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Two ways to speed your healing
Posted by: | CommentsHave you been trying to heal some issue, emotional or physical, and feel like you’re stuck, not getting anywhere?
I want to suggest two ways you can get unstuck and speed your healing.
First, though, let’s explore why you might feel stuck.
1. There may be some sort of hidden memory that is blocking you, often a generational memory. I remember when I healed a particular generational memory from my mother (which she also was working on healing for herself), suddenly a success block was removed and things I’d been working on for years came to fruition in one week!
I can find those hidden memories if you sign up for my Healing Hearts Circle; every call I test the members for hidden memories.
2. Your body may be prioritizing healing something else that you’re not even aware of. You may be intent on healing your skin or digestive issues, for instance, but your body knows you have cancer forming. It is allocating the healing energy toward the more serious issue that you don’t even know about.
3. You have trauma. If you have trauma, defined as your nervous system’s reaction to an event that was, at the time, overwhelming to your nervous system, it can be stored in your body and causing symptoms.
While I have found that The Healing Codes do a lot to pave the way to trauma healing, I’m beginning to think that you also need some kind of somatic (body-based) intervention. It’s not either-or; energy healing makes trauma healing approaches work better and faster, and trauma healing approaches make The Healing Codes work better. I’ve found in myself and many of my clients, that The Healing Code paves the way for your body, soul and mind to even begin to deal with the trauma of which you might not have been aware.
4. You’re focusing too much on the physical and not seeing the subtle shifts that are taking place. We can be so fixated on our particular goal, that we don’t see the ways we’re improving.
My mother comes to mind. I was giving her custom Healing Codes every week, and she didn’t see any changes. But I sure did. I’ll never forget the day when she started talking about all the fun she and her siblings had as a child, when they went to her uncle’s farm. I said, “Mom! Do you realize this is the first time you’re ever shared any happy memory from your childhood?”
“Oh really?” she said, then blithely went on to talk more about the happy memories.
We coaches call it “Healing Code amnesia.” We forget how far we’ve come when we’re so fixated on the final goal.
(As a side note, my mom had always said she didn’t have any childhood memories. As she healed with The Healing Codes, more and more memories came up. We healed the sad ones, and then the happy ones emerged. But she didn’t even notice! The happy memories came up so naturally after a while.)
The keys to getting unstuck arise out of the above sources of our stuckness.
First, trust that your body wants to heal. And that it knows how to heal. Built into the fabric of creation is this innate ability to heal, to rejuvenate. We see it in the seasons. We see it in our bodies: when you get a cut, you don’t have to do anything except clean it and give it a little more protection. Your body already knows how to heal it.
Not everyone believes in the body’s ability to heal. I wrote about the two views of the body: the mechanical view that body is a machine that falls apart after a while, versus the organic view, that the body is a living organism with intelligence, that always seeks life and health.
It matters which view you take. Believing the latter in my opinion sets you up to work with your body’s intention to heal. Believing you’re just a machine that is now falling apart may lead you away from what you really need, and even cause you to engage in practices that will actually harm you.
In my view, our human spirit is meant to be aligned with God’s holy Spirit, so that God’s life flows through our spirit (heart/central intelligence/connection to our unique Divine Design), to our body and soul. God’s flow of energy is always about life and healing.
The second thing you can do to speed your healing is to notice every small “win,” every slight improvement.
Sometimes other people will notice and comment before we see it in ourselves, as was the case with my mother. I have many clients who will tell me that their spouse remarks on the changes in them, changes they haven’t noticed themselves. So you might want to ask the people close to you what changes they have notices.
Then, celebrate the changes!
This taps into the principle of gratitude. Give thanks for even the smallest improvement. That will keep you focused in the direction of improvement, which will speed that improvement. Even if you want your skin issue to heal but what’s happening is you’re feeling less anxious most of the time—that could well be what was needed to actually heal the skin issue.
