Tonight I met with my first client from China to do a Coach-Guided Healing Code.

It got me to thinking about the hundreds of clients I’ve worked with over the past 9 years of being a certified Healing Codes Coach-Practitioner, and what I’ve learned and observed.

First, I have the most wonderful clients in the world. Surprisingly, the vast majority of my clients are also Highly Sensitive. It’s surprising only because Highly Sensitive People only make up around 20% of the population, yet they comprise at least 80% of my clients. Perhaps it’s because The Healing Codes are so attractive to HSPs. It is a gentle process that involves meditation–an approach well-suited to HSPs.

With only one exception (more on that below), all of my clients are remarkably motivated to heal. Many of them have had overwhelming obstacles to overcome–abuse of all kinds, tremendous health challenges, financial hardships, and difficult relationship issues.

Yet they are not giving up! They are not victims. And, because of their commitment to their own healing, they do overcome. Many have dramatic breakthroughs.

These clients bolster my faith in the human spirit. Most people do want to be healthy and happy. God put that desire into us, and I believe he works with us to bring that about. With that commitment and help from God, it’s amazing how much people can overcome.

The one exception? A client with ALS whose doctor brought him to me as a last resort. The doctor warned me that she had little hope of his recovering, and soon I learned why. The man was completely devoid of love for anyone, including himself. I think we got through two sessions. I doubt he ever did his custom codes. He died of his illness within a few weeks of when I talked to him. His doctor said she wasn’t surprised, but had hoped that something could break through to him. Without his commitment to himself, however, no help could get through. Read More→

I recently attended Julie Bjelland’s class, “7 Steps to Embody the Gifts of Your Sensitivity” and I have to say, it has caused some major positive shifts in me.

Rarely has anything had this kind of effect on me so quickly. Putting into practice just a couple of Julie’s suggestions has also helped my husband (who is also Highly Sensitive). So I just have to tell you about this.

Julie calls herself a “personal trainer for the brain,” and it’s refreshing to see her science-based approach. In the first class, Julie explained how the HSP’s brain is different (more activity in amygdala and insula, which is why we process things so deeply, feel and perceive everything), and how to activate the calming centers in the brain.

She gave us very specific but easy things to do to “drain the container” of all we take in–which is much more than non-HSPs. She explained why we need to process our experiences, how to do that–and what will happen if we don’t. Read More→

In an earlier post, I talked about a way of breathing recommended by HeartMath, in which you breathe with awareness and appreciation into your heart area. This helps your body get into “coherence,” where everything is in balance as measured by Heart Rate Variability.

HeartMath recommends a paced breathing, e.g. 5 breaths in, 5 breaths out, in an even rhythm.

Other people recommend breathing out slightly longer than breathing in,  claiming it does something in the brain to turn off the stress response. For instance, I heard a teleseminar for Highly Sensitive People in which Julie Bjelland shared a breathing technique that uses the 4-2-7 rhythm: breathe in for a count of 4, hold for 2 seconds, exhale for a count of 7.

Dr. Andrew Weil advocates the 4-7-8 rhythm as best, which is what I’ve been using most.

Other people suggest a 7-11 or 5-8 breathing pattern–no holding of the breath.

I thought it would be fun to test all these techniques with my EmWave, a portable device for measuring Heart Rate Variability, the test used to measure the coherence of the autonomic nervous system.

Which technique got me into the “green zone” (coherence) quickest (like the “appreciation graph above), which sustained it best? Read on! Read More→

Do you know your purpose in life?

Health experts and researchers say that knowing one’s purpose in life is a key factor in longevity.  It’s also vital if you’re fighting disease. In The Healing Code, coauthor Dr. Ben Johnson shared how his sense of calling and purpose helped him overcome ALS.

If you aren’t sure yet of your unique purpose in life, consider this exercise.

Ask yourself: When I am at my best, what am I doing? When I have felt the most satisfied with myself, what did I just do?

What you did–the action–is going to be a verb.  That verb often can describe your very essence.

Buckminster Fuller said, “God is a verb.” That is biblically accurate. When God revealed himself to Moses, he said he was the ultimate “be” verb: “I AM WHO I AM” (Exodus 3:14).

God’s verb is “I AM.”

Descartes is famous for saying, “I think, therefore I am.” His verb was “think.”

Your verb may come to you in a flash … or you may have to think about it for a while.  Here’s the key question:

What is the thread that runs through most of what you

do, that encompasses the essence not only of what you

do, but who you are?

