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The Art of Gift Giving

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“We do Christmas exceptionally well,” I remarked to my husband and two adult children at the end of this year’s long, leisurely, soul-filling day.

Christmas Day is one of my favorite days of the year, because it’s one day where we are all together, and we take our time with everything. My son usually goes to his best friend’s Mexican Christmas Eve party, where the gift exchanges don’t start until midnight and the party lasts until 3a.m. or later. So he was sleeping in on Christmas Day.

That was great. It gave the rest of us time to move through our usual morning routines. I do my morning pages (three pages of longhand on whatever comes to mind–a great way to get through any unprocessed issues and start the day off receptive to the new). Then I do my meditative readings (mostly Scripture and other inspirational/devotional reading), while using the Halo. Then, breakfast, my Healing Codes/healing prayer method (you’ll be hearing more about that), and my walk. Finally, shower and dress, and I’m all ready for the world.

This morning, Christmas, I also made our traditional Christmas breakfast, blueberry coffeecake. I stuffed the turkey and put it in the oven. We made our way slowly through the hours, eating the coffeecake, preparing more food, hanging out, chatting. Finally, just when the turkey was done, everyone was finally ready to open presents! Oh well. I left the turkey in the oven on warm and we opened our gifts.

We take our time with that, too. Christine was the resident present-passer, and we unwrapped each present, one at a time, taking turns.

This year it struck me that there is an art to gift giving. It is really about honoring the relationship. When I receive a thoughtful gift from someone, what makes me feel loved is that they actually saw who I am, and carefully picked out something they knew I would like. And it cost them something: money, the time to shop.

Let me give you some examples. Read More→

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Gifts from My Mentors

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From Thanksgiving to Christmas, I like to acknowledge the people who have enriched my life during the past year.

This includes, of course, my personal friends and colleagues. But you don’t know them. You can know and benefit from some of my “virtual mentors,” and those are the ones I want to tell you about.

As I reflected on those whose work has enriched either my spirit, soul, mind or body through sharing their expertise, several people came to mind.

Spirit. The most influential–and healing–approach I have ever come across is the Immanuel Approach, developed by Dr. Karl Lehman, a psychiatrist and the author of Outsmarting Yourself and The Immanuel Approach (which we Immanuel Prayer ministers, and he, refer to as “the big lion book” because it’s exhaustive at 759 pages!). From Outsmarting Yourself, I learned about “implicit memory” and how we get triggered, and how to calm body and mind. Dr. Karl Lehman’s work is all about how to let God come in and be with you in the pain, and thus heal it.

I was trained by Margaret Webb and Jessie Handy from Alive and Well in Immanuel Prayer, and continued with training from Dr. Karl Lehman through his Advanced Training seminar and monthly meetings in which local prayer ministers gather to watch and discuss a video of Dr. Lehman facilitating someone in Immanuel Approach. I also meet every other week with other prayer ministers to give and receive Immanuel Prayer.

What has healed me the most, and creates the bedrock of my spiritual life, are my direct interactions with the Lord through these prayer sessions. What has healed my clients the most are the times we use Immanuel Prayer in a Coach-Guided Healing Code. More on that, including videos of my facilitating and receiving Immanuel Prayer, and links to more information, can be found here.

I want to honor Dr. Karl Lehman and Alive and Well for their excellent work. There is no healing like the healing you get when Immanuel–“God with us”– directly intervenes into your issue.

Soul. By “soul” here I mean my emotions, mainly. (As distinct from my spirit, mentioned above; spirit is connection to God and others. I believe our spirit is meant to connect to God’s Spirit, and from that connection life flows to body, mind, and soul, and out to our relationships.)

My mentor in soul healing has been Dr. Jonice Webb, through her book, Running on Empty, and her excellent articles. From her I learned that I grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, and the impact that has had on me since. I learned why I (and so many of my clients) don’t have many childhood memories; it’s because memories are formed through emotion, and if there was not enough emotional support as a child, you don’t form many memories. You’re also haunted by a feeling of emptiness or “not being enough.” Dr. Jonice Webb has helped me identify my feelings and learn how to embrace and work with them. This has also helped me use Immanuel Prayer better, and to help my clients feel and deal with their emotions.

