A friend of mine said something to me I’ve been mulling over ever since.

This friend, Clare Masters, has had incredible health challenges (read her gofundme posts here). Botched surgeries, constant pain, and the pressure of trying to live on $4000/year could easily have stolen her life.

While every day is a challenge for Clare, you would never know it if you talked to her. She is always positive, always looking for ways to give back. She’s the kind of person you want to help out as much as you can. She never complains (though if you ask and really want to know, she’ll be honest), and she’s always looking for ways to give to you.

At a recent hospital stay, a nurse asked her how she is able to stay so positive. Why wasn’t she bitter about the cards life handed her? Read More→

Have you ever seen a loved one headed for a train wreck, and you tried to warn them but they wouldn’t listen?

Agonized over just such a situation with several family members, I prayed about what to do. Every instinct in me wanted to rescue them.

As I prayed, these words came to me: “You must allow others the dignity of living with their own choices.”

Wow! I would not have thought of it that way. I believe they were God’s words impressed upon my heart.

I believe that because those twelve words set me free and gave me great peace–which is what God’s true messages always do for me. Also, the tone was gentle, almost sorrowful. As if God knew that living by these words could cause pain, as well as freedom.

I shared these words with a friend, and she remarked, “How kind of God.”

Yes. It was not God saying punitively, “People have to live with the consequences of their choices.”

No.  It was all about allowing them the dignity of living with their own choices.

Which, as I thought about it, is what God does with us. That is what love must do; it will not force itself on another person.

I shared this with a client, and it led to a breakthrough for him. Read More→

The subtitle of The Healing Code promises it heals the source of any relationship issue. How does it do this?

First, remember that The Healing Codes only address issues of the heart, which is based on what King Solomon said in Proverbs 4:23: All the issues of life flow from what’s in the heart.

As best we can understand, The Healing Codes change the frequency of the negative images and beliefs which are stored as cellular memories. When that happens, the physiological stress is removed that caused you to view things in a negative light.

When you see things more as they are, rather than with the overlay of past hurts, you are able to live more in the present moment. You become happier and more peaceful. This can’t help but affect your relationships. One client told me, “I’m much more patient and peaceful with my children, and that’s really improved our relationships.”

Also, The Healing Codes focus you on key relationship issues, such as forgiveness, unhealthy beliefs, harmful actions (the three inhibitors to healing), as well as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, trust (a huge issue in relationships), humility, self-control. All of these obviously affect how you relate to others.

As you resolve your love or trust issues, for instance, you will become more loving and people will want to love you back. As humility and kindness characterize you, people will be drawn to you. Someone told one of my clients, “You have such a peace about you. I just like being near you.”

It was the changes in me and my improved relationships within the family that persuaded my once-skeptical husband to do Healing Codes for himself. The Healing Codes have deepened our marriage because now we can share what heart issues we’re are working on, and can pray together and do Codes for each other and our children. We know each other in deeper ways as we share our healing journeys.

Another way to improve relationships is to do The Healing Codes for others. One huge, important caution: Do not do Healing Codes to get a person to be the way you want them to be. That is manipulation and it won’t work. It is a misuse of The Healing Codes.

When you do The Healing Codes for someone else, it must be in love and truth for that person’s highest good. You must do it trusting God to work in that person’s life and let God decide how to give the person what is needed.

Author Alex Loyd says that The Healing Codes are more powerful when you do them for others than if they did them for themselves, provided you do it in love and truth. The love that motivates you to do the Codes for others amplifies the power. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. (God is love, remember!)

If you would like to order custom Healing Codes for yourself or a loved one, I invite you to check out the options at  www.healingcodescoaching.com.

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If there is ONE THING I can point to that will make the most difference in healing, it’s this: consistency.

I often say, doing Healing Codes or practicing healing prayer (the two approaches I’ve found to be most effective for healing) is more like taking vitamins than taking an antibiotic.

An antibiotic is specific to addressing one kind of ailment–infection–and it can knock the infection out in usually 14 days. Then you don’t have to take it anymore.

Vitamins you need every day, because every day your body uses them up.

You need to address heart issues daily because of . . .

The Stockpile Effect

Heart issues don’t just add up, one on top of another. When you’ve experienced a trauma, your body, soul and spirit record it.  (Note: a trauma could be anything from the famous “Popsicle memories” mentioned in The Healing Code, to childhood emotional neglect and the absence of nurturing, to outright abuse.)

That’s not the end of it, though. Whenever something happens to you that’s like the original trauma, the negativity of the memory is intensified and compounded.

