Archive for Healing Heart Issues

I just read an article in Bottom Line Personal called “You Can Think Your Way to Better Health.” BLP interviewed Ellen Langer, PhD and author of The Mindful Body, who cited numerous studies to show how just reframing the way you think about exercise, eating, diagnoses, and symptoms can drastically affect outcomes.

For instance:

  • In one of Dr. Langer’s studies, researchers encouraged a group of hotel chambermaids to view their everyday work as exercise. Result: those chambermaids lost weight and experienced reduced blood pressure compared to the chambermaids that were not instructed to think of their work as exercise.

  • Other research from Stanford University further found that people who don’t perceive themselves as physically active have significantly higher mortality rates than those who do perceive themselves to be active—regardless of how active they actually are.

How physically active do you think YOU are? You might want to up that perception. Take into account all the housework, yard work, shopping, etc., not just what is normally considered “exercise.” I recently remarked to my husband that if we ever moved to a house with less stairs, as people “of age” are suggested to do, maybe it wouldn’t actually be as good for us.

I love this one: you can imagine yourself eating your favorite, but not necessarily healthiest, foods—and actually reduce your desire to eat. Imagining eating and actually eating are not all that different to the brain. So if you imagine yourself eating, for example, cheese, as test subjects did, you will likely eat less of it if offered, because you would feel fairly full already from just imagining eating it.

The authors suggest next time you’re tempted to eat something you know isn’t good for you, imagine in great detail the experience of eating it. I love pizza, but it’s “death on a plate” for me, with everything that doesn’t agree with me: gluten, cheese, tomato sauce. I can try imagining not only the taste, but the smell, the warmth of the cheese, and the feel of the crust in my mouth. (Yum!)

What about your view of medical matters in general, about the state of your own health, and about how (and whether) the body can heal?

According to Dr. Langer, how you view your medical diagnoses, such as borderline test results and chronic symptoms, can influence your health outcomes.

I often tell my clients who have been handed a devastating diagnosis, “This is just a label for some observations people have made about a group of symptoms. They cite statistics from large groups of people. You are an individual. You can control a number of factors that will determine YOUR ultimate outcome.”

A big part of that control is how you view your health status.

“Compared to other people your age, would you say your health is: poor, fair, good, very good, or excellent?”

This was a question I was asked at my recent Medicare wellness checkup.

I answered “good,” despite my various “diagnoses,” and my doctor agreed. She told me that because of my lifestyle (and perhaps, attitude), I have a very different health trajectory than many people she sees that are my age with my “conditions.”

Why? Because I live as healthy a lifestyle and I can, and because of how I view the body and health.

Image of rusty car, to illustrate one view of the body: that it's mechanical and will rust outimage of thriving plant, to illustrate how the body heals when you respect and support its intelligenceI wrote a blog post called “How the Body Heals: Two Views” in which I contrast the modern Western mechanistic view of the body with a more organic approach. Read it here.

Which view do you adopt? Your answer to this, and the other question about your comparative health, could affect the trajectory of your own health outcomes.

What about symptoms?

What is a healthy way to view symptoms, especially if you have chronic health issues?

The typical way symptoms are viewed is that it’s something gone wrong with the body (mechanistic view), and that the answer is to medicate away the symptom.

The trouble is, medications often cause side effects, which are then treated as symptoms to be relieved. Thus you fall into the medical mill where you’re taking multiple medications to treat symptoms often caused by the medications themselves, while no one bothers to find out what the root causes of the symptoms were.

The Bottom Line Personal article talks about being mindful of symptom variability—the fact that symptoms rise and fall. This can help you be less bothered by them and thus, avoid triggering a fear loop that makes everything worse (and could cause neuroplastic pain).

I would add, there is another perspective, one that views symptoms not as signs of disease but signs of healing. The figure below summarizes the process. I wrote more about it here. 

What if symptoms were also messages from your body? Messages that, if heeded and decoded, could point you to ways to improve your health? I wrote about various aspects of that as well on my blog. The end of this article gives that list.

Could merely adopting the views that symptoms are messages from the body and/or signs of regeneration, rather than being a cause for alarm, affect the outcome?

I believe it can. When I first started doing The Healing Codes, all kinds of symptoms cropped up. That first year, I was running often to the doctor (not having made the transition fully to the organic view of the body). Slowly I began giving myself more and more time for the symptoms to resolve before going to the doctor. Invariably the symptoms would subside as I kept doing my healing work.

Important note: I am not saying don’t seek medical advice or treatment. I usually try my healing tools first, and give that time (healing often takes time). My experience has been that when I do that, often the medical interventions are not needed.