Focusing on the positives will also lessen the perception of the negative. They are opposite poles. If you’re stuck, you may be trying to go two feet in one direction (feeling the frustration of “no change,”), then two feet in the opposite direction (noticing some positive changes but then discounting it—two steps back in the other direction).
Isn’t that the very picture of “stuck”?
So to summarize: Trust your body, and look for and celebrate the wins, however small they may seem.
And be patient. Yes, we want to speed our healing, but ironically, the slow, patient, steady path is the fastest track. Another thing your wise body and spirit knows is the perfect pace for your healing. That’s why I say in my Healing Code prayer of intention, “Please magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optimal pace.” We want all these things: magnified effectiveness, our highest good, and an optimal pace—not too fast, not too slow.
The spirit guiding the body knows how to optimize. Let’s work with it!
Hidden Stressors-Part Four
Posted by: | CommentsIn this series on hidden stressors, I’ve mostly focused on the emotional aspects.
For many of us, this is the kind of stress that’s easiest to hide, especially if we’ve grown up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), or are high on the sensitivity spectrum.
Another reason I’ve focused on the emotional, is emotional issues can predispose us to being more vulnerable to yet another hidden source of stress: toxins.
All of us are subject to this hidden physical stress.
Toxins lurk in our food, water, air, cosmetics, household cleaners, even fabrics.
They also lurk in the energy around us, in the form of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF) and dirty electricity.
I don’t think I have to go into detail about all this. No doubt you’re aware of it, and may feel a little helpless about what to do about it all.
However, we are not helpless at all. There is one main thing we can do to keep healthy, and that is to focus on the immune and nervous systems.
We can do our best to eliminate the things that tax our immune and nervous systems, and add the things that support it.
We can eat organic, filter our water and air as best we can.
We can work on the emotional stressors that tax our nervous system, which in turn governs the immune system.
We can also use energy to our advantage.
I was listening to an interview with Dr. Gerald Smith on Energy Medicine, as part of the Immune Defense Summit from Health Means that I bought awhile ago.
What struck me is the essential truth that health is all about frequency.
Toxins emit low vibrations, and low vibrations lead to disease and dysfunction. High vibrations (found in real, healthful food, clean air and water, loving relationships, plants without pesticides, etc.) bring health and healing.
I was also fascinated by Mike Adams’s presentation where he captured the sounds of various substances–actually translated the frequencies of the elements of the Periodic Table into audible range. Check out the audio here. (4 minutes long)
This is key: When you replace low vibrations with high vibrations, the high vibrations cancel out the low vibrations.
It is a spiritual principle. “The light [high vibration] shines in the darkness [low vibration], and the darkness has not overcome it.” (John 1:5)
High vibration–love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, humility, self-control (nine of the categories of The Healing Codes, based on the biblical fruit of the Spirit), always conquer and cancel out the lower vibrations of hatred, depression, fear, impatience, unkindness etc.
And that is, I believe, why The Healing Codes work so well: you are deliberately replacing fear (low vibration) with love (high vibration), lies with truth.
By doing that, you are raising the overall vibration of your body, as well as changing the frequency of the information energy pattern (i.e. image, belief, or memory) in each cell, from low vibration to higher vibration.
That creates an overall positive effect wherein the body can heal itself.
I thought it was also interesting that Dr. Smith mentioned that praying over your food can actually change it. I wrote about that in my blog post, “Can Intention Change Matter?”
It also made me think about the HALO Light System–how the special frequency of the light, shining through the selected botanicals, picks up the energy and transmits it to the body. These high-vibration, healing botanicals have the ability to “overcome” the lower-vibration toxins (viruses, molds, bad bacteria, pesticides, etc.) on the cellular level, so that the cells can repair themselves.
There is much we can do to stay in a high vibration, which overcomes the lower vibration of hidden stressors like toxins, emotional inflammation, and trauma. (Go here to see my recommended list of products that either help mitigate the effects of toxins, or support the body’s natural healing mechanisms.) Prayer, Healing Codes, Halo, Holos (which scans your body and sends frequencies to balance it with healthy frequencies), and a new device I’ll be telling you about (contact me if you’re curious)–all these and more will support you in staying in higher vibrational frequencies.
