This “God Most High” made the world, and continues to sustain it. This God revealed himself in the Bible, a revelation of truth that could not otherwise be known apart from the revelation.
Since this God made us and everything else, he knows exactly how things work. So it is pure wisdom to look to the revelation of Truth to pattern our lives around.
What Jesus actually said in Luke 17:21 is “The kingdom of God is among you [or in your midst].” This is posited as the more accurate translation, and it refers to Jesus himself. He also called himself “the Way, the Truth, and the Life.” So we look to Jesus, a being apart from us, for Truth and Life.
Yet that’s not the end. Because there is an inner knowing to be had. Some people live just in their heads, thinking that just believing the truth intellectually is enough.
It is not.
The truth—i.e. Jesus who claimed to be the Truth—must be welcomed inward, into the heart. This Truth is meant to be experienced, not just intellectually believed.
And we can only experience it through connection. That is the “subjective” part. It is experienced only in relationship to the One who is above and beyond us.
In that sense, the Truth, the Kingdom of God, Reality, is within us. We can have an inner knowing from a heart that is being purified through its connection and relationship to this Truth who is a Person. This Person can guide us, comfort us, strengthen us, give us peace.
This Person can take Truth and show us, through the indwelling Holy Spirit of Jesus, how it applies to our particular life, our particular situation.
It is the connection between outer an inner reality where the balance—and the magic—lie.
This is why we can trust our Heart, that inner knowing that comes when we are Connected to the Truth. Our hearts are being renovated, and we can now live from that renovated heart that Jesus gives us.
This is why in my Align with Your Divine Design program, the foundational module is the Connection piece of the CHRIA Cycle of Transformation. (CHRIA = Connect-Heal-Release-Infuse-Activate.) We heal the blocks to that connection, and learn several ways to Connect and deepen the relationship with Immanuel, the God who is with us.
THAT is the abundant life Jesus promised in John 10:10.
I share all this because it’s my passion that everyone experience this abundant life that I know, that lifts me above the very real and difficult circumstances I’m facing now. I’d be lost without my Connection to Immanuel.
As indeed, we all are.
If you would like to develop your connection to Immanuel, I encourage you to check out my Immanuel Connection calls. I will facilitate that connection and you will receive the recording to go back to. It is one of the practices that has healed and sustained me the most. Learn more here.
The Power of Being Witnessed
Posted by: | CommentsI was very moved this morning when I read a passage in the Gospel of Luke. To me, it was a powerful demonstration of the importance of being witnessed in the healing journey.
The context: Jesus was on his way to heal the only daughter of Jairus, the local synagogue leader. The girl was near death, and I’m sure the father was desperate for Jesus to get there as soon as possible.

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The crowd jostled Jesus as he moved along. Among them was a woman who had been hemorrhaging for twelve years. She’d spent all her money on doctors, none of whom had helped her. She was desperate for Jesus to heal her. She believed if only she could touch the hem of his garment, she would be healed.
She crept up next to him, and did exactly that. Instantly she felt in her body that she was healed.
Jesus felt it too. He felt healing energy flow from him. He asked, “Who touched me?”
Peter reminded him that all kinds of people were pressing in on him. Jesus insisted, “Someone did touch me, for I was aware that power had left me.” (Those skeptical of energy healing, take note!)
The woman, realizing she couldn’t hide any longer, came forth trembling and fell down before Him. She admitted in the presence of all the people the reason she had touched Him, and how she had been immediately healed. Read More→
Mitigate a Key Factor of Disease
Posted by: | CommentsOne thing that happens when your focus is living Aligned with your Divine Design is you often get “messages” that seem tailored to you. It’s just what you needed to hear, and often, for emphasis, you may hear the same type of message or information several times within a few days.
One message that has come up for me again and again in the last few days is: the importance of not suppressing emotions.
One source was the book, When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté, M.D. He shows how many diseases have their roots in suppressed emotions. One study that struck me was about lung cancer. Smoking in itself wasn’t as much of a risk factor as smoking along with habitual suppression of emotions, especially anger.
“Heart issues” + lifestyle are the two co-factors that determine your health.
Learning to See-Part Two
Posted by: | CommentsIn “Learning to See-Part 1” I talked about physical seeing, and how we might be able to improve vision through the Bates Method by correcting the sources of poor vision: mental and physical strain (i.e. stress), poor vision habits, and wearing glasses.
Now I’d like to address another aspect of “seeing”–perhaps the most crucial.
Besides seeing with our eyes, we also “see” with the non-physical aspects of our being, whether you want to call it the mind, heart, or spirit. (Maybe it’s all three?)
