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[FAQ] When/Why To Do The Prayer Of Intention?
Posted by: | CommentsA reader had an important question that can affect your results from the Healing Codes, so I thought I’d address the answer to everyone.
Q: I have a question concerning doing the Healing Code, particularly about the prayer of intention: Do we say this prayer every time before doing the code, or say it just once?
For example, if I have a complicated health problem, working on it with the Healing Code might take months every day. Would it be enough to say this prayer just once? I would like to do it correctly.
I also cannot find any similar feeling or memory from my past, so I do the code without it.
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My answer:
It’s best to say the prayer of intention every time you do a Healing Code. Setting your intention tells your heart what to focus on. You don’t have to dwell on it or relive it, just note the feeling, belief, or memory.
As for the memory (or lack thereof), it is OK not to include it if nothing comes to mind. However, it can be quite helpful to connect with the feeling (e.g. how you feel about your health condition and how complicated it is), and then see if you can tune in to a sensation in your body that comes up with that feeling.
Connecting with the body in this way may help you connect with earlier, unconscious memories. Note that this may take some practice. If you have trauma in your life (and lack of memories can be a big clue that you have, often from a very young age), it’s common to disconnect from the body. Just get curious and nonjudgmental about any sensation that comes up. When the heart perceives it’s safe to connect with the body, you can then feel the sensations. Be patient and gentle with yourself.
Next, if you can feel any sensations, ask yourself when you might have felt that sensation before. Again, nothing may come up. Or, a memory or perhaps a period of your life may come to mind. Perhaps it’s a vague sense that something happened when you were two. Don’t question or analyze it. If anything comes up, even if you don’t understand it, put it in the prayer of intention.
Doing the Healing Code this way, you may come up with different feelings surrounding your physical issue each time you do the code. That’s another reason to include the prayer of intention each time. Your heart will reveal and unravel what you are ready to heal as you go. There is tremendous intelligence in the body. As we learn to tap into it, healing is enhanced and sped up.
Here is a sample prayer of intention:
Heavenly Father, please find, open and heal the source of any disease or dysfunction in my spirit, soul and body [can add, “especially ____” and name the physical issue(s)], with any connection to [insert heart issue, i.e. negative feeling, belief, harmful action such as unforgiveness), from [insert any memory if you have any, or just say “the source memory”]. Please restore everything to your original, intended design by replacing all negatives with your love, life, and light. Please also magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optional pace. Thank you, Lord, for your willingness and ability to do all these things.
This prayer may be a little wordy, but every word is actually very intentional and important, at least in my opinion and experience. Without going into the weeds about quantum physics, the idea is that when we focus our attention on something, it tends to manifest. (I say “tends” because everything is under the sovereign will of God. He may have something even better for you, beyond all you can ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20-21)).
Please don’t be discouraged about needing to do the Healing Code every day. It took years to develop your issues. It won’t likely take that long to heal them, but it does take time and most of all, CONSISTENCY. Keep at it even if you don’t see results for a while. Much healing goes on below the surface.
The Healing Code is more like taking Vitamin C every day to maintain good health than an antibiotic you take for a few days to knock out an infection. Again, consistency is the key. Find a good time in the day when you can set aside at least 6 minutes, twice a day, to do the Healing Code.
It should be a pleasant experience, for when you do the pointing you want to be focused on something very positive: a peaceful memory, place, or Truth Focus Statement you resonate with. Being in such a positive mental state sends positive energy signals through your fingers to the healing centers (the code positions), which work to cancel out the negative energy of the thing you’re trying to heal. This frees energy in the body to get to work on healing what it in its wisdom knows needs to be healed next.
I hope this helps you get more out of the Healing Code for your issue. And remember: the Healing Code only addresses the “heart issues,” not physical issues directly. As such, it is no substitute for medical care, but rather and adjunct that addresses the true source of any issue, whether it manifests emotionally, relationally, spiritually, or physically. The physical healing often, though not always, comes last. It all depends on how many underlying heart issues need to be addressed, which is why consistency is so key.
