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How Heart Issues are Like Bamboo …
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When I discovered how bamboo grows, I thought it an apt image both for how heart issues develop AND how they heal.
Knowing how heart issues are like bamboo may help you both understand the healing process and be more patient with it.
Bamboo’s growth starts underground, where the rhizome system that supports the canes are developed. For three whole years, the plant establishes itself underground and there is no apparent growth. Absolutely nothing appears to be happening. For three years!
In the fourth year, shoots appear. The bamboo canes grow in height and diameter for only 60 days every spring. After the 60 days, that particular cane will never grow again.
However, because of the rhizome system, the next spring the shoots that come up will grow much taller and faster in those 60 days. After a bamboo grove has been establishing its rhizome system for 5 years, the canes that grow in that fifth year can reach as much as 90 feet (for certain species, in certain conditions)–all in 60 days!
This picture also applies to how heart issues form, and then manifest eventually in our lives in some health, relationship, and/or success issue.
Like the rhizome system that forms underground,
memories and beliefs accumulate in the subconscious
mind.
If enough unhealthy beliefs based on negative memories and images gather (whether in the unconscious or subconscious mind, or energy patterns in the DNA or cells, nobody knows exactly yet), they will eventually manifest in some kind of problem. It may take years, even decades for the “shoot” of the negativity to manifest, but eventually it does.
That manifestation can “take off” into a major illness. If the theories of Dr. Alex Loyd in The Healing Code and Dr. Bruce Lipton in The Biology of Belief are true, such illnesses began long before any symptoms or problems showed up.
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Aligned Decision Making
By · CommentsI recently faced a big decision.
It was one that would affect me, my family, and many other people—for years to come. I felt I had to get it right.
Of course I prayed for wisdom and guidance.
I started working through a grid called the OOVL Decision-Making Guide, which guides you in thinking through options, desired outcomes, how much you value each outcome, and the likelihood that each option would achieve your desired outcome.
It was helpful.
But . . .
The problem was, I didn’t know how likely it was that the desired outcome would happen, in most of the cases.
Or, it came down to a trade-off: more likely in the short term, but not the long term. Or vice versa.
And then came this question to my spirit: Which option requires the most faith? Read More→
Tending, Mending, Clutter and Trauma
By · CommentsHave you heard of the phrase “tend and befriend” to describe a way to deal with stress and get your nervous system back on track?
The term was coined in 2000 by Shelley Taylor, a psychology professor at the University of California.
The “tend and befriend” theory says that when faced with a perceived threat, humans will tend to their young and rely on others for connection and support. This, she and her group of researchers observed, was especially true of humans, and human females in particular. Laboratory animals, when shocked, would attack each other. Humans, when threatened or stressed, typically affiliate with one another instead of attacking each other.
“Tending and befriending” can be an alternative response to the “fight and flight” activation when you recognize that you’re stressed. I’ve noticed I automatically want to call a friend when I’m feeling stressed or overstimulated, but I’ve found that could be a problem in some ways. Maybe the person isn’t available, and I feel momentarily abandoned. Maybe the person I turn to isn’t receptive to me at that moment. Again, that can trigger abandonment, and make me feel worse.
And for me as a Highly Sensitive introvert, sometimes reaching out is not what I need. The interaction may be more stimulating than I need, even if it’s a good interaction. I’ve noticed that when I’ve talked too long on the phone with a friend at night, I don’t sleep as well–even if the interaction was a positive one.
If you’re someone who chronically puts other people’s needs before your own, reaching out to others when you’re stressed or anxious might actually not be so healthy after all.
As I noticed this tendency to want to call someone, often at the end of the day when stress or overstimulation has piled up, I thought I might try something else.
What if I tended to myself, or my home, instead of to someone else? I too often neglect myself when I’ve had “too much.”
And then these words came to me: “Tending is mending.”
Hmmm . . . tending is mending. One way to deal with stress, one way to heal, is by tending?
Tending to what? I asked.
“Tending to whatever you’ve been neglecting,” came the answer.
Ah, that clicked. One of the results of Childhood Emotional Neglect is self-neglect.
I see this popping up in my life in numerous ways. Like doing “one more thing” at night, even when I’m tired. Or cutting short the downtime I need.
One way I hadn’t thought of, until I read a blog post by Anna Runkle, a.k.a. “The Crappy Childhood Fairy” (Youtube channel), is that “Clutter is a Trauma Symptom.”
Wow! What have I been focusing 
on this whole year? Decluttering and “subtracting”! Anna says that accumulating things and being unable to let them go can be a sign of childhood trauma. Perhaps instinctively, my heart has led me to this decluttering/subtracting phase as a next right step in my healing. The home is an extension of the self. Neglecting my home is neglecting myself; taking care of my home is one way to take care of myself (and the others I live with).
Tending is mending.
So, today, after my shower, instead of telling myself, “I don’t have time to clean the shower stall because I have to write this blog post,” I cleaned the shower anyway. It felt like tending.
Then I came to my desk, cleared some papers, and started writing.
I finished in good time.
Tending is mending.
What might you have been neglecting, that could use some tending?
