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Nov
25

Simple Health Rules to Live By

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There are a few simple rules I live by that have kept me functional despite multiple diagnoses (Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, GERD, osteoporosis, IBS–all of which seemed to be kept at bay):

1. Eat real food. And preferably, something that is live or raw at every meal. 

sliced orange fruits underwaterSeveral years ago I heard a theory about orgone energy, “a universal life force hypothesized by Wilhelm Reich, supposed to emanate from all organic material, that purportedly plays a role in physical and mental health.” Reich believed that live foods maintain this life force, and if you eat something live at every meal, it will energize your body.

Though the Internet has poo-poohed Reich’s ideas, it makes sense to me that live foods would have a life force in them, and I don’t see how it can hurt to eat something with the life force in it at every meal.

Besides, so many of the real breakthroughs in science and other arenas come from those who “think outside the box.” First their ideas are ridiculed, until more and more evidence starts to confirm them. Finally, their ideas are accepted and moved “into the box”–until there is another paradigm shift from others who “think outside the box.” (Unless, of course, the powers that be who don’t want any other narratives but theirs to prevail use that power to “deplatform” and silence those who dare think outside the box. But we haven’t seen that happen, have we?)

shallow focus photography of person walking on road between grass2. Exercise every day, preferably outdoors, in nature. Even 20 minutes every day will lower your mortality, according to studies. Get some sunlight every day, even if it’s through one of those happy lights. Cut the blue light in the evening.    

3. Live within your circadian rhythm. Every organ has its own little clock, and there is a master clock in your brain. Learn to know your own rhythms, especially optimal times for waking and getting to bed.

The HOLOS Balance devices really helps with this. It’s my all-time favorite wellness device, and in my opinion, better than anything else that’s way more expensive. Find out more here, and get 15% off if with this link.

 

4. Heal your heart issues. Start with your fears, and the lies you believe.

5. Practice gratitude. If you haven’t already, start keeping a gifts journal.

And if you need more personalized help with healing your heart issues, check out HealingCodesCoaching.com for options.

Oct
21

Why I’m Not on Social Media

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I used to be on Facebook, and encouraged people to follow me. I have a few YouTube videos as well. (There’s one on how to do The Healing Code, by the way, but the better quality one is here. YouTube won’t let you replace videos and keep your stats.)

Astute readers of my Healing Heart Issues Digest newsletter who have followed me for a while (there are many of you—thanks!) may have noticed that I no longer include links to my social media pages.

I still have an account on Facebook, and a few on X (formerly Twitter), but I never post. I only keep the FB account so that I can participate in private groups for which I have paid for access. (They’re supposed to be private, but . . .)

There are several reasons for my avoidance of social media. I’m going to go beyond the stuff everyone talks about—how it’s easy to get depressed when you see all these people posting all these wonderful things about their lives, for instance—and tell you about some of the reasons why I personally choose not to participate much at all in this milieu.

Perhaps it will help you rethink, or confirm, your own social media choices. (I’d love to hear your perspectives, too!)

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Mar
11

Hidden Stressors-Part Four-toxins

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In this series on hidden stressors, I’ve mostly focused on the emotional aspects.

For many of us, this is the kind of stress that’s easiest to hide, especially if we’ve grown up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), or are high on the sensitivity spectrum.

Another reason I’ve focused on the emotional, is emotional issues can predispose us to being more vulnerable to yet another hidden source of stress: toxins.

All of us are subject to this hidden physical stress.

Toxins lurk in our food, water, air, cosmetics, household cleaners, even fabrics.

They also lurk in the energy around us, in the form of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF) and dirty electricity.

I don’t think I have to go into detail about all this. No doubt you’re aware of it, and may feel a little helpless about what to do about it all.

However, we are not helpless at all. There is one main thing we can do to keep healthy, and that is to focus on the immune and nervous systems. Read More→

Feb
04

Try This (Different) Kind of “Diet”

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I‘ve written about how, when you want to change something, the focus needs to be on staying in the new energy of what you desire, through doing some small daily task to keep you in that energy.

I have set this, my sixty-sixth year, as “the year to fix and nix” and 2023 as “the year to be free of all that’s not me. 

One of the things I’m “fixing and nixing” is my thought life.

Many people at this time of year go on a diet. Or they resolve to work out, “get in shape.”

I propose a different kind of “diet,” a different way to “get in shape.”