I did and do seek medical intervention when it seems warranted. Recently I had an issue that all my healing tools could not fix, because it was an anatomical problem. I had a surgery that drastically improved the quality of my life. AND I’m finding that I still need to use my healing tools to detox from the surgery and treatments themselves, because the medications used were heavy duty and I am sensitive to medications. My Truth Focus Statement for this is, “I am fully recovering in all ways from the surgery and all side effects from the medications.”

Dr. Ellen Langer and Dr. Gabor Maté. author of When the Body Says No, and no doubt other experts, say, “The body and mind are one entity.”

Who knew that our minds and hearts—and what we believe—could be so powerful?

(Trick question: I believe you already know, because you’re reading this. But it’s always encouraging to get independent confirmation from credible people, isn’t it?)

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The Real Reason People Retire?

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I wish an elder had told me the truth about aging—and what is perhaps the real reason people retire.

I never wanted to retire. I am one of the fortunate ones who loves what I do and feels a sense of calling, which motivates me afresh whenever my resolve wanes.

And it’s waning more and more. Not because I don’t love my work, but because of the demands of the current season of my life.

Demands I wish someone had told me ahead of time.

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Photo by sk

But you see, in Western culture, we don’t like to talk about aging. Nor do we respect the wisdom of elders, by and large. Old age is seen as a time of decline, of growing less and less useful, of more dependency.

I don’t think it has to be that way. It’s each elder’s responsibility to do all we can to age well.

It’s quite possible. But it’s also more time-consuming than I ever imagined. Read More→


Music to Awaken the Mind

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It’s interesting how things sometimes come to your attention repeatedly over a short period of time.

I always pay great attention to when this happens.

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Photo by Mohammad Metri

For some time, I have been fascinated by, and using, music and sound as I do my healing work.

Lately, though, various aspects of how sound and music can affect healing have come up again and again, from different sources.

That’s when I really pay attention.

In a recent post I shared some music that moves me and relaxes me before bedtime.

A few days ago, a friend that I haven’t heard from in years contacted me to ask if I still do editing.

I do not, but was able to refer her friend to someone who can help her. And in the back and forth, my friend ended up sharing a video about how music helps people living with dementia to come alive in amazing ways.

It is quite an inspiring video, and I encourage you to watch it. The healing power of music is not limited to people with dementia. It applies to all of us, because, as the documentary points out, music gets encoded in us very early in the womb.

In my Healing Hearts Circle coaching group (which will be made available again soon; sign up here to be on the waitlist), I have always used music in the background.

Now I’m exploring other ways to use sound for healing. As usual, I have been my first guinea pig, I and my husband and a few willing clients.

If you would like to be part of the test group for a whole new approach to healing that utilizes sound and can be done with The Healing Codes, email me for details.

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Healing Music

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Sound healing is something I’ve been using for a while, and I am delving into more, so you’ll be hearing more about this.

I usually use some form of sound as I do my Healing Codes. It’s either Elio’s Music for the Healing Codes, or classical music favorites, or the new form of sound which I’m currently exploring.

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Photo by Kael Bloom

I thought I’d mention a piece of music you can listen to from YouTube that I now turn on every night as I get ready for bed. It’s Spiegel im Spiegel by Arvo Pärt, and several of the comments mentioned how healing it is. It’s a little over 10 minutes long, and the only problem is the distracting ads that can pop in sometimes in the middle.


There are several versions:

You can probably find more through a search.

I am in awe of gifted musicians, and consider them fellow healers. (Sound is energy, you know.)

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What Healing Codes Should I Use For ____?

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A reader, Kimel, sent me an email with the following question:

I am 70. I bought the Healing Codes Manual years ago. Is there a code for improving balance and gait?

woman walking on train railwayThere is no specific code for that specific issue, or any physical issue per se, for that matter. The Healing Codes heal the negative energy in your body that it is stored in the negative images, beliefs, and memories that I believe are held in an energetic pattern in the DNA or cell.

However, when you do that—change that energy from negative to neutral or even positive–the ripple effects in the whole person, including the body, are seen and felt.


It often doesn’t happen over night, as most physical issues, by the time they show up in the body, have a number of contributory memories, feelings, and beliefs feeding into the problem.

I say that because another question a client asked recently was whether The Healing Code work, even if you don’t “feel” anything.

My answer to that is yes. The proof is the countless clients who “didn’t feel any changes,” but when they got their yearly checkups, for instance, their blood work showed former problems have been cleared up. Or their cancer markers went down, or whatever.

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Photo by John Benitez

I remember when my mother was alive and I was giving her weekly custom Healing Codes, the changes I saw were profound. More peace, happier, and she was even winning most of the time at Scrabble in her weekly game times with her sister! (A fact that greatly chagrined her sister.) Yet Mom didn’t herself notice any differences.

