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I don’t know about you, but the events of the past few weeks–no, months–have given me quite a case of “emotional inflammation.”

I’ve been writing about “emotional inflammation” and how these troubling times can literally affect us physically. The negative energy is all around us, and we can’t escape it.

Polarization on so many levels, uncertainty on so many levels, job loss, the pandemic and everything that goes with it these  days, social media nastiness (which I avoid totally), natural disasters, the fall of Afghanistan, the loss of freedom on so many levels in so many ways. Even if you limit your news intake, as I do, you still can’t avoid the negative energy all around.

For some of us, especially if we have the trait of High Sensitivity, the energy is palpable: we feel it in our bodies.

One client said recently she sensed a “dark energy cloud” around her. Yep, that’s a good way to describe Emotional Inflammation.

Authors Dr. Lise Van Susteren and Stacey Colino say in their book, Emotional Inflammation, that it’s a state “not unlike post-traumatic stress disorder, but one that stems from simply living in today’s tumultuous world.”

That book was published in March 2020–right before “all this” became worse. It’s even more relevant now. Read More→

Now we’re a year into the COVID-19 pandemic, and the stress hasn’t really let up, has it?

I was blessed by a friend sending me a link to a Brene Brown podcast of an interview with the authors of Burnout: The Secret of Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily and Amelia Nagoski.

It was so helpful to me I want to pass it along. Here’s the link to the podcast.

You will learn how stress lives in your body, and that there is a stress cycle that, if you don’t pass all the way through, will get stuck and cause problems.

The good news, as the authors stress in the interview and the book, is that you can get the stress out of your body, even when you can’t control the stressors in your life.

I found that tremendously comforting.

The first step is always to let yourself feel the emotions—all the way through.

Then, you need to get the stress out of your body. Read More→

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Mar
06

The Different “Flavors” of Grief

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I have been writing about grief a lot lately, partly because we are all going through it in one way or another. If it’s not the grief of someone actually dying from COVID or other reasons, it’s the grief of a loss of a way of life that was suddenly ripped away a year ago. And many kinds of losses in between.

Plus, I’m walking through the valley of grief myself, as well as alongside many of my clients.

It strikes me that there are several distinct “flavors” of grief, at least two of which few people even talk about.

The Grief of Losing What You Had

This is the first and most obvious grief. You had something precious–a relationship, a business, a dream, a home—and it was somehow lost.

The “flavor” of this grief is bittersweet.

Sweet, because at one time you did experience something good. The lack of that now is what’s bitter.

The steps of Grief Recovery, along with The Healing Codes, heal this grief over time. Read More→

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If you weren’t dealing with grief before the global pandemic, I suspect you’re dealing with it now, in one way or another. Who hasn’t lost something in the pandemic, even if it’s only the familiar way of being able to “do life”?

Many are dealing with loss of so much more. Loss of health. Loss of a loved one (including a pet). Loss of connections. Loss of work, of income. Loss of a sense of stability. Loss of a dream. Loss of faith. Loss of a marriage.

If you have unhealed grief issues from the past, likely any of the more recent losses just make the grief feel even worse. Grief is cumulative, and time does not automatically heal it. That is a myth.

Dr. Bernard McGrane, Professor of Sociology at Chapman University, says that “unresolved grief is the major underlying issue in most people’s lives.” Incomplete recovery from grief can have lifelong negative effects on your capacity for happiness—not to mention your health.

If you’ve felt that your healing has not progressed as you would like, it could well be that unhealed grief is the block.

If you were to tally all the losses of your life, how many would you say feel resolved?

If none or few of them are resolved, I suggest you make grief recovery a priority. According to Grief Recovery Specialist Lynnette Hetzler and others, grief is the natural human response to loss, and there is a process of recovery from grief that is specific.

I invited Lynnette to share both her story of grief recovery and The Healing Codes, and more about the specific steps to recovering from grief. The live webinar interview took place on Wednesday, December 30, 2020.

On the call Lynnette and I covered:

  • myths about grief that can impede your recovery.

  • kinds of losses that need to be grieved.

  • ramifications, physical and emotional, of not dealing with grief.

  • are there “stages” of grief to work through? (The answer may surprise you.)

  • steps to grief recovery.

  • how grief recovery and The Healing Codes work together.

In addition, Lynnette answered questions.

Sign up below to access the recording of the call.

Nov
21

Grief, Grace, Gratitude, and Grit

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My mother left this earth on November 19, 2020. Marie Boos Filakovsky was 88.

There is grief. It’s showing up as lethargy, insomnia, fatigue, and sadness. I am always amazed at how strong the mother-daughter bond is.

Mom and I had a complicated relationship. The product of Childhood Emotional Neglect herself, she passed that on. She married a good man, my father, and lived out the 1950s script of a good Catholic girl, wife, and mother.

