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Healing from “Not Enough”

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When I wrote last December about “settling into the energy of enough,” I had no idea it would be such a journey.

I thought it would be a simple process of figuring out what “enough” was, via reading a bit about Minimalism, clear some space physically, mentally, and emotionally. I thought it would be mostly about gratitude. I did not think it would not be a big deal.

After all, haven’t I been doing healing work every single day since 2007?

Well, it’s turned into quite an undertaking. Turns out, “settling into the energy of Enough” is a lot more involved than I thought.

First of all, there’s the becoming aware of how pervasive and deep “not enough” is for me. Who knew?

I began to realize that it goes all the way back to childhood (as most things seem to do—sigh). Because I grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect and was so different from my family (highly sensitive),  “not good enough” became a big part of me. Though I excelled at school, the family was indifferent to it. My father often said, “I wish my boys had your brains.” I took that to mean they were wasted on a girl. All that mattered for girls, in the culture I grew up in, was that they be pretty and please others, especially men.

Also, there was “not enough” of other things in the family. Attention, love, interest, money. As an adult, trying to grasp this suddenly huge issue of “enough,” I realize I continued the process by denying myself so many things that are really “me,” in favor of doing “what’s expected” (which was a big value in my family).

Religion also plays a role in this “not enough.” Distorted or incomplete religious teachings can lead you to feel you’re not good enough for God unless you do X, Y, or Z.  Even if you do grasp the meaning of grace, which is what true spirituality is all about, there’s often the subtle pressure in churches to “serve.” This is fine, but when there’s the sense that you can never really serve enough, the needs are so great and you’re being selfish to think of your own needs when there are so many people worse off than you who need what you have—then, at least for me—it becomes very toxic.

It’s not just religious communities who can send that message, either. Work environments can also foster this “not enough” mindset. “You won’t be successful if you don’t push harder, put in more hours than other people.”

You’re not enough. You don’t do enough. You don’t know enough. There is not enough. These messages are everywhere, aren’t they? Advertising is based on it.

Just becoming aware of how “not enough” affects you is the first step. Bring this unhealthy belief and the memories behind it to your Healing Code work! Using the Truth Focus Statement, I am enough, I do enough, I know enough, I have enough, there is enough has been quite a help. As I have worked with this, oh the freedom I’m experiencing!

If “not enough” is an issue for you, I would love to come alongside you on your healing journey and help you find the freedom to be you as well. Check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

I‘ve often thought that one of the reasons The Healing Codes work so well is that you spend the bulk of your time focusing on something very positive. It’s this meditative aspect that makes them work, I believe, possibly more than the technique itself.

Yes, you identify the negative “heart issue” to be healed (in your prayer of intention at the beginning). But then when you point to the Healing Center positions of a Healing Code, you make the energy coming out of your fingertips positive because of your positive thoughts.

(This may sound “woo-woo” but it is actually a quantum physics thing. The energy of your intention actually makes something happen in the world of matter.)

Knowing this, the question becomes:

“What is the most positive thing I can focus on while

doing a Healing Code?”

There really is no formula. It is whatever positive thing you want to. Whatever works for you. Experiment.

Having said that, I know some people want some specific tips. So . . . Read More→

Have you ever wondered what emotions are good for, anyway?

And what happens when you refuse to deal with an emotion?

Let’s say you feel sad about something, now. Growing up, if you showed sadness or cried, it made your parents feel uncomfortable. Feeling sad made you bad for making them feel uncomfortable. (You can substitute any other feeling you “weren’t allowed” to feel.)

If you were male and you cried, you may have been told, one way or another, to toughen up.

If you grew up this way, what are you likely to do with that present sad feeling?

If you let yourself feel it, you might find guilt being added to it (because when you felt sad in childhood and other people didn’t like it, you came to believe your feeling sad made someone else feel bad). Or shame (“I’m bad for feeling sad and causing a problem for someone else”). Read More→

Do you struggle in your relationships, especially close relationships?