And that, according to Einstein, is the key to true healing, true medicine. Einstein said, more than 100 years ago, that “Future medicine will be the medicine of frequencies.”
May it be so!
More on the Medicine of Frequencies
If you want to delve more into the “medicine of frequencies.” Children’s Health Defense published a couple of fascinating articles by Rob Verkerk Ph.D.
In Part One, he examines the intimate relationship between electromagnetism and life, who the pioneers of energy medicine are, why energy medicine did not take off as Einstein predicted, and much more.
In Part Two, Verkerk sifts through the rapidly emerging field of frequency-based medical devices. This gets pretty technical, but if this topic interests you, make time for a little education. I think you’ll be inspired and enriched by it, and also—you’ll feel much more confident that The Healing Codes and the other tools I mention here actually have a valid basis in an emerging area of science.
For a review of recommended products to mitigate the negative effects of toxins or support your body’s ability to handle them, click here.
Hidden Stressors-Part Three
Posted by: | CommentsIn Part Two in this series on Hidden Stressors, I talked about trauma.
How there are no “little t” traumas. Traumas have to do with how the nervous system responded to an event that was overwhelming at the time. Some people, especially highly sensitive people, may have more finely-tuned nervous systems that take in more information—hence, may be more susceptible to trauma.
I just finished watching hours of the Trauma Superconference 3 that aired the replays recently. It made me realize that a lot of us are carrying around unhealed, even unknown trauma in our nervous systems.
These traumas may be triggered by the recent (and current) collective trauma of the COVID-19 pandemic.
Especially the trauma of unmet needs. Read More→
Hidden Stressors-Part One
Posted by: | Comments“All your physical issues are from stress,” my doctor told me. They were the last words I would ever hear from her; she passed away shortly after.
But haven’t I been working on reducing stress for all these years with The Healing Codes?
The answer is yes. And they have helped tremendously. I honestly don’t think I’d even be alive now if I hadn’t been doing all I’ve done since I got my various diagnoses before The Healing Codes (osteoporosis, IBS, GERD, Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, PTSD).
The Healing Codes, Halo, the c.Balance (now upgraded to the HOLOS) have all helped me not be hampered much in my daily life by these diagnosed conditions.
Now, however, the symptoms started popping up again, worsening. Why?
As always, I prayed for insight into this. Were there hidden stressors of which I wasn’t aware?
What came up surprised me.
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You haven’t been honoring your Highly Sensitive nature enough.
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Your nervous system needs to recover from the traumas you’ve been through.
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You are finally ready.
Part One: The High Sensitivity Piece
I’ve known for a while that I have this trait around 20% of all species share, in which the nervous system is wired differently. Dr. Elaine Aron explains in her ground-breaking book, The Highly Sensitive Person, which put this trait on the psychological map, that HSPs are like a different breed. Great Danes and border collies are both clearly dogs, but they are quite different. So, too, HSPs and non-HSPs are human, but they are actually quite different in many ways.
(Find out more about whether you’re a Highly Sensitive Person here.)
Maybe for you, sensitivity isn’t the issue. Maybe it’s some other kind of “diversity” that is part of your nature that you’ve not been honoring.
Maybe it’s that you’re an introvert who gets energy from reflection and alone time, and you’ve always been pushed to be more outgoing. Or vice versa. Maybe it’s that you have ADD/ADHD and your brain works differently than others.
Whatever it is that may set you apart a little, so that you tend to push it away rather than honor it, could be a hidden stressor for you.
I’ve known about being Highly Sensitive, but I haven’t been living it.
I hadn’t been honoring my need to process things deeply and thoroughly, for one. The last few years have been particularly stressful for me. On top of all the stress of the pandemic (and HSPs, by the way, are more susceptible to Emotional Inflammation), there were several personal traumas: dealing with a mold issue in the home; settling my sister-in-law’s estate out of state and fending off a crook; breaking my foot; 16 months of hell settling my mother’s estate (with all the family of origin issues that brought up); and a devastating diagnosis of a close family member.
