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The 3 C’s of Healing

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Ever since I embarked on this healing journey, for myself and others, I have been fascinated, perhaps even obsessed, with what makes people heal (and, conversely, what prevents healing).

Since many of my clients are making great progress, I have been studying what they are doing. Are there any key ingredients to their healing that caused major transformation in just a few short weeks?

Turns out there are. I have boiled it down to 3 C’s: Courage, Compassion, and Commitment.

Courage. It takes courage to heal. It means facing yourself and your feelings, which are often painful. It may mean facing the fact that your parents didn’t really love you, not because they didn’t want to, but because they didn’t have the capacity. It means facing unhealthy patterns and beliefs that you have developed, and taking responsibility to change them.

The clients who have healed the deepest and the fastest are those who are willing to be brutally honest with themselves (and me).

When being brutally honest, it’s important to add the next key component to healing.

Compassion. Facing the truth with that brutal honesty needs to be tempered with compassion, first for yourself. When you take responsibility for the dysfunctional beliefs and behaviors, you can tell yourself this truth: “I did the best I could at the time, because I was in survival mode (or, I didn’t know then what I do now, or I had no one to support me”).

Adding compassion to your truth-telling is the catalyst to healing.

It will also help you to heal relationships. You may, for instance, come to the heartfelt belief, “My mother didn’t really know how to love me because she grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect herself, and didn’t know how.”

Earlier I wrote about how compassion seems to release God’s healing power like nothing else. When we apply compassion to ourselves or someone else, I believe we connect with God and his healing flows through us. Truth and love—aren’t these the cornerstones of everything we do?

The third element ensures that the healing “sticks.”

Commitment. Those who heal are committed to their healing. They do their healing work regularly. It is only in the persistent practice of the healing tools that results come.

I have written here and elsewhere about how important commitment and consistency is to your healing. Once your heart realizes you are serious about your healing, and that you are committed to letting it lead the process, your heart will guide you.

It will override your head, or what some people call the “ego-mind” and others call “the flesh.” Whatever you call it, there is a force inside that doesn’t want you to heal, only because healing means change, and change is scary to the ego-mind. Ego-mind wants everything safe, which means, to it anyway, “the way it’s always been.”

One of the blocks to healing I have noticed in clients is a sense of “who will I be without ____”? (Fill in the blank with your issue, trauma, belief, etc.)

“Who will I be if I don’t see myself anymore as a victim of a narcissistic mother?”

“Who will I be if I don’t have this illness that has gotten me all this attention and the care that I never had as a child?”

“Who will I be if I let go of the fear that has ruled me all my life?”

The Commitment to our healing takes us full circle, right back to Courage. It overrides the ego-mind and activates the courage to heal.

And then—you will heal! Perhaps in a miraculous way.

If a miracle is defined as a shift in perspective, then you should expect miracles regularly from your healing work.

That is, as long as you rest it on the three-legged stool of Courage, Compassion, and Commitment.

And if you want some extra support, I stand ready to help you ignite your Courage, Compassion, and to hold you accountable to your Commitment to heal. Peruse the options at https://healingcodescoaching.com.

 

Why Healing Your Heart Matters

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You don’t need me to tell you that we live in very troubling times. It’s all around us, and we can’t escape it. Political polarization, uncertainty, job loss, the pandemic, social media nastiness (which I avoid totally), natural disasters, racial injustice, violence. Even if you limit your news intake, as I do, you still can’t avoid the negative energy all around.

For some of us, especially if we have the trait of High Sensitivity, the energy is palpable; we may even feel it physically.

Authors Dr. Lise Van Susteren and Stacey Colino wrote a book about it, calling it Emotional Inflammation. It’s a state “not unlike post-traumatic stress disorder, but one that stems from simply living in today’s tumultuous world.”

Some symptoms include sleep problems, hyperactivity, persistent grief, or inescapable worry about the future.

In such a climate as ours now, we need to be especially intentional about our own healing. Because healing the heart matters.