Many people I’ve discussed this with know their verb quickly. But don’t feel bad if you do not know. Just keep pondering the above questions, until you begin to see it. Ask people who know you well: “What is it that you most value in me?” Often the Verb is something you do so naturally, you’re not even aware of what it is. You think everyone can just ____ (fill in the blank with what comes naturally to you), but they can’t.

My verb is “connect.” I love to connect people with ideas that will inspire them, enlighten them, change them.

I love to connect people with other people who will inspire, teach, encourage, motivate or enlightened them.

And I love to connect people with resources that will make their life easier and better in some way.

This is the thread that runs through everything I have done in my many-faceted career. When I was a book publishing coach and consultant, that’s what I was all about. And now as a healing coach, that is what people say they value most in me. In fact, I did these things in this very post–without even trying! Did you notice?

Your verb will characterize not only your career/work, but your relationships as well. As a parent, connect is what instinctively do. I also find myself trying to connect friends with ideas, people and resources that will make their lives better.

So that’s my verb. What’s yours?

Take a few moments to reflect on this.

It’s at the heart of what you have to offer the world, after all. It is your unique purpose for being on the planet, what you’ve been wired to contribute. And the best part is–your verb is what comes most naturally to you!

If you would like help identifying your verb, and removing any blocks to expressing it, consider booking a coaching session or more to explore this vital source of health and happiness.

 

 

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In a recent post, I mentioned how on my walk one day, a thought dropped into my mind: “You create a lot of your own stress, you know.”

The voice was not judgmental; it was just an observation. A message from my deeper self (or God) that came in the context of a wake-up call that I needed to deal with the stress in my life.

If I did not, I sensed, it was quite possible some health crisis could happen to me, like the heart attack that Dr. Mark Virkler had, despite his “doing everything right.”

I’m finding that, if we keep on a path of healing, we will heal at ever deeper levels. This message from my heart was an invitation to observe the ways I might be creating my own stress. To examine the beliefs and ways of thinking that, when indulged, disturb my peace and create the ripple effects of stress on spirit, soul and body.

The biggest way I create my own stress came down to this: trying to create the ideal.

Have you ever noticed that often your greatest strength can become your biggest liability? One of my great strengths is the ability to see possibilities–for myself and others.

I automatically see potential in everything, as well as the exact steps needed to achieve that potential.

Of course, this is helpful for my clients. I can see the possibilities they can’t when they’re mired in “heart issues.”

For me personally, though, it can be a liability. If I let the possibility I see become an expectation, I set myself up for stress.

Because I can see what could be, I can slip into feeling less content with what is. I set myself up for unhealthy control–trying to make that ideal outcome happen. Read More→

Recently, in my attempt to “become minimalist” (or at least less cluttered), I came across my EmWave2, a device that helps you monitor stress levels and get back into “coherence.”
 
It is a very useful personal Heart Rate Variability monitor.
 
I am using it to test various healing and healing prayer methods, and what it’s revealing is quite interesting. I recommend it for helping you to find ways to get out of stress mode.
 
The Emwave2 is put out by HeartMath, and their site has a wealth of fascinating information and some cool products, including the EmWave2, for getting your body back in balance.
 
Something they teach you is a stress release technique that shifts your feelings, not just your thoughts. We know from Dr. Bruce Lipton (The Biology of Belief) and The Healing Codes that it’s our feelings that really govern us, more than our thoughts (though thoughts are important).
 
You might want to add the following breathing technique to your practices. I think it will help especially with any physical issues you may have. When the body is in coherence, it can heal faster and it ages slower. It’s that simple!
 
So here’s the technique:
Step 1: Heart Focus. Focus your attention in the area of your heart, the area in the center of your chest.
 
Step 2: Heart Breathing. As you focus on your heart area, imagine your breath flowing in and out through that area. (If you have an EmWave2, you would use the Breath Pacer to guide you and find a comfortable rhythm.)
 
Step 3: Heart Feeling.  Continue to breathe through the area of your heart. As you do, recall a positive feeling–a time you felt good inside–and try to re-experience it. (If you do this already in your Healing Code work, it should come pretty naturally.) This could be a feeling of appreciation or care you have towards a special person, a pet, a place you enjoy, or an activity that was fun. If you can’t find a memory, just try to get into an attitude of appreciation or care.
 
Once you’ve found that positive feeling, sustain it by continuing your Heart Focus Heart Breathing, and Heart feeling.
 
