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How the Body Heals: Two Views
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Mechanical View
The body is like a machine.
Constant use eventually wears it out. Things start to malfunction, and then you need to get in there and either replace the parts or alter the internal structure somehow (usually through medications) to alleviate bothersome symptoms. That’s what healing mostly is: alleviating symptoms. The goal is to function. Help must come from the outside, through the intervention of medical procedures and medications.
Oh, and there’s a blueprint and predetermines what will go wrong. It’s called your genes. Your DNA determines what will happen to you and there’s not much you can do about it. If you’ve got the gene for cancer, or Alzheimer’s, or heart disease–oh well, do the best you can to stave it off, but it’s inevitable you’ll get it.
Take the medication to relieve the symptoms, and put up with the side effects–they’re inevitable. Have the replacements done, and do your best to return to normal.
Eventually, the system wears out. That’s called aging. You can’t do much about it, except keep on replacing parts and alleviating symptoms until the whole system finally shuts down.
Organic View
The body is an alive, dynamic, intelligent organism that innately knows how to heal itself.
It’s not indestructible, but it is resilient. It constantly seeks life. It malfunctions because toxic elements are added to it, which it has to expend a lot of energy dealing with. This distracts it from expending energy to heal and grow.
If you reduce the toxins (which can be physical or emotional, what I call “heart issues”), and you give it certain raw materials to work with (light, water, air, movement, good nutrition), it knows what to do. It thrives.
It can even overcome any bad genetic programming. That’s because it’s not so much about the genetic code, as about whether that gene will be switched on or off. (Check out this fascinating PBS Nova program on DNA.) Given the right support, the body can overcome diseases and pathogens.
Which picture do you have of how the body heals?
As a client of mine said, “There’s a big difference between running from death and pursuing life.”
The reason I am so supportive of both The Healing Codes and now, the HALO Light System, is that both enable you to pursue life.
The Healing Codes support the body’s natural healing ability by removing the stress of unconscious negative images, wrong beliefs, and painful memories. When this stress is removed, the body has more resources to move into healing and growth mode.
The HALO Light System gives the body essences from a huge array of life-giving botanicals, so that the body has sort of a library of things to choose from to heal itself of whatever is challenging it.
I know the above is somewhat simplistic. There is a place for surgery, medications, and the like. But I’ve used both approaches. I’ve made my choice–to pursue life–and I enjoy better health and more energy now than I did 20 years ago.
What about you?
Picture of a Healed Relationship
Posted by: | CommentsI just got back from a healing service at our church. It was part of the “Fully Alive” series my pastor and his wife are doing on sexuality.
In one part of this healing service, Stewart Ruch and his wife Katherine addressed mother wounds. As I sat there, I thought about my own history.
Within a week after I was born, I got very sick. There was some kind of abdominal obstruction. The doctor who operated on me said sewing up my skin was like sewing wet tissue paper; I was that fragile.
The operation was a success, and was written up in some medical journal. I, however, developed pneumonia and at one point, burst my stitches. They had to put staples in to hold me together.
All that kept me in the hospital for at least 6 weeks.
A nurse who worked in the NICU in that era told me what it was like: “The babies belonged to us. They never saw their mothers. We would prop them with a bottle to feed them.”
I did not get a chance to bond with my mother. It was not her fault.
When I came home, my mother was very scared she might do something wrong. She had to keep my older brother, who was two, away from me, because I was still so fragile. I think my first experiences of my mother must have been awash with fear and guilt.
Yet, sitting there in the healing service, searching my heart for any wound, anything to forgive, I found nothing.
Not even the memory of a wound.
That’s how complete that healing was, after several years of Healing Codes work.
My mother and I never were close until after she started doing Healing Codes herself, at age 76. She is a completely different person now. As her heart issues healed, our relationship bloomed. So did her relationship with God. Her memories of childhood came back, including some good ones that she at first thought she never had.
We now have the mother-daughter relationship I never thought possible. And remember, it didn’t start until Mom was 76. It’s never too late to heal!
This, my friends, is why I believe so much in the Healing Codes. They are a tool in the hand of God to heal. It is God who heals, but this tool makes it so much easier for us to position ourselves for that healing.
If you have a relationship that needs healing, I encourage you to take the free Relationship Issues Finder with that relationship in mind. It will help you pinpoint what areas of the relationship and your “heart issues” need the most attention.