It matters because it changes everything, starting with your very identity.

When you heal your heart issues, you begin to realize who you really are. You uncover what I think of as your Essential Self. Essential as in your essence—your core self, operating according to your core values.

Your Essential Self is really your human spirit. Your human spirit is meant to align with God’s Spirit, so that God’s Life flows through spirit to body and soul. This is where healing happens. This is why healing happens.

This is also why healing doesn’t happen. If heart issues block this flow of God-life, then dysfunction begins.

Healing is a spiritual matter.

When God’s Life does flow, and to the extent that it flows freely, everything becomes aligned with that God-life. We begin to know God as he really is, not as we have been conditioned by our relationships and/or past religious teachings to believe. We begin to connect with True God, and in so doing, we become more and more our True Self.

We can connect with other people better as well, when we’re aligned with God like this. Our Essential Self calls forth the Essential Self in others. Thus they, too, without even realizing it, are set on a path to healing, just because we are changing.

This was illustrated for me recently in talking to a client. She has had some difficult relationships with some of her siblings, and has worked hard to set healthy boundaries and let go of expectations. Recently, one of her siblings made a remark about herself indicating a level of self-awareness my client has never seen before. It hadn’t seemed possible that this sibling would ever say something like that. I believe that at least in part, the change was due to my client changing her own part of the relationship with her custom Healing Codes, and releasing the effects to her sibling.

If you understand The Healing Codes, you understand that everything is basically energy. Einstein said this more than 100 years ago. All energy has a frequency, a vibration. Every memory is energy that vibrates at a certain frequency. Some frequencies, such as the Schumann frequency of the earth, are healthy and life-giving. Some are destructive, such as man-made electro-magnetic frequencies (EMF).

With The Healing Codes, we change the frequencies of the negative images, memories and beliefs, which I believe reside in the information energy pattern in our DNA (cellular memories). When this happens, we “vibrate” at a higher level.

The “vibration” of our Essential Self, aligned with God, affects others. I have heard that if you put a bunch of pendulums in a room, all swinging in different rhythms, after 24 hours they will aleml swing to the same rhythm, according to the strongest pendulum.

Let’s be that “strongest pendulum.” Heal your heart matters because healing your heart matters. To you, to those in your circles of influence, to the world.

Step One in changing the world is to become your Essential Self, aligned with God so His life flows through you to others.

And if you would like help with healing your heart issues so that you can fully align with your divine design, visit HealingCodesCoaching.com and check out my coaching packages. Every custom client code is including Emotional Inflammation to clear away that new layer of negativity we’re all facing.

In my last blog post, I wrote about how we lost Joey, our cat of 16 years. And how I had my eye on a new cat, Buddy. The writeup said he was ready to save a new human with his unconditional love.”

I did end up learning lessons from Buddy the cat. Not about love, but about the Heart, grief, and the power of the Halo.

It all started when the foster mom for Buddy called on Monday to offer to bring the cat to my house. I thought, “Why not?” But I didn’t really pray about it or check in with my Heart.

Well, the foster mom for Buddy called on Monday to offer to bring the cat to my house. I thought, “Why not?” But I didn’t really pray about it or check in with my Heart.

On Tuesday foster mom Rita brought Buddy by. He was very shy, but we finally coaxed him out of his hiding place. He rubbed up against our legs and allowed us to pet him. Read More→

This week we had to face that fact that our beloved big black cat, Joey, the last of our pets, was too sick to treat, and had to put him down.

This is the first time in 20 years I have been petless, and I can hardly stand it. So I’ve been looking at descriptions of adoptable cats in local animal shelters.

This description struck of one particular cat struck me, and I’ll tell you why after you read it:

“Buddy is a 4 year old Superhero that possess abilities beyond those of ordinary cats. He can use his purr-powers to help your home become a better place. He wears his black & white logo with pride. He has other powers too, which include winning every race to the food bowl, out weighing most of his lap-cat competitors at 17.5 lbs, and able to make you love him in a single leap of faith! Buddy recently experienced a major life change when his beloved human was transferred to a senior home. Because he was so loved and cared for, he has bounced back like Superheroes do, and is ready to save a new human with his unconditional love.”

