How to Fully Forgive

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Dr. Alex Loyd's "Spiritual Law of Nature" Cutting Edge  message from 7/13/11 on unforgiveness was brilliant, and really got me to thinking.

He said that unforgiveness is one of the biggest things that can keep us stuck.

Furthermore, we may THINK we've forgiven, yet we really haven't.

The acid test of whether we truly have forgiven someone is whether we are able to 100% unconditionally accept the person. (Not the act, but the person.) If we cannot, we have not really forgiven.

(Ouch!)

By this test, I have had to revisit a person or two I thought I had forgiven. If I'm truly honest, I have not forgiven because I still do not accept them unconditionally.

One of my clients reminded me of something that may help you get to that place of  "unconditional acceptance of the one you're forgiving" (whether it's another person, yourself, or even God). If it's difficult to just "let the issue go," let it go somewhere.

Or more precisely, to Someone. Namely, God.

See, if we think that forgiving means letting go of the issue, and that's it, then it violates this innate sense of justice we have. We're reluctant to "give it up" because we feel that justice should somehow be done.

And so it should. It's just that we're not to be the ones to execute it.

We would mess it up, because we don't have all the facts.  There is One who does know all, and has a keener sense of justice than we do. Keener, and more accurate because it's based on perfect knowledge.  The Bible says we're not to take revenge or try to "pay back" anyone ourselves, but leave it up to God:  "Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord" (Romans 12:19).

I once read a novel that had a huge impact on my ability to forgive.  It was called The Peaceable Kingdom by Jan de Hartog. The author did a masterful job with point of view that I never forgot. He would switch to different characters' point of view, and you'd see how one little bit of information that one character had, and another didn't, changed the whole picture.  I think that one book has done more to help me develop compassion and forgiveness than anything else.  You can't tell what little bit of history about a person might change the whole picture, if only you knew.

God knows.  Only he searches the motivations of a person's heart and knows all the history. He's the one who is perfectly loving and just.  He's the one to whom we can entrust our issue as we forgive.

Of course, if your issue is with forgiving God, then you need to work on your image of him so that it's a true image and not some distortion. Scripture suggests you focus on how much God has forgiven you. If you haven't ever read the parable of the unforgiving servant, you might want to take a look at Matthew 18:21-35. It's a great "perspective corrective" when you are trying to forgive someone else. It appeals to our sense of both justice and mercy, and helps us understand God's viewpoint.

Which is what we really want, isn't it? God's viewpoint is the only sure reality, everything else is merely human opinion….

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Vic Mesco

Diane ;
Since  I attended  of  lectures At the Hindale Wellness Center several months ago,
by Author of book "Forgive For Good", I can now honestly,.without pngs of of  guilty
conciousness forgive a person for any act comnitted{ no matter how dastardly},
but I will never condone the action.
This author { whose name escapes me, but I can get it for you} really answered
my prayers,

Bonnie

I think that since God created energy and allows people of all philosophies to discover the mysteries, we can rest in the fact that it all belongs to Him and give God the credit and enjoy his creation and benefit from it. Counterfits can only copy what is real. God needs to get credit for what he created and I believe He has been saying that we need to take back territory that belongs to Him and us and not give credit to others who do not acknowledge Him in their hearts. Those are just thoughts I have on the… Read more »

sherry stout

This is really good. Thank you so much.  I haven't continued with the healing codes because of an inner conflict with the whole energy point exercises. I loved the information in the book but my heart sank when I got to the exercises. They seem to  come from an eastern religion and at this point it puts a check in my spirit. I do appreciate this article though…thank you .

Ida Munson

I think we have plenty to learn from Eastern religions and the Masters – Ghandi, Khrishnamurti etc.  Healing using energies is not new – consider laser treatment which results in kidney stones being reduced to fine particles, then easily eliminated. This is by means of energy waves. Other energy healings also,  now  have a scientific explanation.  Do not be put off.  You may not understand how your mobile 'phone works but I guess you use one!

Aileen Deaton

Thank you so much for this email, Diane!  As it happens, Forgiveness is probably my #1 life issue, and I am in The Healing Code Communities and working on this issue this week. 
I will read the book you mentioned as soon as I can find a copy, and I will, of course, listen to Dr. Loyd's message from Wednesday.
Thank you for being a valued part of my own healing and Healing Codes journey.
Aileen

Thank you for sharing, I also believe that if Humanity were to take into consideration that we are extensions of God and we can Co-Create with our "Creator" then we would all relax a little bit and focus on what is Good To the Benefit of All.  Fair, Sweet and Tender for all of Humanity, and all Life on this Planet.  Let it Be!!

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