And if you want to get some coaching and powerful custom Healing Codes for your relationship issue. feel free to check out my coaching at www.healingcodescoaching.com.
Open to Receiving in the New Year
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We have just come through the holidays, a time of giving . . . and receiving.
Which did you enjoy more? (Be honest, now!)
If you said, “Receiving,” don’t be too ashamed.
We often hear the quote, “It’s more blessed to give than receive.”
In our materialistic world, that’s a good thing to be reminded of.
But consider this: Might it be just as blessed to receive?
Think about the recent holidays. Imagine that you had a gift wrapped beautifully for someone, but you didn’t see her right away. You told her you had a gift for her but . . . she never came to claim it. (This actually happened to me.)
How do you feel?
Now, imagine offering a gift to someone who receives it with delight and gratitude.
Don’t you feel blessed in the second case?
If we refuse a gift someone offers us, we rob them of the joy of giving. We break the cycle: gift offered, gift received, receiver blessed, giver blessed from receiver’s gratitude.
As we look into a new year, there are gifts waiting for you from a gracious God. Some of those gifts will look like gifts–all wrapped in nice packaging. Good health. Improved finances. Reconciled relationships. These are what we strive for, and receive gratefully.
But this year may also bring what I call “disguised gifts.” Things that don’t seem like gifts at all.
Health challenges. Loss of work. Business or financial setbacks. Relationships that go sour.
Last year for me delivered a number of such “gifts.”
But you know what? Because of what I learned long ago about gifts from God (I wrote a book called Abundant Gifts about it), I had developed a habit of thanking God for everything, of believing that everything could work together for my good.
And when you do that, even the most painful of “gifts” yield some kind of sweet fruit.
My husband and I took some time to look back at the past year and focus on the positives. We discussed some questions that you might want to use, too, as you look back on the past year.
- What do I feel good about from this past year in regards to my career/vocation? My family? My friends? My health? My prosperity? My spiritual life? My personal life?
- What changes did I make this year in any area of my life that made me feel more expansive and authentic?
- What were the best gifts from the past year? (Take time to really steep in gratitude for them.)
- What did I love about my life this past year that was different from any other year in my past?
- In what areas did I experience the most healing?
- Were there any milestones achieved last year? (Maybe other people wouldn’t call them that, but for you they were. Celebrate them!)
Looking back at the positives sets you up for receiving the good that can come to you in the coming year. If you need help letting go of any of the painful things from the past year, feel free to do Healing Codes for those things. And if you need extra help with letting go of the painful issues, feel free to get some coaching and custom Healing Codes from me. I’m here for you!
Holiday Stress Rx
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As you can see, another thing I don’t do well is take pictures with my iphone!
Yesterday morning, I was chatting with a small group of friends about Christmas preparations.
We were in my living room, where the Christmas tree stood, adorned with only lights. I explained how it was a lit tree, but this year, only the middle lights worked. We’ve had a heck of a time finding lights to fill in the spaces. All the new lights are LED, or 300 per string. Neither my husband nor I care to spend loads of time looking for lights. So there the tree stands as we decide whether this is enough lights, or we need more, before I put on the decorations.
One woman said last year, she never got around to putting on the ornaments. She just likes the lights. That may be what I do. And though all 4 other women agreed that my tree needs more lights, I just may say, “Enough.”
And then one of my friends said, “Anything worth doing, is worth doing badly.”
We all kind of cringed at this. We’re all women with lots of responsibilities and high standards. We’d like to believe this … but it’s not so easy.
We laughed when someone said, “G.K. Chesterton said that,” because we all believe him to have been a very wise man, so that means we can really believe it.
Why am I telling you this? Because so many of us have these unconscious, high standards that keep us in overwhelm or guilt. Especially at this time of the year.
Somewhere in our subconscious (Heart), there is this image of The Ideal. Perhaps it’s the kind of Christmas you grew up with, and your images are all rosy, and you want to recreate that for your family.
Or, on the flip side, maybe your holiday memories are so painful, you want to do everything possible to create a perfect holiday season for your family now.
I remember when my image of The Ideal was born. It was in my senior year of high school, with a teacher I admired. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but she put forth the image of a really fine, admirable person as someone who “does all things well.” Unconsciously, I absorbed that image into the kind of person I wanted to be.