That last line struck me: “Because he was so loved and cared for, he has bounced back. . . .”

That is what love does, for humans and animals: it makes us resilient, even in the face of loss. I feel drawn to Buddy; maybe he’ll be our next cat? Already he’s given me a lesson in resilience.

Coaching question: How can you draw on the love you have received in your most important positive relationships to help you “bounce back,” especially during these exceptional times? How can you offer love to another to help them become more resilient?

If you would like help healing your heart issues and opening up to love and be loved, check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

Healing from “Not Enough”

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When I wrote last December about “settling into the energy of enough,” I had no idea it would be such a journey.

I thought it would be a simple process of figuring out what “enough” was, via reading a bit about Minimalism, clear some space physically, mentally, and emotionally. I thought it would be mostly about gratitude. I did not think it would not be a big deal.

After all, haven’t I been doing healing work every single day since 2007?

Well, it’s turned into quite an undertaking. Turns out, “settling into the energy of Enough” is a lot more involved than I thought.

First of all, there’s the becoming aware of how pervasive and deep “not enough” is for me. Who knew?

I began to realize that it goes all the way back to childhood (as most things seem to do—sigh). Because I grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect and was so different from my family (highly sensitive),  “not good enough” became a big part of me. Though I excelled at school, the family was indifferent to it. My father often said, “I wish my boys had your brains.” I took that to mean they were wasted on a girl. All that mattered for girls, in the culture I grew up in, was that they be pretty and please others, especially men.

Also, there was “not enough” of other things in the family. Attention, love, interest, money. As an adult, trying to grasp this suddenly huge issue of “enough,” I realize I continued the process by denying myself so many things that are really “me,” in favor of doing “what’s expected” (which was a big value in my family).

Religion also plays a role in this “not enough.” Distorted or incomplete religious teachings can lead you to feel you’re not good enough for God unless you do X, Y, or Z.  Even if you do grasp the meaning of grace, which is what true spirituality is all about, there’s often the subtle pressure in churches to “serve.” This is fine, but when there’s the sense that you can never really serve enough, the needs are so great and you’re being selfish to think of your own needs when there are so many people worse off than you who need what you have—then, at least for me—it becomes very toxic.

It’s not just religious communities who can send that message, either. Work environments can also foster this “not enough” mindset. “You won’t be successful if you don’t push harder, put in more hours than other people.”

You’re not enough. You don’t do enough. You don’t know enough. There is not enough. These messages are everywhere, aren’t they? Advertising is based on it.

Just becoming aware of how “not enough” affects you is the first step. Bring this unhealthy belief and the memories behind it to your Healing Code work! Using the Truth Focus Statement, I am enough, I do enough, I know enough, I have enough, there is enough has been quite a help. As I have worked with this, oh the freedom I’m experiencing!

If “not enough” is an issue for you, I would love to come alongside you on your healing journey and help you find the freedom to be you as well. Check out my coaching at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

I am seeing an interesting phenomenon with my clients and friends, especially those with the trait of High Sensitivity: it seems like somehow we are all taking on a bit of the overall energetic “spillage” from all that’s going on in the world right now.

How this shows up in clients varies, but many of us are feeling things like “heartache, anxiety, grief” as well as the fear, loss of control, etc.

Some clients are finding that issues, including physical issues, that had been healed before are now showing up again. Others are finding it hard to pinpoint any memories of their own, but they nonetheless feel some sort of generalized and/or anticipatory negative feelings.

I believe what’s happening is we are experiencing what authors Dr. Elise Van Sustenan and Stacey Colino call “Emotional Inflammation.”

There may be a very positive side to this, though. I think that as we heal ourselves, we are also in some way contributing in a very real way to the healing of the collective. To the extent that we’re tapping into that, is the extent to which our own healing will help the world.