Thus you go through life, stockpiling, magnifying and compounding the pain of the original memory–often unconsciously.

When you interrupt that process with The Healing Codes or healing prayer, that’s a good start. But if you spent the better part of your life building on these negative memories, it’s going to take consistent, persistent effort to heal it all the way down.

You will be peeling an onion, layer after layer.

Surprising Results

The beautiful thing about the process, though, is results don’t come only when you have peeled all the layers of that onion. No, results often come quickly, often in surprising and unexpected ways. Read More→

I heard a quote from my pastor once that gave me an “aha” about what we happens when we do Healing Codes.

He said (quoting Sarah Young’s Jesus Calling), “We glance at our problems, but gaze at God.”

Yes! That’s what the process of the Healing Codes gets us to do. We “glance at the problem” just enough to identify it for the prayer of intention. Then, when pointing to the healing centers, we “gaze at God” by focusing on a “truth focus statement” or a “love picture” (all truth and love originate from God). 

I believe THIS is why most people heal so well with the Healing Codes.

Also, I believe when we “gaze at God,” we are engaging the heart/spirit, as opposed to the mind/soul. We connect with God’s own Spirit and that is where the healing comes from. Several scriptures mention that “It is the spirit that gives life.” I believe that means God’s Spirit, connecting with our spirit, flows through our spirit to give life and direction to the soul and body.

In fact, I suggest you add this line to your Healing Code prayer of intention: “Dear God, I pray that you would call my spirit to attention to connect with your Spirit to receive your healing and blessing.

Then go on to pray, “Please find, open and heal all negative images, wrong beliefs, destructive cellular memories of any nature, source and origin, and all resulting physical issues [can add, ‘especially …’] with any connection to [insert issue, i.e. feeling/belief] from [insert memories]. Please replace all negatives with your love, light and truth. Please also magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optimal pace, and restore everything in mind, body, soul and spirit to your intended design. Thank you, Lord, for your willingness and ability to do these things.

As you point to the healing centers, either with the universal Healing Code from the book, one of the Healing Codes from the Manual, or a custom Healing Code, “gaze” upon the love, light, and life from God. Think about a time when you felt connected to God, or felt deep appreciation for something God has done, or even a connection with another person, an animal, or nature.

All such “love pictures,” are “God moments,” in my opinion. When we “gaze on God” in this way, I believe we are activating our spirit and connecting with God. When that happens, Life flows.

With clients who want to, I do a Coach-Guided Code using this approach. It’s called Immanuel Prayer (Immanuel means “God with us”), and I have been trained in how to do it since 2012. I have developed a way to use Immanuel Prayer with The Healing Codes that is very powerful. If you are interested in exploring this, send me an email and I can give you more information.

“It is the spirit that gives life….”

On a practical note, it can be very annoying to have to think about when to change hand positions when you’re trying to “gaze on God.” So I suggest either using the timer on my site or getting Elio’s Music for the Healing Codes (with prompts).

Remember: Glance at problems, gaze at God!

For more on this topic, go here: http://healingcodescoaching.com/what-to-do-during-a-healing-code.html

Feel free to comment and share your favorite focus while doing Healing Codes.

 

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Occasionally I hear from clients that they don’t feel like doing their Healing Codes . . . or they feel worse when they do them . . . or that they feel nothing after sensing some kind of sensations before. (Some people can feel the energy as tingling, warmth, or some other sensation.)

These experiences are all a very normal part of the healing process.

But if you don’t know that, you might lose interest and stop doing your Healing Codes or inner prayer work.

And that will definitely halt your healing, and perhaps even set you back to where you were.

So what to do about resistance? Read More→

Have you ever wondered what emotions are good for, anyway?

And what happens when you refuse to deal with an emotion?

Let’s say you feel sad about something, now. Growing up, if you showed sadness or cried, it made your parents feel uncomfortable. Feeling sad made you bad for making them feel uncomfortable. (You can substitute any other feeling you “weren’t allowed” to feel.)

If you were male and you cried, you may have been told, one way or another, to toughen up.

If you grew up this way, what are you likely to do with that present sad feeling?

If you let yourself feel it, you might find guilt being added to it (because when you felt sad in childhood and other people didn’t like it, you came to believe your feeling sad made someone else feel bad). Or shame (“I’m bad for feeling sad and causing a problem for someone else”). Read More→

I have been on a healing journey for the past 11 years of doing Healing Codes, and I thought I’d experienced significant healing.