It’s a “thought diet,” an idea inspired by Dr. Natali, Edmonds, who coaches what she calls Careblazers—people who are taking care of a loved one with dementia. (If you’re in this situation, check out her Youtube videos.)

Imagine your thoughts are like items on a giant buffet. Everything you believe, the habitual thought patterns, are spread out before you.

As you go through the buffet line, you get to choose what thoughts you want to “put on your plate” to “take in.”

I think a lot of us don’t realize that we get to choose how we feel, by choosing our thoughts.

The formula, which every child should be taught but few have parents who know this themselves, is that our thoughts determine our feelings, and our feelings determine our behaviors. Behaviors then tend to reinforce the thoughts, which get cemented into beliefs, and then the feelings are hard-wired into our bodies, until we find ourselves caught up in patterns we don’t feel we can control.

But we can. We do it by becoming aware of our thoughts, and, like going through the buffet line, we choose which thoughts we desire to think that will lead to the feelings we want to feel.

Here’s the kicker, for me at least: Just because a thought is true, doesn’t mean you have to hang onto it.

You can still look for a different thought, which can be just as true, but will lead to feeling better.

Here’s an example.

Let’s say you asked your spouse to take out the trash. It’s now 10pm the night before trash pickup day. He still hasn’t taken out the trash. In fact, he’s gone to bed already!

Thoughts: He never does what I ask him to. He just ignores me. Now I have to do it, on top of everything else I’ve done today. I’m just as tired as he is. But I always end up picking up his slack. I’ve had it.

What do these thoughts make you feel? Irritated, resentful, perhaps even unloved. Unheard, uncared for. Angry!

The incident may have triggered earlier feelings from unhealed memories of being ignored, unappreciated, not heard. (Those are the memories you would want to address with a Healing Code, so that you can more easily do the next step.)

Can you stop in that moment of fatigue and irritation, and notice your thoughts and feelings? And then ask yourself, “What would I like to feel now instead?”

Perhaps you want to feel compassion—for yourself and your spouse. Compassion is so healing, and is one of my go-to feelings. You might choose thoughts like, “I’ve had a hard day, and he has too. We’re both exhausted. When I’m tired, I forget things, too. I’ll just take out the trash and be done with it, and tell him tomorrow that I would really appreciate it if he would take out the trash earlier in the evening next week.”

Do you see how much energy you can save by choosing different thoughts and therefore creating different feelings for yourself?

The first step is to tune in and notice. Notice how you’re feeling, and what thoughts are fueling those feelings.

Then, picture yourself at that thought buffet. The current thoughts are spread out. You don’t have to put them on your plate! Think about how you want to feel, and look for the thoughts that would lead to those feelings.

Don’t beat yourself up for the negative thoughts and feelings. You are human. Those thoughts and feelings are real. But again, just because they’re real, and perhaps even true, doesn’t mean you have to keep them. You don’t have to put everything on that buffet table onto your plate. (Imagine if you tried!)

Remember always: You get to choose.

If you haven’t yet chosen your “new energy intention” yet, perhaps it can be “I get to choose.” Or simply, “Notice!” Like my “calm focus” reminder, it could help you make the changes you desire, with less friction and effort.

And if you want to learn techniques for healing and transformation that make this kind of suggestion easier to do, send me email (diane at healingcodescoaching.com). I’ll send you information on my new Align with Your Divine Design(TM) program to guide your discovery of your unique purpose, with brand-new, science-backed tools to rewire your nervous system and heal the blocks that keep you from expressing that purpose.

Jan
14

Nervous System Rx

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I woke the other morning with two words in my mind: calm focus.

calm focus

The words themselves had a calming effect. I often wake up feeling anxious, not sure why. Emotional inflammation? Maybe. Some of my other clients (especially the Highly Sensitive ones) report the same issue.

But this morning, those two words immediately seemed to override the anxiety.

I’ve been using them all day, returning to them again and again, especially as I begin a new task. Just saying the words to myself, calm focus, seems to bring that very thing into my being.

The word calm is calming in itself. Once I feel the calm, the question becomes, “How can I bring calm focus to this task?” That’s the mental part.

What words bring peace and calm to your nervous system? Read More→

I was speaking to a client the other day, and she brought up the question of past lives.

I wrote about that, here. I do not believe in past lives, but I do think that it’s possible that people can access generational memories, which I believe are stored in the information energy pattern in the DNA that gets passed down.