If all you feel you can do right now is focus on your own healing, that’s OK. Doing just that is making a contribution that may be much more than more “concrete” acts of service.

And if you would like some personalized coaching, check out HealingCodesCoaching.com. The Healing Codes and Immanuel Prayer are exactly what is needed for this issue.

“Editing” Your Life

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From the beginning of my career, editing has been a huge part of it. I was an English major, and started working in publishing after graduation. My first job was a dream: I edited radio programs, little mini-interviews with authors, and wrote scripts for the announcer. It was the precursor to what are now podcasts; this publisher was way ahead of the times!

(A side note of historical interest: Though the publisher was ahead of the times, the technology was not. We had the author interviews transcribed on paper, I would edit on paper, and the technician would actually splice the tape. I still chuckle when I think of how we used to do it.)

After the radio program was discontinued, I became a marketing writer, then a magazine editor, then I moved to editing books. My final formal book project was editing The Healing Code for Dr. Alex Loyd, which changed the course of my career. Yet because writing is still a big part of my life, I still find myself editing.

Which got me to thinking about how it’s a good idea to be editing our very lives, on an ongoing basis. To be most effective in our work, to be happy and fulfilled, to gain clarity on the meaning and direction of our life, we regularly need to do the same things I do to edit a book or article. Read More→

I had visited this memory many times.

I thought I’d healed it, but it keeps popping up.

Each time, I realize there’s some new aspect of it that’s being healed.

There are several memories like this that pop up again and again to heal.

When such a memory is a very early childhood memory, I tend to think of it as foundational. These memories lay the foundation upon which so much of the rest of our life is built.

A foundational memory is like the initial fractal pattern that gets iterated in different ways as we progress through life. (Fractals are patterns that are programmed to “repeat themselves similarly.”

The difficult thing is such foundational or fractal memories can be very hard to access. They are often buried in the subconscious mind. Sometimes they’re the results of what you didn’t get–the lack of nurturing that’s thought of as Type A Trauma or Childhood Emotional Neglect, which is every bit as damaging as more obvious abuse.

Foundational/fractal memories can also be generational. We now know, from numerous studies, that traumas in one generation can be passed down to the next. For instance,  the babies of mice who were exposed to the scent of cherry blossoms and then given a shock, will show a stress response in the presence of cherry blossom scent–even though the babies themselves were never shocked.

How can this be? No one knows for sure yet. My theory is that the memory gets encoded in some kind of “informational energy pattern” in the cells itself, and is passed down through the DNA.
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I was talking with a new client about what to expect with The Healing Codes. We can’t promise that you will heal physical issues. We can’t promise that every relationship will heal, or that your financial woes will go away.
 
So what can we promise? What can I tell you for sure The Healing Codes or Healing Prayer will do for you if you do them faithfully? And why can I say with confidence that every area of your life can get better?
 
When you heal the underlying “heart issues”–those “implicit memories” buried in the subconscious that can pop up and sort of superimpose themselves in the present situation–you remove a certain kind of stress that you may not even be aware was influencing you.
 
When you remove that stress, your health improves because your immune system is not having to deal with the unconscious stress signals that cause your cells to close and potentially move into disease mode.
 
Did you ever notice that when you’re stressed, you tend to be your worst self? So do other people. When two people are operating out of “worst self” stress mode . . . well, I don’t have to tell you it’s not a pretty picture for the relationship.
 
And have you ever noticed that when you’re stressed, you’re not your most productive self, either?
 
So what “healing heart issues” does is help you move from your “worst self” to your “best self” by removing the things that caused your stress.
 
Everything improves because YOU improve.
 
That’s why, the more you heal your heart issues, the more every area of your life will  get better.
 
Health improves. Relationships improve because you’re your best self. (And, because if you release the effects of your Healing Codes to others, it’s amazing how they heal, too, and become more like their best selves.)
 
Your career and work satisfaction also tends to take off  because you’re at your best.
 
