I wish someone had warned me about this. It would have made life easier for me when it happened.

That’s why I’m warning you now. I really didn’t want to write this post. (What woman wants to reveal her age?) Yet I felt compelled to, because it’s really important.

Something happens when you hit your sixties.

If you’re in your sixties (or beyond), you will probably nod your head and feel validated. I’ve talked to many of my friends and clients in this age group and they all say, “Yes! That’s how it is.”

If you’re younger, you will have been warned, as I wish someone had warned me. I’m hoping you’ll take to heart what I’m about to say, because it will make your sixties much easier when you do get there. The rumblings do start earlier–late forties and fifties.

So what it is that happens when you hit your sixties?

Simply this: All your prior coping mechanisms quit working.

Like cracks in an ice pond, the weight of whatever you were doing that seemed to make life work for you suddenly–doesn’t.work.anymore.

For instance, if you depended on multitasking to get things done–you find you can’t multitask anymore.

If you dealt with emotions by pushing them down and moving on–that won’t work anymore either.

If you skimped on sleep and got by–you can’t do that anymore. Your body will start malfunctioning one way or another (sleep affects so much).

If you got along fine without God or religion, OR if you were comfortable in your spiritual practices and religious beliefs–suddenly you may find yourself either adrift, or questioning the very beliefs that heretofore held your life together.

Traumas you never knew were there may resurface, and you hit the wall. You may have operated in “fight or flight” for years, and then suddenly the “freeze” takes over and you can’t function. Doctors might call it depression, but it may well be a freeze response to trauma.

The body really does keep the score.

If you feel like your body starts to fall apart in your sixties, I offer this thought: maybe that’s just an outward manifestation of what’s happening inwardly . . . the coping mechanisms fall apart, then the body follows suit.

What is actually happening, I believe, is that in one’s sixties, ANY unprocessed “heart issues” surface, in any number of forms, including physical ailments.

Not only that, but even the heart issues you thought you healed, if not healed entirely, will resurface and demand to be healed at a deeper level.

This may especially apply to Highly Sensitive People, who possess the traits of depth of processing (the pain and trauma go deep), and also emotional reactivity (the original emotions were strong). Unless a heart issue is healed completely, I can almost guarantee it will pop up again in your sixties.

And then, you will have to find a new way to deal with it, if you’ve just been coping rather than truly healing it.

I think it’s actually the spirit/body’s wisdom that makes all this happen. Your spirit and body want you to be healthy, to heal. The body knows that unless all the heart issues are thoroughly processed, that negative energy will compromise the body.

And Body does not want that at all. Body will send you messages. Body will prevent Soul’s former coping mechanisms from continuing to work.

Also, this is your spirit calling you to a much deeper level of being. It is your True Self calling. She/he may have been trying to get through all these years prior, but you were too busy to listen.

Too busy learning how life works and, perhaps, figuring out how to survive in a dysfunctional situation (growing up years).

Too busy figuring out who you were, what you were going to be when you grew up (adolescence).

Too busy building a career, raising a family (adult years until middle age).

Too busy ignoring the rumblings of your spirit and the messages from your body–and the disappointment of dashed dreams (we all have them by middle age).

Now, you’re in your sixties, and your body is screaming, your spirit is screaming: IT’S TIME!

This time you have to listen.

It’s literally a life or death matter. If you don’t listen NOW, two things will happen.

Your spirit will quietly sigh, and slowly withdraw. (Is this what aging really is?)

When the spirit withdraws, your body will give up. It is the spirit that gives life.

If you’re in your sixties, likely you know what I’m talking about. If you’re not yet there, look within. Can you honestly say you haven’t heard the rumblings of spirit and/or body, trying to send you messages?

Listen to what Body is saying; it will send clues. Example: for months I’ve had an itch in the middle of my back. The dermatologist said it was not a skin issue, but a neurological issue. A kinesiologist said my body didn’t agree with the doctor.

A business coach said that a sign you’re being called to something bigger is when you get the ITCH–when part of you just knows it’s time to go deeper.

My spirit lit up with the AHA when I heard that. My body sighed in relief. “She finally got the message.” That ITCH was about my calling to a new plane of spiritual healing and direction. When I recognized that–the itch went away!

What messages are your body and spirit attempting to give to you? Pay attention. Turn up the volume and really listen.

You are being called to finally shed the blocks to your true destiny. May you heed the call. Preferably NOW. Whatever your age, it will shorten the time spent avoiding, and lengthen the time living out, your destiny.

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