The key to why lies in your childhood, in how you learned to love in your family. You learned patterns of relating that became “imprinted” upon you, including how to deal (or not deal) with feelings and needs.

An excellent book that explains all this is How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. My husband and I took a marriage class based on the book.

The authors have a free Love Styles quiz that tells you how you learned to love in your family. The patterns that you experienced will, without any kind of intervention, determine that “core pattern” of how you will relate in close relationships.

I recommend you take the Love Styles quiz, and find out what yours is. If you are part of the 75% of the population who did not learn a secure attachment style, you will be either an Avoider, a Pleaser, a Vacillator, a Victim, or a Controller–or any combination thereof! Read More→

Question about using The Healing Codes:

 I have no trouble identifying an emotional issue, however I can’t always link the feeling to a specific memory.  Is it OK to do the Healing Code on the emotional issue alone?”

You do not absolutely need to link the emotion to a specific early memory. Your heart will find and heal the issues that need to be healed.

That said, I will add that if you can find an early memory, it seems to speed healing. The more specific you can be with The Healing Code, the quicker the healing seems to happen. (That’s why custom codes are so powerful; they are specific to your particular issue. ) But you never want  to force anything with The Healing Code; that’s counter-productive.

At the beginning of your Healing Code session, give yourself a moment for any memories to surface. If they don’t, do the Code on the current emotional issue. As you work with The Healing Code and heal, you may find it easier to access the earlier memories.

Your heart may be protecting you from remembering early memories. Many of my clients also find that after working with The Healing Codes for a time, memories that have healed come to the surface. If there’s no emotional charge on that memory, then it usually means it’s healed. One of the wonderful benefits of The Healing Code is you “get your life back” as these healed memories surface.

One client had a very key early memory with several negative elements that needed to be healed. Interestingly, once the negative parts of the memory healed, it became a very positive memory–one she even started using for her “love picture”!

That’s all The Healing Code does, by the way: heals the negative aspects of the pictures and feelings. Yet when that happens, as the book explains, many amazing things can happen.

For more on how to get the most out of The Healing Codes, sign up for the free course, “Getting Started with The Healing Codes,” sent via email.

The whole Law of Attraction was real big a few years ago with the movie and book, The Secret, and I know many people still believe in it.

I think there is some element of truth in it. What you focus on will tend to increase in your life. And you do “sow what you reap,” by and large. (This by the way is no “secret.” Ancient manuscripts tell of it openly. It’s all over the Bible, for instance.)

Here’s what I observe, though: a strong belief in LOA seems to produce fear. I have clients who are blocked in terms of dealing with their heart issues, because they’re so afraid that acknowledging anything negative at all will attract more of the negative into one’s life.

I maintain that it’s only when we acknowledge the negative–that there are things to be healed–that in fact we can heal those things.

In a Psychology Today article, “Why Optimism Can Be Bad For Your Mental Health,” Clifford N Lazarus,Ph.D, distinguishes between false optimism and realistic optimism: “The difference between false optimism and rational optimism can be captured by two different statements. ( 1 ) ‘There’s nothing to be concerned about, everything will be just grand.’ [Or, the LOA version: “If I just visualize everything being fine, it will be.”] That’s false optimism. The second statement reflects realistic optimism: (2) ‘We’ve got a real mess on our hands, things don’t look too good, but if we tackle it step by step, we can probably do something about it.'”

In terms of healing heart issues, you have to acknowledge that there are some things that need healing. You’re not perfect. The negative things that happened to you, the lies you’re believing, the feelings attached to memories–these things are real, but they don’t have to define you. You don’t have to be afraid to face them.

The only way to heal heart issues is to tell yourself the truth about where you are now, and then heal the heart issues with The Healing Codes and prayer. You replace the lies with truth, the negative with the positive.

Facing the negative and healing it will do the opposite of attracting more negative.

