Do you believe a lie?

Of course you do. We all do. We all believe many lies.

And every lie we believe is the source of an issue in our lives.

According to the account in the first book of the Bible, Genesis 3, the whole world is under a curse because our first parents, Adam and Eve, believed a lie. They believed the serpent’s lie that God was holding back from them by not allowing them to eat from the tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.

This worldview says that we were never meant to know evil. We were only meant to enjoy the goodness of all the other trees of the Garden of Eden that God had given them “freely to enjoy.”

When Adam and Eve “fell” because they believed the serpent’s lie, all of creation was affected.

The human race has been living by lies ever since, which is why the world is not perfect. When we believe a lie, we are affected in every area of our being: body, soul, and spirit. Starting with spirit. 

God had said, “In the day that you eat of [the forbidden tree], you will die.” Adam and Eve did not die physically that day. They did die spiritually.

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I tend to get reflective every September, because it was in September 2007, the Saturday of Labor Day weekend, that I had a TIA (mini-stroke) that ended up changing the course of my life–very much for the better, but in an entirely unexpected way.

The full story is told here, but the short version is that as the right side of my body was suddenly paralyzed, I slurred to my husband, “I think I’m having a stroke.” He, my daughter and I hopped into the car and he drove us to the hospital, 4 minutes away (when there’s no train coming). By the time I got to the hospital, I was already recovering.

Somehow I never felt worried; I had a settled peace that I would be fine. And indeed, in less than an hour I seemed to be my normal self.

Of course multiple tests were run. It being Labor Day weekend, not much was done until Monday. I remember being told Monday night I would have to stay up all night so that they could run some brain test. I tried valiantly to do so, but I had never pulled an all-nigher, ever, not even in college.

Come Tuesday, I was told that they were sorry, they couldn’t run that test that day, I would have to stay up all night AGAIN.

I flat out told them, “I am not doing that. You either do the test today, or it won’t get done. I CANNOT do that!” (Honestly, were they CRAZY? Did they know anything about sleep deprivation?)

Next thing I knew, they were wheeling me down to do whatever test required me to be in a sleepless, nearly drunken state. Read More→

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I got off the phone feeling really pleased with the conversation: My friend  had decided to start coming to the Bible study that has so fed me spiritually.

I’d been telling Louise for years about how much I love the unique way Cathy Deddo has of opening the Word of God so that we actually encounter the living God. It’s not just head stuff, it gets to the heart somehow. People who have moved away still attend the Bible study remotely, through Skype and the audios I record for us. We’re all hooked!

I chuckled as I remembered how I started coming to Cathy’s study. My friend Nancy had also bugged me for years before I finally started coming.  That was back maybe 10 years ago, at least.

Thinking of Nancy suddenly brought a wave of grief. She had been killed very tragically in May 2018, and the wounds are still somewhat fresh. The special times Nancy and I had driving together to and from the Bible study were a big part of the spiritual and emotional nourishment of the whole experience. She was like a mother to me.

Right after the wave of grief and sadness, these words were impressed upon my spirit (that’s the best way I can say it when this sort of thing happens):

“Just because it isn’t the same, doesn’t mean it

can’t be good.”

Just because I could no longer go to Bible study with Nancy, doesn’t mean it won’t be good going with Louise. Immediately I got back to feeling glad that Louise and I would be sharing this experience together.

I realized this principal applies to other losses as well. Just because we lost our basement contents–including our wedding pictures–due to a flood, doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy having less stuff and a spacious place to store what I have.

I know someone who is going through a heart-wrenching divorce. All she ever wanted was a family, and now that dream has been shattered. But perhaps it can be true for her, that just because she doesn’t have the exact family she wanted, doesn’t mean that her life can’t be good in a different way.

Just because I don’t really have a biological family near me, doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy community in another way.

Just because I can no longer talk to my mother like before due to her two strokes, doesn’t mean what we can say now can’t be good in its own way.

It occurs to me that to embrace the now, I have to be willing to let go of what was. I had to let go of wanting what I had with Nancy, so I could embrace what I will have with Louise. I have to let go of all the “stuff” I lost in the basement, so I can enjoy the simplicity of life with less stuff.

I have to let go of what I had with my mom so that I can be fully open to what is now possible. Seeing a loved one age and lose their faculties is difficult, and we do have to grieve the loss. But always there is hope: “. . . doesn’t mean the new can’t be good too.”

Letting go of what was, to receive what is. Not a new concept, of course. Just a reminder.  Where does “just because . . .  doesn’t mean . . .” apply to you and your losses? 