There is more and more scientific knowledge to back this up. My favorite experiment is about how mice exposed to cherry blossom scent while being shocked passed down the fear to subsequent generations. You can read about that from any of the articles here.

So some of our stuff may not even be ours, or it wasn’t ours originally, but because we were born with the “filter” of that passed-down trauma, we might start to interpret our own experiences through that lens. Thus the issue then becomes our own. And that may be why the generations rarely evolve and get better; they more usually devolve from the accumulation of sins and these negative patterns and “programming.”

Unless someone breaks the pattern.

That someone can be you.

If you have a background that is less than ideal in any way (who doesn’t?), remember you can break the cycle. You always have the ability to choose. You can break free from any negative family pattern and create a whole new pattern.

You do that by healing yourself.

How do I know this to be true? Because my life proves it.

I didn’t know, until I went through the 17-month ordeal of attempting to settle my mother’s estate as co-executor, just how negative and damaging the family patterns were. Oh, I could see how the patterns have shown up in my siblings’ families, but I escaped it, right? I employed what one of my counselors called “the geographic solution”–I moved away 1000 miles right after college, and rarely looked back.

I made different choices in life than my siblings and my parents. And I have managed, by God’s grace (I do not say that lightly at all), to have stayed married to a wonderful man for 42 years; reared two children who are leading productive lives (despite what they inherited from their parents—more on that later); and enjoyed a wonderful, interesting and productive career.

Settling the estate, however, brought me face to face with what has not yet healed.

I am so very thankful that, before my mother died in November 2020, I had already developed additional tools, beyond The Healing Codes, that helped me not only stay relatively healthy despite the stress, but to also recognize and heal the hidden wounds that were uncovered.

And, beyond healing, to transform and become aligned with my divine design. To have an inner knowing that I am on the right path for me, and a peace that as I walk Next Clear Step by Next Clear Step, exactly the right things will unfold for me to live out my unique purpose in life.

If this stirs something in your soul . . . if you long to heal from past patterns and align with your divine design so that you can also experience that sense of peace, purpose, and fulfillment, I invite you to check out my new Align with Your Divine Design program and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire. Then we’ll hop on a call to see if either of these programs is a fit.

Next time, I’ll show you how to pass on your healing to others. It starts with you committing to your own healing and transformation.

Nov
19

Turkey or Brisket? (Why It Matters)

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My client, M.H., told me a rather funny story about her family’s Thanksgiving (and gave me permission to share it). Yet it had a point that can apply to many of us, in one way or another.

All her life, M.’s mother made a turkey for Thanksgiving. Her mom loved turkey, and it’s the thing to do on Thanksgiving, right?

When mom entered assisted living and could no longer cook and host, M’s sister took over. She made the usual turkey, but also brisket, because they all loved brisket.

That year, no one ate the turkey. They realized mom was the only one that had ever liked turkey! M’s sister was furious, declaring, “I’m never cooking a turkey again!”

And so this family now happily celebrates Thanksgiving with brisket and other favorite foods. No more turkey!

What strikes me is that the mom never asked the others if they like turkey, and no one thought of speaking up. Isn’t this so typical of the way many of us do things? We go along with some tradition, never even taking a moment to tune in to our own desires and making our wishes known. We “eat the turkey” even though we hate it.

That’s OK for one day a year, but what if we’re living our whole lives that way? Those who grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, in which their emotions were ignored or even denigrated, often grew up “going along,” doing all the right things but feeling empty inside. Growing up with any kind of outright abuse can have the same effect.

If this is you, I’m here to tell you there’s more. And that you can have more, be more. If that nagging emptiness dogs you, that can be healed.

First you have to realize you’ve been living “eating the turkey rather than the brisket” you desire. Then, I invite you to check out my new program, Align with Your Divine DesignTM and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire. We’ll hop on a call to see how you can make sure every year you can happily “eat brisket not turkey” with others who feel the same way.

I have been “pregnant” with this idea for a long time.

Aware of the isolation so many of us feel, especially since the pandemic began, I have longed to create a community.

A community in which people will be able to feel they’re not alone.

A community in which people can be free to be their true selves.

A community in which people can heal.

A community in which people can not only heal, but be transformed.

Transformed by aligning with their divine design—connecting with God, their true selves, and other people who are on this same path of healing and transformation.

Does this sound appealing to you?

If so, would you please fill out this quick survey to tell me exactly what would be most valuable to YOU in such a community.