Back to Kimel’s question: what Healing Codes can he use for greater balance?

First he can ask himself how he feels about the need for greater balance? Is he fearful of falling? How strong is that fear? Where does he feel it in his body? As he tunes in to that sensation, can he think of another time he felt that kind of fear or physical sensation, about anything at all?

If he does remember, that’s the memory to start working on. And the category would be Peace, as that’s the opposite of fear. Since he has the Healing Codes Manual, he can look under the Peace category and pinpoint the negative emotions, harmful action (worry), and unhealthy beliefs listed under that category.

Since balance and gait are also connected to both the nervous system and the musculoskeletal systems, he can also focus on the Codes for Kindness and Self-control, respectively.

I have always been amazed at how the “heart issues” correlate to the body systems as was revealed to Alex Loyd. When I have a skin issue, I look for Joy issues. Sure enough, I find them. For the chronic issues that I’ve been diagnosed with, working on the corresponding categories brought resolution of most of them. When they pop up again, as respiratory issues did recently, I focused on shame, guilt, and “not enough” from the Goodness category. And the physical issues are abating.

Another option for Kimel or anyone is to work through the Healing Code categories in 3-day sets, praying that all issues connected to balance and gait be found, opened, and healed.

For Kimel’s issue, he would focus on those two main categories (Kindness for nervous system, Self-Control for musculoskeletal), and also, on each third day, go through all the Healing Codes categories.

So he might do the Codes for the nervous system on Days 1 and 2, then on Day 3 do the Forgiveness code (working through the 12 categories), and Days 4 and 5 the musculoskeletal system, day 6 the next of the 12 categories (Harmful Actions), Days 7 and 8, nervous system, day 9, Unhealthy Beliefs, and so forth, alternating the categories in that way.

As you can see, there are several ways to approach healing an issue with The Healing Codes, whether it’s a physical, emotional, or relational issue. The Healing Codes heal the “heart issues” that are the source of any issue.

By the way, there is more and more research and evidence for this idea that the emotional/spiritual issues truly are at the heart of any physical issue. Gabor Maté, MD, has written and spoken extensively on this topic. He has numerous YouTube videos you can look up, and his books, When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection and The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, clearly explain how the body and mind/spirit are one.

In the latter book he acknowledges energy medicine, among other approaches, as an important and valid approach to healing. The key is “the individual’s active, free, and informed choice.”

By engaging in regularly doing The Healing Codes, you are activating your free and informed choice to heal. And that can do wonders.

And if you would like support for your healing journey, check out my current coaching packages at


How to Regulate Your Cortisol Levels

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A talk with one of my doctors veered toward how to regulate cortisol (the stress hormone), and she gave me some good tips I thought I’d pass along.

If you suspect you might be dealing with chronic stress and/or adrenal fatigue, try these suggestions.

    1. Wake up and go to bed the same time every day. This sets your body clock and helps your body know when to produce cortisol, when not to. (Cortisol should rise in the morning.)

    2. Within an hour after waking up: eat breakfast. This meal should consist of a 2:1 ratio of carbs to protein. Some examples would be:

  • 1 cup Greek yogurt, 50 grams of granola, 1 tbsp of honey

  • 1 cup cooked oats, 1 medium (100 grams) banana, ½ scoop protein powder, 150 ml milk

  • 2 slices whole wheat (or gluten free) bread, 2 eggs, 1 tsp butter

  • 1 (90 grams) seeded bagel, 1 medium (150 grams) avocado, 1 egg

  • 1 medium (180 grams) apple, 2 tbsp peanut butter

    white short coated small sized dog on woman in gray sweater 3. In the middle of the day, sometime between 12 and 3pm, take a timed relaxation break. (This would be a good time to do The Healing Codes.) It needs to be relaxation—no screens, no stimulating input

    4. Don’t exercise within 2 hours of bedtime. Also, quit all screens at this time, or wear good blue-blocking glasses if you must look at a screen. Even a few seconds, as I understand it, can cut your melatonin production (which you need for good sleep and lowering cortisol).

    5. Overall, make sure you get enough protein during the day. You need a little more than half your body weight, in grams. If you’re a 125 pound female, then 70-80 grams of protein, with 30 grams in the morning, would be optimal. (You can go online to find out how many grams of protein different foods have.) “Enough protein enhances human growth hormone—an antagonist to cortisol,” my doctor said.

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Placebo effect? You Decide . . .

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When I talk to friends (who don’t understand about energy medicine) about The Healing Codes, I often get something like, “Well, it’s just the placebo effect. You believe it will work, so it does.”

