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Train Your Brain Away from Pain

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Posture and movement specialist Sukie Baxter was interviewed by Julie Bjelland for Julie’s Sensitive Empowerment group, and I thought what Sukie said about pain was fascinating.

Sukie said if you are not in touch with your body and attuned to its signals, your nervous system can develop a sort of tunnel vision that begins to only recognize pain signals. That then pulls you into a negative loop, where the pain activates the Sympathetic Nervous System (fight/flight/freeze) response), which then makes the pain more pronounced, so that you focus even more on the pain–and so the negative loop goes.

What is the way out?

Broaden your awareness of body sensations, Sukie says. Regularly tune in to every sensation your body is feeling. For instance, while sitting up against a wall, or lying on your back on the floor, knees bent and feet on the floor, what do you notice about the points of contact with the wall and/or floor? What points are not in contact? Just noticing everything–pleasant and neutral sensations as well as pain–will broaden your body’s perceptions. If you do have pain anywhere, you likely won’t be as focused on it.

Checking in with your body often, giving it what it needs to be comfortable, calming yourself and draining the “stress barrel” when you notice stress building up, can all go a long way toward preventing illness and disease, and/or healing if you are facing a health challenge.

I believe you can extrapolate this also to your emotional “body.” Emotions are actually bodily sensations. Allowing yourself to feel your emotions as they arise, rather than ignoring them, will keep you from storing that energy in your body.

If you grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, where you were not taught how to tune in to your body or emotions, this can be challenging. But it’s entirely doable, and crucial to your health and well-being.

Take a lesson from animals. Ever notice how often cats groom themselves? Or a dog shakes itself? One of my clients told me that animals literally shake off the negative energy. We would do well to learn from them! They seem to regularly tune in  to their body and get rid of stress.

I think this is one reason The Healing Codes are so effective. The practice gets you to get in touch with your body and emotions, and to spend time basking in the positive via a Love Picture or Truth Focus Statement. This trains your brain and body to move from the negative thing you’re trying to heal, and infuse that positive. (Did you know it takes 0 seconds for a negative to register in the brain, but 15-20 seconds for something positive to sink in?)

To get the most out of The Healing Codes, make sure you check in with your body and heart before you start. “What’s bothering me? What feelings do I have about that? Where do I feel that in my body? When was another time I had that feeling, either the emotion or the sensation in my body?” Some people find it easier to answer these questions than others, but practice makes it easier for anyone.

Another idea to stay in touch with body and heart is to take time several times during the day to check in with yourself (perhaps when you use the bathroom). How is your body feeling? Are there any points of tension, pain? How do you feel emotionally?

Then ask yourself, “What do I need?” Do you need to stretch, drink some water, take a walk outside, eat a snack, talk to a friend, do a Healing Code? Do you just need to take some nice deep breaths to switch off your SNS for a bit? Naming and attending to your need empowers you and further broadens your focus from any pain you may be feeling.

Taking time throughout the day to tune in to yourself will help you process what’s going on in your body and heart so it doesn’t build up and get trapped.  (This is especially important if you have the trait of High Sensitivity, by the way. Because you take in more than other people do, it’s crucial to make sure you take time to process it all.) As one book title has it, Feelings Buried Alive Never Die. They end up causing disease.

I’ve written several articles on the importance of listening to your body and heart. Your body and heart contain an intelligence that is unmatched by your intellect. The more you can listen to your body and heart (which are dynamically connected), the more you will be steered toward what it right for you. Practice tuning in. Practice mindfulness.

And be well.

If you would like more help in identifying and healing heart issues, check out the resources at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

Related articles:

What Is Your Body Trying to Tell You about Your Heart?

What Your Body Knows

How the Body Heals: Two Views

“Editing” Your Life

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From the beginning of my career, editing has been a huge part of it. I was an English major, and started working in publishing after graduation. My first job was a dream: I edited radio programs, little mini-interviews with authors, and wrote scripts for the announcer. It was the precursor to what are now podcasts; this publisher was way ahead of the times!

(A side note of historical interest: Though the publisher was ahead of the times, the technology was not. We had the author interviews transcribed on paper, I would edit on paper, and the technician would actually splice the tape. I still chuckle when I think of how we used to do it.)