If you would like help in healing from your losses so you can fully embrace the new “what is,” consider coaching to find and heal the negative memories, beliefs, and feelings attached to “the keywords to your heart.”



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After being unwillingly forced to investigate about the possible dangers of electromagnetic frequencies (EMFs) after an electronic gas meter was installed (against my wishes), I emerge from a week of research with what I hope is a more balanced perspective.

Bottom line for me so far: You have to test your own situation before you get hysterical about things. I bought a Trifield TF2 meter which tests different frequencies (Radio Frequency, Electric voltage, and Magnetic, which is the induced current), in both standard (to measure against “standards,” which the owner’s manual found online gives you), and “weighted,” which will display the measurement of fields in which the higher frequencies are counted more heavily. 

If this meter is accurate (Amazon reviews make me wonder; how can I know?), I don’t have much to worry about in my home.

UNLESS of course, I develop EMF Hypersensitivity. To me, the jury is still out about whether we each have a personal threshold beyond which we display symptoms.  An engineer I spoke with explained the ranges of concern, and my readings fall below that.  I did remove the iHome next to my bed due to high levels of EMFs.

The engineer also explained that the electric “smart meters” were of more concern than the gas or water ones, because they pulse more frequently. However, testing it with my EMF meter, I found that the gas meter, at least the day I tested it, pulsed around every two minutes.  And it’s the erratic pulsation that seems to be problematic to our cells. Much depends on where the smart meter is located. In my case, thankfully the electric meter is outside the garage door, and not near any bedrooms. Proximity is a big deal–or so they say.
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I didn’t want to be writing this at all. But something happened recently that is of such concern, not only to me but to just about every person in the developed world, that I had to say something.

What happened: the gas company came by and told my husband, who was out doing gardening, that they were going to change out the gas meter as part of their “Meter Modernization Program.” They gave him a flyer that told all about this program.

My husband, who struggles with memory issues, did not connect this with my rants about “smart meters.” “They did not call it a smart meter,” he said.  (Memory loss, fatigue, sleep disturbances, brain fog/difficulty concentrating,  light sensitivity, anxiety are some of the symptoms the Austrian Medical Association call telltale signs of EMF overexposure. My husband already has these. You can perhaps understand my concern about exposing him to yet more EMFs, when we’ve been doing so much to limit exposure.)

By the time I got outside, the gas company installers were just finishing putting the new meter on. I said, “Take it off! I do not want this.”

“It’s too late,” the woman said smugly. “We already put it on, and can’t take it off. Besides, he gave permission,” pointing to my husband.

I asked her if she knew that what the frequencies from the device do to human cells. “Oh, it’s just like your cell phone,” she said. “There’s this little antenna on the meter, and it sends signals every 4-6 hours to the tower–“ Read More→

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Why Not to Judge

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Do you ever struggle to forgive yourself, or another person?

Do you struggle with judging others–or yourself?

In working with hundreds of clients from all over the world, one of the wonderful lessons I’ve learned was not to judge–myself or others.

Here are four reasons why not to judge, that I hope will foster a more compassionate attitude toward yourself and others.

1. So much of our past governs our behavior. We can judge the behaviors as wrong, but have compassion for the person, because we don’t know what that person has gone through to bring him or her to that point. Just think about the times you were judged, and you felt like saying, “If only you really knew me, you’d know why I am this way.” When people open up to me and share their stories, invariably I’m moved to compassion and admiration, not judgment. What some people have had to deal with is truly heart-wrenching.
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Tonight I met with my first client from China to do a Coach-Guided Healing Code.

It got me to thinking about the hundreds of clients I’ve worked with over the past 9 years of being a certified Healing Codes Coach-Practitioner, and what I’ve learned and observed.

First, I have the most wonderful clients in the world. Surprisingly, the vast majority of my clients are also Highly Sensitive. It’s surprising only because Highly Sensitive People only make up around 20% of the population, yet they comprise at least 80% of my clients. Perhaps it’s because The Healing Codes are so attractive to HSPs. It is a gentle process that involves meditation–an approach well-suited to HSPs.

With only one exception (more on that below), all of my clients are remarkably motivated to heal. Many of them have had overwhelming obstacles to overcome–abuse of all kinds, tremendous health challenges, financial hardships, and difficult relationship issues.

Yet they are not giving up! They are not victims. And, because of their commitment to their own healing, they do overcome. Many have dramatic breakthroughs.

These clients bolster my faith in the human spirit. Most people do want to be healthy and happy. God put that desire into us, and I believe he works with us to bring that about. With that commitment and help from God, it’s amazing how much people can overcome.

