Energy Balancing
By · CommentsAs I wrote previously, it takes energy to heal (and to suppress emotions, traumas, negative memories).
Now that I’m focusing on recovery from a recent surgery (as well as complex PTSD), I’ve been hyper aware of what takes my energy, and what gives me energy.
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Being an introvert who gains energy by solitude and reflection, I have limited my social exposures and upped my reading, sleeping, and walking outside activities. These fill my energy tank.
So does writing! Which is why it’s been a joy to continue these emails and blog posts for you.
The social stuff is tricky, because the right social interactions also fill my tank. I think it’s more the scheduling of outward commitments that pushes me into sort of a time-crunch mode. Time stress and hurrying are not good for my nervous system. I am actively working on “have to” and “should” self-talk, because these activate stress for me.
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Filling my tank is one thing. There is also carving out time for simple rest. This is a challenge. I’m the go-go-go person, who wants to suck as much out of life as possible. I’m beginning to see that sometimes, this too is a stress or trauma response.
What about you? What fills your energy tank, and what drains it? What can you do to add more of the “filling” activities and less of the “draining” activities? How can you manage things so that you make sure for every “drain” you add at least one “fill”?
Finding the right balance is different for each person. Part of discovering your Divine Design–and living within it—is to know these basic things about yourself.
If you would like to discover your Divine Design, go here to fill out a questionnaire and get on the waiting list.
The Energy to Heal—or Not
By · CommentsIt takes a lot of energy to heal, I’m discovering.
It also takes a lot of energy to suppress healing.
Which is what we often do when we’ve had trauma of any kind, whether the “big T” type that’s obviously a trauma (parents’ divorce, car accident, abuse, etc.), or the seemingly smaller traumas like emotional neglect or simply not being supported at key times in your life. Either type of trauma has the same effect: our experience of the incident at the time overwhelmed our nervous system, and that trauma and stress got locked into our bodies.
That then locks us into old patterns of being triggered into overwhelm, and learning how to avoid those triggers (as best we could), or self-medicating them away.
As the famous Adverse Childhood Events Study (ACES) showed, such suppressed trauma often emerges decades later in chronic illness and diseases.
So, pick your energy suck. Lean into the energy commitment and releasing that healing requires, or hold back and let suppression steal your vitality.
For me, the recent surgery slowed me down enough to let suppressed traumas and patterns emerge to be healed. The healing work I’ve done for the past 13 years has given me enough capacity to face some pretty big traumas I’d buried.
I’m choosing to put my energy into actually healing, using some wonderful tools that are speeding results, rather than pushing down difficult emotions and painful experiences any longer.
It’s not been easy. I just wrote up a “hard truths I’ve not been willing to face before” document, to help me in this. I wrote out the truths I’d been ignoring, the lies and fantasies I told myself, and am praying about the path forward.
This kind of deep healing takes a willingness to give up what is familiar, to face all those “prison guards” who convince us we can’t break out and be free to face life as it really is, for us right now.
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It takes commitment to allow the difficult emotions to surface and pass through.
It takes the courage to do whatever it takes to live in reality, what’s true for us, and what we truly desire. And to trust God that those things are actually in line with our divine design, rather than things God will deny us because it’s somehow better for us to suffer.
Which takes us to our view of God, and why he allowed certain things to happen. Healing can bring on an existential and spiritual crisis. But for me, I’ve built a strong enough foundation in experiencing God’s true character, that I am trusting he’s thoroughly in this process, guiding, upholding, comforting, and strengthening me.
If you resonate with any of this and feel ready to lean into the energy of healing at the deepest level (it’s always a journey, not a destination), then visit Align with Your Divine Design and get on the waiting list for when that program is available.
Midlife Conversations Deep Dive
By · CommentsMidlife brings changes, and as I say in my post about what happens when you hit your sixties, if we navigate those changes well in midlife, then we set ourselves up for having a much smoother “wisdom season,” as writer Cheryl Richardson so nicely puts it.
Midlife can be quite a rocky time.
We’re not only dealing with hormonal, biological and vanity changes, but we’re also dealing with more aches and pains, work/business problems, family issues, death, securing finances, and questioning our purpose, spirituality and personal goals.
Learn how midlife instead of breaking you, can help you SOAR.
Midlife expert Natalie Jill has gathered a group of 50 incredible experts to show you how you can navigate this challenging time of life with joy, passion and authenticity.
The Midlife Conversation Deep Dive will explore:
- Optimizing hormones
- Preventing bone loss
- Staying healthy
- Considering plastic surgery options
- Managing stress
- Navigating relationships
- Talking about sex
- Boosting confidence
- Living your passion
- Thriving financially
- And more!