After the radio program was discontinued, I became a marketing writer, then a magazine editor, then I moved to editing books. My final formal book project was editing The Healing Code for Dr. Alex Loyd, which changed the course of my career. Yet because writing is still a big part of my life, I still find myself editing.

Which got me to thinking about how it’s a good idea to be editing our very lives, on an ongoing basis. To be most effective in our work, to be happy and fulfilled, to gain clarity on the meaning and direction of our life, we regularly need to do the same things I do to edit a book or article.

When editing a piece of writing, the goal is clarity. The goal of editing your life is the same: to get clarity on your direction and on the meaning of your life. To evaluate what is necessary, what is unnecessary or even joy-sucking. To communicate your unique “message” to the world in a way that can inspire, challenge, engage, or otherwise give perspective to others.

Isn’t that what we all want?

So how do you go about editing your life?

When I edit an article, I first look at the overall structure. Is there an overall theme? Where is this article going? What point is the author trying to make?

Similarly, it’s good to take stock of our lives every now and then. What do you want to have accomplished in your life, in various areas? Are your daily actions supporting that? Are the foundations of the different aspects of your life–relationships (God, self, other people), work, finances, health, physical environment–supporting your deepest values?

If not, it’s time to edit! Time to cut out. Time to tighten up. Time to rearrange. Time to clarify.

After looking at the overall structure of an article, adding or subtracting ideas and rearranging them, I then look at any obvious things that can be cut or need to be changed.

Sentences that say the same thing. Unnecessary words. Words that aren’t precise or powerful enough.

Similarly, the easiest way to start editing your life would be to cut out the obvious clutter. This clutter may be physical, mental, emotional, or even relational.

The key question to ask when decluttering your home, according to Marie Kondo, author of the famous The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, is: “Does this bring me joy?” When editing your life, I suggest the simple question: “Is this [object/relationship/task/food/activity/thought pattern] life-giving, either to myself or others?”

When in doubt, cut it out! (Or modify it. Some relationships can’t be cut out completely, but they can be renegotiated in some way to be more life-giving.)

Once the obvious errors of punctuation are fixed, I look to the finer points of grammar, usage, punctuation, style, etc. As you clear the clutter in your life, look for the finer points, the details of your life. I suggest picking a particular area that seems the least life-giving.

Here’s where asking the question from The One Thing is helpful: “What’s the One Thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”

For instance, for me, I realized that getting to bed earlier would make me feel better, be more productive, and safeguard my health. So I am focusing on what I need to “edit out” of my life so that I can get a little more sleep. (In my case, it’s listening to online summits and podcasts at night. More information means more to process, which takes time and energy that needs to go toward rest.)

Use both the One Thing question and the “Is this life-giving?” question to shine light on what is most important, and edit your life down to the essentials that make for a life of productivity, purpose, joy and substance . . .  A life that matters. 

Heart issues–the (often unconscious) negative images, memories, and beliefs–are definitely things to be “edited out.” If you would like help with that process, feel free to check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do you believe a lie?

Of course you do. We all do. We all believe many lies.

And every lie we believe is the source of an issue in our lives.

According to the account in the first book of the Bible, Genesis 3, the whole world is under a curse because our first parents, Adam and Eve, believed a lie. They believed the serpent’s lie that God was holding back from them by not allowing them to eat from the tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.

This worldview says that we were never meant to know evil. We were only meant to enjoy the goodness of all the other trees of the Garden of Eden that God had given them “freely to enjoy.”

When Adam and Eve “fell” because they believed the serpent’s lie, all of creation was affected.

The human race has been living by lies ever since, which is why the world is not perfect. When we believe a lie, we are affected in every area of our being: body, soul, and spirit. Starting with spirit. 

God had said, “In the day that you eat of [the forbidden tree], you will die.” Adam and Eve did not die physically that day. They did die spiritually.

What did that look like? Read More→

Tonight I met with my first client from China to do a Coach-Guided Healing Code.

It got me to thinking about the hundreds of clients I’ve worked with over the past 9 years of being a certified Healing Codes Coach-Practitioner, and what I’ve learned and observed.