Every area of my life got better: health, relationships, and career.
 
However, since taking a marriage class on How We Love, and discovering the work of Dr. Jonice Webb on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), I’m seeing that there is a whole new layer of healing possible. There is a depth and breadth of emotional experience that I had not realized was possible.
 
With The Healing Codes, we focus a lot on healing memories. Eleven years of working on memories got me to the point that I couldn’t remember much more.
 
The new layer of healing opened up when I realized that what now has to heal is not something, but a lack of something.
 
The lack of attunement to my emotions. The lack of validation of my experiences–good or bad. The lack of being shown how to navigate the difficulties of life.
 
The lack of  nurturing. It’s also called Type A Trauma (the Absence of nurturing, as opposed to Type B–Bad trauma such as abuse). Type A trauma is just as bad as Type B, but it’s harder to put your finger on. (And Type A is always present in Type B, so if you’ve had significant healing for Type B, you still need to heal from Type A.)
 
Search your memory. Do you have lots of examples of having your family ask you:
  • How do you feel?
  • What do you want?
  • What do you need?
  • Why are you angry, or sad, or hurt?

I didn’t. Actually can’t remember one single time when any of those questions were asked. I do remember a few times when I had experienced a trauma, and it was completely ignored. In fact, in one instance, my mother was concerned more about what my father would do when he found out what happened to me, than what I was feeling from the trauma.

It’s not my parents’ fault. How could they give me something they never even knew they didn’t have?
 
And how could I give my own children something I never even knew I was supposed to have?
 
How do you heal something you don’t know you were
 
supposed to have?
 
You do it through awareness, and relationship, I believe.
 
Now that I’ve become aware of CEN, I can do something about it. And I’d like to make you aware of what you may also have missed, but just couldn’t put your finger on.
 
A friend (who no doubt grew up with CEN) told me she would watch Little House on the Prairie and The Waltons to get pictures of what healthy relationships look like. She was filling her heart screen with images of healthy ways of dealing with life’s crises, images that were not part of her personal experience.
 
I think that’s a great idea. Finding healthy marriages, friends, families and examples from books and other media can “stock the well” of Love Pictures to use when trying to heal CEN with Healing Codes.
 
If you have a vague sense of chronic anxiety, or emptiness, or emotional flatness … or more intense feelings of depression, hopelessness, despair–CEN could be the cause.
 
Good news: You can heal that. Don’t worry about finding memories when doing Healing Codes. Just put in the prayer of intention, “from childhood emotional neglect” or “from never having my feelings/experiences validated,” and find a positive focus of a healthy relationship, or a memory when your feelings were validated, when doing your Healing Codes.
 
And something more: check in with yourself and your emotions periodically through the day. Take the Love Styles quiz and find out what injured  relational pattern you developed from your past experiences. Just start noticing, and healing what you notice.
 
If you do this, I believe you, too, will experience a whole new level of healing and relating. You can come to a place of feeling alive, feeling your feelings, feeling the warmth of connection, and seeing the bright colors in your world. Your joy will increase, along with a more solid sense of yourself and your own value.
 
And if you would like help with this, feel free to check out my Healing Codes Coaching site and consider getting some coaching and custom Healing Codes. I’m forging the trail ahead for you!

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I started using Wholetones some time ago because so many clients raved about it, but only more recently have I begun to use them when doing my Healing Codes.

What was I waiting for?!

What I’ve found is that Wholetones causes shifts in my issue much quicker than before—often, a significant shift happens daily! I am totally hooked on Wholetones and recommend them.

So what are Wholetones?

Wholetones: The Healing Frequency Music Project  was created by Michael Tyrell, an accomplished author, speaker, and well-known musician. He began developing it after he met a piano player in Israel who gave him what appeared to be a simple manuscript. Inside that manuscript was the music that would change Michael’s life forever. As he began working with it, he discovered seven hidden musical frequencies that had the power to heal the mind, body, and spirit.

This is what makes Wholetones unlike anything else of its kind. Since its release in November, 2014, thousands of people are feeling better than they have in years and they’ve flooded Michael with letters to say Wholetones is the reason.

These 7 unique “Musical Tones” are found to: Read More→

When I was a child, I somehow got the idea from my family that I couldn’t have what I wanted.

When I asked for gymnastic lessons, my mother couldn’t be bothered with taking me back and forth to lessons.

When I asked if I could learn to play the piano, she said crossly, “Where would we fit a piano in this house?”