You will be empowered with practical tips, tricks and strategies to help you tap into your power and potential so you can flourish in your next chapter!
Be sure to mark your calendar for May 22-28, 2023.
Breaking Free From Childhood Trauma
By · CommentsDid you experience trauma as a child?
I did, but honestly, for decades I thought I’d put it all behind me. In fact, it took me decades to even realize that I had experienced childhood trauma. I didn’t understand that the trauma I experienced in the first weeks of life, when I was operated on for some kind of intestinal issue, would affect me decades later–physically and emotionally.
And I didn’t know the extent of the emotional neglect for decades.
I had adjusted so well–I thought. Made a great life for myself.
My body told a different story. The body keeps the score.
Examples of childhood trauma are:
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Physical abuse
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Sexual abuse
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Emotional abuse
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Physical neglect
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Emotional neglect
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A parent who’s an alcoholic or addict
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A parent who’s a victim of domestic violence
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A family member in jail
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A family member with a mental illness
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Narcissistic abuse
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Traumatic grief after losing a parent through divorce, death or abandonment
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Bullying
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Natural disasters
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Medical trauma
If you’ve experienced childhood trauma, and the after-effects are still plaguing you (even if until now you haven’t linked it to childhood events), I highly recommend you tune into this FREE, AVAIYA University online event: Breaking Free From Childhood Trauma.
Here is the lineup of teachers speaking during the online event:
Dr. Aimie Apigian, Dr. James Gordon, Heather Monroe, Sharon Martin, Michael Unbroken, Kerry Tepedino, Simon Borg-Olivier, Adam Young, Amber Hollingsworth, Marie Diamond, Misa Hopkins, Dr. Joe Rubino, Gail Brenner, Ashanna Solaris, Dana Dharma Devi, Dr. Ameet Aggarwal, Ken Page, Candace Plattor, Mark Andreas, Jeanie Cisco-Meth, Dr. Steve G. Jones, Evelyn Hale, Dr. Ian Macnauton, Megan Smith, Dr. David Hanscome, Ann Weiser Cornell, Dr. Friedemann Schaub, Machiel Klerk, Michelle Masters, Dr. Kate Truitt, Dr. Elizabeth A. Stanley, Mandy Flanders, Aki Omori, Lelia Schott, Rafaella Smith-Fiallo, Dr. Carrie Lam & Dr. Monique Andrews.
Here’s just some of what you’ll learn from these trauma experts, respected psychologists, best-selling authors & more:
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Anxiety, Panic Attacks & Flashbacks Freedom: Learn how to free yourself from the grip these symptoms have had on your life, and/or the lives of those you love
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Toxic Stress Release: Learn techniques to release the painful stress from your childhood trauma
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Creating Your Trauma Healing Toolkit: Explore modalities like Meditation, Breathwork, Homeopathy, Neuroscience & more on your healing journey
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Biggest mistakes to avoid when it comes to inner child trauma healing
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How to use revise the trauma stored in your brain and body & decrease PTSD symptoms like anxiety, shame, guilt & more
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Techniques and strategies to help you heal and complete your past & reparent yourself
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How to rebuild your sense of self after attachment trauma
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The healing power of engaging your story to overcome childhood trauma
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How to “bully-proof” yourself and quiet your inner critic
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How to raise your resilience, calm your nervous system, and decrease overwhelm
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How to find relief from the toll adverse childhood experiences take on your body
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And so much more
It’s your turn to heal … get started now by registering right here for the Breaking Free From Childhood Trauma online event.
The Neuro-Metabolic Summit
By · CommentsAre you tired of feeling stuck with chronic brain, immune, gut and hormonal symptoms?
Your brain and metabolism are intimately connected in inspiring health or contributing to disease.
Addressing one without the other leaves progress on the table.…
Join Dr. Peter Kan in discussion with 30+ world-renowned experts in the fields of neurology, immunology, detoxification and endocrinology to learn how to integrate healing of the brain and metabolic function to overcome chronic conditions and change your life!
At The Neuro-Metabolic Summit you will:
- Learn to improve fuel delivery & metabolism to improve brain function
- Understand how brain dysfunction can drive up system-wide inflammation
- Discover the top root causes of neurometabolic dysfunction & how to identify them
- Gain insight into the frameworks & protocols of the world’s leading functional medicine experts
- Receive practical applications you can start implementing immediately
- And more!
Have you seen multiple medical specialists and natural alternative health practitioners without getting results?
