3 Lessons from Clients from All Over the World

Tonight I met with my first client from China to do a Coach-Guided Healing Code.

It got me to thinking about the hundreds of clients I’ve worked with over the past 9 years of being a certified Healing Codes Coach-Practitioner, and what I’ve learned and observed.

First, I have the most wonderful clients in the world. Surprisingly, the vast majority of my clients are also Highly Sensitive. It’s surprising only because Highly Sensitive People only make up around 20% of the population, yet they comprise at least 80% of my clients. Perhaps it’s because The Healing Codes are so attractive to HSPs. It is a gentle process that involves meditation–an approach well-suited to HSPs.

With only one exception (more on that below), all of my clients are remarkably motivated to heal. Many of them have had overwhelming obstacles to overcome–abuse of all kinds, tremendous health challenges, financial hardships, and difficult relationship issues.

Yet they are not giving up! They are not victims. And, because of their commitment to their own healing, they do overcome. Many have dramatic breakthroughs.

These clients bolster my faith in the human spirit. Most people do want to be healthy and happy. God put that desire into us, and I believe he works with us to bring that about. With that commitment and help from God, it’s amazing how much people can overcome.

The one exception? A client with ALS whose doctor brought him to me as a last resort. The doctor warned me that she had little hope of his recovering, and soon I learned why. The man was completely devoid of love for anyone, including himself. I think we got through two sessions. I doubt he ever did his custom codes. He died of his illness within a few weeks of when I talked to him. His doctor said she wasn’t surprised, but had hoped that something could break through to him. Without his commitment to himself, however, no help could get through.

Second, I learned that the same heart beats in everyone, no matter where we are from.

I’ve worked with clients from 37 countries now. (Bless the technology that makes that possible!) We are from all different ethnic, cultural, religious backgrounds. We have different beliefs. Yet … the “heart issues” are always the same. “Fear. Not good enough. Not loved. Not lovable.” Oh, we get into the particular nuances, which are important. But the same “heart issues” plague all of us.

Third, there’s no denying it–there is evil in the world. Much of our suffering comes not from our own evil, but the evil actions of other people and systemic evil in organizations.

When I hear the stories of sadistic abuse, gross neglect, manipulation by narcissistic parents or partners–my heart aches, but also is angry. I am not one of those people who believe people are all good. I believe we are all made in God’s image, and will always bear the stamp of that–which is why we are capable of good, and why I believe we do have choice.

But too often we choose selfishness, pride, our own way. Then everyone suffers, including ourselves. I am angry that the suffering occurs. It ought not to be!

And it need not be . . . because we can make little choices for good, that lead to big rewards over time.

One of my favorite authors is C.S. Lewis, who wrote both fiction and nonfiction books and had an amazing way of making spiritual truths clear.

In one of his fiction books, a little allegorical piece called The Great Divorce, he imagines a busload of spirits taking a trip from Hell to Heaven.

The narrator, who was part of the busload from Hell, asks his mentor, one of the Solid People in Heaven, about a female spirit who was passing by, grumbling all the way.

The narrator was moved by pity for her. She hardly seemed like someone who should be condemned to Hell forever. She was just someone who felt she’d been dealt a bad hand in life. “She isn’t wicked: she’s only a silly, garrulous old woman who has got into a habit of grumbling, and one feels that a little kindness, and rest, and change would put her all right,” he told the guide. Can’t she be saved?

The guide said, “That depends on whether she’s a grumbler, or a grumble.”

A grumbler is one who grumbles. There is still a person there. There is still hope.

But if the person has so engaged in grumbling over time that she becomes a grumble–there is no person left to save.

As C.S. Lewis has his George MacDonald character say, “If there is a real woman–even the least trace of one–still there inside the grumbling, it can be brought to life again. If there’s one wee spark under all those ashes, we’ll blow it till the whole pile is red and clear. But if there’s nothing but ashes we’ll not go on blowing them in our own eyes forever. They must be swept up.”

My clients may “grumble”–because often there is reason to. But only one in the nearly thousand I’ve ever worked with had seemed to “become a grumble.” (Only God can judge for sure.)

My fulfillment and joy comes in finding the “wee spark under all those ashes” and “blowing on it till the whole pile is red and clear.”

If you would like help in healing the “ashes” and uncovering the “wee spark,” check out my coaching packages at https://healingcodescoaching.com.