Did you know that there’s a place in your brain that literally lights up when you’re with someone who is glad to see you, glad to be with you?

And that when these “joy centers” or “relational circuits” light up,  a certain hormone–oxytocin–releases into your body and does all kinds of wonderful things to you, including promoting healing?

When your Relational Circuits are ON, you can live in love, joy, and peace, even if your circumstances are not so ideal.

When they are Off, you are in fear and stress mode. Then another hormone–cortisol–takes over, and that does bad things to your body over time.

So how do you know whether your Relational Circuits (RCs) are on or off?

Here’s how you feel when they’re OFF:

1. You just want to make a problem, person or feeling go away.
2. You don’t want to listen to what others feel or say.
3. Your mind is “locked onto” something upsetting.
4. You don’t want to be connected to ___ (someone you usually like).
5. You just want to get away, or fight, or freeze.
6. You more aggressively interrogate, judge and try to fix others.

If you answered yes to any of these, your Relational Circuits are OFF.

And having your RCs off “is like trying to see with your eyes closed or driving your car at night with the headlights off!” No fun–even dangerous.

So how do you turn them back on, so that you see the person as more important than the problem, and can operate from love, respect, humility, and peace?

There are things you can do with your body to actually help you “wake up” your RCs. Read More→