If you’re Highly Sensitive, you need to realize that such stresses affect you more deeply than other people. You take in more information than most people. You are more sensitive to subtle stimuli than most people. And then you absolutely need to process all that you are taking in!
I’ve written about my current focus on subtraction. As a HSP, I need to be aware of (and limit as much as possible) the amount of information that’s coming to me. More information = more needed processing time. When life piles up, and I don’t get that processing time, my symptoms seem to flare.
So ways I’m trying to honor my HS nature more is to limit the amount of information I take in, and then making time to process it completely.
This often means saying no to social engagements, no matter how enticing they seem. I have to stand strong when someone tells me why it would be so good to attend X. (Ever notice how many people think they know what’s right for you? Often, what’s right for “most people” isn’t right for an HSP.)
I’m also the kind of HSP who seeks a lot of mental stimulation and loves to learn. I need to resist the temptation to sign up for yet one more masterclass or telesummit. I have to revisit my own goals often and tell myself, “My commitment to (my goal) is more important than this (distraction) right now.”
Honoring my HS nervous system also means changing my environment. I’m finding that clutter really gets to me these days. I subtract as much from my environment as I can. Someone said every object in your home has a “to-do list” or a message attached to it. So true!
- The pile of papers cries out, “Pay me, file me, check me for sales!”
- The unused clothes in your closet castigate you: “When will you lose weight so that beautiful outfit will fit you again?”
- The old computer monitor in the spare room? You might need it someday, if you current monitor goes out.
- And what about the files and photos on your phone or computer? Shouldn’t those be organized so you can find them more easily?
Guilt, anxiety, feeling like you’re “not enough” or not doing enough creep in with these messages. If you’re HS, not only do you feel those things—you also feel them more intensely!
Perhaps these things don’t overwhelm you like they do me. But if they do, know that doing even a little clutter control every day will help you feel calmer and more organized.
I need the downtime to process. I need more sleep than I’m getting. I need to allow myself to feel. I need to be aware that I take in a lot of information and to do what I can to both limit it and manage it.
I need to honor my sensitive nature. Without, I might add, feeling guilty or “less than” because of these needs.
If you have seen a flare up of symptoms you thought you had healed, know you’re not alone. Many of my clients and friends are also experiencing this. Whether you’re Highly Sensitive or not, there are likely hidden stressors that are chipping away at your resilience.
Do what you can to identify those stressors, and heal what you can.
In future posts I will explore more about hidden stressors: how to identify them, what to do about them. Including hidden traumas—the second piece of the insight that was given me.
Stay tuned!
Try This (Different) Kind of “Diet”
Posted by: | CommentsI have set this, my sixty-sixth year, as “the year to fix and nix” and 2023 as “the year to be free of all that’s not me.
One of the things I’m “fixing and nixing” is my thought life.
Many people at this time of year go on a diet. Or they resolve to work out, “get in shape.”
I propose a different kind of “diet,” a different way to “get in shape.”
It’s a “thought diet,” an idea inspired by Dr. Natali, Edmonds, who coaches what she calls Careblazers—people who are taking care of a loved one with dementia. (If you’re in this situation, check out her Youtube videos.)
Imagine your thoughts are like items on a giant buffet. Everything you believe, the habitual thought patterns, are spread out before you.
As you go through the buffet line, you get to choose what thoughts you want to “put on your plate” to “take in.”
I think a lot of us don’t realize that we get to choose how we feel, by choosing our thoughts.
The formula, which every child should be taught but few have parents who know this themselves, is that our thoughts determine our feelings, and our feelings determine our behaviors. Behaviors then tend to reinforce the thoughts, which get cemented into beliefs, and then the feelings are hard-wired into our bodies, until we find ourselves caught up in patterns we don’t feel we can control.
