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Train Your Brain Away from Pain

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Posture and movement specialist Sukie Baxter was interviewed by Julie Bjelland for Julie’s Sensitive Empowerment group, and I thought what Sukie said about pain was fascinating.

Sukie said if you are not in touch with your body and attuned to its signals, your nervous system can develop a sort of tunnel vision that begins to only recognize pain signals. That then pulls you into a negative loop, where the pain activates the Sympathetic Nervous System (fight/flight/freeze) response), which then makes the pain more pronounced, so that you focus even more on the pain–and so the negative loop goes.

What is the way out?

Broaden your awareness of body sensations, Sukie says. Regularly tune in to every sensation your body is feeling. For instance, while sitting up against a wall, or lying on your back on the floor, knees bent and feet on the floor, what do you notice about the points of contact with the wall and/or floor? What points are not in contact? Just noticing everything–pleasant and neutral sensations as well as pain–will broaden your body’s perceptions. If you do have pain anywhere, you likely won’t be as focused on it.

Checking in with your body often, giving it what it needs to be comfortable, calming yourself and draining the “stress barrel” when you notice stress building up, can all go a long way toward preventing illness and disease, and/or healing if you are facing a health challenge.

I believe you can extrapolate this also to your emotional “body.” Emotions are actually bodily sensations. Allowing yourself to feel your emotions as they arise, rather than ignoring them, will keep you from storing that energy in your body.

If you grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, where you were not taught how to tune in to your body or emotions, this can be challenging. But it’s entirely doable, and crucial to your health and well-being.

Take a lesson from animals. Ever notice how often cats groom themselves? Or a dog shakes itself? One of my clients told me that animals literally shake off the negative energy. We would do well to learn from them! They seem to regularly tune in  to their body and get rid of stress.

I think this is one reason The Healing Codes are so effective. The practice gets you to get in touch with your body and emotions, and to spend time basking in the positive via a Love Picture or Truth Focus Statement. This trains your brain and body to move from the negative thing you’re trying to heal, and infuse that positive. (Did you know it takes 0 seconds for a negative to register in the brain, but 15-20 seconds for something positive to sink in?)

To get the most out of The Healing Codes, make sure you check in with your body and heart before you start. “What’s bothering me? What feelings do I have about that? Where do I feel that in my body? When was another time I had that feeling, either the emotion or the sensation in my body?” Some people find it easier to answer these questions than others, but practice makes it easier for anyone.

Another idea to stay in touch with body and heart is to take time several times during the day to check in with yourself (perhaps when you use the bathroom). How is your body feeling? Are there any points of tension, pain? How do you feel emotionally?

Then ask yourself, “What do I need?” Do you need to stretch, drink some water, take a walk outside, eat a snack, talk to a friend, do a Healing Code? Do you just need to take some nice deep breaths to switch off your SNS for a bit? Naming and attending to your need empowers you and further broadens your focus from any pain you may be feeling.

Taking time throughout the day to tune in to yourself will help you process what’s going on in your body and heart so it doesn’t build up and get trapped.  (This is especially important if you have the trait of High Sensitivity, by the way. Because you take in more than other people do, it’s crucial to make sure you take time to process it all.) As one book title has it, Feelings Buried Alive Never Die. They end up causing disease.

I’ve written several articles on the importance of listening to your body and heart. Your body and heart contain an intelligence that is unmatched by your intellect. The more you can listen to your body and heart (which are dynamically connected), the more you will be steered toward what it right for you. Practice tuning in. Practice mindfulness.

And be well.

If you would like more help in identifying and healing heart issues, check out the resources at

Related articles:

What Is Your Body Trying to Tell You about Your Heart?

What Your Body Knows

How the Body Heals: Two Views

I wrote already about a course I took with Julie Bjelland, about how to embody the gifts of High Sensitivity, otherwise known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity.

I am thrilled to announce that Julie has started a very reasonably-priced membership site, Sensitive Empowerment.