You can practice this any time you are stressed, and of course, as you’re doing Healing Codes.
 
By the way, I got my EmWave in 2007. It is still working just fine, even after all this time and some years when I “lost” it. It’s proven to be a very good investment!

 

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I just lost my dear friend and spiritual brother, Dr. Ron Arko, as he went back to heaven.

I’ve known Ron and Dori Arko for almost 7 years. My husband and I spent a delightful day with them in 2014 in their home in Newport Beach, California. We’ve talked nearly every two weeks for those past 7 years–heart to heart talks.

Dr. Ron and I shared a love for people. a passion for seeing them healed, a delight in God and his ways, a fascination with quantum physics and true science, and so much more. We agreed we were more than friends; we were truly spiritual brother and sister, our hearts knit together by God himself.

Ron was a very wise and gifted therapist, and a great encourager. He always knew how to build up a person. He made you feel like you were his favorite. He cherished his wife, Dori, in such a tender way, it made you want to weep and do whatever it takes to have that, too. He counseled a lot of couples and people in ministry, too.

I confessed to Ron a few weeks ago, as he was wasting away with cancer, that I was not afraid to die. I was afraid of the process of dying.

Yet, seeing how Ron handled his impending departure from this world, with an unwavering faith in God’s goodness, with love and peace and even joy, and absolutely no bitterness, patiently enduring the pain–it changed me.

When he got his diagnosis of terminal cancer, one of the first things Ron did was write his biography. He asked me to edit it. It was a wonderful exercise for him to review his life and tell what he thought was important. Knowing the subtext was especially poignant for me. It made me think about what I would say about my own life.

Something else changed me: what he shared about what happened when he died for 10 minutes at age 15 and went to heaven.

He told me about this heavenly vision just a few weeks ago, as he was getting weaker and weaker from the cancer. He had never told anyone but Dori until recently. Now he has shared it publicly.

You can watch him talk about his trip to heaven and get a sense of his beautiful life, at http://newheart.org.

“Once you have experienced the glory of God,” he said, “you never see life the same again. You don’t have any fear, and you don’t hang onto things of this world.”

I had always wondered how Ron handled the many traumas of his life so well. How he could be so loving, kind and generous, and have such a loving relationship with his wife, when nothing in his background equipped him for that.

Now I knew.

Ron helped me overcome my fear of dying. He died of a particularly gruesome form of cancer. In his last days of life, Ron told me that because he had already had God’s glory and love shoot through him when he was in heaven the first time, he believed it changed him on a cellular level and that’s why he always had such a high tolerance for pain. He told me God would prepare me for whatever I would face, just as he had prepared Ron. I could trust in God’s goodness for the means of my death. And now i finally believe it.

“God is good, all the time,” Ron always said. He never wavered in that.

I believe it now, Ron. I believe it. . . . Thank you. Thank you for showing me how to live life as though everything is a miracle. I know this is, as you said, only a temporary separation. I look forward to our reunion, and I can feel you cheering me on from heaven, just as you did from earth.

 

 

Clients are often curious about how I “test” for their issue. “Is it muscle testing?” they ask.

My answer is always, “Not really. It’s a form of advanced bio-energetic testing that tests the subtle energy field. Since it’s proprietary to Dr. Alex Loyd, who trained us Healing Codes Practitioners, I can’t say anything more about it.”

The way I test, however, is based on the same principle as muscle testing. I recommend everyone find some kind of bio-energetic testing technique that yields accurate results, because it simplifies and enhances your life is so many ways.

What is Muscle Testing?

Muscle testing, when done correctly, can be amazingly accurate. It connects you with the part of yourself that I believe God built into us, but most of us have lost: the inner wisdom that knows what is good for you and not good for you, what is true and what is not.

When you are in the presence of something that is good for you, your body knows it. If Einstein was correct, everything is energy and frequency. Everything has a vibration. You have other senses besides your five senses, and muscle testing is the way you can connect what your subconscious knows is good or true for you, with your body’s response.

At any rate, that’s what Muscle Testing is. There are many ways to muscle test. One excellent method is The Truth Technique from Dr. Alex Loyd. It is one of his best products, in my opinion.

Here’s why:

  • First, it’s more than a muscle test. It’s actually an advanced form of applied kinesiology. (Just a notch below the one we certified Healing Codes coaches are trained to do.)