But we can. We do it by becoming aware of our thoughts, and, like going through the buffet line, we choose which thoughts we desire to think that will lead to the feelings we want to feel.
Here’s the kicker, for me at least: Just because a thought is true, doesn’t mean you have to hang onto it.
You can still look for a different thought, which can be just as true, but will lead to feeling better.
Here’s an example.
Let’s say you asked your spouse to take out the trash. It’s now 10pm the night before trash pickup day. He still hasn’t taken out the trash. In fact, he’s gone to bed already!
Thoughts: He never does what I ask him to. He just ignores me. Now I have to do it, on top of everything else I’ve done today. I’m just as tired as he is. But I always end up picking up his slack. I’ve had it.
What do these thoughts make you feel? Irritated, resentful, perhaps even unloved. Unheard, uncared for. Angry!
The incident may have triggered earlier feelings from unhealed memories of being ignored, unappreciated, not heard. (Those are the memories you would want to address with a Healing Code, so that you can more easily do the next step.)
Can you stop in that moment of fatigue and irritation, and notice your thoughts and feelings? And then ask yourself, “What would I like to feel now instead?”
Perhaps you want to feel compassion—for yourself and your spouse. Compassion is so healing, and is one of my go-to feelings. You might choose thoughts like, “I’ve had a hard day, and he has too. We’re both exhausted. When I’m tired, I forget things, too. I’ll just take out the trash and be done with it, and tell him tomorrow that I would really appreciate it if he would take out the trash earlier in the evening next week.”
Do you see how much energy you can save by choosing different thoughts and therefore creating different feelings for yourself?
The first step is to tune in and notice. Notice how you’re feeling, and what thoughts are fueling those feelings.
Then, picture yourself at that thought buffet. The current thoughts are spread out. You don’t have to put them on your plate! Think about how you want to feel, and look for the thoughts that would lead to those feelings.
Don’t beat yourself up for the negative thoughts and feelings. You are human. Those thoughts and feelings are real. But again, just because they’re real, and perhaps even true, doesn’t mean you have to keep them. You don’t have to put everything on that buffet table onto your plate. (Imagine if you tried!)
Remember always: You get to choose.
If you haven’t yet chosen your “new energy intention” yet, perhaps it can be “I get to choose.” Or simply, “Notice!” Like my “calm focus” reminder, it could help you make the changes you desire, with less friction and effort.
And if you want to learn techniques for healing and transformation that make this kind of suggestion easier to do, send me email (diane at healingcodescoaching.com). I’ll send you information on my new Align with Your Divine Design(TM) program to guide your discovery of your unique purpose, with brand-new, science-backed tools to rewire your nervous system and heal the blocks that keep you from expressing that purpose.
How to Stay in Your “New You” Energy
Posted by: | CommentsI wrote recently about “new year, new energy, new you.”
I suggested you pick a word or phrase for this year, and/or your birth year. Making it rhyme is fun but not necessary.
Do you still remember your words of intention? Do they still hold the same energy for you?
If not, I’ll tell you the secret of staying in that energy.
First, realize that you don’t need the calendar to tell you when you can make a fresh start.
At any time, you can re-return to your intention.
Then, staying in that energy is actually simple.
You recommit to it every day. You remind yourself of it every day.
And—here’s the big key–you take some action, however small, in alignment with that energy.
Ideally, you do it daily.
Every action you take is like another ray of energy coming from your intention, connecting your intention with the physical world.
For example, my words for this my 66th year are “66: the year to fix (or nix).” I have gotten things fixed around the house that were on the back burner before. I have seen some health care providers to improve some health issues that I’ve been neglecting. And I “nix” by every day getting rid of something I no longer want or need—even if it’s only an old tube of toothpaste!
(My husband is rather a pack rat, and will even take something out of the trash and say, “Did you really mean to throw this away?” At first it was kind of annoying. Then I realized that saying, “Yes, if I throw it away, I mean not to keep it” actually drew me deeper into my intention to “nix.” So I cheerfully reaffirm that commitment when he asks. I also bought some black trash bags so he can’t see what’s in them! Small, daily actions!)