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How to Deal with a Narcissist
Posted by: | CommentsHave you ever had to deal with a narcissist?
I’ve had three such relationships in my life. Two were family members, one was in a professional context.
I have found that the only way to deal with them is with very, very strong boundaries. And that they will do everything they can to try to break through those boundaries, especially if you had to call them out for anything.
One of the aforementioned persons recently reappeared in my life when I had to address something that needed to be taken care of. I stated my case, clearly asked for the remedy, and said remedy was carried out quickly, I’m happy to say.
With most people, the issue would have ended there. But with a narcissist, it never ends there. The person kept trying to engage, and I had to completely ignore the periodic pleas to “work it out.”
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You know you’re dealing with a narcissist when you find yourself questioning your own perceptions. When you find yourself apologizing for something and you’re not sure what. When they use guilt to manipulate you.
A good friend, who herself dealt with a narcissistic boss, advised me that “when dealing with a narcissist remember D.E.E.P.: Don’t Debate, Engage, Explain or Personalize.” She added, “This is the most profound and simple advice but not easy to follow because we make the assumption the narcissist is normal. Far from it.”
It’s difficult not to engage when the person pushes all your buttons—especially when you’re by nature an empathetic, compassionate, people pleaser. You have to remind yourself that the narcissist is not at all like you, and the way they’re acting is not even personal to you. With a narcissist, it’s always all about them, never about you (or anyone else).
Another thing I want to say is just because someone talks a good talk as a so-called Christian, if they are guilting you (often using religion), if they are gaslighting you (making you doubt your own experience), if they are trying to control you—they are a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
“By their fruit you will know them,” Jesus said. He also said, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10)).
Good to ask yourself about any relationship: Is this relationship life-giving, or is there something that feels destroyed (such as your own confidence in your perceptions) or stolen (as in time, energy, confidence or well-being)?
If the relationship is not healthy, erect strong boundaries. Remember DEEP: Don’t debate, engage, explain, or personalize—no matter how hard they try to get you to do these things.
In cases like this, ghosting is a great kindness—to you, and even to them, because you’re preventing them from continuing in their sin, at least with you.
Ask This One Question Before Doing Your Healing Code
Posted by: | Comments“Where do I feel this in my body?”
Ask this about the feeling or memory you’re trying to heal.
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When you locate the sensation in your body, ask another question: “When did I feel this sensation before?”
If a memory comes up, heal that. If more than one memory comes up, pick the strongest or earliest memory. You want to get at the Core Memory, the original source of the wrong belief or hurtful memory.
Don’t worry if no specific memory comes up. Just asking the question will help your heart locate what could be an unconscious or subconscious memory.
Also note where you feel GOOD feelings. When you do The Healing Codes, i.e. the pointing to the healing centers, you want to be in a “good feeling” state of mind, such as pehttps://healingcodescoaching.comace or joy or love. So, when you decide what good memory or image or Truth Focus Statement you want to focus on while doing the Code, note where you feel that in your body as well. This will not only help the Healing Code work better, it will start to anchor in your nervous system and neural pathways positive emotions, and the helpful hormones they release, to speed your healing.
It also helps your nervous system in another way if you ask this question at any time during the day.
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When you feel some “negative” emotion, take a second to put your hand on your heart and ask, “Where do I feel this in my body?” Sometimes just bringing attention to that will resolve the emotion quickly. The awareness tells your “survival brain” that all is well, lets the emotion pass, and bring you back to a more neutral state.
Again, when you feel good, take a moment to note where you feel that joy or love or peace or appreciation etc. in your body, and hold that for 20 seconds. Holding the feeling for 20 seconds seems to anchor the feeling in your neural pathways, from the research I’ve been doing.
(This is especially helpful for Highly Sensitive People, who do tend to feel emotions more intensely than less sensitive people.)
If you find this difficult to do, that’s OK. People who have been traumatized often feel disconnected from their body. Do not get down on yourself for that. Simply practice this question as often as you can, with nonjudgmental curiosity, and eventually you will gradually reconnect with your body.