Do all the treatments, restrictive diets and supplements have you feeling more confused than ever?
Be sure to mark your calendar for April 17-23, 2023!
Your Roadmap to Health
Your host, Dr. Peter Kan, began to study the connections between the brain, immune system and gut when he was trying to solve the mystery of neurological and respiratory issues along with food sensitivities that his son, Maddox, developed after a severe scalding injury. Something had impacted Maddox’s brain and immune system, so Dr. Kan dove into the subjects of neurology, immunity and gut health to help him.
He was able to connect the dots of Maddox’s symptoms, and created a step-by-step roadmap to address the root causes of his issues. He has now successfully worked with over 5,000 clients to solve their chronic conditions.
I’ve heard Dr. Peter Kan before, and I thought he was excellent. I’m thrilled that he’s here to share that roadmap to a long and healthy life with you.
Yes, you truly have the means to get started on better health today!
—>>I’ll see you online at The Neuro-Metabolic Summit when you register now!
Note: When you register for The Neuro-Metabolic Summit, you’ll also unlock early-access interviews, complimentary guides and helpful eBooks about living your most resilient life!
Two ways to speed your healing
By · CommentsHave you been trying to heal some issue, emotional or physical, and feel like you’re stuck, not getting anywhere?
I want to suggest two ways you can get unstuck and speed your healing.
First, though, let’s explore why you might feel stuck.
1. There may be some sort of hidden memory that is blocking you, often a generational memory. I remember when I healed a particular generational memory from my mother (which she also was working on healing for herself), suddenly a success block was removed and things I’d been working on for years came to fruition in one week!
I can find those hidden memories if you sign up for my Healing Hearts Circle; every call I test the members for hidden memories.
2. Your body may be prioritizing healing something else that you’re not even aware of. You may be intent on healing your skin or digestive issues, for instance, but your body knows you have cancer forming. It is allocating the healing energy toward the more serious issue that you don’t even know about.
3. You have trauma. If you have trauma, defined as your nervous system’s reaction to an event that was, at the time, overwhelming to your nervous system, it can be stored in your body and causing symptoms.
While I have found that The Healing Codes do a lot to pave the way to trauma healing, I’m beginning to think that you also need some kind of somatic (body-based) intervention. It’s not either-or; energy healing makes trauma healing approaches work better and faster, and trauma healing approaches make The Healing Codes work better. I’ve found in myself and many of my clients, that The Healing Code paves the way for your body, soul and mind to even begin to deal with the trauma of which you might not have been aware.
4. You’re focusing too much on the physical and not seeing the subtle shifts that are taking place. We can be so fixated on our particular goal, that we don’t see the ways we’re improving.
My mother comes to mind. I was giving her custom Healing Codes every week, and she didn’t see any changes. But I sure did. I’ll never forget the day when she started talking about all the fun she and her siblings had as a child, when they went to her uncle’s farm. I said, “Mom! Do you realize this is the first time you’re ever shared any happy memory from your childhood?”
“Oh really?” she said, then blithely went on to talk more about the happy memories.
We coaches call it “Healing Code amnesia.” We forget how far we’ve come when we’re so fixated on the final goal.
(As a side note, my mom had always said she didn’t have any childhood memories. As she healed with The Healing Codes, more and more memories came up. We healed the sad ones, and then the happy ones emerged. But she didn’t even notice! The happy memories came up so naturally after a while.)
The keys to getting unstuck arise out of the above sources of our stuckness.
First, trust that your body wants to heal. And that it knows how to heal. Built into the fabric of creation is this innate ability to heal, to rejuvenate. We see it in the seasons. We see it in our bodies: when you get a cut, you don’t have to do anything except clean it and give it a little more protection. Your body already knows how to heal it.
Not everyone believes in the body’s ability to heal. I wrote about the two views of the body: the mechanical view that body is a machine that falls apart after a while, versus the organic view, that the body is a living organism with intelligence, that always seeks life and health.
It matters which view you take. Believing the latter in my opinion sets you up to work with your body’s intention to heal. Believing you’re just a machine that is now falling apart may lead you away from what you really need, and even cause you to engage in practices that will actually harm you.
In my view, our human spirit is meant to be aligned with God’s holy Spirit, so that God’s life flows through our spirit (heart/central intelligence/connection to our unique Divine Design), to our body and soul. God’s flow of energy is always about life and healing.
The second thing you can do to speed your healing is to notice every small “win,” every slight improvement.
Sometimes other people will notice and comment before we see it in ourselves, as was the case with my mother. I have many clients who will tell me that their spouse remarks on the changes in them, changes they haven’t noticed themselves. So you might want to ask the people close to you what changes they have notices.