I’ve written about how I was triggered on Fourth of July by memories of never getting a helium balloon at the parade, and how that and other things led to my forming the beliefs, “I can’t have what I desire. Other people will think I’m selfish and reject me if I do or ask for what feels right for me.”

Which eventually led to a feeling of guilt and shame for even desiring anything pleasurable. Which eventually shut me down.

Hearing teachings by various spiritual leaders only reinforced the idea: It’s selfish to seek what I desire, wrong to seek pleasure and avoid pain. One renowned religious radio teacher even said repeatedly, “If you have a choice between the easy way and the hard way, always choose the hard way” (because it will build character).

Being part of the 15-20% of the population whose nervous system is programmed differently only made things worse. Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) are literally wired to feel both pleasure and pain even more acutely than others. To deny us the pleasure and say we shouldn’t avoid the pain cuts us off from the essence of who we are. Also, to shame us when what we desire or need is different is also very damaging. (I was called “Little Miss Fuss-Budget” by my father because things bothered me that didn’t bother other people, like scratchy clothing. I was supposed to endure things that bothered me because I “wasn’t supposed to” be bothered by them.)

Was it any wonder that I had trouble feeling joy, or indeed, anything?

And was it any wonder that I developed poor boundaries, allowing other people to take advantage of me because I was ignoring the emotions that warned me to avoid pain? (Uneasiness, anxiousness, outrage, disgust.)

Well, I’m healing from all that. Here’s what I’m doing.

Steps to Healing

The first step is to recognize the lies.

As human beings, we were created to seek fulfillment, to go after pleasure and avoid pain.

We seek the pleasure of eating, so we are nourished. We seek the pleasure of relationship, so we seek community, we bond and procreate.

Of course we can seek pleasure in ways that are ultimately destructive. When we seek only our own desires, at the expense of others, we harm them and ourselves. We can try to avoid pain through destructive means, too. But that doesn’t negate the validity of  seeking to fulfill our desires and avoid pain in legitimate ways.

In fact, I believe God puts desires into our hearts so that he can feel the pleasure of fulfilling them.

Think about how how you try to find the perfect gift that will really make the recipient feel loved, special, known. Isn’t that what God does for us? I believe he finds joy when we receive his gifts with pleasure and joy. (I wrote a whole book, Abundant Gifts, about the transforming power of looking for and receiving God’s gifts.)

And doesn’t God try to warn us to avoid things that will cause us pain? The Word of God is filled with cautions not to do certain things because he knows they would be bad for us.

The second step was to renounce the lies, and embrace the truth. I did Healing Codes to heal the memories that led to my believing the lies. I infused the truth that it’s OK and good to let my legitimate desires and needs be more of a priority, and to take better care of myself.

The third step was to incorporate the new beliefs into my everyday life. I made a list of things that give me pleasure, and I incorporate those into my life whenever possible. I focus on savoring the simple things.

Not surprisingly, I’m finding my stress load lessening dramatically. My joy is increasing.

Also, I took a good look at what was causing me pain. A couple of key relationships that now felt toxic to me came to mind. Painful as it was, I cut off those relationships.

Again, my stress load lessened by quite a bit. I did Healing Codes to help heal the grief of letting go of the relationships.

I believe that a big part of healing and mastering the stress in our lives has to do with seeking pleasure and avoiding pain in life-giving ways.

The key is recognizing temporary vs. more lasting pleasure and pain, and to find life-giving ways to do both.

Life-giving is key. It often means we may give up a temporary pleasure for a more lasting satisfaction. We’re still seeking pleasure, but it’s a more permanent pleasure. And sometimes that includes embracing a little pain, but again, you’re exchanging temporary pain for lasting pleasure.

An example might be teaching your child to clean his room. He may act ornery, and as if he hates you even, but you are willing to put up with that because you set your gaze on the more lasting pleasure of having a child who knows how to take care of things. (And in the long run, it means less work for you.)

If you can relate to what I’ve been saying, I encourage you to list what gives you pleasure, what is causing pain. Look at the beliefs you might have that are blocking you from embracing pleasure and/or avoiding pain in legitimate ways. See if you can identify memories attached to those lies. Use The Healing Codes or healing prayer to heal those memories.

Then, add as much pleasure, avoid as much pain as you can. Life has enough suffering that we can’t avoid. Let’s not let guilt or shame or a false sense of what it means to be a “good person” keep us from embracing the abundant life God has for us (John 10:10).

And if you need any help with identifying and healing those lies and memories, I’m always available for custom coaching with The Healing Codes at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

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