First, I have the most wonderful clients in the world. Surprisingly, the vast majority of my clients are also Highly Sensitive. It’s surprising only because Highly Sensitive People only make up around 20% of the population, yet they comprise at least 80% of my clients. Perhaps it’s because The Healing Codes are so attractive to HSPs. It is a gentle process that involves meditation–an approach well-suited to HSPs.

With only one exception (more on that below), all of my clients are remarkably motivated to heal. Many of them have had overwhelming obstacles to overcome–abuse of all kinds, tremendous health challenges, financial hardships, and difficult relationship issues.

Yet they are not giving up! They are not victims. And, because of their commitment to their own healing, they do overcome. Many have dramatic breakthroughs.

These clients bolster my faith in the human spirit. Most people do want to be healthy and happy. God put that desire into us, and I believe he works with us to bring that about. With that commitment and help from God, it’s amazing how much people can overcome.

The one exception? A client with ALS whose doctor brought him to me as a last resort. The doctor warned me that she had little hope of his recovering, and soon I learned why. The man was completely devoid of love for anyone, including himself. I think we got through two sessions. I doubt he ever did his custom codes. He died of his illness within a few weeks of when I talked to him. His doctor said she wasn’t surprised, but had hoped that something could break through to him. Without his commitment to himself, however, no help could get through. Read More→

Pivotal Memories

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People often ask me what kinds of memories to start with to get the fastest, deepest healing. 

I always look for the “fractal memories”–those memories in which the core beliefs/feelings will repeat themselves and branch out to affect your life in all kinds of ways afterward. Heal these, and the ripple effects of healing begin effortlessly  to penetrate into all the areas of life affected by that memory.

In another post I talked about foundational memories. They are one kind of important fractal memory.

Another kind of fractal memory is what I call a pivotal memory. This would be a memory, usually conscious, that changed the course of your life. Something happened and you came to believe something about yourself that forever after influenced your life. Such memories can form your identity–for better or worse.

On the “better side,” pivotal memories can be quite positive. One important pivotal memory that shaped my entire future happened in college, when I fell in love with publishing. I was always a bibliophile and a writer, and the field fascinated me, so I decided I would major in English, but not teach. I would make a career in publishing.

Everyone told me, “It’s practically impossible to break into publishing.” Especially since I didn’t know anyone, even by the time I was a senior in college. Also, this was at a time when people with PhDs in English were driving taxi cabs. 

No matter. Publishing was my passion and I would find a way. When my pastor suggested I go out to Illinois to study in the C.S. Lewis Wade Collection for my Honors thesis on Lewis, he added, “There are a lot of Christian publishing houses out there, too.”

I spent my mid-semester break in Wheaton, Illinois, and interviewed at three Christian publishing houses. One of them hired me, for a job they created for me. I still thrill to the fact that I had a job lined up in my chosen field before graduation, and before any of my friends with more sure degrees (like nursing) even had a job offer. That first job, in which I interviewed authors and created radio spots, remains one of my favorite jobs I’ve ever held, and led to other opportunities.

Positive pivotal experiences can lead the way to success in many areas. Use these memories as a focus point when you’re doing a Healing Code for a success issue; it will increase your confidence and shift your energy and focus in a big way.

Negative Pivotal Experiences obviously need to be healed. The lies and perhaps even vows that result from such memories must be changed to truth, or you will remain stuck.

To find a negative pivotal memory, look for an area in

your life where you feel blocked.

I’ll give an example from my own life.

In fifth grade, I had two teachers who seemed to love to pick on students. I was one of them. But my worst memory of these teachers came not from them bullying me, but another student.

One day I witnessed them verbally attacking  a male student in the hallway. (Not sure why I was there, but I was the only other witness, and the teachers seemed oblivious to my presence, so intent were they on their tearing apart that boy’s self-esteem.)

As the teachers lit into this boy, who I now realize was a Highly Sensitive Person, Richard cried. That just made the teachers belittle him more. I saw him stand there, helplessly crying more and more, while the teachers mercilessly ridiculed him.

Up to that point, I, too, was a person who felt deeply and cried easily. In fact, I desperately wanted to cry about what I just saw. I almost burst into tears on the spot, but somehow I stopped myself.

I stopped myself by making a vow, right then and there. I vowed that nobody would ever do something like that to me. If this is what happens when you show your emotions, I would never show my emotions again.