If you’re not sure CEN is part of your experience, take this assessment to find out and learn more about her excellent work.

Mind (and body and soul). I wasn’t sure where to put Julie Bjelland and what I’ve been learning from her about living well with Sensory Processing Sensitivity (otherwise known as being a Highly Sensitive Person or HSP), because it’s all-encompassing.

I have learned brain-training techniques, breathing techniques, how to calm my nervous system, how to track my stress levels, and so much more from Julie’s course and from her Sensitive Empowerment group. I have also received much validation about the unique experiences of being an HSP, through the Sensitive Empowerment community. And, since most of my clients are HSPs, I have been able to pass on a lot of what I’ve learned to them. Many express how life-changing it has been to learn about this inborn trait, which about 20% of at least 100 species possess, and how to thrive with it.

Thank you, Julie, and my fellow HSPs in the Sensitive Empowerment community!

Body. This has been The Year of the Summits, and I’m a bit tired out from it all. But one teaching stands out.

That would be Ari Whitten’s Energy Blueprint. Ari’s information is science-backed–he really takes the time to do the research, which I appreciate. (Julie Bjelland also keeps her guidance rooted in science.) I am learning (since I’m still working through the course) about circadian rhythms and mitochondria, and how they affect our energy and health at the most basic level. (Remember, I’m all about “healing AT the source,” the only way true healing happens.) While “heart issues” are at the source of so many of our problems, including physical, there is a dynamic interplay between our environment and our physical well-being as well. These days, so many things in our environment work against the way God designed our bodies to work. Ari Whitten is helping me understand how we are made, what environmental factors put extra stress on our bodies (especially true for HSPs, by the way), and what lifestyle changes we can make to mitigate the negatives and foster our own body’s balance and energy system.

You can take his extensive, free Energy Blueprint Masterclass by signing up here. Click here or on the picture link to get his free eblook on science-backed supplements for energy enhancement.

Relationships. I’ve already mentioned Dr. Jonice Webb. Her second book, Running on Empty No More, talks about how CEN affects relationships. If you grew up with CEN, or your partner did, please read this book as well as Running on Empty.

Another influential book for me in terms of my marriage is How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. My husband and I took a class on this a year ago, and continue to meet with an amazing group of couples who are uncommonly open and honest. It is a precious group.

You can take the Love Styles quiz to find out how you learned to relate to people based on your family background. I highly recommend it and ask my clients to take this before our session, as it gives a better context for our work together.

There you have it–my current mentors for spirit, soul, mind and body, carefully curated for you. Check them out as you feel led. You can find the assessments for CEN, Love Styles, and High Sensitivity here.

 

I did.

For a long time, my body was trying to talk to me.

It was trying to tell me, ever so gently, that I was pushing it too far. That I was not paying attention to the signals that I needed to rest.

I was good about giving it nutritious, clean  food, and my body was grateful. It showed its gratitude by keeping me pretty healthy all my life, and at a fairly even weight all my life. During those times when I ate a bit too much junk food, Body put on weight, making me uncomfortable in my clothing. I didn’t want that, so I quit the junk food and my body shed the pounds. Effortlessly, I might add.

I was also good about giving it exercise. My body was happy about that, too. It obliged by keeping me energetic and fairly flexible.

(If you listen to your body, you see it is totally on your side. Your body is all about you surviving and thriving. It is always striving to keep everything in balance and functioning according to design.)

Now my body is desperately trying to tell me there was one thing I lack, one important thing that could make or break everything else.

I need more rest.

Not only more sleep, but more rest.

I hardly knew what that meant. I was used to go, go, go. Wasn’t that why Body was giving me so much energy, after all?