My intention includes letting go or changing thoughts and beliefs too, by the way. For instance, when a doctor gave me a dire warning, I “nixed” that thought. I changed it to, “She is coming from the typical ‘western medicine approach,’ which totally disregards energy or less invasive approaches to a problem.” I prayed, followed my “next clear step,” and have some very viable alternatives to try before the radical option she suggested. I refuse to entertain any thoughts that are not in line with faith and my deepest knowing.
This calendar year, 2023, is my “year to be free.” That ties in very nicely with the other intention. I am working to be free of the stuff, thoughts, commitments that no longer serve me.
So today, I encourage you to start doing some action, however small, to keep you in your intended energy. Do something daily.
It also helps a whole lot to be accountable, or at least to be witnessed. That’s why I encouraged you to share your words of intention with me or someone else. (Leave a comment to be witnessed.) You might even share some of your intended actions, and ask the person to check in with you on those.
Or, you could simply be accountable to yourself, by setting a reminder in your phone to pop up when you still have time to take action. For instance, I could set a reminder for 8 p.m.: “What have you fixed or nixed today?”
Or you could do both! Be accountable to yourself and to someone else.
Make it fun. Make it daily. Make it stick.
And if you need help, contact Diane to see if one of her programs will be a good fit.
Subtraction—The Best Way to Change?
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In a recent post I wrote about how I’ve dubbed this year, when I’m 66, “the year to fix—or nix.”
By “nix” I mean: subtract.
Most of us, when we think of changes we want to make in our lives, go directly to addition. We buy a new course that promises the result we desire. We add new routines, new rules.
How often do we even think of subtracting?
A fascinating article by Leidy Klotz, author of Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, explores how we naturally tend to add when we’re trying to solve a problem. He even conducted experiments to prove this.
Taking things away, Klotz’s experiments show, just doesn’t occur to people naturally.
Photo by Luis Villasmil on Unsplash
Why is this? One of his experiments points to a possible answer: cognitive overload. We have too many things to deal with at once, and this cuts into our ability to think of a wide range of solutions—including subtraction.
(Sound familiar, fellow Highly Sensitive Person?)
Our minds tend to add before taking away, and this is holding us back.
We pile on “to-dos” but don’t consider “stop-doings.” We create incentives for good behavior, but don’t get rid of obstacles to it. We collect new-and-improved ideas, but don’t prune the outdated ones. Every day, across challenges big and small, we neglect a basic way to make things better: we don’t subtract.
Thus we get houses with more stuff than we can manage (and studies have shown that clutter increases cortisol levels—bad for our health). We get institutions bogged down by more and more rules and regulations. Children get more rules, grown-ups deal with federal regulations that are 20 times as long as they were in 1950. (And what about all the rules added since the pandemic? Time to subtract—yes, yes and YES!)
Whatever you’re hoping to change in 2023, consider how subtraction plays in. Apparently it’s not as natural to think of (or implement) than adding, but could that be due more to culture than nature? Leidy Klotz’s two-year-old son solved a Lego problem by taking something away; Leidy only thought of adding.
Could it be our culture of “fast, more, be productive” is what keeps our brains from considering subtraction?
(I see the inclination to add in myself a lot. For instance, in thinking about this topic, I’m tempted to get minimalist expert Joshua Becker’s Uncluttered course. But—would that be adding something that would take more time, when I could be using that time to do the actual decluttering—the subtracting? There’s proof right there that my natural tendency is to add….)
At least now I’m aware that I automatically think of adding, and it often doesn’t occur to me to subtract. Awareness leads to new options, to choice.
Perhaps we shut off the idea of subtraction because we unconsciously equate it with loss. But is it loss if we consciously choose it? It doesn’t feel like loss to me when I choose to let something go. At least, there’s a counter-balancing reason to let it go that’s greater than the urge to keep it.