Then, celebrate the changes!
This taps into the principle of gratitude. Give thanks for even the smallest improvement. That will keep you focused in the direction of improvement, which will speed that improvement. Even if you want your skin issue to heal but what’s happening is you’re feeling less anxious most of the time—that could well be what was needed to actually heal the skin issue.
Focusing on the positives will also lessen the perception of the negative. They are opposite poles. If you’re stuck, you may be trying to go two feet in one direction (feeling the frustration of “no change,”), then two feet in the opposite direction (noticing some positive changes but then discounting it—two steps back in the other direction).
Isn’t that the very picture of “stuck”?
So to summarize: Trust your body, and look for and celebrate the wins, however small they may seem.
And be patient. Yes, we want to speed our healing, but ironically, the slow, patient, steady path is the fastest track. Another thing your wise body and spirit knows is the perfect pace for your healing. That’s why I say in my Healing Code prayer of intention, “Please magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optimal pace.” We want all these things: magnified effectiveness, our highest good, and an optimal pace—not too fast, not too slow.
The spirit guiding the body knows how to optimize. Let’s work with it!
Are you concerned about bone health?
According to the International Osteoporosis Foundation, it is estimated that worldwide, 200 million women suffer from osteoporosis. In addition, it is estimated that 1 in 3 women over age 50 will experience osteoporotic fractures, as well as 1 in 5 men. In the United States, it is estimated that 10 million people have osteoporosis, and another 44 million have low bone mass, which puts them at increased risk for developing osteoporosis.
My endocrinologist, who is responsible for my osteoporosis (he told me the medication for thyroid can cause bone loss, which is why he had to monitor my bone density), gave me some dire statistics about how many people die within a year of a hip fracture. (Why would he tell me this? Medical fear-mongering. . .)
However, the truth is, not all people with osteoporosis will fracture a bone, and not all people who have a hip fracture will die!
Especially if you’re doing all you can to increase and guard your bone health.
That’s why I’m recommending the MORE Natural Approaches to Osteoporosis & Bone Health 2.0 Summit, airing March 27-April 2, 2023 (encore weekend April 8-9).
I attended the first bone health summit by Margie Bessinger, and bought the excellent program. In the 50+ new interviews of this year’s summit, she and others will explore:
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The root causes of bone loss
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Safe exercises (with demonstrations) to strengthen and protect bones
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IMPORTANT exercise guidelines (+ dangerous exercises to avoid!)
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Nutrition and supplements for strong, healthy bones
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Two powerful cooking demonstrations of bone healthy meals + kitchen tips
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Fall prevention tips + movement practices for balance
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The impact of stress on bone health + stress reduction strategies
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How increased happiness can help protect your bones and your health
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Advanced topics, like when to use medication, oxalates, parathyroid issues, MCAS and mold
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And more!
Why attend this important health event?
Your host, Margie Bissinger, began working as a physical therapist with patients with osteoporosis over 25 years ago. These patients were told to exercise to help their condition, but were without guidance. To her dismay, many individuals were performing exercises that actually increased their risk of spinal fractures.
This inspired her to develop a wealth of strategies that have allowed thousands of people to improve their bone strength and live their lives without all the worries … and with more vitality and happiness than they ever knew was possible.
She’s here to inspire you with her expert guidance and wisdom.
Yes, you truly have the means to get started on better health today!
Note: When you register for MORE Natural Approaches to Osteoporosis & Bone Health 2.0, you’ll also unlock early-access interviews, complimentary guides and helpful eBooks about building strong bones and living your most resilient life! Here’s one on exercise that I thought was very helpful.
The Science of Prayer
By · CommentsDo you pray? Have you seen some pretty amazing answers to prayer?
I have. Prayer is a big part of my life. I’ve always known it works (though I don’t get everything exactly as I pray for), but the scientist in me always wondered if there is an explanation for how it works that’s outside of religion.
And perhaps there is. It’s all connected to the quantum field.
What’s the quantum field?
A quantum field is a theoretical concept that helps us understand how particles behave at the smallest scales in the universe. Imagine that the universe is like a giant, constantly shifting, vibrating fabric. This fabric is made up of tiny units of energy called particles (the threads, as it were), and each type of particle has its own unique energy field.
Quantum fields are the mathematical description of these energy fields, which fill all of space and time. They are constantly fluctuating and interacting with one another, creating particles that come into existence and then disappear again. It’s all about energy and information. What looks to be matter, is really energy vibrating at a low enough rate that we can perceive it with the senses.