And, when you do, it will be a big step toward healing the trauma. (For more on this, you might want to listen to a video of Tara Brach’s Healing Trauma: The Light Shines Through the Broken Places on YouTube.)
Ambiguous Losses
Posted by: | CommentsI have been introduced recently to the concept of ambiguous loss—the kind of loss and grief experienced when someone is there andnot there.
They may be there physically, as in a loved one who has dementia, yet not there emotionally, mentally, psychologically.
Ambiguous loss may also be experienced when, for instance, a child is estranged from a parent (or vice versa). They’re still your child, yet the relationship is severed, so they’re not relationally your child (or parent) any longer.
Or what about an addict, or someone who is mentally ill, who is still there physically and perhaps relationally, but not the same person, not the same relationship?
In all these cases, there is a loss, but it’s not recognized by outsiders, perhaps not even by yourself, so the confusing emotions, grief, and stress plague you—a heart issue without a name.
Now I’ve named it, with thanks for Dr. Pauline Boss, who coined the term ambiguous loss back in the 1970s, and those who have taken up her mantle to inform others about this common experience that has largely been ignored.
Dr. Pauline Boss also perceptively named the collective experience of the pandemic as a time of ambiguous loss. I have been aware, from myself, my friends and my clients, that the pandemic was a trauma that has not been addressed, but I had trouble putting my finger on exactly what the trauma was. In her book, The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change, Dr. Boss provides context and a healthy way of thinking and processing the pandemic or other ambiguous loss.
If you resonate with any of this, I have some resources for you:
- books by Dr. Pauline Boss: Ambiguous Loss, Loving Someone Who Has Dementia: How to Find Hope While Coping with Stress and Grief, and The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change
- interviews with Dr. Pauline Boss on YouTube: https://youtu.be/W6MvXxAU4dA?si=h8-nxVMjnrjt7Evq; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OP5HvnLg3ME
- other YouTube videos on ambiguous loss: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i7-49yr1zWE&t=20s; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FI0w9n4hZfU&t=5s
The path to resilience when dealing with ambiguous loss, Dr. Boss says, is to adopt both/and thinking.
“When someone you love is here, and then gone, his or her presence has two meanings,” she writes in Loving Someone Who Has Dementia. “Not knowing which of the two is real, you may feel distressed and anxious. Try accepting that both perceptions are true.
You need to be able to think dualistically. You can practice by telling yourself things like:
- My loved one is both gone and still here.
- I can take care of both him and myself.
- I am both a caregiver and a person with my own needs.
- I can do both caregiving and connecting with others.
- I am both sad about my lost hopes and dreams and happy about some new hopes and dreams.
- I am both frustrated about my current situation and grateful for the many good things I still have.
- I recognize both my devastating feelings and the presence of God.
Ambiguous loss can lead to unresolved grief. If you are experiencing any form of ambiguous loss, I encourage you to acknowledge it and the feelings, address it with The Healing Code, and practice dualistic thinking.
“But I Could Be Wrong.”
Posted by: | CommentsHow do you feel when you hear someone expressing a strong opinion about something, especially when you have an opposite viewpoint?
Do your defenses go up? Do you find yourself wanting to debate, to persuade the other person to a different point of view? Do you feel a little annoyed by their tone of certainty about a subject you know has many nuances?
What if the person then said, reflectively, “But I could be wrong”?
We live in a time when many people seem so certain of their positions, and are unwilling to even entertain the possibility that “I could be wrong.”
How refreshing would it be if more of us would hold our opinions lightly, recognizing that “I could be wrong” and being receptive to more information that may change the mind?
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It used to be (I’m old enough to remember) that in the media, journalists saw their job as inviting debate from a variety of viewpoints, so that people could become truly educated and make up their own minds.
Same was true in higher education. Being exposed to different viewpoints was the whole point of education. Not anymore.
When exactly all that went by the wayside, I’m not sure, but it’s been quite a while.
I love it when I hear someone in the media posit some viewpoint or prediction, and add, “But I could be wrong.” There’s a humility about that which I appreciate—all the more because it’s so rare.