For years Body has patiently tried to instruct me that that energy needed to be restored periodically. Body was very patient with me, reluctantly obliging my pushing through the fatigue by pumping out more adrenaline and cortisol. It tried to tell me there would be a price to pay down the line.

I wasn’t listening. I took the extra energy boosts and figured I was OK. That “second wind” in the evenings was just what I wanted to get my creative work done. Thank you, Body.

Body shook her head and sent another quiet reminder that there would be a toll to pay eventually.

Now Body is growing more urgent. Like the email that pops us saying “your bill is due on such and such a date,” Body is telling me that my time is almost up. I must change–or else.

I don’t want to know what “or else” looks like. I’ve written about the wake-up call I got when I read about what happened to Mark Virkler. He ignored his body’s signals, too, until–he had a heart attack. That was his “or else.”

My first step in being able to listen to my dear Body was to pinpoint what “heart issue” was causing me to ignore Body. When I read a section in Dr. Jonice Webb’s Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, I found the answer. Since my parents were not in tune with me emotionally, they did not pay attention to my signals that I needed rest. So I never learned to tune in, either. In addition, my first weeks were spent in the NICU, fighting for my life. “Rest” then would have meant not surviving. Or so my heart came to believe.

Once I began healing that “heart issue” first through healing prayer and The Healing Codes, I was ready to start listening to Body.

Body is doing her best to help me. She gives me signals, for instance, when I’ve been sitting at the computer for too long. That pain in my neck means I need to get up and move–preferably taking a break to do some of the exercises my physical therapist gave me for my neck.

Periodically checking in and asking, “How am I feeling in my body? What does my body need right now?” does wonders–when I remember to do it. I have a sticky note in the bathroom to remind me (and one in my office, to remind me that I might have to use the bathroom!).

At a certain time in the evening, way earlier than I want to stop, Body starts giving me signals that it’s time to quit everything and close down. I no longer seem able to keep on pushing past that fatigue point.

In order to listen to Body, I have to change some things. I am seeking ways to Do Less. I work in a more focused, intentional way during the day to get things done, and am more vigilant about allowing distractions. I am trying to focus on what’s the “One Thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unnecessary.” Body tells me that One Thing is rest.

Specifically, more brief rest times throughout the day, and getting to bed earlier at night. “That ‘second wind’ time is best used for the rejuvenation that will come from the deep sleep cycles between 10pm and midnight,” Body tells me. (She can be very specific.)

When I tune in and let Body call the shots, she’s very, very happy. She gives a lot back to me for  my obedience: energy, joy, patience, greater flexibility and a sense of well-being.

One thing she did ask, ever so shyly. “I would appreciate an apology,” she said. “I’ve worked very hard for you all these years. I’ve carried you through so much, protected you, and I store all the events of your life. I’m really glad to do so, and I’m glad that you have been working on healing and releasing the negative images, beliefs, and memories. Can you thank me for all I’ve done for you? And can you apologize for the times when you didn’t listen to me and I tried my best to serve you anyway? Can you apologize for all the warnings you ignored?”

“I’m so sorry, Body, for ignoring your signals. Forgive me, please. Thank you for all you’ve done for me, all these years. Thank you for how smart you are–you know how to do so many things automatically without my even thinking about it! How can I not trust your wisdom? Help me to listen better. Help me to make your work easier.”

Have you ever felt your whole body smile?

If you would like some help in listening to your body and healing the things that get in the way of your best life, consider getting some coaching. Even if you feel you don’t know how to listen to your body, your body will talk to me through my energy testing. Once you start listening to your body and loving it, it will love you back in unforeseen ways!

 

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Big Aha–How Some Issues Hide

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In my group coaching program, I had a client who was working with a very stubborn money issue.  Her story gave both of us a big aha about how some issues can hide, and she gave me permission to share her story.

Laura had been “seriously in the muck and mire for years about finances,” as she put it.  We had been clearing all kinds of things, especially generational memories from her mother’s side.

Still, the money issues persisted. One day she realized that she got anxious not when money was going out, but when money was coming in. This made no sense to her!