It is the only way to get to the positive you want to attract. It’s a step that can’t be skipped.

If you’d like some help dealing with “heart issues” using The Healing Codes, go to www.HealingCodesCoaching.com to check out how Healing Codes and Healing Codes coaching work.

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One of my favorite parables of Jesus is very short and sweet, found in Mark 4:28-29. I think it applies to all kinds of things, including healing, relationships, and success.

It reads:

And he [Jesus] said, “The kingdom of God is as if a man should scatter seed on the ground. He sleeps and rises night and day, and the seed sprouts and grows; he knows not how. The earth produces by itself, first the blade, then the ear, then the full grain in the ear. But when the grain is ripe, at once he puts in the sickle, because the harvest has come.”

What this says to me is: We can plant a seed, and we don't have to understand how it will grow. In fact, we only have two roles according to the parable: plant the seed, and harvest the grain when it's ripe.

We "plant seeds" in all kinds of ways. When you pray for someone, you plant a seed. God begins working, you know not how, but you look for the signs. Often you can't see anything for a while, because God first works "underground." As Professor William Tiller, eminent physicist, says, "The unseen is always the parent of the seen." Things happen in the spiritual realm before they manifest in the physical realm.

When you do a Healing Code, for yourself or someone else, you plant a seed. Healing energy has been activated, you know not how. You look for the signs (which may take a while, because so much can be going on in the unseen realm of the heart). Eventually you enjoy the harvest when it comes.

One more thing the farmer does:

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I wrote this on Mother’s Day, but you can do this custom healing Code for “mother issues” any time.

Whether or not you’re a mother yourself, you had a mother.

And, because no mother is a perfect mother, very likely you have “heart issues” connected to negative memories of your mother.

In addition, if you’re also a mother yourself, you may have heart issues connected to your own mothering. Again, because none of us is perfect, we can all look back on things we wish we’d done differently.

So I would like to give you a custom Healing Code for any and all negative memories you have concerning “mother issues,” whether they concern your mother or your own mothering. Read More→

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Healing can happen slowly, over a long period of time.

Or it can happen suddenly.

Two true life stories illustrate.

First, there's Vinny.

Back in July 2010, Vinny's grandmother got in touch with me about her grandson, who was 9 at the time. Vinny had an inoperable tumor on his brain stem. It was benign, but still very dangerous.

I began getting custom Healing Codes for Vinny then. I also reached out to this community to ask other people who felt led, to pray and do Vinny's Healing Codes for him.

The full story is here.

I knew I was taking a risk putting the story and updates out there. What if Vinny's tumor got worse, not better with The Healing Codes? What if it all failed? Read More→

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Benefits of Helping Others Heal

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When we pray for others or doing The Healing Code for them, something special happens. There's something about connecting to them and God that is very powerful.
 
Here's what Laura discovered about doing The Healing Code for others:
 
"I am so excited to report that my issue levels are continuing to drop to zero very quickly since I began doing the Codes for others.  I have been finding the  more people I include, the faster it goes.  I have goosebumps on my goosebumps.  I have always experienced the Codes being the most efficient, simple, effective and satisfying healing tool to use (and I have used quite a few) but in one or two days time now each issue has fallen away to zero. That wasn't the case when I was only doing the Codes for myself.  I am feeling so hopeful and peaceful.  Something that I was not feeling for a very long time.

"All of the issues I have been working on are early childhood ones and they all have started at Level 10.  In one or two days' time, they are at zero.  Amazing!  Thank you God  and the entire Healing Codes Family.

"Something also that I want to share is that at first I was doing each person and their issue separately.  Very quickly I realized that I could try to combine different people and their issues in the same session.  That is what I am doing now.  I have even included animals too.  Since I have been doing Vinny's Codes for him, I, of course, am doing his session separately."
 
If you're not sure how to do The Healing Code for someone else, this article explains it.
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