Mom and me, Aug. 2017

I never knew who she really was.

Until she was 78.

That’s when I started giving her custom Healing Codes. And I watched her change.

The changes in my mother solidified for me the power of The Healing Codes.

I can still remember the day she asked me how I was doing—and meant it. Before that, our weekly calls were mostly about her. It didn’t feel like she really was interested in me. Until that day.

From then on, she opened her heart more and more. I discovered to my astonishment that she had a tender, sensitive heart. For most of her life, she had hidden it under layers of socialization. Once she said to me, “You are giving me what I should have given you,” i.e. emotional support.

Then she had a stroke. And a second one, in 2017. After that, communication was very difficult. In a way, I lost the mother I’d just found.

A few weeks ago she was put on palliative care, and it was really difficult not to go out there. But with COVID-19, I just couldn’t risk flying out, for her sake and mine. I was told that it was too taxing for her to talk on the phone.

It was so hard, being cut off from her in her last days. Read More→

October 2020 marked my 10-year anniversary of getting certified as a Healing Codes Coach/Practitioner by Dr. Alex Loyd.

What an amazing and wonderful 10 years it’s been!

So much healing, and so much learned.

A therapist friend said to me, after finding out some things about my past, “How did YOU come out of all that? I mean, someone who is able to do what you do and have done in the world, usually doesn’t come out of THAT kind of background.”

Answer: God’s grace, and a lot of hard work on my part. Also these:

  • Believing somehow that anything can be overcome, if only I have the faith and the willingness to do the hard work of transformation.
  • A willingness to learn, and most of all, a desire to grow. To grow beyond the confines of a narrow, emotionally deficient background and trauma.

I believe you also have those qualities, or you wouldn’t be reading my blog. YOU are the kind of self-aware person who desires to heal your heart issues—those negative memories, beliefs and feelings that block you from experiencing the love, joy, peace, purpose and self-fulfillment you sense is your God-given design.

And because you are that kind of person, and to celebrate some of the most fulfilling (as well as challenging) last 10 years of my work, I want to give you something that will speed your Healing Code results—if you choose to use it. Read More→

I invite you to pray, along with me, the following prayers for the world that God has laid on my heart.

There is power in any one person’s prayer, but there is even more power in the combined intent of shared prayer. Our world is in a crisis, but God still is God. He still sits on the throne and has allowed all the things going on in this world for a reason. I believe that part of the reason might be to call people to reach beyond themselves and human institutions, to the only One who can get us through all this.

So please join me in praying these short prayers. My suggestion is that you choose a specific time each day to play my recording by clicking on this link, and pray along with me, out loud, as you read the prayer below.

Dear God, you who are Light in whom there is no darkness at all, you who created the universe and now sustain it with the power of your might, hear our prayer.

Most merciful God, we confess that we have sinned against you in thought, word, and deed, by what we have done, and by what we have left undone. We have not loved you with our whole heart; we have not loved our neighbors as ourselves. We are truly sorry and we humbly ask for your forgiveness and your power to change our ways.

We pray that you would shine your light into every corner of the world, to expose evil, to reveal truth and highlight the good, to heal, and to guide our feet in the paths of peace.

We pray that you would awaken in people everywhere a thirst for the truth, a love for the truth, and that they would seek it, and recognize it when they see it.

Heavenly Father, Lord of all, in your love and grace have mercy on us and heal us, and in your power thwart evil wherever it rears its head.

Finally, reveal to each person your divine design. May each of us know very specifically our particular part in carrying out these very requests, and give us the strength, the courage, and the love to do what you’re calling each of us to do.

Amen.

I believe I am seeing answers to these prayers since I have started praying them months ago. I invite you to join me, and to share your answers.

Jun
05

Distorted Thinking Running Rampant

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The events rocking the world at this time, especially the U.S., are staggering.

I have felt deep pain in my heart space over all that is happening. So much pain, loss, heartbreak. Evil exposed (this is a good thing, but so difficult to witness). Injustice and violence.

The latter two especially make me feel physically ill. I learned recently that there’s a name for this stress that can affect us even physically, that feels almost like post-traumatic stress. It’s the pain that stems from taking in the energy of a tumultuous world (and, for people of color, the energy of passive and active discrimination and racism), and it now has a name: “emotional inflammation.” You can listen to a podcast about this here, or check out the book by Dr. Lise Van Susteren and Stacey Colino here. It helped me to understand how much we are all affected by what’s going on in the world.

(For the 20% with the trait of High Sensitivity, emotional inflammation is almost unavoidable; we take in so much more, and process it at such a deep level.)

The problem is, there are many narratives out there. So many nuances to an issue. So many people twisting the facts to fit their own narrative (or ignoring key facts). I feel mentally and emotionally exhausted just thinking about making my way through all of it to the truth.

But I am committed to doing so, through prayer, as God leads. I want to be part of the solution, not the problem.