That day, I learned how not to cry. I learned how to turn off my high sensitivity. (Or so I thought.)

The problem was, I turned off all emotions. For a long, long time, I went through life feeling very little. I was what the Yerkoviches (How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage) identify as a classic Avoider in their Love Styles quiz. Having grown up in a home where emotions were pretty much absent, and I’d been ridiculed for being “too sensitive,” it felt right and comfortable to go through life not feeling.

Except . . .

Except that turning off the negative emotions also turned off the positive ones, like joy and tenderness and letting myself be moved by art or music.

Except . . . I am a Highly Sensitive Person, and one of the inborn traits is that we can’t help but feel and be emotionally reactive. 

As it does for most people who are Avoiders, the negative energy went into my body. The energy of emotion must go somewhere (e-motion = energy in motion). If you allow yourself to feel it, it will be processed. It won’t get stuck in brain and/or body.

If you don’t . . . you set yourself up for all kinds of problems. Dr. Gabor Mate says, “When you shut down emotion, you’re also affecting your immune system, your nervous system. So the repression of emotions, which is a survival strategy, then becomes a source of physiological illness later on.

That’s what happened to me. I developed an autoimmune disease.

Oddly, even though I went through therapy for a while, no one ever really helped me to understand and process my emotions. Maybe I just wasn’t getting it. It was The Healing Codes that started me on the path to actually healing the heart issues at the source (and also, quelling the physical issues).

It wasn’t easy to heal that Pivotal Memory. I had to identify the lies and the vow. My heart was fearful of being hurt, or humiliated like poor Richard was. (He was never the same after that incident. I noticed.) By understanding both High Sensitivity and Childhood Emotional Neglect, and by identifying the lies and replacing them with truth and images of how to handle emotions in a healthy way, I have found healing and a new way of being.

What Pivotal Memories do you need to heal?

You will greatly speed and deepen your healing when you identify and heal both foundational and pivotal memories. You will also remove many blocks that have held you back in many areas of life. Start today!

And if you need any help, check out both the free and personalized coaching from HealingCodesCoaching.com.

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I was talking with a new client about what to expect with The Healing Codes. We can’t promise that you will heal physical issues. We can’t promise that every relationship will heal, or that your financial woes will go away.
 
So what can we promise? What can I tell you for sure The Healing Codes or Healing Prayer will do for you if you do them faithfully? And why can I say with confidence that every area of your life can get better?
 
When you heal the underlying “heart issues”–those “implicit memories” buried in the subconscious that can pop up and sort of superimpose themselves in the present situation–you remove a certain kind of stress that you may not even be aware was influencing you.
 
When you remove that stress, your health improves because your immune system is not having to deal with the unconscious stress signals that cause your cells to close and potentially move into disease mode.
 
Did you ever notice that when you’re stressed, you tend to be your worst self? So do other people. When two people are operating out of “worst self” stress mode . . . well, I don’t have to tell you it’s not a pretty picture for the relationship.
 
And have you ever noticed that when you’re stressed, you’re not your most productive self, either?
 
So what “healing heart issues” does is help you move from your “worst self” to your “best self” by removing the things that caused your stress.
 
Everything improves because YOU improve.
 
That’s why, the more you heal your heart issues, the more every area of your life will  get better.
 
Health improves. Relationships improve because you’re your best self. (And, because if you release the effects of your Healing Codes to others, it’s amazing how they heal, too, and become more like their best selves.)
 
Your career and work satisfaction also tends to take off  because you’re at your best.
 
So that’s what I can promise, if you do Healing Codes or Healing Prayer faithfully. You will be moving ever closer toward your best self, and that will make everything in your life better.
 
If you would like help in identifying the key issues and memories, including hidden memories, that will make the most difference in your life, check out the coaching link at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

Do you have an issue you keep praying about or doing Healing Codes for, yet it doesn’t seem to heal? Just when you thought it had healed, it boomerangs back at you!

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There can be many reasons why an issue doesn’t heal quickly or easily, or keeps popping up once you think it’s healed.

One way to address this is to make sure you heal any secondary issues by going through the 12 Healing Code categories.

Start by going through the 12 Categories (chapter 11 in The Healing Code, or the Healing Codes Manual). They are also categorized in the Heart Issues Finder, a free assessment that will help you determine which areas are weakest for you.