It’s been hard to let that person morph into a more realistic image of someone who only does a few things well, and is OK with doing in other areas just enough to get by.
I read somewhere that it takes 10,000 hours to achieve the level of mastery. None of us has 10,000 hours to master everything. Trying to “do all things well,” i.e. achieve mastery in everything, is impossible and foolish to try to attain.
This holiday season has brought out how I try to do too many things too well, so I’m working on this with my Healing Codes. I’m constructing a new persona that knows her strengths and builds on them, and is OK with “getting by” in other areas. I’m rewriting that old belief that the only worthwhile, admirable person is someone who “does all things well.”
So if you’re feeling stressed this holiday season, I encourage you to take a bit of time to reflect on what image you might be trying to live up to, or what unhealthy belief is driving you. Try to see if you can trace the origin of it. (But if you can’t, that’s fine—just address the feeling and/or wrong belief the any memories attached to it.) If you want help with that, I’m always here for you!
And if one of the things that’s stressing you is, “What do I give so and so,” perhaps you would like to give the gift of healing in the form of a custom Healing Code. Visit this page and see the options.
I pray this holiday season will be one of joy, not stress for you. I encourage you to focus on the One Thing you can do to make this holiday memorable for you and your family or other loved ones. Ask what would give others joy, and then see what you can do to make that happen.
And then, let go of the rest. Forget Normal Rockwell and Thomas Kinkade; those sentimentalized scenes were never real life anyway.
Your One Thing–and Mine
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I and a friend have been reading and discussing one of those few books that you just know, if you take this book’s message to heart, it can be life changing.
The book is called The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results.
The “surprisingly simple truth behind extraordinary results” is that if you ask and answer the right questions, you can get uncommon results. “Life is a question, and how we live it is our answer. How we phrase the questions we ask ourselves determines the answers that eventually become our life.”
One question trumps all the others. They call it the Focusing Question:
“What’s the ONE Thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”
Think about that for a moment. Your answer to that question can focus what you do for the next moment, and also shape the direction of your whole life.
In terms of your healing, let me ask you this:
“What is the ONE THING you need to heal such that, by healing it, everything else in your life would improve?”
I challenge you to actually write down your answer to that question.
In fact, if you will not only write it down but also share it with me, through this quick survey, you will be helping yourself to move in the direction of that ONE THING that will propel you toward that healing.
How? Just by asking and answering that question, the forces of your own mind and who knows what else (more on that in another post) will begin to come together to propel you in the direction of that very healing.
To help ME help YOU, would you also be so kind as to answer a SECOND question, also on that survey:
“What is the ONE THING that I can do as your Healing Codes coach to help you YOU heal your ONE THING?“
Go ahead, go here to take this two-question survey.
Then look for emails from me that will answer question #2, which will help you answer achieve the answer to your question #1.
And then, come back here to tell us how things start to change for you!
Give Thanks for–Bee Stings?
Posted by: | CommentsSeveral months ago, I posted about the incredible stresses my family has experienced all at once.
That was back in December.
Things only got worse after that. Much worse. And they’ve continued until … now.
I honestly don’t know where I’d be without The Healing Codes during this time. That, and the things I mentioned in that earlier post.
It’s been a life-lab showing me exactly how The Healing Codes help you deal with stress.
The Healing Codes don’t do anything to prevent the kinds of outward stresses I’m facing (death of a loved one, financial pressures, major upheavals in schedule and living, technology hassles, betrayal by friends, legal issues, blah blah blah).
What they do for me is keep me current with reality. Because so much has already healed, I wasn’t “triggered” as much as I would otherwise have been.
When I was triggered–when something bothered me way more than the situation warranted–then I looked for the “heart issue” to heal.
When you’re healed, you have much more energy to deal with current reality, and you’re dealing ONLY with current reality.
So, for instance, if you’re rejected by someone (or you perceive you are), if you have unhealed rejection memories the recent rejection will feel like you’re being stung by a hive of bees. Each “bee sting” would be an unhealed memory of rejection.
But when those memories are healed, that recent rejection will be just like one bee sting. Unpleasant, but you can deal with it.
As these multiple stresses come at me, I can tell which ones are triggering an unhealed memory and which are not. I go to work on addressing the unhealed memories that get triggered. And before long, I am back to dealing just with the current stressor.
The one bee sting.