  • The Truth Technique gives you several options to try. Some of them worked for me, some didn’t. What worked best for me was “thumbs up or down.” We had a joke in our house: “What does the thumb say?” With the Truth Technique, you get to explore several options. One is bound to work well for you.

  • The very detailed instructions show you how to test for accuracy and correct for energy reversals. He tells you a way to test which of the two approaches are best for you. His methods will give you confidence, as you practice, that your testing is accurate. I have found it to be amazingly accurate.

  • It’s easy to learn, and comes with videos and a detailed Manual. And there’s a year-long guarantee.

Muscle testing of any kind needs to be used wisely. Don’t try to use it to predict the future, or to find out information about other people that is none of your business. That’s the wrong use. The right use of The Truth Technique or any other muscle testing technique is to test your environment to find out what’s best for you.

For instance, instead of blindly deciding that certain supplements are good for me because some expert (who is usually selling me something) says so, I just test whether it would be good for my body. In the health food store, I test which brand of supplement would be better for my particular body. Every day I also test which supplements (if any) or food my body needs at that time. Since our bodies are ever-changing anyway, I may test I need something one day and not another.

I test which issue would be best to work on with my Healing Codes. I test which Halo vial I need on any given day. I test whether I need to see a doctor about a certain symptom. (By the way, I always pray before I test. I pray that God would guide my testing and I would only test the truth.)

Bio-energetic testing has greatly simplified my life. It has helped me listen to my own heart, rather than what other people say or believe. I believe it will help you, too.

For more information on The Truth Technique, go here.

 

 

 

 

His admission rocked me—and served as a personal warning.

HomeSomeone I respect a lot for his spiritual and practical insights, Dr. Mark Virkler, revealed last week that he had had a heart attack. He thought it would never happen to him because he taught and lived out (so he thought) how to be emotionally, spiritually and physically healthy.

Yet he had a heart attack and ended up with bypass surgery.

I admired that he publicly admitted it. It took great humility and love to put aside his own reputation in order to help other people learn what might be causing problems down the road, unbeknownst to them—just as it did for him. He is writing about what he discovered about the contributing factors to heart attacks. It’s a wealth of information!

Even though Dr. Virkler did more good things for his health than I do (and I do a lot), he still had a major heart attack. He wrote, “Clinical studies have found that from 40 to 50 percent of the time, the first recognized symptom of heart disease is a fatal heart attack. It is the number one killer of people between the ages of thirty-five and sixty.

Yikes!

Dr. Virkler’s research led him to the conclusion that stress was the trigger for his heart attack.

He wrote, “I believe the cause of my heart attack was stress, emotional and spiritual. I loved what I was doing and was going overboard with it. Plus God had given me some directions about curtailing some of these activities, and I was bargaining with Him about stretching those rules. Then, heart attack.”

That really hit me. I too love what I’m doing. I love working with clients, helping them heal their heart issues. I love writing these blogs and emails. But I think I too go overboard. (Part of being Highly Sensitive is this “depth of processing” thing. I sometimes don’t know when to stop, especially if I’m enjoying what I’m doing.)

I have felt God has been telling me for years to get more sleep—specifically, to go to bed earlier. I too have been bargaining with him about stretching the rules. “God, I don’t know what to cut out.”

Well, God was not bothered by that. He has been showing me in any number of ways, through books, articles, podcasts, warnings like this from other people who have not taken time to rest—you name it. I can’t fault him for not trying to get through to me! It’s actually become quite comical. “God, what are you going to show me today?” Seems he never tires of trying to get me to see what he wants me to see.

I feel he’s boiling it down to two things.

One: Get to bed earlier (I have noticed that I feel quite a bit better if I’m asleep by 11pm—which has rarely happened in the past few years).

And two: Quit creating my own stress.

That last thing was a revelation. One day on my walk, a thought intruded that I did not expect.

“You create a lot of your own stress,

you know.”

Ouch!

The inner voice held no judgment. It was merely an observation.

I tend to believe it was God’s Spirit speaking to my spirit, because after reading about Mark Virkler’s heart attack, I had been praying about what unconscious stress might be causing certain physical symptoms to come back—symptoms I thought I had conquered. I believe it’s because I am healing at a deeper level as new insights have been uncovered about growing up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, and being Highly Sensitive. In that process, physical symptoms have come up—symptoms my testing indicates have everything to do with stress. (More on testing here.)