This global community will not only give you a way to continue to get some of Julie’s best teachings, but also to learn from experts she will interview. For instance, a naturopathic doctor will be talking about “How to Care for Your Highly Sensitive Body.” Replays of interviews, QA with Julie will also be available.

Perhaps one of the most valuable aspects of membership, however, is the community you will connect to. Validation of our trait is one of our main needs as Highly Sensitive People. Because our nervous system is wired differently, we experience the world differently than “the other 80%” of the world. If our way of being in the world was never validated, we can easily come to believe there’s something wrong with us. By reading other HSPs’ experiences, we realize we may be very different from 80% of the world, but we are very much like 20% of the world–the other HSPs. This can provide that “I’m OK” sense, and a feeling of belonging, that perhaps we haven’t feel much, if at all, in our lives.

Every day you get something. For instance, here’s a little tip that just came through (it struck me because being present is exactly what I’m working on):


Practice being present in the moment in everything that you’re doing today. Notice how many more energy points you have at the end of the day. Every time you practice bringing yourself to the present moment you are strengthening that brain ability to pause and reflect instead of react.


You can join here for a free trial period. As they say: “Try it, you’ll like it!”



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“Editing” Your Life

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From the beginning of my career, editing has been a huge part of it. I was an English major, and started working in publishing after graduation. My first job was a dream: I edited radio programs, little mini-interviews with authors, and wrote scripts for the announcer. It was the precursor to what are now podcasts; this publisher was way ahead of the times!

(A side note of historical interest: Though the publisher was ahead of the times, the technology was not. We had the author interviews transcribed on paper, I would edit on paper, and the technician would actually splice the tape. I still chuckle when I think of how we used to do it.)

After the radio program was discontinued, I became a marketing writer, then a magazine editor, then I moved to editing books. My final formal book project was editing The Healing Code for Dr. Alex Loyd, which changed the course of my career. Yet because writing is still a big part of my life, I still find myself editing.

Which got me to thinking about how it’s a good idea to be editing our very lives, on an ongoing basis. To be most effective in our work, to be happy and fulfilled, to gain clarity on the meaning and direction of our life, we regularly need to do the same things I do to edit a book or article.

When editing a piece of writing, the goal is clarity. The goal of editing your life is the same: to get clarity on your direction and on the meaning of your life. To evaluate what is necessary, what is unnecessary or even joy-sucking. To communicate your unique “message” to the world in a way that can inspire, challenge, engage, or otherwise give perspective to others.

Isn’t that what we all want?

So how do you go about editing your life?

When I edit an article, I first look at the overall structure. Is there an overall theme? Where is this article going? What point is the author trying to make?

Similarly, it’s good to take stock of our lives every now and then. What do you want to have accomplished in your life, in various areas? Are your daily actions supporting that? Are the foundations of the different aspects of your life–relationships (God, self, other people), work, finances, health, physical environment–supporting your deepest values?

If not, it’s time to edit! Time to cut out. Time to tighten up. Time to rearrange. Time to clarify.

After looking at the overall structure of an article, adding or subtracting ideas and rearranging them, I then look at any obvious things that can be cut or need to be changed.

Sentences that say the same thing. Unnecessary words. Words that aren’t precise or powerful enough.

Similarly, the easiest way to start editing your life would be to cut out the obvious clutter. This clutter may be physical, mental, emotional, or even relational.

The key question to ask when decluttering your home, according to Marie Kondo, author of the famous The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, is: “Does this bring me joy?” When editing your life, I suggest the simple question: “Is this [object/relationship/task/food/activity/thought pattern] life-giving, either to myself or others?”

When in doubt, cut it out! (Or modify it. Some relationships can’t be cut out completely, but they can be renegotiated in some way to be more life-giving.)

Once the obvious errors of punctuation are fixed, I look to the finer points of grammar, usage, punctuation, style, etc. As you clear the clutter in your life, look for the finer points, the details of your life. I suggest picking a particular area that seems the least life-giving.