The one exception? A client with ALS whose doctor brought him to me as a last resort. The doctor warned me that she had little hope of his recovering, and soon I learned why. The man was completely devoid of love for anyone, including himself. I think we got through two sessions. I doubt he ever did his custom codes. He died of his illness within a few weeks of when I talked to him. His doctor said she wasn’t surprised, but had hoped that something could break through to him. Without his commitment to himself, however, no help could get through. Read More→

I recently attended Julie Bjelland’s class, “7 Steps to Embody the Gifts of Your Sensitivity” and I have to say, it has caused some major positive shifts in me.

Rarely has anything had this kind of effect on me so quickly. Putting into practice just a couple of Julie’s suggestions has also helped my husband (who is also Highly Sensitive). So I just have to tell you about this.

Julie calls herself a “personal trainer for the brain,” and it’s refreshing to see her science-based approach. In the first class, Julie explained how the HSP’s brain is different (more activity in amygdala and insula, which is why we process things so deeply, feel and perceive everything), and how to activate the calming centers in the brain.

She gave us very specific but easy things to do to “drain the container” of all we take in–which is much more than non-HSPs. She explained why we need to process our experiences, how to do that–and what will happen if we don’t. Read More→

In an earlier post, I talked about a way of breathing recommended by HeartMath, in which you breathe with awareness and appreciation into your heart area. This helps your body get into “coherence,” where everything is in balance as measured by Heart Rate Variability.

HeartMath recommends a paced breathing, e.g. 5 breaths in, 5 breaths out, in an even rhythm.

Other people recommend breathing out slightly longer than breathing in,  claiming it does something in the brain to turn off the stress response. For instance, I heard a teleseminar for Highly Sensitive People in which Julie Bjelland shared a breathing technique that uses the 4-2-7 rhythm: breathe in for a count of 4, hold for 2 seconds, exhale for a count of 7.

Dr. Andrew Weil advocates the 4-7-8 rhythm as best, which is what I’ve been using most.

Other people suggest a 7-11 or 5-8 breathing pattern–no holding of the breath.

I thought it would be fun to test all these techniques with my EmWave, a portable device for measuring Heart Rate Variability, the test used to measure the coherence of the autonomic nervous system.

Which technique got me into the “green zone” (coherence) quickest (like the “appreciation graph above), which sustained it best? Read on! Read More→

Do you know your purpose in life?

Health experts and researchers say that knowing one’s purpose in life is a key factor in longevity.  It’s also vital if you’re fighting disease. In The Healing Code, coauthor Dr. Ben Johnson shared how his sense of calling and purpose helped him overcome ALS.

If you aren’t sure yet of your unique purpose in life, consider this exercise.

Ask yourself: When I am at my best, what am I doing? When I have felt the most satisfied with myself, what did I just do?

What you did–the action–is going to be a verb.  That verb often can describe your very essence.

Buckminster Fuller said, “God is a verb.” That is biblically accurate. When God revealed himself to Moses, he said he was the ultimate “be” verb: “I AM WHO I AM” (Exodus 3:14).

God’s verb is “I AM.”

Descartes is famous for saying, “I think, therefore I am.” His verb was “think.”

Your verb may come to you in a flash … or you may have to think about it for a while.  Here’s the key question:

What is the thread that runs through most of what you

do, that encompasses the essence not only of what you

do, but who you are?

Many people I’ve discussed this with know their verb quickly. But don’t feel bad if you do not know. Just keep pondering the above questions, until you begin to see it. Ask people who know you well: “What is it that you most value in me?” Often the Verb is something you do so naturally, you’re not even aware of what it is. You think everyone can just ____ (fill in the blank with what comes naturally to you), but they can’t.

My verb is “connect.” I love to connect people with ideas that will inspire them, enlighten them, change them.

I love to connect people with other people who will inspire, teach, encourage, motivate or enlightened them.

And I love to connect people with resources that will make their life easier and better in some way.

This is the thread that runs through everything I have done in my many-faceted career. When I was a book publishing coach and consultant, that’s what I was all about. And now as a healing coach, that is what people say they value most in me. In fact, I did these things in this very post–without even trying! Did you notice?

Your verb will characterize not only your career/work, but your relationships as well. As a parent, connect is what instinctively do. I also find myself trying to connect friends with ideas, people and resources that will make their lives better.

So that’s my verb. What’s yours?

Take a few moments to reflect on this.

It’s at the heart of what you have to offer the world, after all. It is your unique purpose for being on the planet, what you’ve been wired to contribute. And the best part is–your verb is what comes most naturally to you!

If you would like help identifying your verb, and removing any blocks to expressing it, consider booking a coaching session or more to explore this vital source of health and happiness.



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