Photo by Nguyen Thu Hoai on Unsplash
As I’ve pondered this in the dead of winter, I realize: subtracting should not be any big insight, nor does it have to be seen as loss. Every fall, much in nature is subtracted: the leaves on the trees, green grass, flowers. Every year, at least those of us with four seasons get a reminder that in order to replenish, we must subtract and allow things to lie fallow for a while.
If you’re a gardener, you know it’s important to prune, to deadhead, if you want fruit and blooms.
Nature renews itself through subtraction.
And so can we. We can choose nature over culture. We can prune to promote growth and renewal.
If you are longing for renewal, for a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment in 2023, contact me (diane at healingcodescoaching.com) and we’ll set up an appointment to explore how you can heal your heart issues and Align with Your Divine DesignTM for a sense of purpose, connection, and better overall health.
New Year, New Energy, New You
Posted by: | CommentsI don’t know about you, but I’m not big on making “New Year’s resolutions.” Or even setting goals in the typical way, especially with a deadline. I like what Alex Loyd says: the only good goal is something that’s 100% under your control. How often can we control something 100%? Life always seems to get in the way. Then, too, it’s discouraging if I don’t meet the goal.
Instead I like to set intentions. Typical goals are so structured, they don’t allow enough for flow. Setting an intention creates a flexible structure that allows for flow as well as direction. Usually my intention is just a word or phrase to sort of anchor the energy, and then I try to stay Aligned and tuned in to God’s direction day by day as I go.
I especially like to set deliberate intentions either at the start of my own birth year, or the start of a new year—or both!
Being a word person, I find it fun to make up a little rhyme. Since I just turned sixty-six, my rhyme for this birth year is “sixty-six, the year to fix (and nix).” I want to fix or nix whatever isn’t serving me now. (This includes physical things in my home.)
You can use this approach to look back, or look ahead. This past year my intention for my “sixty-five” year was to thrive–no matter what life throws at me. And you know what? I did, for the most part. Life threw a lot at me, but I did find ways to thrive despite it.s it more power, studies show. So state them to me, to the world, to some loved one who “gets” you, or even just to yourself in a journal.
It is good to look back on how your intentions played out over the last year. It can make you feel abundant. It can anchor into your body and soul that you are, in fact, being guided and loved.
The year before, sixty-four, was “the year for more,” and boy was it ever—mostly more stress. But also more insights, deeper ministry and growth; more ideas and plans. Just—more of everything. A full year of both challenges and blessings.
Since we’re heading into a new year, it’s a good time to both look backward and forward. What was 2022 for you? What were the gifts that made your soul sing? (If you haven’t been keeping track, now would be a good time to start keeping a Gifts Journal. Directions here.)
What challenges did you face? What lessons did you learn?
I had dubbed 2022 as “the year to be true.” True to my deepest values, true to my “Touchstone to Alignment,” and dedicated to deciphering what is true about these unprecedented times. That was my focus, that’s where the energy went, and that’s what I hung onto. It got me through some tough times.
What intention will you set for 2023? You don’t have to make it rhyme, of course. But since I like to, I think I’ll dub 2023 “the year to be free.” Free of more heart issues, free to be me, free to live the life I want to live rather than the life others want me to live, and even seek to impose on me.
What energy do you want to characterize 2023? The year to be free, like me . . . or the year to be happy, or the year to see (as in, see things as they really are), or the year to simply be (hmm, I like that one too), or . . .?
The energy of the intention and the words will move you forward with less effort than you dreamed possible.
And if you want more help with setting intentions and living more Aligned with Your Divine Design(TM), shoot me an email (diane at healingcodescoaching.com) and we can set up a call to explore how that can happen for you.
Why Your Issues Might Not Even Really Be Yours
Posted by: | CommentsI was speaking to a client the other day, and she brought up the question of past lives.
I wrote about that, here. I do not believe in past lives, but I do think that it’s possible that people can access generational memories, which I believe are stored in the information energy pattern in the DNA that gets passed down.
