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The 3 C’s of Healing

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Ever since I embarked on this healing journey, for myself and others, I have been fascinated, perhaps even obsessed, with what makes people heal (and, conversely, what prevents healing).

Since many of my clients are making great progress, I have been studying what they are doing. Are there any key ingredients to their healing that caused major transformation in just a few short weeks?

Turns out there are. I have boiled it down to 3 C’s: Courage, Compassion, and Commitment.

Courage. It takes courage to heal. It means facing yourself and your feelings, which are often painful. It may mean facing the fact that your parents didn’t really love you, not because they didn’t want to, but because they didn’t have the capacity. It means facing unhealthy patterns and beliefs that you have developed, and taking responsibility to change them.

The clients who have healed the deepest and the fastest are those who are willing to be brutally honest with themselves (and me).

When being brutally honest, it’s important to add the next key component to healing.

Compassion. Facing the truth with that brutal honesty needs to be tempered with compassion, first for yourself. When you take responsibility for the dysfunctional beliefs and behaviors, you can tell yourself this truth: “I did the best I could at the time, because I was in survival mode (or, I didn’t know then what I do now, or I had no one to support me”).

Adding compassion to your truth-telling is the catalyst to healing.

It will also help you to heal relationships. You may, for instance, come to the heartfelt belief, “My mother didn’t really know how to love me because she grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect herself, and didn’t know how.”

Earlier I wrote about how compassion seems to release God’s healing power like nothing else. When we apply compassion to ourselves or someone else, I believe we connect with God and his healing flows through us. Truth and love—aren’t these the cornerstones of everything we do?

The third element ensures that the healing “sticks.”

Commitment. Those who heal are committed to their healing. They do their healing work regularly. It is only in the persistent practice of the healing tools that results come.

I have written here and elsewhere about how important commitment and consistency is to your healing. Once your heart realizes you are serious about your healing, and that you are committed to letting it lead the process, your heart will guide you.

It will override your head, or what some people call the “ego-mind” and others call “the flesh.” Whatever you call it, there is a force inside that doesn’t want you to heal, only because healing means change, and change is scary to the ego-mind. Ego-mind wants everything safe, which means, to it anyway, “the way it’s always been.”

One of the blocks to healing I have noticed in clients is a sense of “who will I be without ____”? (Fill in the blank with your issue, trauma, belief, etc.)

“Who will I be if I don’t see myself anymore as a victim of a narcissistic mother?”

“Who will I be if I don’t have this illness that has gotten me all this attention and the care that I never had as a child?”

“Who will I be if I let go of the fear that has ruled me all my life?”

The Commitment to our healing takes us full circle, right back to Courage. It overrides the ego-mind and activates the courage to heal.

And then—you will heal! Perhaps in a miraculous way.

If a miracle is defined as a shift in perspective, then you should expect miracles regularly from your healing work.

That is, as long as you rest it on the three-legged stool of Courage, Compassion, and Commitment.

And if you want some extra support, I stand ready to help you ignite your Courage, Compassion, and to hold you accountable to your Commitment to heal. Peruse the options at https://healingcodescoaching.com.

 

10th Annual Tapping Summit-Rewire Your Brain for SuccessThe 10th Annual Tapping Summit has just started, and it brings to mind a question that many have asked me: How does tapping compare to The Healing Codes?

I wrote an article on this, but the short answer is: they are complementary, because they address different systems.

When some event in your current life “triggers” an unhealed albeit usually unconscious memory, a block comes up in your bio-energetic field, in the meridian system.

Tapping very quickly and easily removes that energy block, so you feel better. Tapping definitely can release negative energy, and is especially good for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) who can so easily take on other people’s energy unwittingly. (I’m glad to see that some of the presenters will address this.)

Will the tapping provide a permanent fix? Read More→

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Is it ever dangerous to do a Healing Code for someone else?

I never used to think so, based on the marvelous results so many have had doing Healing Codes for someone else.

For instance, if you’ve never read the story on this blog of Vinny, the boy with the inoperable brain tumor that went away after his grandmother and people reading this blog who did Healing Codes for him, please be ready to be amazed.

However, I have realized there are instances when it certainly can be dangerous to do a Healing Code for another person.