Here’s where asking the question from The One Thing is helpful: “What’s the One Thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”

For instance, for me, I realized that getting to bed earlier would make me feel better, be more productive, and safeguard my health. So I am focusing on what I need to “edit out” of my life so that I can get a little more sleep. (In my case, it’s listening to online summits and podcasts at night. More information means more to process, which takes time and energy that needs to go toward rest.)

Use both the One Thing question and the “Is this life-giving?” question to shine light on what is most important, and edit your life down to the essentials that make for a life of productivity, purpose, joy and substance . . .  A life that matters. 

Heart issues–the (often unconscious) negative images, memories, and beliefs–are definitely things to be “edited out.” If you would like help with that process, feel free to check out my coaching at










What Is “Goovil” to You?

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I have invented a new word: “Goovil.”

It refers to anything that can be either good or evil, depending on how you use it or your attitude toward it.

It is something that is Good in your life if you are its master . . . and Evil if it has mastered you.

It’s also something that you can’t get away from. Something you have to deal with somehow in your everyday life.

Such as eating. Spending money. And, for most of us, dealing with technology.

In fact, I invented the word as I thought about my relationship to technology.

Technology can be very Good. I could not do the work I do without technology. It allows me to meet with clients from all over the world (36 countries to date, including China!)–right from my own home. How cool is that?

Without technology, I could not run my business, since it’s largely Internet based. I’m switching to an amazing platform (Kartra) that does things that make my head spin.

Most jobs nowadays depend heavily on technology.

So technology can be very Good.

When might turn it to the (E)vil part of Goovil?

When IT masters ME.

Below are some examples of how I try to take back control when technology has mastered me.

MASTERED: When I check my email first thing in the morning, before I set up the day the way I WANT, so that “other people’s issues” take over.

MASTERING: Check my email after I have done my “morning routine” which includes setting my daily intention, reading Scripture, doing Halo and my healing work, and taking my prayer walk.

MASTERED: When my meditation time is interrupted and essentially wrecked by text messages I’ve allowed to distract me.

MASTERING: Keep phone off during morning routine and other key times.

MASTERED: When I hit a technological snag and keep trying to solve it to the point of wanting to throw a rock through my computer monitor.

MASTERING: Walk away for 10 minutes, pray for a solution and do some mindless task. Usually by the time I get back to it, I’ve figured out a solution. (My husband calls me “the queen of workaround” because usually I do figure out a solution. I look at these frustrations as God’s way of keeping my brain healthy by allowing all these novel problems to come up!)

MASTERED: Checking my phone while eating dinner with the family.

MASTERING: No cell phones at the table! And they are on airplane or silent mode even when in the next room so as not to distract.

MASTERED: Getting a poor night’s sleep because I’ve been staring at a screen before bedtime. (The blue light blocks melatonin production.)

MASTERING: No screens two hours before bedtime, or if necessary to look, I use blue-blocking glasses.

MASTERED: Frittering away my most focused work time by having to deal with some technological issue (often an update that I have to do before I can proceed to do what I was trying to do).

MASTERING: If possible, I make a note to myself to get back to that or, if it’s necessary to do it right then to get on with what I need to do, I do my breathing exercise to keep my nervous system balanced despite the frustration.

Notice how much self-discipline it takes to master technology? I don’t say that I master all these things perfectly myself. It’s a constant challenge. I look at it as another opportunity to grow stronger self-discipline muscles.

Which makes even the “-vil” part of Goovil more good than evil!

What is “Goovil” in your life? How can you turn the “evil” aspects to “good” by mastering it? Comment below and share!

If you would like help with some “goovil” aspect of your life, check out my coaching at

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Do you believe a lie?

Of course you do. We all do. We all believe many lies.

And every lie we believe is the source of an issue in our lives.

