His admission rocked me—and served as a personal warning.

HomeSomeone I respect a lot for his spiritual and practical insights, Dr. Mark Virkler, revealed last week that he had had a heart attack. He thought it would never happen to him because he taught and lived out (so he thought) how to be emotionally, spiritually and physically healthy.

Yet he had a heart attack and ended up with bypass surgery.

I admired that he publicly admitted it. It took great humility and love to put aside his own reputation in order to help other people learn what might be causing problems down the road, unbeknownst to them—just as it did for him. He is writing about what he discovered about the contributing factors to heart attacks. It’s a wealth of information!

Even though Dr. Virkler did more good things for his health than I do (and I do a lot), he still had a major heart attack. He wrote, “Clinical studies have found that from 40 to 50 percent of the time, the first recognized symptom of heart disease is a fatal heart attack. It is the number one killer of people between the ages of thirty-five and sixty.

Yikes!

Dr. Virkler’s research led him to the conclusion that stress was the trigger for his heart attack.

He wrote, “I believe the cause of my heart attack was stress, emotional and spiritual. I loved what I was doing and was going overboard with it. Plus God had given me some directions about curtailing some of these activities, and I was bargaining with Him about stretching those rules. Then, heart attack.”

That really hit me. I too love what I’m doing. I love working with clients, helping them heal their heart issues. I love writing these blogs and emails. But I think I too go overboard. (Part of being Highly Sensitive is this “depth of processing” thing. I sometimes don’t know when to stop, especially if I’m enjoying what I’m doing.)

I have felt God has been telling me for years to get more sleep—specifically, to go to bed earlier. I too have been bargaining with him about stretching the rules. “God, I don’t know what to cut out.”

Well, God was not bothered by that. He has been showing me in any number of ways, through books, articles, podcasts, warnings like this from other people who have not taken time to rest—you name it. I can’t fault him for not trying to get through to me! It’s actually become quite comical. “God, what are you going to show me today?” Seems he never tires of trying to get me to see what he wants me to see.

I feel he’s boiling it down to two things.

One: Get to bed earlier (I have noticed that I feel quite a bit better if I’m asleep by 11pm—which has rarely happened in the past few years).

And two: Quit creating my own stress.

That last thing was a revelation. One day on my walk, a thought intruded that I did not expect.

“You create a lot of your own stress,

you know.”

Ouch!

The inner voice held no judgment. It was merely an observation.

I tend to believe it was God’s Spirit speaking to my spirit, because after reading about Mark Virkler’s heart attack, I had been praying about what unconscious stress might be causing certain physical symptoms to come back—symptoms I thought I had conquered. I believe it’s because I am healing at a deeper level as new insights have been uncovered about growing up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, and being Highly Sensitive. In that process, physical symptoms have come up—symptoms my testing indicates have everything to do with stress. (More on testing here.)

Just as that voice was nonjudgmental, so my own approach to seeing how I create my own stress can be led by curiosity, without any self-condemnation. It will be an experiment: see if I can catch myself creating stress. I may ask a few close friends for feedback. I will certainly continue to pray about it. I’m approaching it with curiosity and eagerness, and a willingness to change. (I have a great tool to change harmful actions and wrong beliefs. Can you guess what it is?)

Are there ways that you, too, create your own stress? Or is there something that still, small voice has been whispering for you to change, but you’ve been ignoring it or bargaining with it?

I don’t mean to be overly dramatic, but listening to that voice could possibly be a life or death matter. It was in Mark Virkler’s case.

Mark is making changes in his life. He writes, “I must learn to live more relaxed, taking more time to express the different kinds of energy available to me–not just mental energy, but energy from my heart (love) toward my wife and those I touch, and spiritual energizing as I play my autoharp and sing in worship unto the Lord.

My change will be to NOT go back to the computer after supper, no matter how urgent the matter seems, and take the evening to relax, do my evening ritual of stretching exercises, Halo, talking to my husband and reading.

And to notice the ways I’m creating my own stress.

What will your change be?