By the way, this will be a completely PRIVATE community housed on a private platform, NOT a social media platform. There will be no ads, no tracking of any kind by any outside party. That’s one of the purposes of it. I want it to be a SAFE and private community in which we can share who we really are and what we really think. We will be a like-minded group in terms of our transformational path, though that path will be unique to each person.

I’m totally convinced now that we can’t completely heal or transform alone. We need community.

Hence the Aligned Living Community. Let me know what you want: https://healingheartissues.com/ALCsurvey

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This Thanksgiving I’m going to conduct a spiritual experiment of sorts.

It’s typical to give thanks for the good things in life.

I want to go further. I want to be as grateful for the hard things, the seemingly “bad” things–the things I don’t like about my life, even the things I hate and wish would go away.

The things I call in Abundant Gifts “disguised gifts.”

You see, in my years of attempting to live “the Abundant Gifts way,”  I have developed a theory of how things work in the spiritual realm.

My theory, in a nutshell, is that when we, in faith, receive even the difficult, unwanted things in life as a gift, that somehow triggers that thing to become a blessing eventually in some way.

I don’t think that all things automatically or necessarily turn out for the good. Scripture says that God works all things together for good “to those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”

In other words, to those who live by faith, who are Aligned with their Divine Design.

It’s difficult to express how this might work. I don’t want to say that our faith “allows” God to turn a curse into a blessing, exactly. Yet I wonder if that is somehow how it works. If you shut God out of certain aspects of your life, how can he work things out for your good? But if in faith you welcome his grace into the situation, then he is “free” to work things out as promised.

There are definitely things in my life I do not welcome. Yet, in faith, I recognize that I probably do not see the big picture. How often, in retrospect, did you experience something that was not pleasant at the moment, but later turned out to be a gift in some way?

So now, at this moment, though I do not see the blessing in some of my circumstances, I believe that it’s possible for God to turn it into something good.

So I will thank God for everything, good or not apparently so good, this Thanksgiving. I can pray, “God, I don’t understand how this thing can possibly be good in any way. But in faith, I believe you can turn it into something good. So I thank you for allowing this into my life, and I will wait, in hope and faith, for you to transform this into blessing in some way.”

I’m very interested in your response. Should we give thanks for all things? Post your comment on the blog by clicking “comments,” please.

And if you would like some personalized help in removing the blocks that keep you from being Aligned with Your Divine DesignTM , check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

 

This week we lost power for almost 2 days.

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The outside temperature was 90°F/33°C, with a dew point of 73°F. (I have learned that the dew point is a better indicator of humidity than “relative humidity,” and anything over 60°F is uncomfortable. I haven’t seen a dew point much higher than 73°F here, so this was nearly unbearable.)

On top of that, the night before the power loss, our kitchen faucet handle was about to break off. I called at least eight potential handymen (before we lost power). Only two got back to me. One said he could come the next day to fix it at 5pm, but then texted me at that time saying he couldn’t make it after all. At 5pm the faucet handle broke off completely. Two and a half hours later, with a lot of dishes to be washed from dinner, the power went out.

It reminded me of the children’s story I used to read to my kids: Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst.

For us, it was two days.

I can’t honestly say it was all terrible, horrible, or no good, though. Very bad, yes. But here’s how God helped me, and what I discovered about alignment, intuition and, surprisingly, electricity and sleep.

Hunting for the Graces

Because of what I had learned about how gratitude fosters resilience, I kept looking for things to be grateful for.

First: the storms that knocked down trees and power lines did not dump a lot of rain. With the power out, the sump pump would not have worked. Had it rained heavily, the basement could have flooded. That potential disaster did not happen, despite the storms that hit both nights our power was out.

Second: A handyman came that first morning after we went dark. He installed the new faucet my husband bought the night before. He did it in the dark kitchen, with a flashlight (bless his heart!). He left his phone and a screwdriver behind because it was so dark he couldn’t see that he’d set it down. Soon enough, we had a functional kitchen, which lessened the stress a little.

Third: A neighbor said we could put our frozen food in his freezer.

Fourth: We have a gas stove, so I could cook.

Intuition

As soon as we lost power, I went up to shut down the computer correctly. I have a BackUp Universal Power Source that is a surge protector and a battery backup. It allows your computer and peripherals to keep going in a power failure until you can shut it down properly.

Here’s where the intuition part comes in. Read More→

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