I don’t think we should knock the placebo effect; it can be quite helpful in healing.

However, I think there is a lot of evidence from experience that the effects of The Healing Codes go beyond the placebo effect.

For instance, did you know you can do Healing Codes for animals? No possible placebo effect there.

What about babies? Or people who don’t even know you’re doing Codes for them?

Dalton_age 4, 3 months before parents did custom Healing Codes for him. Glasses, eye turned in.

Dalton_age 4, 3 months before parents did custom Healing Codes for him.

Dalton, 3 months after parents did Healing Codes for him: no glasses needed, eye straight!

Dalton, 3 months after parents did Healing Codes for him: no glasses needed, eye straight!

(There is an amazing testimonial, with pictures, of a little boy with strabismus which straightened out within a few months of his parents doing custom Healing Codes for him. Go here for more details.)





Here is an email I got this week from a reader, Brenda.

I have been doing the Healing Code quite intensively for a week or so – for myself, then for my husband, then for my little dog.

I do the Code on my husband, who has suffered for years with Post Viral Syndrome. He doesn’t know about it because I wanted to see if anything would happen. Two days ago he came down to breakfast and said, ‘I don’t know why but that wretched brain fog seems to be going.’


As for my very nervous little dog who ran away when anyone came into the house, he has taken to greeting them with a kiss and a waggly tail.


Eureka indeed! Two instances in which the person or animal being targeted for healing could not possibly be subject to the placebo effect, as there was no awareness of something being done for them.

Since I like to understand why things happen, I have thought a lot about how The Healing Codes work.

I keep coming back to what Albert Einstein said, more than 100 years ago: everything is energy. If you change the energy, you change the effect.

And—the more foundational truths are non-physical. The source of the physical is always the non-physical–the spiritual or energetic.

How do The Healing Codes work specifically to change the energy? The theory is that the Code sends out to the healing centers (which act like a fuse box for the whole body) a signal that is the opposite and equal energy pattern of the “issue” you’re working on—much like noise-canceling headphones.

Another analogy I like to use is that of a garage door opener. Maybe you have a keypad in which you punch a certain code, and the garage door opens. Or perhaps you have a remote control that sends out a signal that is then decoded to cause a certain effect, i.e. open the garage door.

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We use energy and codes every day for so many things: TV remotes, cell phones. Now you can even talk to your device and it does what you want! Do we think it’s “voodoo”? No, because we have a sense that there’s some kind of science that explains how it works, even if we’re not interested in the details.

In the same way, you can use The Healing Codes to “neutralize” the negative energy patterns in the memories, thoughts, feelings you want to heal. I think of these patterns as energy information patterns in our DNA, that then may turn on or off certain genes, and may cause cells in your body to go into a disease state rather than a healthy repair and growth state. Our very DNA is a code, right? I believe that everything in nature boils down to codes; it’s behind the intelligence of the cells that was coded by the Creator.

The question is, will you harness the blessing of this modality for your benefit, or ignore it because you don’t understand it or want some kind of “proof.” (Actually, there are now studies on The Healing Codes, which is heartening.)

If you know someone who needs The Healing Codes and might be open to them if they had an explanation of how they work, pass on this blog link with a personal note from you.


Do Your Words Support or Hinder You?

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I was talking with a client, and it struck me how often she used the words “should” and “must.”

I asked her how those words made her feel. What I was feeling from her, energetically, was pressure.

She paused to think, to get in touch with her body. It didn’t feel so good.

“What if you substituted ‘must’ with ‘choose to’ or ‘get to’ or ‘want to’?” I suggested.

She tried it. She liked how it felt.

I was particularly attuned to her language because this is something I’m working on myself. How easily I put pressure on myself, just by telling myself “I have to . . . I must . . .” or “I should”!

I like what my client did. She rephrased her statements to, “I choose to ____, so that . . .” and she named the benefit of making that choice. “I choose to get my taxes done so that I don’t have to think about them anymore.”

Do you see how much agency and power that gives her?

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Photo by Brett Jordan

Try it yourself. List the things you feel you should, must, have to do. Tune in to how your body feels with those words.

Then, turn it around to a more empowering statement: “I choose to ____ so that _______.” How does that feel?

If putting pressure on yourself by your language is a habit, do a Healing Code for it. Explore what feelings come up with this “must/should/have to” issue. Is it fear that if you don’t do X, Y or Z you will be punished, ostracized, rejected or that something bad will happen? How realistic are those fears? (Some fears are realistic. If you don’t get your taxes done, there will be penalties.)