According to the account in the first book of the Bible, Genesis 3, the whole world is under a curse because our first parents, Adam and Eve, believed a lie. They believed the serpent’s lie that God was holding back from them by not allowing them to eat from the tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.

This worldview says that we were never meant to know evil. We were only meant to enjoy the goodness of all the other trees of the Garden of Eden that God had given them “freely to enjoy.”

When Adam and Eve “fell” because they believed the serpent’s lie, all of creation was affected.

The human race has been living by lies ever since, which is why the world is not perfect. When we believe a lie, we are affected in every area of our being: body, soul, and spirit. Starting with spirit. 

God had said, “In the day that you eat of [the forbidden tree], you will die.” Adam and Eve did not die physically that day. They did die spiritually.

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I tend to get reflective every September, because it was in September 2007, the Saturday of Labor Day weekend, that I had a TIA (mini-stroke) that ended up changing the course of my life–very much for the better, but in an entirely unexpected way.

The full story is told here, but the short version is that as the right side of my body was suddenly paralyzed, I slurred to my husband, “I think I’m having a stroke.” He, my daughter and I hopped into the car and he drove us to the hospital, 4 minutes away (when there’s no train coming). By the time I got to the hospital, I was already recovering.

Somehow I never felt worried; I had a settled peace that I would be fine. And indeed, in less than an hour I seemed to be my normal self.

Of course multiple tests were run. It being Labor Day weekend, not much was done until Monday. I remember being told Monday night I would have to stay up all night so that they could run some brain test. I tried valiantly to do so, but I had never pulled an all-nigher, ever, not even in college.

Come Tuesday, I was told that they were sorry, they couldn’t run that test that day, I would have to stay up all night AGAIN.

I flat out told them, “I am not doing that. You either do the test today, or it won’t get done. I CANNOT do that!” (Honestly, were they CRAZY? Did they know anything about sleep deprivation?)

Next thing I knew, they were wheeling me down to do whatever test required me to be in a sleepless, nearly drunken state. Read More→

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I got off the phone feeling really pleased with the conversation: My friend  had decided to start coming to the Bible study that has so fed me spiritually.

I’d been telling Louise for years about how much I love the unique way Cathy Deddo has of opening the Word of God so that we actually encounter the living God. It’s not just head stuff, it gets to the heart somehow. People who have moved away still attend the Bible study remotely, through Skype and the audios I record for us. We’re all hooked!

I chuckled as I remembered how I started coming to Cathy’s study. My friend Nancy had also bugged me for years before I finally started coming.  That was back maybe 10 years ago, at least.

Thinking of Nancy suddenly brought a wave of grief. She had been killed very tragically in May 2018, and the wounds are still somewhat fresh. The special times Nancy and I had driving together to and from the Bible study were a big part of the spiritual and emotional nourishment of the whole experience. She was like a mother to me.

Right after the wave of grief and sadness, these words were impressed upon my spirit (that’s the best way I can say it when this sort of thing happens):

“Just because it isn’t the same, doesn’t mean it

can’t be good.”

Just because I could no longer go to Bible study with Nancy, doesn’t mean it won’t be good going with Louise. Immediately I got back to feeling glad that Louise and I would be sharing this experience together.

I realized this principal applies to other losses as well. Just because we lost our basement contents–including our wedding pictures–due to a flood, doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy having less stuff and a spacious place to store what I have.

I know someone who is going through a heart-wrenching divorce. All she ever wanted was a family, and now that dream has been shattered. But perhaps it can be true for her, that just because she doesn’t have the exact family she wanted, doesn’t mean that her life can’t be good in a different way.

Just because I don’t really have a biological family near me, doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy community in another way.

Just because I can no longer talk to my mother like before due to her two strokes, doesn’t mean what we can say now can’t be good in its own way.

It occurs to me that to embrace the now, I have to be willing to let go of what was. I had to let go of wanting what I had with Nancy, so I could embrace what I will have with Louise. I have to let go of all the “stuff” I lost in the basement, so I can enjoy the simplicity of life with less stuff.