If you would like some outside help with managing your stress, I’m available for coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

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So here I was, dealing with an issue that seemed chronic, with no happy end in sight.

What to do?

First step is what I usually do: Pray.

“God, what do I do here? I don’t know if I can change the situation at all. It seems pretty bleak….”

One word came to me: Appreciation.

This was not a new concept for me. Appreciation is what turned around my post-partem depression some 23 years ago. I started looking for what felt like gifts from God, be they big or little. I recorded them. Eventually, those “appreciation stories” became the book of my heart, Abundant Gifts.

Sometimes we just need reminders, though.

When I’m stressed out about something, what inevitably

brings me back to Joy the quickest is appreciation.

After I got that word, I slowed down enough to see what I could appreciate in the moment.

Lots of things came to me.

It was first thing in the morning, and I relished the fact that I had no one to answer to until my first client. I made my tea, and sat down with my Halo and Bible to see what insights and treasures I might get from God’s word.

I savored the sunshine coming in the window (a rarity this spring it seemed). When a text message notification dinged, instead of feeling interrupted and annoyed, I felt glad that I had a friend who wanted to text me.

And so it went. All day I tried to turn my frustrations into moments of appreciation. When yet another technological issue came up, I thought with a chuckle how this must be God’s way of keeping my brain healthy. They say your brain stays healthy when you give it challenges. Boy, does my brain get a workout every day, just on technological issues!

When my husband came home from work, I looked for things to appreciate, and made sure I expressed them. Since his love language is “words of affirmation,” this really fills up his love tank.

(My love language is “acts of service.” Right now he is mowing the lawn. I am appreciating the things he takes care of around the house, and must make sure to tell him! I’ll overlook the dirty dishes in the sink that I have to work around to make dinner. . . . See how it works?)

I’ve often been struck that the key to healing is releasing and replacing. In healing work, we identify the negative, release it, and then replace it with the positive. That is crucial to completing the healing cycle. With The Healing Codes we use Love Pictures (which are really appreciation moments) to replace the negative memories.

As I practiced looking for things to appreciate throughout the day, I noticed my chronic issue that seemed hopeless didn’t feel as big as it did before I consciously returned to appreciation. What had shifted was not the situation, but my perspective.

Appreciation may be the biggest perspective-shifter there is. We don’t have to limit appreciation to our healing work. Appreciation is for every moment. Right now I’m releasing the frustration over the dirty dishes, and replacing it with appreciation that my husband is mowing the lawn.

These are little things. Everyday things.

But it’s the little things that bring happiness. It’s the little things that make up a life. The small decisions–to appreciate, or stay stuck in frustration–are what build the internal climate and lay the groundwork for positive or negative relationships. And it’s relationships that color the biggest part of the picture of our lives, isn’t it?

I’m finding that nothing turns things around for me like simple appreciation! At the end of the day, I like to take a few moments and think through what was good about the day. Ending on a note of appreciation, according to brain experts, actually counteracts our innate negative bias and helps us create a better reality.

I’m all in! How about you?

Challenge: Find at least 3 things to appreciate every day. Savor them. You might even want to write them down in a journal. You can use the Abundant Gifts Journal here, if you like.

And if you want some help in healing negative pictures and replacing them with positive appreciation moments, check out my Healing Codes Coaching site. Much help there of all kinds, from free to intensive coaching!

 

 

 

 

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In my group coaching program, I had a client who was working with a very stubborn money issue.  Her story gave both of us a big aha about how some issues can hide, and she gave me permission to share her story.

Laura had been “seriously in the muck and mire for years about finances,” as she put it.  We had been clearing all kinds of things, especially generational memories from her mother’s side.

Still, the money issues persisted. One day she realized that she got anxious not when money was going out, but when money was coming in. This made no sense to her!