Just as that voice was nonjudgmental, so my own approach to seeing how I create my own stress can be led by curiosity, without any self-condemnation. It will be an experiment: see if I can catch myself creating stress. I may ask a few close friends for feedback. I will certainly continue to pray about it. I’m approaching it with curiosity and eagerness, and a willingness to change. (I have a great tool to change harmful actions and wrong beliefs. Can you guess what it is?)

Are there ways that you, too, create your own stress? Or is there something that still, small voice has been whispering for you to change, but you’ve been ignoring it or bargaining with it?

I don’t mean to be overly dramatic, but listening to that voice could possibly be a life or death matter. It was in Mark Virkler’s case.

Mark is making changes in his life. He writes, “I must learn to live more relaxed, taking more time to express the different kinds of energy available to me–not just mental energy, but energy from my heart (love) toward my wife and those I touch, and spiritual energizing as I play my autoharp and sing in worship unto the Lord.

My change will be to NOT go back to the computer after supper, no matter how urgent the matter seems, and take the evening to relax, do my evening ritual of stretching exercises, Halo, talking to my husband and reading.

And to notice the ways I’m creating my own stress.

What will your change be?

If you would like some outside help with managing your stress, I’m available for coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

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So here I was, dealing with an issue that seemed chronic, with no happy end in sight.

What to do?

First step is what I usually do: Pray.

“God, what do I do here? I don’t know if I can change the situation at all. It seems pretty bleak….”

One word came to me: Appreciation.

This was not a new concept for me. Appreciation is what turned around my post-partem depression some 23 years ago. I started looking for what felt like gifts from God, be they big or little. I recorded them. Eventually, those “appreciation stories” became the book of my heart, Abundant Gifts.

Sometimes we just need reminders, though.

When I’m stressed out about something, what inevitably

brings me back to Joy the quickest is appreciation.

After I got that word, I slowed down enough to see what I could appreciate in the moment.

Lots of things came to me.

It was first thing in the morning, and I relished the fact that I had no one to answer to until my first client. I made my tea, and sat down with my Halo and Bible to see what insights and treasures I might get from God’s word.

I savored the sunshine coming in the window (a rarity this spring it seemed). When a text message notification dinged, instead of feeling interrupted and annoyed, I felt glad that I had a friend who wanted to text me.

And so it went. All day I tried to turn my frustrations into moments of appreciation. When yet another technological issue came up, I thought with a chuckle how this must be God’s way of keeping my brain healthy. They say your brain stays healthy when you give it challenges. Boy, does my brain get a workout every day, just on technological issues!

When my husband came home from work, I looked for things to appreciate, and made sure I expressed them. Since his love language is “words of affirmation,” this really fills up his love tank.

(My love language is “acts of service.” Right now he is mowing the lawn. I am appreciating the things he takes care of around the house, and must make sure to tell him! I’ll overlook the dirty dishes in the sink that I have to work around to make dinner. . . . See how it works?)

I’ve often been struck that the key to healing is releasing and replacing. In healing work, we identify the negative, release it, and then replace it with the positive. That is crucial to completing the healing cycle. With The Healing Codes we use Love Pictures (which are really appreciation moments) to replace the negative memories.

As I practiced looking for things to appreciate throughout the day, I noticed my chronic issue that seemed hopeless didn’t feel as big as it did before I consciously returned to appreciation. What had shifted was not the situation, but my perspective.

Appreciation may be the biggest perspective-shifter there is. We don’t have to limit appreciation to our healing work. Appreciation is for every moment. Right now I’m releasing the frustration over the dirty dishes, and replacing it with appreciation that my husband is mowing the lawn.

These are little things. Everyday things.

But it’s the little things that bring happiness. It’s the little things that make up a life. The small decisions–to appreciate, or stay stuck in frustration–are what build the internal climate and lay the groundwork for positive or negative relationships. And it’s relationships that color the biggest part of the picture of our lives, isn’t it?

I’m finding that nothing turns things around for me like simple appreciation! At the end of the day, I like to take a few moments and think through what was good about the day. Ending on a note of appreciation, according to brain experts, actually counteracts our innate negative bias and helps us create a better reality.

I’m all in! How about you?

Challenge: Find at least 3 things to appreciate every day. Savor them. You might even want to write them down in a journal. You can use the Abundant Gifts Journal here, if you like.

And if you want some help in healing negative pictures and replacing them with positive appreciation moments, check out my Healing Codes Coaching site. Much help there of all kinds, from free to intensive coaching!

 

 

 

 

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