The fascinating thing about these particles is that they do not exist in a definite state until they are observed or measured. Instead, they exist in a state of superposition, which means that they can be in multiple states at once.
This reminds me of some words that dropped into my mind out of nowhere one day: “All perspectives exist in the quantum field. Choose the perspective that leads to gratitude, joy, and peace.”
When we pray, we put out attention on a particular outcome, which already exists in the quantum field as a potentiality. Our very prayer (observation) allows that particle to “manifest” in the physical world.
Then there is the idea of quantum entanglement.
In quantum entanglement, two energy “particles” interact with each other, and there is a full download of information. They become “entangled,” so that each “particle” instantaneously possesses the same energy information as the other, and both experience the same state.
This is mentioned in The Healing Code, referencing an experiment where two strangers met briefly, then were put in Faraday cages (through which no outside electromagnetic energy can pass). The experimenters found that when they shined a light in the eyes of one of the men, the pupils of the other man constricted just as if the light were shining in his eyes at that moment, though he was in that Faraday cage some distance away and no light was actually being shined in his eyes.
That’s the thing about quantum entanglement: distance and time mean nothing. It appears to violate the laws of classical physics, which dictate that information cannot travel faster than the speed of light. In the case of entangled particles, information seems to be transmitted instantly, regardless of the distance between them.
Let’s translate all this to prayer. If God is the creator of this quantum field, and exists within and outside of it as well (I don’t think God is the quantum field itself, but he created it and sustains it), and everything is energy, we too are energy. We are electrical beings, and we can interact on many different levels both with each other, and with God.
Prayer is interaction on this non-physical, energetic level. We can get “entangled” with a certain desire that we present to God, uniting our intention with God’s, and that makes things happen in the physical world, which is just a certain manifestation of energy.
Of course, God always has veto power. He is in charge of what gets manifested: only that which is His sovereign will, governed by His love and infinite wisdom. (Thank God for that!)
We can also get “entangled” with another person and their need, and present that to God.
Important to note about prayer: it must be activated by a certain kind of energy, namely faith.
When Jesus healed on earth, he almost always linked it to faith: “Your faith has made you well.” The person believed that Jesus could heal, or at least that he might, and that was all that Jesus needed.
Remember the man who asked Jesus to heal his demonized son, and said to Jesus, “I believe; help my unbelief”? (Mark 9:24) Jesus said we only need faith the size of a mustard seed, the smallest of seeds, but if we plant it in the soil of God’s power, that’s enough to “move mountains.”
I love that science is now “explaining” things that were revealed thousands of years ago in religion. You don’t have to know how to build a highway to drive on it, but you do have to know a few rules of the highway to use it effectively and safely. We don’t need science to explain prayer in order to pray, but it’s wonderful to know that science supports what we already knew from spiritual teachings.
All truth is God’s truth, after all. True science always reveals something more of God’s ways.
If this topic interests you and you want to know more, I think you’ll really like the book, Quantum Glory: The Science of Heaven Invading Earth by Phil Mason. It presents the science of quantum physics in the light of Scripture. I kept having to put it down to take in the wonder of it all, and give thanks and praise to the Creator who set things up so amazingly.
Hidden Stressors-Part Four-toxins
By · CommentsIn this series on hidden stressors, I’ve mostly focused on the emotional aspects.
For many of us, this is the kind of stress that’s easiest to hide, especially if we’ve grown up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), or are high on the sensitivity spectrum.
Another reason I’ve focused on the emotional, is emotional issues can predispose us to being more vulnerable to yet another hidden source of stress: toxins.
All of us are subject to this hidden physical stress.
Toxins lurk in our food, water, air, cosmetics, household cleaners, even fabrics.
They also lurk in the energy around us, in the form of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF) and dirty electricity.
I don’t think I have to go into detail about all this. No doubt you’re aware of it, and may feel a little helpless about what to do about it all.
However, we are not helpless at all. There is one main thing we can do to keep healthy, and that is to focus on the immune and nervous systems. Read More→
Recommended Products to Mitigate Hidden Stressors
By · CommentsAs a wrap-up to my series on Hidden Stressors, I put together a list of things I use to either mitigate the effects of toxins, or support the immune system. Note that I am very picky about what I recommend. (Here’s my criteria.)
This list is not comprehensive, it’s just what I’ve used and found effective.
Also, in many cases I am an affiliate for said product, and will receive a commission if you buy from my links. (For which I thank you. It helps me to provide this newsletter and other resources for free.) You don’t pay more for using my links. Read More→