I have to let go of what I had with my mom so that I can be fully open to what is now possible. Seeing a loved one age and lose their faculties is difficult, and we do have to grieve the loss. But always there is hope: “. . . doesn’t mean the new can’t be good too.”

Letting go of what was, to receive what is. Not a new concept, of course. Just a reminder.  Where does “just because . . .  doesn’t mean . . .” apply to you and your losses? 

If you would like help in healing from your losses so you can fully embrace the new “what is,” consider coaching to find and heal the negative memories, beliefs, and feelings attached to “the keywords to your heart.”



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Update on EMFs and 5G

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After being unwillingly forced to investigate about the possible dangers of electromagnetic frequencies (EMFs) after an electronic gas meter was installed (against my wishes), I emerge from a week of research with what I hope is a more balanced perspective.

Bottom line for me so far: You have to test your own situation before you get hysterical about things. I bought a Trifield TF2 meter which tests different frequencies (Radio Frequency, Electric voltage, and Magnetic, which is the induced current), in both standard (to measure against “standards,” which the owner’s manual found online gives you), and “weighted,” which will display the measurement of fields in which the higher frequencies are counted more heavily. 

If this meter is accurate (Amazon reviews make me wonder; how can I know?), I don’t have much to worry about in my home.

UNLESS of course, I develop EMF Hypersensitivity. To me, the jury is still out about whether we each have a personal threshold beyond which we display symptoms.  An engineer I spoke with explained the ranges of concern, and my readings fall below that.  I did remove the iHome next to my bed due to high levels of EMFs.

The engineer also explained that the electric “smart meters” were of more concern than the gas or water ones, because they pulse more frequently. However, testing it with my EMF meter, I found that the gas meter, at least the day I tested it, pulsed around every two minutes.  And it’s the erratic pulsation that seems to be problematic to our cells. Much depends on where the smart meter is located. In my case, thankfully the electric meter is outside the garage door, and not near any bedrooms. Proximity is a big deal–or so they say.
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I didn’t want to be writing this at all. But something happened recently that is of such concern, not only to me but to just about every person in the developed world, that I had to say something.

What happened: the gas company came by and told my husband, who was out doing gardening, that they were going to change out the gas meter as part of their “Meter Modernization Program.” They gave him a flyer that told all about this program.

My husband, who struggles with memory issues, did not connect this with my rants about “smart meters.” “They did not call it a smart meter,” he said.  (Memory loss, fatigue, sleep disturbances, brain fog/difficulty concentrating,  light sensitivity, anxiety are some of the symptoms the Austrian Medical Association call telltale signs of EMF overexposure. My husband already has these. You can perhaps understand my concern about exposing him to yet more EMFs, when we’ve been doing so much to limit exposure.)

By the time I got outside, the gas company installers were just finishing putting the new meter on. I said, “Take it off! I do not want this.”

“It’s too late,” the woman said smugly. “We already put it on, and can’t take it off. Besides, he gave permission,” pointing to my husband.

I asked her if she knew that what the frequencies from the device do to human cells. “Oh, it’s just like your cell phone,” she said. “There’s this little antenna on the meter, and it sends signals every 4-6 hours to the tower–“ Read More→

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Why Not to Judge

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Do you ever struggle to forgive yourself, or another person?

Do you struggle with judging others–or yourself?

In working with hundreds of clients from all over the world, one of the wonderful lessons I’ve learned was not to judge–myself or others.

Here are four reasons why not to judge, that I hope will foster a more compassionate attitude toward yourself and others.

1. So much of our past governs our behavior. We can judge the behaviors as wrong, but have compassion for the person, because we don’t know what that person has gone through to bring him or her to that point. Just think about the times you were judged, and you felt like saying, “If only you really knew me, you’d know why I am this way.” When people open up to me and share their stories, invariably I’m moved to compassion and admiration, not judgment. What some people have had to deal with is truly heart-wrenching.
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