A book on Laura’s bookshelf caught her eye: The Intersection of Joy and Money. In working through the workbook questions, she came up with an insight that floored her. “My answers to the questions revealed that my father made it very clear to me from a very young age that my job was to work hard in school, get a good education both at school and in music. He also made it very clear to me that he would provide for me and that I would have the money I needed when I asked for it. So at a young age I developed my beliefs about money and they looked like this: Laura, it is not your job to provide. It is your dad’s job to provide. Someone else will give you money when you need it or ask for it.”

Here’s the kicker:  This belief was rooted in an incredibly loving and generous and protective place. Laura knew that her father, who was himself dyslexic and graduated high school barely literate,  was  so proud of this smart little girl in his life that he wanted to support her in having every opportunity available.

“The feeling of love and adoration that I remember is absolutely beautiful,” Laura says.

The problem came later, in her adult years. This belief, nurtured in the soil of love, bloomed into a subconscious blueprint about whose job it is to provide for her, and crippled her ability to earn money as an adult. And the feeling she had now, connected with the memory, was panic. Panic when money came in.

A new picture also popped up on her heart screen: “I am in a labyrinth heading to the middle where my ability to provide for my family is located and I keep sabotaging my ability to get to the middle,” she says. “I keep getting distracted and caught up and dragged off course because of the subconscious belief that it isn’t my job to provide. If I just sit down long enough someone else will bring me the money I need.”

This belief remained hidden so long because it wasn’t grounded in trauma or pain, but in love. It’s easy to assume that negative beliefs are always connected to some negative memory, but as we can see from Laura’s story, that’s not always the case.

In fact, I’m wondering if some of the most stubborn issues of our lives, the ones that we can’t seem to get any healing traction on, may be rooted in positive rather than negative memories. A belief anchored to a positive memory might be the most difficult to identify and heal.

If you have had a stubborn issue that has been difficult to heal, do a little digging, as Laura did. Once she realized that the actual problem was when money came in, and prayed about what that might be attached to, she got her big aha and the wrong belief that needed to be healed.

In her case, there was no negative memory to be healed. There was only the positive memory of her father’s love and provision. Yet the belief that worked when she was a child morphed into panic and a negative image on her heart screen as she grew up. Remember, with The Healing Codes or healing prayer, what we look for are negative images, wrong beliefs, and negative emotions.

What stubborn issue have you been unable to heal so far? What beliefs were true when you were a child, but morphed into something negative that doesn’t serve you at all as an adult?

Heal the underlying negative beliefs, pictures, emotions, but don’t always assume there’s a negative memory attached. It just might be that a positive memory is what anchored a belief that no longer serves you.

If you need help in finding the core negative images, beliefs, or memories, consider getting some coaching and custom codes.

 

Many readers and clients have told me that “The 12 Words that Changed Everything” article has made a great impact on their lives.

I want to give you an update on that situation. To me, what happened is nearly miraculous.

The situation and relationship that I was praying about when God gave me those 12 words, “You must allow other people the dignity of living with their choices,” seemed at the time pretty impossible to resolve. My friends suggested I just bail out completely, that the situation was hopeless.

But I did not feel like I should bail out completely. I prayed about it, God gave me those 12 words, and I continued to pray about how to apply them.

Peace came into my heart as I let go of all outcomes and just did what I felt I should do. I proposed a plan of action to the people involved, and . . . somehow, miraculously, they turned around! 

First, some key people accepted my plan of action. (Which, if you knew the situation, you’d also think was semi-miraculous.)

Then, one of the people involved did 180-degree turn around. Not only did the person quit the nasty, accusatory emails–they also started cooperating.

I have tried to analyze the miracle. I think it comes down to first of all, my letting go of the outcome, as mentioned. More than simply letting go, I entrusted to God the outcome. I figured if he can grant others the dignity of living with their choices, so can I. I can pray for the people, and leave the best outcome in God’s hands. I truly felt OK about “allowing them the dignity of living with their choices”–come what may. I didn’t have to play God in the situation.

I set a boundary as well. I prayed about what I would and would not accept. I prayed about what I’d do if my plan was rejected. I was ready for any outcome (and expected, frankly, the worst).