The 12 Healing Codes categories are: Unforgiveness, Harmful Actions, Unhealthy Beliefs (the 3 inhibitors to healing); Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Trust, Humility, Self-Control.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, I pray that you would find, open, and heal all known and hidden negative images, beliefs, cellular and generational memories, and all resulting physical issues, related to [insert the category, e.g. ‘any unforgiveness issues that are at the source of my X issue’], by filling me with Your love, life, and light. I also pray that you would magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optimal pace, and restore everything to Your original design. Thank you, God, for your willingness and ability to do these things.”

You can do this for the next 12 days, using either the universal Healing Code, the codes from the Healing Codes Manual for the 12 categories, or a custom Healing Code. Include anything that comes up for you as you explore that issue from all 12 angles.

You don’t have to be super strict about the order of the categories. If, for instance, on Day 4 a Peace issue comes up rather than a Love issue, address the Peace issue. Just make sure you end up addressing all 12 categories.

Always let your heart be your guide! It will “serve up” what needs to be healed next as you work with this process and become more and more in tune with it.

This is also a good protocol for praying or doing Healing Codes for another person, by the way. You probably don’t know the true issue, so praying and coding through all the categories for that person is a good way to ensure that you hit upon the real issue, as well as secondary issues.

If you would like a custom Healing Code for your issue and guidance in getting the most out of The Healing Codes, visit my HealingCodesCoaching.com site. There’s lots of free help there, too!

In my coaching, as I listen to clients tell me what’s bothering them most (the starting point for finding heart issues), I want to find the deepest issue their heart is ready to heal at this point in their healing journey.

I’m listening for what I think of as “the keywords to the heart.” These are words that have the most energy, that seem to encapsulate the essence of the heart issue.

When you put these “keywords” into your prayer of intention, your heart, like a search engine, will come up with the memories that need to be healed.

Your “keywords to your heart” could be one or more feelings. Or a phrase (see below for an example).

It could include one or more beliefs. Or a relationship. Or a harmful action–something they’re doing to numb the pain.

Or–all 4! In fact, I call these four areas the 4-part program: feelings, beliefs, relational context, and harmful actions. Most issues have at least three of these elements (not all issues have the Harmful Actions component).

If you want to speed your healing: Read More→

I‘ve often thought that one of the reasons The Healing Codes work so well is that you spend the bulk of your time focusing on something very positive. It’s this meditative aspect that makes them work, I believe, possibly more than the technique itself.

Yes, you identify the negative “heart issue” to be healed (in your prayer of intention at the beginning). But then when you point to the Healing Center positions of a Healing Code, you make the energy coming out of your fingertips positive because of your positive thoughts.

(This may sound “woo-woo” but it is actually a quantum physics thing. The energy of your intention actually makes something happen in the world of matter.)

Knowing this, the question becomes:

“What is the most positive thing I can focus on while

doing a Healing Code?”

There really is no formula. It is whatever positive thing you want to. Whatever works for you. Experiment.

Having said that, I know some people want some specific tips. So . . . Read More→

One of the things that fascinated me from the beginning about The Healing Codes  is the correlation between the different body systems and what Alex Loyd calls “the nine virtues” (love, joy, peace,patience, goodness, kindness, trust, humility, self-control).

If, for instance, you have a thyroid condition, it’s likely that you have a love issue that needs healing. Thyroid falls under the endocrine system, and the endocrine system is correlated with the Love category. (The full discussion is in The Healing Code book and the Healing Codes Manual.)

In this system, then, your physical symptoms can be a clue as to which heart issues need healing.

I have found this to be very true, and very useful. When strange skins spots showed up, I asked myself, “Do I have a joy issue going on?” (Joy is correlated with the skin.) Sure enough, I did identify a joy issue. As I worked on healing the memories and unhealthy beliefs, the skin spots disappeared.

The opposite is also true. If you have an issue with, say, patience, healing that can help your immune system immensely, as that’s the category that correlates with the immune system. If you don’t address the issue, it’s quite likely some kind of immune system disorder will show up.

Illness as Metaphor

If you have an illness or a disease, your body might be trying to tell you something even more specific. Illness can often be a metaphor: your body is trying to tell you something important about what needs to heal.

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