A book on Laura’s bookshelf caught her eye: The Intersection of Joy and Money. In working through the workbook questions, she came up with an insight that floored her. “My answers to the questions revealed that my father made it very clear to me from a very young age that my job was to work hard in school, get a good education both at school and in music. He also made it very clear to me that he would provide for me and that I would have the money I needed when I asked for it. So at a young age I developed my beliefs about money and they looked like this: Laura, it is not your job to provide. It is your dad’s job to provide. Someone else will give you money when you need it or ask for it.”

Here’s the kicker:  This belief was rooted in an incredibly loving and generous and protective place. Laura knew that her father, who was himself dyslexic and graduated high school barely literate,  was  so proud of this smart little girl in his life that he wanted to support her in having every opportunity available.

“The feeling of love and adoration that I remember is absolutely beautiful,” Laura says.

The problem came later, in her adult years. This belief, nurtured in the soil of love, bloomed into a subconscious blueprint about whose job it is to provide for her, and crippled her ability to earn money as an adult. And the feeling she had now, connected with the memory, was panic. Panic when money came in.

A new picture also popped up on her heart screen: “I am in a labyrinth heading to the middle where my ability to provide for my family is located and I keep sabotaging my ability to get to the middle,” she says. “I keep getting distracted and caught up and dragged off course because of the subconscious belief that it isn’t my job to provide. If I just sit down long enough someone else will bring me the money I need.”

This belief remained hidden so long because it wasn’t grounded in trauma or pain, but in love. It’s easy to assume that negative beliefs are always connected to some negative memory, but as we can see from Laura’s story, that’s not always the case.

In fact, I’m wondering if some of the most stubborn issues of our lives, the ones that we can’t seem to get any healing traction on, may be rooted in positive rather than negative memories. A belief anchored to a positive memory might be the most difficult to identify and heal.

If you have had a stubborn issue that has been difficult to heal, do a little digging, as Laura did. Once she realized that the actual problem was when money came in, and prayed about what that might be attached to, she got her big aha and the wrong belief that needed to be healed.

In her case, there was no negative memory to be healed. There was only the positive memory of her father’s love and provision. Yet the belief that worked when she was a child morphed into panic and a negative image on her heart screen as she grew up. Remember, with The Healing Codes or healing prayer, what we look for are negative images, wrong beliefs, and negative emotions.

What stubborn issue have you been unable to heal so far? What beliefs were true when you were a child, but morphed into something negative that doesn’t serve you at all as an adult?

Heal the underlying negative beliefs, pictures, emotions, but don’t always assume there’s a negative memory attached. It just might be that a positive memory is what anchored a belief that no longer serves you.

If you need help in finding the core negative images, beliefs, or memories, consider getting some coaching and custom codes.

 

I was talking with a new client about what to expect with The Healing Codes. We can’t promise that you will heal physical issues. We can’t promise that every relationship will heal, or that your financial woes will go away.
 
So what can we promise? What can I tell you for sure The Healing Codes or Healing Prayer will do for you if you do them faithfully? And why can I say with confidence that every area of your life can get better?
 
When you heal the underlying “heart issues”–those “implicit memories” buried in the subconscious that can pop up and sort of superimpose themselves in the present situation–you remove a certain kind of stress that you may not even be aware was influencing you.
 
When you remove that stress, your health improves because your immune system is not having to deal with the unconscious stress signals that cause your cells to close and potentially move into disease mode.
 
Did you ever notice that when you’re stressed, you tend to be your worst self? So do other people. When two people are operating out of “worst self” stress mode . . . well, I don’t have to tell you it’s not a pretty picture for the relationship.
 
And have you ever noticed that when you’re stressed, you’re not your most productive self, either?
 
So what “healing heart issues” does is help you move from your “worst self” to your “best self” by removing the things that caused your stress.
 
Everything improves because YOU improve.
 
That’s why, the more you heal your heart issues, the more every area of your life will  get better.
 