I also chose to ignore the nasty letters and emails that came my way. God gave me the grace to simply not engage, to not even be bothered by them.

Then came the email that said that “you didn’t know that X happened to me, did you?” I said no, I did not know that happened, but I could imagine how painful it must be. And I meant it. I had only love and compassion in my heart toward this hurting person.

Perhaps that’s what did it. The Bible says that Jesus, feeling compassion, healed (Mark 14:14). The person who sent me the email must have realized I truly did feel compassion, I wasn’t out to get anyone or take control or even reveal damaging information I had.

Some kind of healing ensued, as evidenced by the cooperation and entirely different tone in emails and texts. Perhaps reconciliation is even around the corner.

Another piece of the miracle: I still have peace, even if the situation turns bad again. I am still able to stick to my boundaries.

So the lesson for me, which perhaps will speak to you as well, is that when we completely let go of the outcome, entrusting it to God, miracles can happen. I suppose it’s because I’m not meddling in affairs that are not mine!

Allowing others the dignity of their choices frees us from feeling responsible for their suffering, should they make foolish choices. It is a boundary of sorts that protects our own heart from being unnecessarily bruised and battered.

Perhaps somehow, in a way I don’t understand, allowing others the dignity of their own choices affords them that dignity, and allows them to make better choices. I don’t know . . .  just a thought.

All I know is, this experience was a major turning point for me, a healing perhaps of control issues I didn’t know I had.

If you’re struggling with a relationship where you can see a train wreck coming if certain bad choices are made, remember the words that can set you free: You have permission to allow them the dignity of living with their own choices.

Feel free to comment below. And if I can be of further help with an issue you struggle with, check out HealingCodesCoaching.com for more on The Healing Codes–what it is, what it can do for you.

 
 

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Pivotal Memories

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People often ask me what kinds of memories to start with to get the fastest, deepest healing. 

I always look for the “fractal memories”–those memories in which the core beliefs/feelings will repeat themselves and branch out to affect your life in all kinds of ways afterward. Heal these, and the ripple effects of healing begin effortlessly  to penetrate into all the areas of life affected by that memory.

In another post I talked about foundational memories. They are one kind of important fractal memory.

Another kind of fractal memory is what I call a pivotal memory. This would be a memory, usually conscious, that changed the course of your life. Something happened and you came to believe something about yourself that forever after influenced your life. Such memories can form your identity–for better or worse.

On the “better side,” pivotal memories can be quite positive. One important pivotal memory that shaped my entire future happened in college, when I fell in love with publishing. I was always a bibliophile and a writer, and the field fascinated me, so I decided I would major in English, but not teach. I would make a career in publishing.

Everyone told me, “It’s practically impossible to break into publishing.” Especially since I didn’t know anyone, even by the time I was a senior in college. Also, this was at a time when people with PhDs in English were driving taxi cabs. 

No matter. Publishing was my passion and I would find a way. When my pastor suggested I go out to Illinois to study in the C.S. Lewis Wade Collection for my Honors thesis on Lewis, he added, “There are a lot of Christian publishing houses out there, too.”

I spent my mid-semester break in Wheaton, Illinois, and interviewed at three Christian publishing houses. One of them hired me, for a job they created for me. I still thrill to the fact that I had a job lined up in my chosen field before graduation, and before any of my friends with more sure degrees (like nursing) even had a job offer. That first job, in which I interviewed authors and created radio spots, remains one of my favorite jobs I’ve ever held, and led to other opportunities.

Positive pivotal experiences can lead the way to success in many areas. Use these memories as a focus point when you’re doing a Healing Code for a success issue; it will increase your confidence and shift your energy and focus in a big way.

Negative Pivotal Experiences obviously need to be healed. The lies and perhaps even vows that result from such memories must be changed to truth, or you will remain stuck.

To find a negative pivotal memory, look for an area in

your life where you feel blocked.

I’ll give an example from my own life.

In fifth grade, I had two teachers who seemed to love to pick on students. I was one of them. But my worst memory of these teachers came not from them bullying me, but another student.