This kind of seeing is all about perspective.
Often it starts with asking questions. Curiosity tends to open the mind to new perspectives.
Getting back to the Dr. Bates Method, as an ophthalmologist he noticed some of his patients improved, and he wanted to know why. He reasoned, “If a remedy (in this case, glasses) works, the dose should be weakened as the patient gets stronger.”
That’s not what happens with glasses, however. Usually the eyes weaken, and stronger and stronger lenses are prescribed. He concluded from his research that body and mind tension produces eyestrain and creates vision problems. Vision problems were a result of three things: mental strain; poor vision habits, and eyeglasses, which he saw as crutches that impede the eye from “working out,” as it were.
Bates started weaning his patients off of glasses, and their vision improved as they did his other practices. He taught other doctors to do the same, and their patients’ vision improved.
However, this was not what the mainstream believed at the time. Their perspective was pretty much what the current modern perspective is: we can’t know the root cause of poor vision, and we just need to treat the symptom (by prescribing glasses, of course). End of story.
Dr. Bates was expelled from his organization in 1891 for his unorthodox views.
He went on to open free vision clinics, and apparently cured a lot of people, including children, of their vision problems. I wonder if his methods would still be in use today, more than 100 years later, if they didn’t help at least somewhat.
Vision problems marked my life since I was born really (eye surgery to correct strabysmus, then lazy eye, poor vision overall, and now dry eye and cataracts). I’ve worn glasses since I had the eye surgery at age 4. Notably, my glasses prescription has not gotten much worse since I’ve been doing The Healing Codes, which would lend some strength to Dr. Bates’s theory, since The Healing Codes deal with stress.
I’ve written about the two ways of viewing the body before. It seems to me it’s hugely important how you see your body if you want to improve your health.
One view, the prevailing view, has you dependent on the medical industry. If there’s something wrong, you need something outside yourself to fix it (medication, surgery, eyeglasses, etc.).
If you get a diagnosis, for example that you have cancer, the doctors will bombard you with all sorts of options for treatments. Do they believe the body has an innate intelligence, that maybe the body is trying to communicate something, and that possibly you can use those resources to overcome the cancer?
Do they try to find the root cause and create change on that level, and support the body’s natural drive to survive?
Not usually.
I tell my clients, when they get a diagnosis, to remind themselves of the truth: that doctors have found a condition they label as X, but it is actually simply a description of what they think they know based on a lot of other people’s experience (which is what research essentially is).
I’m not knocking that. We need research. We need doctors and hospitals. Surgery, medication, or other treatments can be life-saving and the best options.
But if you want to get to the root cause, so that the condition actually heals and does not recur, remember that you are an individual, and the cause of your condition might be completely different from the root of someone else’s similar condition. Doesn’t it make sense to at least attempt to find the root cause, along with addressing the symptoms?
Which brings me to another way of “seeing” that’s all too common: black and white, either/or thinking.
What if vision problems are caused by stress, poor vision habits, and wearing glasses? What if you can improve, if not totally correct, the vision issues by addressing stress and poor vision habits, and at least stop the assumed “inevitable” eye deterioration by improving the functioning of the eye and the brain?
Wouldn’t that be worth considering?
My optometrist told me that one reason I was having trouble seeing well was “dry eye.” “Are you on the computer a lot?” she inquired.
Yes, I admitted.
She explained that normally we blink our eyes 15-20 times per minute, but when at the computer, or reading, we blink far less often. Blinking lubricates the eyeball. When you blink less often, you don’t lubricate the eyeball.
What was the remedy? Warm compresses (and she recommended a microwavable eye mask, which of course she sells), eye drops (I got a sample and coupons for buying more). Though “blinking less often” was the cause of the dry eye, she only mentioned “blinking more” in passing.
“Blink more often” is part of the Bates Method. Palming is also recommended, which my vision teacher tells me is better than eye masks because you have the energy of your own hands going into the eyes. Also, breathing to relax yourself while palming helps a lot.
Since I believe in energy as a healing force, I am trying the palming and breathing and blinking, along with other practices. Already my eyesight is improving somewhat, and I have not even been super diligent about the Bates Method suggestions. It will be interesting when I see the ophthalmologist in April, to find out if there are any objective changes. I’m open, but not convinced—as I was when I started doing The Healing Codes, by the way. What convinced me was seeing remarkable results.
I’m also exploring any “heart issues” that might be connected to vision. I believe that “heart issues” are often mirrored metaphorically in the body. For instance: was there something in my family growing up that I didn’t want to “see” clearly? Hmmm, we might be onto something. . . .