Health improves. Relationships improve because you’re your best self. (And, because if you release the effects of your Healing Codes to others, it’s amazing how they heal, too, and become more like their best selves.)
 
Your career and work satisfaction also tends to take off  because you’re at your best.
 
So that’s what I can promise, if you do Healing Codes or Healing Prayer faithfully. You will be moving ever closer toward your best self, and that will make everything in your life better.
 
If you would like help in identifying the key issues and memories, including hidden memories, that will make the most difference in your life, check out the coaching link at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

THE Key to Healing Code Results

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If there is ONE THING I can point to that will make the most difference in healing, it’s this: consistency.

I often say, doing Healing Codes or practicing healing prayer (the two approaches I’ve found to be most effective for healing) is more like taking vitamins than taking an antibiotic.

An antibiotic is specific to addressing one kind of ailment–infection–and it can knock the infection out in usually 14 days. Then you don’t have to take it anymore.

Vitamins you need every day, because every day your body uses them up.

You need to address heart issues daily because of . . .

The Stockpile Effect

Heart issues don’t just add up, one on top of another. When you’ve experienced a trauma, your body, soul and spirit record it.  (Note: a trauma could be anything from the famous “Popsicle memories” mentioned in The Healing Code, to childhood emotional neglect and the absence of nurturing, to outright abuse.)

That’s not the end of it, though. Whenever something happens to you that’s like the original trauma, the negativity of the memory is intensified and compounded.

Thus you go through life, stockpiling, magnifying and compounding the pain of the original memory–often unconsciously.

When you interrupt that process with The Healing Codes or healing prayer, that’s a good start. But if you spent the better part of your life building on these negative memories, it’s going to take consistent, persistent effort to heal it all the way down.

You will be peeling an onion, layer after layer.

Surprising Results

The beautiful thing about the process, though, is results don’t come only when you have peeled all the layers of that onion. No, results often come quickly, often in surprising and unexpected ways. Read More→

Several people responded to my article on anger, in which I mentioned the soul and spirit, asking the question, “What’s the difference between the two?”

I responded in the Comments for that post, but thought I’d make it more visible here.

Some people don’t distinguish between spirit and soul, but Arthur Burk makes some useful distinctions, based on 1 Thessalonians 5:23: “Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

The soul is the mind, will, and (conscious) emotions, and is somewhat tied to the physical. So, for instance, the soul develops as the brain develops. We can help the soul grow by developing better thinking habits.

Soul memories may be more tied to brain development. These kind of memories can often, I believe, be healed through traditional psychological interventions, such as cognitive therapy. The soul is important. But the soul and body both are actually quickened by the spirit.

The human spirit is the completely non-physical part of us, and I believe starts at conception (if not before, with God; not sure how that works). The spirit has memory and feeling (deeper than emotions). The spirit memories are, I believe, what science now calls “cellular memories.” That is why one can have a “cellular memory” from the time in the womb.

Notice that in the scripture above, the order is “spirit, soul, and body.” Spirit comes first. That is why Arthur Burk can report such great results when mothers and fathers start blessing their baby’s spirit in the womb. Arthur says it gives the babies about a 10-month lead, because the “soul” doesn’t start to develop until the myelin sheath in the brain develops to a certain point. But the spirit records everything in every cell (cellular memory), and the spirit also, I believe, interacts with both soul and body.

My schematic is that the human spirit is meant to be connected to God’s Spirit, and then the human spirit is supposed to control both body and soul.

That is why, when you heal the wounds of the spirit–“heart issues”–everything improves. Physical health improves because the spirit is able to instruct the body how to heal, and the blocks to healing have been removed. The soul heals because the spirit is informing and infusing emotions and thought patterns with truth and love.  Thus relationships and one’s ability to succeed improve.

And that’s why, when you heal your spirit/heart matters with something like The Healing Codes and/or healing prayer, everything else improves.

Always focus on healing the spirit and getting it in right relationship with the Source of all life. Everything else just seems to flow from that. God’s Spirit, connected with your spirit, flowing life and love to body and soul. . . .

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