One day I witnessed them verbally attacking  a male student in the hallway. (Not sure why I was there, but I was the only other witness, and the teachers seemed oblivious to my presence, so intent were they on their tearing apart that boy’s self-esteem.)

As the teachers lit into this boy, who I now realize was a Highly Sensitive Person, Richard cried. That just made the teachers belittle him more. I saw him stand there, helplessly crying more and more, while the teachers mercilessly ridiculed him.

Up to that point, I, too, was a person who felt deeply and cried easily. In fact, I desperately wanted to cry about what I just saw. I almost burst into tears on the spot, but somehow I stopped myself.

I stopped myself by making a vow, right then and there. I vowed that nobody would ever do something like that to me. If this is what happens when you show your emotions, I would never show my emotions again.

That day, I learned how not to cry. I learned how to turn off my high sensitivity. (Or so I thought.)

The problem was, I turned off all emotions. For a long, long time, I went through life feeling very little. I was what the Yerkoviches (How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage) identify as a classic Avoider in their Love Styles quiz. Having grown up in a home where emotions were pretty much absent, and I’d been ridiculed for being “too sensitive,” it felt right and comfortable to go through life not feeling.

Except . . .

Except that turning off the negative emotions also turned off the positive ones, like joy and tenderness and letting myself be moved by art or music.

Except . . . I am a Highly Sensitive Person, and one of the inborn traits is that we can’t help but feel and be emotionally reactive. 

As it does for most people who are Avoiders, the negative energy went into my body. The energy of emotion must go somewhere (e-motion = energy in motion). If you allow yourself to feel it, it will be processed. It won’t get stuck in brain and/or body.

If you don’t . . . you set yourself up for all kinds of problems. Dr. Gabor Mate says, “When you shut down emotion, you’re also affecting your immune system, your nervous system. So the repression of emotions, which is a survival strategy, then becomes a source of physiological illness later on.

That’s what happened to me. I developed an autoimmune disease.

Oddly, even though I went through therapy for a while, no one ever really helped me to understand and process my emotions. Maybe I just wasn’t getting it. It was The Healing Codes that started me on the path to actually healing the heart issues at the source (and also, quelling the physical issues).

It wasn’t easy to heal that Pivotal Memory. I had to identify the lies and the vow. My heart was fearful of being hurt, or humiliated like poor Richard was. (He was never the same after that incident. I noticed.) By understanding both High Sensitivity and Childhood Emotional Neglect, and by identifying the lies and replacing them with truth and images of how to handle emotions in a healthy way, I have found healing and a new way of being.

What Pivotal Memories do you need to heal?

You will greatly speed and deepen your healing when you identify and heal both foundational and pivotal memories. You will also remove many blocks that have held you back in many areas of life. Start today!

And if you need any help, check out both the free and personalized coaching from HealingCodesCoaching.com.

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I had visited this memory many times.

I thought I’d healed it, but it keeps popping up.

Each time, I realize there’s some new aspect of it that’s being healed.

There are several memories like this that pop up again and again to heal.

When such a memory is a very early childhood memory, I tend to think of it as foundational. These memories lay the foundation upon which so much of the rest of our life is built.

A foundational memory is like the initial fractal pattern that gets iterated in different ways as we progress through life. (Fractals are patterns that are programmed to “repeat themselves similarly.”

The difficult thing is such foundational or fractal memories can be very hard to access. They are often buried in the subconscious mind. Sometimes they’re the results of what you didn’t get–the lack of nurturing that’s thought of as Type A Trauma or Childhood Emotional Neglect, which is every bit as damaging as more obvious abuse.

Foundational/fractal memories can also be generational. We now know, from numerous studies, that traumas in one generation can be passed down to the next. For instance,  the babies of mice who were exposed to the scent of cherry blossoms and then given a shock, will show a stress response in the presence of cherry blossom scent–even though the babies themselves were never shocked.