Are you willing to admit that you could be wrong about something you have heretofore felt strongly about? Are you willing to entertain new information that may lead you to learn something new?
Or even, God forbid, change your mind?
This seems like a good time to be open to the possibility.
It might even bring peace where you didn’t think peace was possible.
How To Deal With The “Emotional Inflammation” Rampant Now
Posted by: | CommentsI don’t know about you, but for the past several months and weeks especially, I have felt deep pain in my heart space over all that is happening in this country and in the world. So much acrimony, hatred, pain, loss, heartbreak , suffering everywhere. Ad hominem with no basis in fact, lies and deception, distortion of truth. Evil exposed (a good thing, but still very painful).
A client put it well when she told me, “I feel horrified, and heartsick at all that is happening.”
And scared. Studies show there is a lot of anxiety, over the upcoming election and in general.
There’s a name for this stress that feels almost like post-traumatic stress, that stems from taking in the energy of a tumultuous world: emotional inflammation. I’ve written a lot about it.
You can listen to a podcast about this here, or check out the book by Dr. Lise Van Susteren and Stacey Colino h mere. It helped me to understand how much we are all affected by what’s going on in the world—whether we pay much attention to the news or not.
The problem is, there are so many narratives out there. So many nuances to an issue. So many people twisting the facts to fit their own narrative or agenda (or ignoring key facts).
I feel mentally and emotionally exhausted just thinking about making my way through all that to the truth. But I am committed to doing so, through prayer, as God leads. I want to be part of the solution, not the problem.
If you feel at all this way, too, I offer you some ways to deal with the emotional inflammation that are helping me cope. Read More→
What Lies Are You Believing?
Posted by: | CommentsEveryone believes lies.
It’s endemic to current human nature. In the Judaeo-Christian worldview, it started with Adam and Eve, the first humans, when they were tempted in the Garden of Eden and believed Satan’s lie. Ever since, we’ve believed lies, to our own (and often others’) destruction.
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The sad thing is, many of the lies we’re believing—about ourselves, God, other people, the world—actually formed when we were very young, even before the age of 6, psychologists tell us.
Something happens to us, we interpret it in some (negative) way, often erroneously because after all, we were too young to know much or to reason, and we believe the interpretation.
Often for the rest of our lives.
Example: let’s say you were punished for something as a child, and you didn’t understand what it was that you did wrong. Perhaps you had an emotionally unstable parent who would punish you at a whim, so that sometimes you were punished and sometimes not for the same behavior. Little 4-year-old you might easily have come to believe that you were just a bad person and deserving of punishment, at any time. That is the “truth” that your heart comes to believe, the “truth” that rules you unconsciously.
What would this lead to? Fear, anxiety, being as “good” a child as you can be so as to not to invoke the wrath of adults.
I have had many clients who wrestle with just this scenario.
Now, adult you may not realize what it going on. All you know is that you push yourself, you try very hard to fit in, and somehow it’s not working too well. You have digestive issues, perhaps, or struggle with depression.
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The healing comes, always, when the lie is exposed to the light, seen for what it is, and the Truth comes to replace the lie at a deep level.
I believe the power of The Healing Codes lies in uncovering the lies that we’ve come to believe, along with the attached emotions and memories, and replacing it with the Truth.
How do we find out what lies we’re really believing, since it’s often so hidden from our view?
Here are two of the most effective ways I’ve found.
With The Healing Codes, we look for whatever issue is disturbing your peace currently. Maybe it’s a health issue, or a relationship issue, or something going wrong in your career.
Once you identify the issue, you look at how you feel about having that issue. Does it make you feel sad, angry, depressed? Where are those feelings in your body? As you tune in to your body, allow yourself to ask, When have I ever had this same sensation before?
We go with the physical sensation because that is the best way to trigger a memory. Sometimes the original memory, from which we formed the lie we believe subconsciously, comes from preverbal times. If this is the case, you might have a sense that it was from when you were very little, even if you have no specific memory.