And either way, I thank God.
I thank God when I am able to deal with just an issue at hand. I thank Him for the healing I’ve received already in that area.
When I do get triggered, I thank God for the stressor because it is uncovering an issue that can now be healed.
Gratitude is a beautiful thing. I speeds healing. I encourage you to add it to your healing work.
How Long Does It Take to Heal Heart Issues?
Posted by: | CommentsSomeone just posed a good question on the Amazon page for The Healing Code, and I answered it. I thought I’d share it with you as well.
Q: I have been using the Healing Codes for a couple of months. I am feeling much better. I have no idea how long I am supposed to keep doing the Codes 3 times a day. Do you ever stop?
A: The “much better” you have experienced can be “much much better” if you continue to do The Healing Code.
I have never stopped after 9 years.
First of all, I never seem to run out of “heart issues” to address. Besides, that, I just enjoy doing the Healing Codes. And I sure appreciate the results! The healing I’ve had in all areas of my life from doing Healing Codes at least twice a day for 9 years now is phenomenal. Physically, socially, emotionally, spiritually, financially–every area of my life has improved. (For the medical report tracking my progress in 2012,2014, and 2016, go here.)
When the heart issues are out of the way, I am open to more of God, more of life, I’m finding. Life is just … fuller.
I think of The Healing Codes as more like brushing my teeth, or taking my daily walk: It’s something I do to keep healthy. As opposed to, say, an antibiotic you take to address an infection.
If you run out of “heart issues” to address, you can use The Healing Code to instill more of the positive in your life: more love, more joy, more kindness, etc. Then if something negative pops up, you address the negative. When that goes down to 0 or 1, you go back to instilling the positive.
Hope this helps! There’s lots more at Healing Codes Coaching and this Healing Heart Issues website.
When NEVER to Do a Healing Code for Someone Else
Posted by: | CommentsIs it ever dangerous to do a Healing Code for someone else?
I never used to think so, based on the marvelous results so many have had doing Healing Codes for someone else.
For instance, if you’ve never read the story on this blog of Vinny, the boy with the inoperable brain tumor that went away after his grandmother and people reading this blog who did Healing Codes for him, please be ready to be amazed.
However, I have realized there are instances when it certainly can be dangerous to do a Healing Code for another person.
Read my article about when you should NEVER do a Healing Code for someone else–and what to do instead.
Prayer and The Healing Codes
Posted by: | CommentsPeople sometimes ask me, “Do I have to believe in God to benefit from The Healing Codes?”
Or, “How does prayer relate to The Healing Codes?”
My answer to the first question: No, you don’t have to believe in God to benefit from The Healing Codes. The Healing Codes work (as far as we can tell), by neutralizing the negative frequency (stress) of the unhealed negative images and wrong beliefs stored in the information energy pattern in the cells (cellular memory). At least, that’s my theory of how it works. All we know from the results is that it removes stress from the autonomic nervous system so that the body can heal itself. (Go here if you’d like to see results from my own Heart Rate Variability tests.)
This is what The Healing Codes does for anyone, regardless of beliefs.
Having said that, however,
Custom Healing Code for “Father” Issues
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Few people have had a perfect father, or been a perfect father, so it’s probably safe to say everyone has “father issues.”
I believe that the images we associate with “father” profoundly affect two areas in particular: success in life, and our spirituality.
The father has a lasting effect on both sons and daughters with respect to how successfully they operate in the world. If you have success issues, look at how your father viewed you, himself and his own place in the world. Heal anything negative that comes up for you.
Also, your image of God is inextricably bound up in your images of “father.” (There is a reason the biblical view of God is primarily as a Father. Earthly fathers are meant to reflect the heavenly Father’s life-giving nature and goodness. Earthly fathers invariably fall short.)
The good news is there is healing for father issues.
So just as I did for Mother’s Day, I would like to give everyone a custom Healing Code code for any issues you have about your own father, and/or, if you’re a father, about your own fathering.
Before you start using this particular Healing Code, I suggest you take the Relationship Issues Finder first, with your relationship to your father in mind. (You may also take the RIF with a relationship with one of your children in mind, if you’re a father, and do the custom Healing Code below for that relationship. Or your relationship with God, who calls himself a Heavenly Father. Or all of the above!)
So here’s your custom Healing Code for father issues: Read More→