How can this be? No one knows for sure yet. My theory is that the memory gets encoded in some kind of “informational energy pattern” in the cells itself, and is passed down through the DNA.
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I was talking with a new client about what to expect with The Healing Codes. We can’t promise that you will heal physical issues. We can’t promise that every relationship will heal, or that your financial woes will go away.
 
So what can we promise? What can I tell you for sure The Healing Codes or Healing Prayer will do for you if you do them faithfully? And why can I say with confidence that every area of your life can get better?
 
When you heal the underlying “heart issues”–those “implicit memories” buried in the subconscious that can pop up and sort of superimpose themselves in the present situation–you remove a certain kind of stress that you may not even be aware was influencing you.
 
When you remove that stress, your health improves because your immune system is not having to deal with the unconscious stress signals that cause your cells to close and potentially move into disease mode.
 
Did you ever notice that when you’re stressed, you tend to be your worst self? So do other people. When two people are operating out of “worst self” stress mode . . . well, I don’t have to tell you it’s not a pretty picture for the relationship.
 
And have you ever noticed that when you’re stressed, you’re not your most productive self, either?
 
So what “healing heart issues” does is help you move from your “worst self” to your “best self” by removing the things that caused your stress.
 
Everything improves because YOU improve.
 
That’s why, the more you heal your heart issues, the more every area of your life will  get better.
 
Health improves. Relationships improve because you’re your best self. (And, because if you release the effects of your Healing Codes to others, it’s amazing how they heal, too, and become more like their best selves.)
 
Your career and work satisfaction also tends to take off  because you’re at your best.
 
So that’s what I can promise, if you do Healing Codes or Healing Prayer faithfully. You will be moving ever closer toward your best self, and that will make everything in your life better.
 
If you would like help in identifying the key issues and memories, including hidden memories, that will make the most difference in your life, check out the coaching link at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

We have nothing to fear but fear itself–nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance,” President Franklin D. Roosevelt famously said in his inaugural speech in 1933, as he faced his first term of serving a Depression-battered country.

Yes, fear can derail you, paralyze you, block you from realizing your dreams. It can wreck your health if you are in a chronic state of unconscious fear.

You may have heard that FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. That’s OK as far as it goes. Many of our fears are really not based in reality. They exist only in our head.

But what if the fear is based on reality? What if the cancer you thought you had beaten came back? Or the marriage you worked so hard to salvage fell apart anyway, and things are devolving beyond your worst imaginings? What if someone sues you for something you never did, and your life is derailed?

What if you’re in the middle of a very real storm?

Fear that something may get worse is not always unfounded. Such fear can alert us to actions to take the prevent bad things from happening. (For instance, I found a powerful image of a boat in the storm from the Huffington Post. However, fearful that it might be copyrighted, I did not use it. Healthy fear!)

For the fears that are based in reality, I prefer a different rendering of FEAR: Forgetting Every Available Resource.

I first came across this in Kelly A. Turner’s excellent book, Radical Remission: Surviving Cancer Against All Odds.

Turner is quoting what Patti Conklin said in an interview with Turner. Conklin said the first thing a cancer patient needs to do is to get the physical body, the emotional body, and the spiritual body back into alignment, back into balance. Back into love (vs. fear). “I look at it as Forgetting Every Available Resource,” Conklin says. “And the resource is what we have inside of us.”

If FEAR is Forgetting Every Available Resource, the antidote is remembering. Remembering not only the resources inside of us, such as the body’s God-given ability to heal, and memories of times when we got through other difficulties.

I would add, it’s also about remembering there are lot of resources outside of us. Resources like people who support us, who pray for us. Resources like God himself, and all the promises to be with us, to help us, to strengthen us, to heal us.

Many, many times in Scripture God tells us to “remember.” Remember his faithfulness, both to his people in history, and to each of us in our own personal histories. (That’s why I wrote my book, Abundant Gifts. It records 260 examples of God’s goodness in my life and the lives of others. To help me and others Remember.)

I’ve written before about what makes something traumatic, what makes a UDIN: something that’s Unexpected, Dramatic, Isolating, and with No resources.