Could the “dry eye” be connected to the memory from fifth grade, when I witnessed two teachers bullying a boy for crying, and I vowed nobody would ever do that to me again? I didn’t cry much after that; I consciously suppressed my sensitivity. Is the “dry eye” about tears unshed, that need to be shed?
These are possibilities seem worth considering.
What do you ever lose by being open to possibilities? More importantly, what might you gain?
If you got a cancer diagnosis, wouldn’t it make sense to explore conventional treatments and also look for and heal any root emotional causes?
More and more experts, such as M.D. Gabor Maté and Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score, as well as the famous ACEs study, attest how often emotional issues lead to physical manifestations of disease. Many of my clients who have taken this approach of healing the heart issues have enjoyed good, and sometimes remarkable, outcomes.
Whenever I hear that “no one knows what causes X,” I immediately get curious and wonder if the root cause could be something no one is “seeing,” largely because no one is looking for it. (This “blindfolding” can happen for a number of reasons, but often personal gain is the motivator. Eyeglasses were enjoying a big boom when Dr. Bates was testing his theories, and optometrists today probably make most of their money on the glasses they sell. An anthropologist admitted this to my friend.)
These days, I like to make it almost a game to discern where someone is coming from when I read news stories, or opinions of “experts,” or media people, or social media, or medical people. There are so many different “ways of seeing,” and usually there’s a kernel of truth in almost everything. You often have to dig to get at the deepest truth.
More on that next time, in Part Three, where I’ll suggest a fun game to expand your (spiritual) vision, which will improve your relationships big time, and sharpen your discernment.
If you would like more, ongoing help in healing and transforming your perspective (a.k.a. your whole life), check out my Align with Your Divine DesignTM program.
Aligned Decision Making
Posted by: | CommentsI recently faced a big decision.
It was one that would affect me, my family, and many other people—for years to come. I felt I had to get it right.
Of course I prayed for wisdom and guidance.
I started working through a grid called the OOVL Decision-Making Guide, which guides you in thinking through options, desired outcomes, how much you value each outcome, and the likelihood that each option would achieve your desired outcome.

It was helpful.
But . . .
The problem was, I didn’t know how likely it was that the desired outcome would happen, in most of the cases.
Or, it came down to a trade-off: more likely in the short term, but not the long term. Or vice versa.
And then came this question to my spirit: Which option requires the most faith? Read More→
How I Got Through A Huge Healing/Trauma Response
Posted by: | CommentsLast week, I attended three days of an online business retreat that I thought, at the time, was fantastic.
I experienced transformation. I got ideas. I connected with people.
And it threw me into a massive 4-day healing response.
It was, apparently, too much, too fast.

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The next day after the retreat, I was the usual Sunday tired.
On Monday, however, I was in pain. More stress hit when I had to drive my husband to a dental appointment in the teeming rain, where I couldn’t see in front of me and I was flanked by trucks also navigating construction barrels on the two highways I traversed.
Tuesday the pain got worse. It seemed to move all around my body. (I learned from a trauma expert that this can be a sign of trauma—trapped energy stored in the body.) I slept poorly that night.
Wednesday I could barely move, I was so tired and in pain. I rescheduled a client appointment–something I think I’ve only done two or three times in the past 13 years of coaching. (I’m nothing if not dependable!)
Embracing Your Season
Posted by: | CommentsA client of mine, Carolyn Schmit, has found a new outlet for her creativity: writing haiku.
One poem in particular struck me. With great simplicity (which I crave these days), it speaks profoundly of what is needed for so many seasons of life.
Teacher
Bough weighed down with snow
Nodding with each passing breeze
Teaches resilience
–Carolyn Schmit

The context of the poem is a particular season: winter. Perhaps the poem came to me again now, though it is summer, as I was reminded in my prayer time that I am in a new season, one that requires great resilience.
Thinking of life as being lived in seasons can help us weather them better. Our “life seasons” may always not be as predictable as the earth’s seasons, but they are alike in that neither lasts forever. One season inevitably gives way to another season.
The key is to discern what kind of season you’re in now, understand what is required, and most of all–most difficult of all–to not resist the current season’s demands.
That is where I’m concentrating most of my healing/transformational work right now: transforming resistance to acceptance, in the face of uncertainty. Learning to let go of what I knew, to let in what is possible. Expecting good things, instead of fearing the worst.
What about you? What “season” are you in? What is required of you in this particular season? What familiar things might you need to let go of, to let in new possibilities? What fears do you have at that thought? Where do they come from? What else might be true now?
And if you are in a season in which you desire more clarity on your purpose in life, visit my Align with Your Divine Design page and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire. I can help you navigate your current season so it bears fruit of love, joy, peace, and purpose.