What other thoughts/beliefs go with those feelings? Do you have a sense of when all that started? Is there a particular memory attached to that? (There doesn’t have to be. Often with generational or very early memories, or patterns absorbed from your family, there won’t be any memories.)

Put whatever comes up for you in your Prayer of Intention, and use your empowering statement while you point to the Healing Code positions.

Be kind to yourself. Mental habits like this didn’t form in day. Keep at it with the Healing Code and with catching yourself and rephrasing your thoughts. See if you feel less pressured and more spacious.

I have some specific tools in my Align with Your Divine Design program for changing just these kinds of mental habits and behaviors. Fill out a Clarity Questionnaire and let’s see if this might be a good fit for you.


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A reader named Brenda asked me about something that happened to her while doing the Healing Codes, and I thought it would be good for everyone to realize what’s going on when you experience a physical reaction while you’re doing the Codes.

Brenda asks,

This is weird.  I’ve been doing the Healing Code  three times a day for three weeks. . . . Today I was doing it – I’m concentrating on trauma in my childhood – when I started to yawn. I wasn’t in the least bit tired, but every time I changed to a new position I started yawning. I could feel it welling up but try as I might I couldn’t stop it. Yawn, yawn, yawn . . .   So I decided to stop. 

Then I thought maybe there’s a reason for all this yawning, maybe my subconscious is blocking something disturbing, so,  though I felt uneasy, I went on.  After a while I started to slow down the Code, until I was spending much more time on every word, and the yawning slowed down and finally stopped.

Have you any idea why this happened?


Yes, Brenda! The yawning is a sign your body is releasing some trauma!  It’s a good thing! 

I learned this from several trauma experts. It is a sign that the nervous system is discharging stored energy, stored trauma. When your yawning stopped, you had released all you were ready to for that session.

Other signs of nervous system release, from Elizabeth Stanley, Ph.D.’s book Widen the Window: Training Your Brain and Body to Thrive During Stress and Recover from Trauma, might be:

  • tinwoman in black button up shirt yawninggling/buzzing
  • twitching
  • slower, deeper breathing
  • slower heart rate
  • relaxation of the chest or belly
  • shaking/trembling
  • chills
  • stomach gurgling
  • blushed skin/sweating
  • crying
  • laughing/giggling
  • sighing
  • coughing (phlegm)
  • itching
  • waves of warmth/heat
  • release of gas (burping, farting)

If you experience any of these things during your Healing Code, know that The Healing Code is working. You might want to keep doing the Code until the signs of release stop.

If you don’t experience any of these things, that’s OK too. I just don’t want anyone to fear that something terrible is happening. Quite the opposite!

Thank you, Brenda, for your question. It’s important to address this!

[Side note: I highly recommend Dr. Elizabeth Stanley’s book, or her Mindfulness-Based Mind Fitness Training (MMFT) course. Not only are the book and course thorough and extremely helpful, but Dr. Stanley also gives you access to monthly QA/training calls she does for free, the first Thursday of the month (at alternating times). In these calls she guides the practices from her book/course, and answers questions. She is warm, compassionate, incredibly intuitive and kind. I try never to miss a call.]

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What Will Your 2024 Focus Be?

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a 3d rendering of the year 2023 and the number 2024

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If you’ve been with me for a while, you may recall that every year, both for my birthday (which happens to be on Christmas) and for the new year, I make up a little rhyme for what I want to focus on for the coming year.

Sixty-six was “the year to fix and nix.”

I fixed a lot of things, and I “nixed” a lot of things. 2023 was the “year to be free.” That aligned nicely with fixing and nixing. Nixing made me feel freer, lighter.

Now that I’ve just had my sixty-seventh birthday, I’ve been pondering what I want this next year to be for me. Sixty-seven, the year for—what?

Not much rhymes with seven. An internet search was not much help:

  • 1 syllable. None. One. Ton. Fun. Son. Run. Pun. Done.
  • 2 syllables. Heaven. Lesson. M1. Lebron. Engine. Weapon. Question. Veteran.
  • 3 syllables. Eleven. Intention. Rebellion. Suggestion. Challengin’ Intestine. Excedrin. Travellin’.
  • 4 syllables. Armageddon. Watermelon. Indigestion. Tv. Adrenaline. American. 
  • 5 syllables. Delicatessen.

Engine? Armageddon? Delicatessan? These are rhymes?

And–EXCEDRIN?? Dear God, I hope my sixty-seventh year won’t be characterized by a need for Excedrin! (Which I wouldn’t take anyway; I have better ways to deal with pain.)

So I settled for an exact rhyme, which feels right anyway: heaven. “Sixty-seven: aligned with heaven.” Read More→

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