Once you have a sense of a memory (and sometimes, you have no clear sense of a memory—that’s OK), you can focus on the thoughts around either the memory or your current issue. This moves you further toward identifying the lie you may be believing.
Challenge the belief, without judging it. You can gently ask yourself, Is that really true? Am I really a bad person because I spilled milk all over the floor and broke my mother’s favorite glass when I was four years old? Did she really have to spank me so hard for that?
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It may be uncomfortable to see your parent in a different light than you always have, but try to accept the discomfort. Let your adult self bring some compassion to Little Wrong You. If you are so inclined, you might pray for God to show you the Truth, or even the lie you’ve been believing if you need help identifying that.
When you do your Healing Code, put in the prayer of intention the feelings, beliefs, and memories you want to heal. Then, when you point to the healing centers for your Code, remind yourself of the Truth. Let yourself feel compassion toward Little You. The Healing Code helps the energy transfer from negative to positive as you “infuse” the Truth each time you do your Healing Code.
Another way to find and heal the lies your heart is believing is to participate in an Immanuel Connection call. I guide you to a positive encounter with Immanuel (“God with us,” another name for Jesus), and ask him what lie you are believing and what the truth is. Then I give you a custom Healing Code to address the lie and infuse the Truth.
If this interests you, go here to find out more and sign up. The calls are held on the first Tuesday of the month, at 11:30 a.m. Central Time. (October call will be on October 8, though.)
The Immanuel Connection will not only help you heal faster (another name for Jesus is “Wonderful Counselor”), it will deepen your relationship with him. It is one of the foundations of my spiritual life, and that of many others. I am the only one on the planet who combines Immanuel Prayer with a custom Healing Code—at the beginning of the call to remove any blocks to receiving all Jesus has for you, and then at the end, to energetically change the lies to truth with a custom Healing Code.
I love the way one person describes it: “God replacing the pictures in the art gallery of our minds, removing pictures that do not have Jesus in them and replacing them with pictures that do.”
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Go here to download the specifics, and I hope you will join me on the next call!
Why I’m On A “Digital Diet”
Posted by: | CommentsHeadaches. Digestive issues. Muscle tension.
I’ve been struggling with these lately, and so I decided to investigate possible root causes.
Was it my diet?
Well, yes, in a way.
It was my “digital diet.”
Too much time on my smartphone.
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Not just the news, which in this pivotal election year seems necessary to follow. That I for sure have had to curtail. As a new study reveals, “doomscrolling” is terrible for our mental health, and the news media deliberately engages in negative content because it prompts more engagement, including shares and social media reactions.
I am rarely on social media. I may check Facebook a couple of times a week, and only the constructive groups I’m part of. I follow a few people on YouTube, but less and less now, because the “Shorts” are so intrusive and stimulating. I rarely scroll without a clear intention.
But the stress also comes from just navigating modern life.
Trying to access the accounts I use for my business, my bank, the grocery store for pickups orders, checking the weather, the traffic—all require apps and authentication codes and endless time on the smartphone. I find myself feeling resentful that I can’t get through a day without a smartphone.
Then there are the apps that are pleasurable to use, like the Merlin bird app that sparks such delight. And I love getting messages from my friends.
Here’s the thing: for someone with the trait of High Sensitivity, taking in all that information (and EMF) overloads the nervous system. As an HSP, I take in way more information, and process it more deeply, than less sensitive people.
It all adds up to: nervous system OVERLOAD.
And “emotional inflammation,” which I’ve written about a lot.
I think we all have our tipping point as far as nervous system overload goes, and we do well to know what that is and to respect it.
I picked up my Emotional Inflammation book again, and it was helpful to revisit the kinds of things that trigger me, and what type of reactor I am.
As I’ve been noticing where my triggers and limits might be, it’s helped my physical symptoms. I no longer use my phone after dinner except for turning to the beautiful music on YouTube that is part of my nightly ritual. My husband and I watch a certain respected, objective, “no spin” news analyzer for less than 30 minutes a night, and that’s all the news I think I need right now.