One thing I notice, among the maelstrom of media, social and otherwise, is how rampant the dysfunctional thinking is behind so much of the narratives. When a friend sent me a link to a very helpful graphic on “unhelpful thinking styles,” I began to apply it not only to my life, but to what I was hearing and reading. Read More→

Jun
04

Heal Yourself As Well as the Collective?

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I am seeing an interesting phenomenon with my clients and friends, especially those with the trait of High Sensitivity: it seems like somehow we are all taking on a bit of the overall energetic “spillage” from all that’s going on in the world right now.

How this shows up in clients varies, but many of us are feeling things like “heartache, anxiety, grief” as well as the fear, loss of control, etc.

Some clients are finding that issues, including physical issues, that had been healed before are now showing up again. Others are finding it hard to pinpoint any memories of their own, but they nonetheless feel some sort of generalized and/or anticipatory negative feelings.

I believe what’s happening is we are experiencing what authors Dr. Elise Van Sustenan and Stacey Colino call “Emotional Inflammation.”

There may be a very positive side to this, though. I think that as we heal ourselves, we are also in some way contributing in a very real way to the healing of the collective. To the extent that we’re tapping into that, is the extent to which our own healing will help the world.

If all you feel you can do right now is focus on your own healing, that’s OK. Doing just that is making a contribution that may be much more than more “concrete” acts of service.

And if you would like some personalized coaching, check out HealingCodesCoaching.com. The Healing Codes and Immanuel Prayer are exactly what is needed for this issue.

May
09

5G is Coming: For Better–or Worse?

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The 2019 5G Crisis Summit was possibly the most important summit I ever attended or bought. It educated me on the preponderance of research about the dangers of this new technology that is rolling out all over the world without any testing whatsoever on its safety.

Well, I somehow received an email that had nothing to do with that concern. No, this was an investment letter, talking about what 5G is going to do for us. How it will totally revolutionize the whole world. How it will make all our current smartphones obsolete because they won’t have the special chip needed to link it to the amazing new 5G network. (Get ready to spend another $1000 for a new phone if you want to buy into the whiz-bang of this new technology.)

The letter was actually a sales letter for an investment newsletter that tells you how to invest in this upcoming technology. You can get the full scoop here. (Mind you, I am NOT advocating this in any way, but if you’re curious about what advocates of 5G are saying, you might want to take a gander. If you don’t want to view the video, you can choose the transcript and just skim it.)

They are saying that “by year’s end, nine of the ten largest cities in America should have 5G wireless service.” (It’s already in Chicago and Minneapolis.) By Christmas, nearly all 328 million Americans will be able to use wireless 5G. And that’s just in the United States.

Now here’s the part that made me say, “Whaaat?” They say that this revolutionary technology with revamp the healthcare system. Not only will you be able to wear technology that can monitor your heart rate and rhythm, your blood sugar, and much more. (Hmmm. I wonder who will be able to gain access to that personal information?) They are saying that “Hologram technology would let a doctor visit you right in your home, without going to the hospital” and that “5G would let us do robotic surgery with zero delay, even from thousands of miles away.”

Hmmm. It will also shave off a lot more time from, say, downloading a movie. Instead of the current 2 minutes it now takes with current technology (which, by the way, is 4G in most areas), it will take ONLY 3.7 SECONDS! Wow! You can save 116 seconds! It will only take .6 seconds to download an hour-long playlist instead of the 20 seconds it currently takes. (Click the image below to see the cool animation.)

You can save more than 19 seconds on that download with this amazing technology that may cause you untold health problems! (But that won’t matter, because you can contact your doctor any time without having to get into your car, which very soon will be driverless thanks to 5G.)

Well, you might want to watch that investment letter pitch after all. Then you can maybe invest in the revolutionary technology that will for sure revolutionize our lives and, if the scientists and other experts interviewed in the 5G Summit are correct, wreck our health.

There’s real concern here, and if the concerns are real, then the time is short–we must act now! That’s why I’m go glad they will re-air the entire 5G Crisis Summit–with updating material–for free viewing June 1-7.

Sign up for the 5G Crisis Summit here, and get started on reading and listening to the registration gifts. I bought the seminar package last year, and was blown away by the breadth and depth of experts, and what I learned. I was also impressed by the positive focus. It’s not all gloom and doom, but we do need to educate ourselves and act!

I recently saw a chilling video report from Nick Penault, author of The Non-Tinfoil Guide to EMF, about how most of the current (affordable) meters are blind to high-frequency radiation including 5G and satellites. If you were depending on your EMF meter to know whether you were safe, you were probably wrong. View the video here.

And if you think that this 5G concern is just a rant from “conspiracy theorists,” check out this Scientific American article entitled, “We Have No Reason to Believe 5G is Safe,” published on October 17, 2019.

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