Remembering, and looking for, “every available resource” is another way to prevent trauma, to undermine a UDIN. If you reach out and find the resources of supportive people, it will also take away the I in UDIN.

All you have left is an Unexpected and Dramatic event. It does not have to be a trauma, then. You can make peace with it, and that’s when the healing begins.

Based in reality or not, fear does not have to paralyze you or rob you of joy. Scripture contains some form of “fear not” more than 300 times. We are only to “fear” one thing–God. And that’s a very different kind of fear.

“Fear of God” is awe. A recognition of the resources available in Him.

Have you ever read the Gospel story of how Jesus was asleep in the boat during a storm, and the disciples woke him up, accusing him of not caring if they perished? Jesus said they had little faith, and then he calmed the storm. The disciples were amazed and asked, “Who is this that can even calm the wind and the waves?” Their fear of the storm was turned a different kind of fear. It became awe, as they realized the Available Resource they had with them–Someone who could command the wind and the waves to be still. Jesus commanded peace. They had to stand in awe of that, for sure.

Making It Practical

So how can you use this for your healing work?

First, make a list of all your fears. (Some of mine: 1. fear of missing out; 2. fear of missing or forgetting something important; 3. fear of suffering; 4. fear of overwhelm. . . .)

Next, list some of the resources that are available to you, that can replace your fear. (For my first two fears: the inner resource of trust that God will give me what I need, when I need it, as he has done in the past. Also for #2, I’ve found some practical tools to help me keep track of things.  For #3: recalling times of suffering, and how I was not alone, how God and others helped me. For #4: the resource of gratitude and mindfulness: focusing on the positive with appreciation, staying in the present, and prayer–reminding myself of God’s ever-present help.)

In my Healing Code Prayer of Intention, I would name the fears and the memories attached to them. Then, I focus on the positive memories or Truth Focus Statements that correspond to each fear while doing the Code.

I also keep track at the end of my day of the “wins” and things I’m grateful for from that day. These “remembering” practices go a long way in helping turn around my fears.

Let us Remember–and Recognize–Every Available Resource.

And if you need some extra help with anchoring this so that unhealthy fear is replaced with Remembering, consider getting some coaching and a custom Healing Code for fear that just won’t go away. Also, you might be interested in Abundant Gifts and keeping a Gifts Journal to help you Remember.

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Have you ever had a dream that somehow seemed important, but you didn’t know why?

It may be a message from your heart about what needs to be healed.

I have long been fascinated by dreams, ever since college days when I studied Carl Jung’s ideas on dreams and the symbols of the “collective unconscious.” I was a literature major, so images and symbols fascinated me.

Now, as a Healing Codes Practitioner, I hear from clients who sometimes tell me their dreams, and I’m struck by how often the dreams give clues to heart issues that need to be healed.

For instance, one woman shared this dream:I was a young girl and was attacked by a tiger, but it seemed to only give me a tiny surface scratch on my upper arm.  Later in the dream, I lifted up my sleeve and the wound was HUGE and festering and disgusting and dangerous and I  knew it would kill me if I didn’t heal it!  And in the dream I had not been at all aware what was going on under my shirt sleeve!  I thought the ‘wound’ was ‘nothing’ until I ‘uncovered’ the wound and learned it was actually horribly infected and was killing me!  My mother and brother were in that dream (key players in my hurtful childhood).  Obviously, it was full of symbolism about the pictures of the heart (things that seemed small when they happened are really festering and deadly if not dealt with using the Healing Codes!).  Pretty cool, huh?”

This client was becoming adept at seeing the connection and receiving the message from her heart. In fact, she also shared this (see if you can make a connection between this and her dream): “Interestingly, I am suddenly able to do the ‘kindness’ code in the Healing Codes manual!  I was in complete denial about that one up until after I had done your last custom code!  Suddenly, it was absolutely clear to me that the ‘kindness’ issue was one of my MAJOR problems!  Suddenly, I could see how all the ‘problems’ connected with the ‘kindness’ issue DO apply to me perfectly!  SO STRANGE that I could NOT see that before!  I just refused to acknowledge it and refused to see how any of that applied to me.  It’s obvious now. So I have been focusing on the ‘kindness’ code from the HC manual since the last custom code ‘expired’ and I can REALLY feel things happening inside of me!”