Are You Open to Healing Happening in an Unexpected Way?
Posted by: | CommentsWhenever I come across the same idea two or three times within a couple of days, I figure it’s something to pay attention to.
Especially if it’s from Scripture.
This week, the idea that healing can come through unexpected means came up twice on the same day. So I thought I’d pay close attention, and share it with you.
The first time was through a devotional app I really enjoy. It’s called Lectio 365, and each day there is a morning and evening audio (and printed words), using the simple outline of P-R-A-Y: Pause, Rejoice & Reflect, Ask, and Yield.

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The Scripture selection for reflection on July 26 was from John 5:5-9a, about the man who spent years by the pool of Bethesda, waiting for a miracle. Jesus sees him, knows that he has been sick for a long time, and asks him a pointed question: “Do you want to be healed?”
The man explains why he can’t be healed: “I have no one to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up, and while I am going, another steps down before me.” His chance at being healed was slim to none—or so he thought.
The devotional points out that at this point, the sick man knew only one way to be healed: to get into the pool first when the water is stirred up. “But Jesus expands his limited imagination with an invitation to action; ‘Get up, pick up your bed, and start walking.’”
And the man did!
That very same day, I was reading through my two-year Bible reading plan, and came to the story of Naaman in 2 Kings 5, who had some kind of serious skin disease. He was general of the army under the king of Aram, and very valuable to the king. A girl from Israel who had been captured and ended up being the servant of Naaman’s wife told her that there was a prophet in Israel who could tell Naaman how to be healed.
Naaman first went to the king of Israel for help, but that king recognized his grave limitations in being able to heal, and referred Naaman to Elisha the prophet.
Naaman came to Elisha, all decked out with gifts. Elisha didn’t even bother to meet him in person; he sent his servant with a message to Naaman: “Go to the River Jordan and immerse yourself seven times. Your skin will be healed and you’ll be as good as new.”
This totally offended Naaman. He lost his temper, and fumed, “I thought he’d personally come out and meet me, call on the name of the LORD, wave his hand over the diseased spot, and get rid of the disease. Aren’t the Damascus rivers cleaner by far than the rivers in Israel? Why not bathe there; at least I’ll get clean.” He stomped off in a rage.
[Here’s another example of someone believing he could only be healed in a certain way. In this case, he vociferously resisted the new (and simpler) approach given by Elisha.]
Naaman’s servants tried to change his mind. “If the prophet had asked you to do something hard and heroic, wouldn’t you have done it? So why not this simple ‘wash and be clean’?”
Naaman gave in, followed Elisha’s orders—and was completely healed. AND he was convinced that the only true God was Elisha’s God, the LORD.

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These stories remind me of the people I’ve tried to share The Healing Codes with. They are resistant to such a strange way of healing. If you don’t understand that everything is energy, and that if you shift the energy from negative to positive, things can change, things can be healed—you won’t be open to The Healing Codes.
Or a number of other healing modalities, for that matter. I don’t believe The Healing Codes are God’s only tool in his toolbox. He can use any tool he wants.
The question, for all of us, is: Are we open to God using a tool that we’ve never heard of, or don’t understand?
Can we, like the man at the pool of Bethesda, or like Naaman, take the step of faith and follow what God may be showing us to do—even if we don’t understand it or if it seems too “simple”?
What “miracle” might be possible if we did step out in faith?
[Note: you might want to share this link with someone who is skeptical about The Healing Codes or whatever else you know will help them, that he or she has resisted.)
I believe God has given me some new tools, besides The Healing Codes, that have worked to not only heal, but transform my own life and that of others. If you are interested in exploring what more God might have for you, please visit my web page and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire for the Align with Your Divine Design program. No obligation.
Two ways to speed your healing
Posted by: | CommentsHave you been trying to heal some issue, emotional or physical, and feel like you’re stuck, not getting anywhere?
I want to suggest two ways you can get unstuck and speed your healing.
First, though, let’s explore why you might feel stuck.
1. There may be some sort of hidden memory that is blocking you, often a generational memory. I remember when I healed a particular generational memory from my mother (which she also was working on healing for herself), suddenly a success block was removed and things I’d been working on for years came to fruition in one week!
I can find those hidden memories if you sign up for my Healing Hearts Circle; every call I test the members for hidden memories.
2. Your body may be prioritizing healing something else that you’re not even aware of. You may be intent on healing your skin or digestive issues, for instance, but your body knows you have cancer forming. It is allocating the healing energy toward the more serious issue that you don’t even know about.
3. You have trauma. If you have trauma, defined as your nervous system’s reaction to an event that was, at the time, overwhelming to your nervous system, it can be stored in your body and causing symptoms.