Read my article about when you should NEVER do a Healing Code for someone else–and what to do instead.

Frustration or … Fireworks!

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fireworks-useThe very first moments of the new year gave me a wonderful gift.

I was ready for bed by midnight. Just as I was about to climb into bed after giving my husband a big hug and kiss, I noticed the alarm clock.

"12:00 am. Jan 1"

I thought it looked cool, so I grabbed my iphone to snap a picture.

"Cannot Take Photo

There is not enough available storage to take a photo. You can manage your storage in Settings."

Oh well, so much for that. I consciously let go of the frustration, all too familiar, of not being able to do/have/get what I want because I didn't make time to do something that would make it possible. The daily frustation of technology again blocking a good idea and desire.

I got into bed. Comfort! Warmth!

Then I saw the lights flashing outside the bedroom window. Heard the boom. Fireworks!

Was it worth it to get out of bed to look?

Probably won't be able to see them anyway because of all the trees. Don't bother.

Still … I love fireworks.

I got out of bed, went to the window, peeked through the curtain.

Fireworks exploded right in the one place between all the trees that was clear. Unexpected bursts of color and light. Unexpcted beauty.

What are the chances of someone setting off fireworks in some place where I could see them so perfectly through my bedroom window?

I enjoyed the display then went back to the warmth and comfort of my bed.

It occurred to me that those few minutes capsulize the choices I will face throughout this next year.

I can either let the frustations of not getting/having/doing what I want get to me. I can rail against technology when it doesn't work (what-maybe 40% of the time?).

I can "stay in bed" and not bother to see if something wonderful might be beckoning.

Or I can make a little bit of effort, and be greeted by beauty and light breaking through when I least expect it.

What about you? What "fireworks" might you see if only you are aware they might be out there, and make a little effort to investigate?

And if you want any help healing the "heart issues" that are holding you back, check out my resources at www.HealingCodesCoaching.com. Many are free!

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The Healing Power of Love

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"I went out to breakfast with my friend yesterday," Mary, my crossing guard friend, told me as I stopped to chat on my walk."She made me feel so loved. I went home and got so much done yesterday! And I didn't need to use my nebulizer [for asthma] once!"

Mary's experience reminded me of the tremendous healing power of love. In my work with clients as a Healing Codes Coach/Practitioner, I encourage them to come up with a "love picture" to focus on while doing a Healing Code. A love picture is a memory of a time when they felt very loved and secure.

Sadly, some people have trouble coming up with even one loving memory for a love picture.

This week, I think I created a love picture for myself and my daughter–from the most unlikeliest of experiences. I would label this love picture, "Misery shared."

My daughter, Christine, went to bed the other night with a queasy stomach. "Uh-oh," I thought. Two nights before, I'd been up all night with stomach flu. Now it was her turn.

At 1:30 a.m., I heard her in the bathroom. I got up and went to her. For the next four and a half hours I stayed with her, holding her head as she retched every 15 minutes. She kept saying, "I'm going to die."

Because I'd been through it myself, I had an idea of just how long this part of it would last (though I was not nearly as sick as she was, thanks most likely to Healing Codes). So I told her it would be over soon, she'd be okay. All I could really do was be with her, hold her hands or her head, try to get a bit of water in her, and pray. I prayed that God's love would flow through me and help her heal, and that someday, she would remember this night and know that Someone else was with her, too. The One who was giving me strength to love despite still feeling weak from my own bout with this virus.

After about 4 hours, she held my hands tightly and said, "I love you, Mom. I'm sorry I was unsympathetic when you were sick." Sweet words, especially coming from a teenager! Shortly after that, she was finally able to lie down and sleep.

That night changed something in our relationship.I think she felt in a new way that I love her. The love that she knew in her head was there, penetrated deeper into her heart. And mine, too.

By God's grace, a miserable experience was transformed into a love picture that perhaps she will cling to someday. When she remembers that night–and she will, because she'd never been sicker–I hope what will stand out was not the misery, but the memory of someone being with her. And I pray that she will know that Someone who loves her is always with her, sharing every moment, even the most miserable.

What kind of love pictures can you create for someone else today? As a parent, a friend, a partner, we have tremendous power to heal, just with our love.

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