After she had the dream, and had used the custom Healing Code I gave her, this client was able to break through and work on an issue that may well have been at the core of her most troublesome issues.

See how it all works? A custom code “jump starts” healing to the point where the heart can begin to trust that, if it opens the door and lets some memories out, they will be healed rather than cause more hurt. (As The Healing Code explains, the role of the heart is to protect you from further emotional pain.) Once some memories are healed, the heart offers up more. Those are healed, and you begin a beautiful spiral upwards toward fullness of life.

Often a client will tell me that they have no memories. Here is where dreams can be especially helpful.  Here’s the key: Use your dream as the “memory” you are healing. Identify the feelings from the dream, and insert in the prayer of intention, where you would normally put the memory: “. . .  from the dream about. . . .”

If you have had recurring dreams, pay attention! Try healing “the [feeling(s)” from the dreams about. . .” Again, these are clues from the heart about something that needs to be healed.

If you feel “stuck” in any way, start telling your heart that you will pay attention to your dreams. Try to remember them when you awake, and even write down any dream that feels especially vivid.

Feelings and images are the things to pay attention to. This is not at all about “if you dream about such and such it means this will happen.” It’s about what feelings your dream calls up, and the images from the dream. They are images that will mean something to you. For instance, the “tiger” in my client’s dream could be any number of things. We had to explore what that symbol meant for her. If you had a similar dream, the tiger might mean something completely different.

So welcome your dreams, and the healing that follows!

If you need any help “jump starting” healing for your issue, or interpreting your dreams, or you just want someone to help you find hidden memories or guide your healing journey, visit my HealingCodesCoaching.com site. You’ll find all kinds of free help, as well as how to pursue more personalized coaching options.

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Do you have an issue you keep praying about or doing Healing Codes for, yet it doesn’t seem to heal? Just when you thought it had healed, it boomerangs back at you!

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There can be many reasons why an issue doesn’t heal quickly or easily, or keeps popping up once you think it’s healed.

One way to address this is to make sure you heal any secondary issues by going through the 12 Healing Code categories.

Start by going through the 12 Categories (chapter 11 in The Healing Code, or the Healing Codes Manual). They are also categorized in the Heart Issues Finder, a free assessment that will help you determine which areas are weakest for you.

The 12 Healing Codes categories are: Unforgiveness, Harmful Actions, Unhealthy Beliefs (the 3 inhibitors to healing); Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Trust, Humility, Self-Control.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, I pray that you would find, open, and heal all known and hidden negative images, beliefs, cellular and generational memories, and all resulting physical issues, related to [insert the category, e.g. ‘any unforgiveness issues that are at the source of my X issue’], by filling me with Your love, life, and light. I also pray that you would magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optimal pace, and restore everything to Your original design. Thank you, God, for your willingness and ability to do these things.”

You can do this for the next 12 days, using either the universal Healing Code, the codes from the Healing Codes Manual for the 12 categories, or a custom Healing Code. Include anything that comes up for you as you explore that issue from all 12 angles.

You don’t have to be super strict about the order of the categories. If, for instance, on Day 4 a Peace issue comes up rather than a Love issue, address the Peace issue. Just make sure you end up addressing all 12 categories.

Always let your heart be your guide! It will “serve up” what needs to be healed next as you work with this process and become more and more in tune with it.

This is also a good protocol for praying or doing Healing Codes for another person, by the way. You probably don’t know the true issue, so praying and coding through all the categories for that person is a good way to ensure that you hit upon the real issue, as well as secondary issues.

If you would like a custom Healing Code for your issue and guidance in getting the most out of The Healing Codes, visit my HealingCodesCoaching.com site. There’s lots of free help there, too!

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