While I have found that The Healing Codes do a lot to pave the way to trauma healing, I’m beginning to think that you also need some kind of somatic (body-based) intervention. It’s not either-or; energy healing makes trauma healing approaches work better and faster, and trauma healing approaches make The Healing Codes work better. I’ve found in myself and many of my clients, that The Healing Code paves the way for your body, soul and mind to even begin to deal with the trauma of which you might not have been aware.
4. You’re focusing too much on the physical and not seeing the subtle shifts that are taking place. We can be so fixated on our particular goal, that we don’t see the ways we’re improving.
My mother comes to mind. I was giving her custom Healing Codes every week, and she didn’t see any changes. But I sure did. I’ll never forget the day when she started talking about all the fun she and her siblings had as a child, when they went to her uncle’s farm. I said, “Mom! Do you realize this is the first time you’re ever shared any happy memory from your childhood?”
“Oh really?” she said, then blithely went on to talk more about the happy memories.
We coaches call it “Healing Code amnesia.” We forget how far we’ve come when we’re so fixated on the final goal.
(As a side note, my mom had always said she didn’t have any childhood memories. As she healed with The Healing Codes, more and more memories came up. We healed the sad ones, and then the happy ones emerged. But she didn’t even notice! The happy memories came up so naturally after a while.)
The keys to getting unstuck arise out of the above sources of our stuckness.
First, trust that your body wants to heal. And that it knows how to heal. Built into the fabric of creation is this innate ability to heal, to rejuvenate. We see it in the seasons. We see it in our bodies: when you get a cut, you don’t have to do anything except clean it and give it a little more protection. Your body already knows how to heal it.
Not everyone believes in the body’s ability to heal. I wrote about the two views of the body: the mechanical view that body is a machine that falls apart after a while, versus the organic view, that the body is a living organism with intelligence, that always seeks life and health.
It matters which view you take. Believing the latter in my opinion sets you up to work with your body’s intention to heal. Believing you’re just a machine that is now falling apart may lead you away from what you really need, and even cause you to engage in practices that will actually harm you.
In my view, our human spirit is meant to be aligned with God’s holy Spirit, so that God’s life flows through our spirit (heart/central intelligence/connection to our unique Divine Design), to our body and soul. God’s flow of energy is always about life and healing.
The second thing you can do to speed your healing is to notice every small “win,” every slight improvement.
Sometimes other people will notice and comment before we see it in ourselves, as was the case with my mother. I have many clients who will tell me that their spouse remarks on the changes in them, changes they haven’t noticed themselves. So you might want to ask the people close to you what changes they have notices.
Then, celebrate the changes!
This taps into the principle of gratitude. Give thanks for even the smallest improvement. That will keep you focused in the direction of improvement, which will speed that improvement. Even if you want your skin issue to heal but what’s happening is you’re feeling less anxious most of the time—that could well be what was needed to actually heal the skin issue.
Focusing on the positives will also lessen the perception of the negative. They are opposite poles. If you’re stuck, you may be trying to go two feet in one direction (feeling the frustration of “no change,”), then two feet in the opposite direction (noticing some positive changes but then discounting it—two steps back in the other direction).
Isn’t that the very picture of “stuck”?
So to summarize: Trust your body, and look for and celebrate the wins, however small they may seem.
And be patient. Yes, we want to speed our healing, but ironically, the slow, patient, steady path is the fastest track. Another thing your wise body and spirit knows is the perfect pace for your healing. That’s why I say in my Healing Code prayer of intention, “Please magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optimal pace.” We want all these things: magnified effectiveness, our highest good, and an optimal pace—not too fast, not too slow.
The spirit guiding the body knows how to optimize. Let’s work with it!
Hidden Stressors-Part Four-toxins
Posted by: | CommentsIn this series on hidden stressors, I’ve mostly focused on the emotional aspects.
For many of us, this is the kind of stress that’s easiest to hide, especially if we’ve grown up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), or are high on the sensitivity spectrum.
Another reason I’ve focused on the emotional, is emotional issues can predispose us to being more vulnerable to yet another hidden source of stress: toxins.
All of us are subject to this hidden physical stress.
Toxins lurk in our food, water, air, cosmetics, household cleaners, even fabrics.
They also lurk in the energy around us, in the form of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF) and dirty electricity.
I don’t think I have to go into detail about all this. No doubt you’re aware of it, and may feel a little helpless about what to do about it all.
However, we are not helpless at all. There is one main thing we can do to keep healthy, and that is to focus on the immune and nervous systems. Read More→