So that’s what I can promise, if you do Healing Codes or Healing Prayer faithfully. You will be moving ever closer toward your best self, and that will make everything in your life better.
 
If you would like help in identifying the key issues and memories, including hidden memories, that will make the most difference in your life, check out the coaching link at HealingCodesCoaching.com.

Dreams: Clues to Your Heart?

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Have you ever had a dream that somehow seemed important, but you didn’t know why?

It may be a message from your heart about what needs to be healed.

I have long been fascinated by dreams, ever since college days when I studied Carl Jung’s ideas on dreams and the symbols of the “collective unconscious.” I was a literature major, so images and symbols fascinated me.

Now, as a Healing Codes Practitioner, I hear from clients who sometimes tell me their dreams, and I’m struck by how often the dreams give clues to heart issues that need to be healed.

For instance, one woman shared this dream:I was a young girl and was attacked by a tiger, but it seemed to only give me a tiny surface scratch on my upper arm.  Later in the dream, I lifted up my sleeve and the wound was HUGE and festering and disgusting and dangerous and I  knew it would kill me if I didn’t heal it!  And in the dream I had not been at all aware what was going on under my shirt sleeve!  I thought the ‘wound’ was ‘nothing’ until I ‘uncovered’ the wound and learned it was actually horribly infected and was killing me!  My mother and brother were in that dream (key players in my hurtful childhood).  Obviously, it was full of symbolism about the pictures of the heart (things that seemed small when they happened are really festering and deadly if not dealt with using the Healing Codes!).  Pretty cool, huh?”

This client was becoming adept at seeing the connection and receiving the message from her heart. In fact, she also shared this (see if you can make a connection between this and her dream): “Interestingly, I am suddenly able to do the ‘kindness’ code in the Healing Codes manual!  I was in complete denial about that one up until after I had done your last custom code!  Suddenly, it was absolutely clear to me that the ‘kindness’ issue was one of my MAJOR problems!  Suddenly, I could see how all the ‘problems’ connected with the ‘kindness’ issue DO apply to me perfectly!  SO STRANGE that I could NOT see that before!  I just refused to acknowledge it and refused to see how any of that applied to me.  It’s obvious now. So I have been focusing on the ‘kindness’ code from the HC manual since the last custom code ‘expired’ and I can REALLY feel things happening inside of me!”

After she had the dream, and had used the custom Healing Code I gave her, this client was able to break through and work on an issue that may well have been at the core of her most troublesome issues.

See how it all works? A custom code “jump starts” healing to the point where the heart can begin to trust that, if it opens the door and lets some memories out, they will be healed rather than cause more hurt. (As The Healing Code explains, the role of the heart is to protect you from further emotional pain.) Once some memories are healed, the heart offers up more. Those are healed, and you begin a beautiful spiral upwards toward fullness of life.

Often a client will tell me that they have no memories. Here is where dreams can be especially helpful.  Here’s the key: Use your dream as the “memory” you are healing. Identify the feelings from the dream, and insert in the prayer of intention, where you would normally put the memory: “. . .  from the dream about. . . .”

If you have had recurring dreams, pay attention! Try healing “the [feeling(s)” from the dreams about. . .” Again, these are clues from the heart about something that needs to be healed.

If you feel “stuck” in any way, start telling your heart that you will pay attention to your dreams. Try to remember them when you awake, and even write down any dream that feels especially vivid.

Feelings and images are the things to pay attention to. This is not at all about “if you dream about such and such it means this will happen.” It’s about what feelings your dream calls up, and the images from the dream. They are images that will mean something to you. For instance, the “tiger” in my client’s dream could be any number of things. We had to explore what that symbol meant for her. If you had a similar dream, the tiger might mean something completely different.

So welcome your dreams, and the healing that follows!

If you need any help “jump starting” healing for your issue, or interpreting your dreams, or you just want someone to help you find hidden memories or guide your healing journey, visit my HealingCodesCoaching.com site. You’ll find all kinds of free help, as well as how to pursue more personalized coaching options.

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