There is more and more scientific knowledge to back this up. My favorite experiment is about how mice exposed to cherry blossom scent while being shocked passed down the fear to subsequent generations. You can read about that from any of the articles here.
So some of our stuff may not even be ours, or it wasn’t ours originally, but because we were born with the “filter” of that passed-down trauma, we might start to interpret our own experiences through that lens. Thus the issue then becomes our own. And that may be why the generations rarely evolve and get better; they more usually devolve from the accumulation of sins and these negative patterns and “programming.”
Unless someone breaks the pattern.
That someone can be you.
If you have a background that is less than ideal in any way (who doesn’t?), remember you can break the cycle. You always have the ability to choose. You can break free from any negative family pattern and create a whole new pattern.
You do that by healing yourself.
How do I know this to be true? Because my life proves it.
I didn’t know, until I went through the 17-month ordeal of attempting to settle my mother’s estate as co-executor, just how negative and damaging the family patterns were. Oh, I could see how the patterns have shown up in my siblings’ families, but I escaped it, right? I employed what one of my counselors called “the geographic solution”–I moved away 1000 miles right after college, and rarely looked back.
I made different choices in life than my siblings and my parents. And I have managed, by God’s grace (I do not say that lightly at all), to have stayed married to a wonderful man for 42 years; reared two children who are leading productive lives (despite what they inherited from their parents—more on that later); and enjoyed a wonderful, interesting and productive career.
Settling the estate, however, brought me face to face with what has not yet healed.
I am so very thankful that, before my mother died in November 2020, I had already developed additional tools, beyond The Healing Codes, that helped me not only stay relatively healthy despite the stress, but to also recognize and heal the hidden wounds that were uncovered.
And, beyond healing, to transform and become aligned with my divine design. To have an inner knowing that I am on the right path for me, and a peace that as I walk Next Clear Step by Next Clear Step, exactly the right things will unfold for me to live out my unique purpose in life.
If this stirs something in your soul . . . if you long to heal from past patterns and align with your divine design so that you can also experience that sense of peace, purpose, and fulfillment, I invite you to check out my new Align with Your Divine Design program and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire. Then we’ll hop on a call to see if either of these programs is a fit.
Next time, I’ll show you how to pass on your healing to others. It starts with you committing to your own healing and transformation.
Turkey or Brisket? (Why It Matters)
Posted by: | CommentsMy client, M.H., told me a rather funny story about her family’s Thanksgiving (and gave me permission to share it). Yet it had a point that can apply to many of us, in one way or another.
All her life, M.’s mother made a turkey for Thanksgiving. Her mom loved turkey, and it’s the thing to do on Thanksgiving, right?
When mom entered assisted living and could no longer cook and host, M’s sister took over. She made the usual turkey, but also brisket, because they all loved brisket.
That year, no one ate the turkey. They realized mom was the only one that had ever liked turkey! M’s sister was furious, declaring, “I’m never cooking a turkey again!”
And so this family now happily celebrates Thanksgiving with brisket and other favorite foods. No more turkey!
What strikes me is that the mom never asked the others if they like turkey, and no one thought of speaking up. Isn’t this so typical of the way many of us do things? We go along with some tradition, never even taking a moment to tune in to our own desires and making our wishes known. We “eat the turkey” even though we hate it.
That’s OK for one day a year, but what if we’re living our whole lives that way? Those who grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, in which their emotions were ignored or even denigrated, often grew up “going along,” doing all the right things but feeling empty inside. Growing up with any kind of outright abuse can have the same effect.
If this is you, I’m here to tell you there’s more. And that you can have more, be more. If that nagging emptiness dogs you, that can be healed.
First you have to realize you’ve been living “eating the turkey rather than the brisket” you desire. Then, I invite you to check out my new program, Align with Your Divine DesignTM and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire. We’ll hop on a call to see how you can make sure every year you can happily “eat brisket not turkey” with others who feel the same way.