I have unsubscribed from a lot of emails, interesting though they are, because it is just too much information to process, too much nervous system stimulation.
The more I’ve imposed these limits, the less headaches, digestive issues, and muscles tension I experience. Voila!
Your limits might well be different from mine. Just know that nervous system overload and “emotional inflammation” are real, and need to be monitored. Dealing with technology is a fact of modern life, whether we like it or not.
You can do The Healing Code to help with all this, for sure, but there are also a lot of sensible actions you can take to stem the tide at the source. Prevention is always preferable to treatment.
A Useful Metric for Monitoring Your Nervous System Capacity
One helpful way to monitor how much stimulation your particular nervous system can handle is using a “points system analysis.”
Let’s arbitrarily assign 100 points a day to one’s capacity for processing inputs. This would be after a good night’s sleep. Like a cell phone that has been fully charged overnight, if you had a good night’s sleep you wake up at 100 percent charge, with 100 “points” of capacity.
Then your day begins. You get up, maybe make a cup of coffee or tea, eat breakfast. Maybe you’re getting kids off to school. Maybe you take time to go on a walk or run, or you meditate.
Or . . . maybe you check your email, and start scrolling social media, read the news, turn on the TV . . . how many “points” does this take away?
Pay attention! What tends to actually add “points” (as if you were plugging in to your energy source), and what tends to drain points?
Each of us will answer this differently. A Highly Sensitive Person, who naturally processes everything on a much deeper level, will use more “points” to navigate everyday life than someone without this trait. Therefore it’s more important for an HSP to be aware of how many energy points their daily activities use up, and what they can do throughout the day to add energy points—like plugging your cell phone into a power source for a while.
The more things you can’t control that drain your energy points, the more energy-generating practices you need to add to your life.
And the more you probably will need to say no to anything that drains your energy that you can control. You don’t want your “cell phone” (i.e. your energy capacity) to shut down when you need it most.
If you know you have a draining day ahead of you (for instance, if you have a doctor’s appointment, or need to drive in heavy traffic), what can you do to minimize the stress and build in calming, energy-producing practices in little pockets throughout the day?
You might find it useful to make a list of things that tend to drain you (and if you like, guess how many “points” it might take from you), and a list of things that add energy for you.
Then, perhaps the night before, as you look over the next day, perhaps you can intentionally plan how to balance your energy for the next day.
I have found this makes a big difference in my mood, energy level, and even physical health.
“Planning is bringing the future into the present
so that you can do something about it now.”
~ Alan Lakein
The Real Reason People Retire?
Posted by: | CommentsI wish an elder had told me the truth about aging—and what is perhaps the real reason people retire.
I never wanted to retire. I am one of the fortunate ones who loves what I do and feels a sense of calling, which motivates me afresh whenever my resolve wanes.
And it’s waning more and more. Not because I don’t love my work, but because of the demands of the current season of my life.
Demands I wish someone had told me ahead of time.
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But you see, in Western culture, we don’t like to talk about aging. Nor do we respect the wisdom of elders, by and large. Old age is seen as a time of decline, of growing less and less useful, of more dependency.
I don’t think it has to be that way. It’s each elder’s responsibility to do all we can to age well.
It’s quite possible. But it’s also more time-consuming than I ever imagined. Read More→
What Healing Codes Should I Use For ____?
Posted by: | CommentsA reader, Kimel, sent me an email with the following question:
I am 70. I bought the Healing Codes Manual years ago. Is there a code for improving balance and gait?
There is no specific code for that specific issue, or any physical issue per se, for that matter. The Healing Codes heal the negative energy in your body that it is stored in the negative images, beliefs, and memories that I believe are held in an energetic pattern in the DNA or cell.
However, when you do that—change that energy from negative to neutral or even positive–the ripple effects in the whole person, including the body, are seen and felt.
Eventually.
It often doesn’t happen over night, as most physical issues, by the time they show up in the body, have a number of contributory memories, feelings, and beliefs feeding into the problem.
I say that because another question a client asked recently was whether The Healing Code work, even if you don’t “feel” anything. Read More→