Is it your body, a relationship, your home, a hobby, your dream?
Tending is mending. . . .
Hidden Stressors-Part Five-Technology
By · CommentsI received a phone call and email from a long-time reader of my newsletter, thanking me for what I wrote about how my nervous system got overwhelmed and threw me into a several-day near shut-down, complete with physical pain.
Paulette wrote:
You put into words what I have been dealing with for several years! On Saturdays we have been attending a [particular group] study via Zoom. It begins at 10:30 a.m. and continues until at least 2:30 p.m. with no breaks. The teacher’s entire life is spent studying [this topic] — I mean 14 hours per day EVERY day. She always says there is so much more she wants to share, but just doesn’t have the time.
I have gotten to the point that after one hour I am ready to scream. All of her words run together for me. I really don’t hear much after that point. My husband doesn’t have the same problem. [My note: notice the difference between Paulette and her husband. Paulette is Highly Sensitive; her husband is not.]
About the same week I received your email, I said enough is enough. I told the group that [my husband and I] would be taking a break. Since we have left I am happier and more relaxed. Yesterday my neighbor commented that she had noticed a change in me.
Studying [this particular topic] when there is so much bad news all around us was more than I could handle. I have learned a lot over the past several years, but I think my health has suffered as a result of attending this group.
Thanks for putting into words what I have been feeling.
Paulette’s words to me reminded me that we often don’t recognize the hidden stressors that are sucking our energy and stretching our nervous system to the limits, because those stressors are such a part of everyday life.
If you possess a Highly Sensitive nervous system, your limits may be reached sooner than other, not-so-sensitive people. That’s because the HS nervous system is hard wired to a) take in much more information, b) process it all deeply and c) react emotionally to it all. All this contributes to the “easily overstimulated” characteristic of the HS nervous system.
To top it off, Paulette’s response was very different from her husband’s. Often Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) wonder what’s wrong with them, that they can’t “handle” what other people seem to take in stride. (She told me that he didn’t seem affected, but he doesn’t listen intently the way Paulette does. See what I mean about “processing deeply”?)
I would argue, though, that today’s world is toxic for anyone’s nervous system. We are bombarded with constant messages and ads everywhere we turn. Even if you try to turn a blind eye to ignore it (I never look at ads), and limit your exposure to things like the news and social media, there are endless distractions constantly available. My AI research tells me that “the average American is exposed to an estimated 4,000 to 10,000 messages daily, including advertising, news, social media, and other forms of communication. This number has been steadily increasing in recent years due to the rise of digital media.”
Information overload is real. For someone like me who loves to learn, it’s been a huge challenge to say “enough”! In my quest for simplicity and stress mastery, I have to say no every single day to the temptations to know more, in an environment where access to knowledge is literally limitless.
Think about it: your brain and nervous system have been forced to process more information in one day than our ancestors had to process in an entire lifetime! Yet our nervous systems themselves have not changed much from the early days of humankind.
Even if you try to limit your exposure to all these messages, technology presses into daily life and forces you to deal with it. As just one example, the other day when I went to do some online banking (is there any other kind nowadays?), I was forced to agree to a 125-page “Digital Services Agreement” and a 10-page “Online and Mobile E-Sign Disclosure and Consent Agreement” before I could even access my accounts. Like I had time then to read 135 pages of legalese!
I felt my anxiety levels rising. (Doesn’t just the screen shot make your brain hurt? Sorry!)
Do they count on us not reading it? Are they trying to sneak something in? All I wanted to do was check and see if the Illinois IRS had deposited the refund they finally agreed they owed me. (That was another thing I had to straighten out; the Illinois IRS never gets this one thing right.) Now I had to at least skim these bank documents to see if there was anything I was agreeing to that was not in my best interests. This was, of course, at night, when my reserves were already pretty depleted for the day.
No doubt you have your own examples, likely several from just the past week.
Few of us can lead responsible lives and not have to deal with a host of technology-based challenges. It’s part of modern life. Is there anything we can do to tame the technology beast?
Here’s what I’m trying. Feel free to add your own comments!
1. Awareness. As you go through the day, notice the effect different forms of technology pose on your body nervous system. When you go through emails, does your gut tighten up? Do you find yourself hunching over your device, straining your muscles? Do you feel anxious? Do you hate hearing a notification going off, or find yourself unable to attend to it even if you’re in the middle of something important, like an actual conversation with an actual person? Do you find yourself drawn to screens at night, and how is this affecting your sleep? (Try not looking at any screen for 2-3 hours before bed and see if it makes a difference.)
2. Set your priorities, and be ruthless about keeping them. Write them down, even, and refer to them often. Line up your priorities with your deepest values, and take into account what season of life you’re in. Different seasons demand different priorities. Be willing to let go of the priorities of earlier seasons. (I’m working on this one as I make some major transitions.)
3. The obvious: limit the inputs as much as possible. Based on your awareness from step one and your priorities for this season, set your boundaries. This can be a very tough thing for some of us inquisitive types, who love to “keep up” and to learn new things. Plus, we are in a culture that worships “addition” and sees “subtraction” as loss. Use your Healing Code to work on any heart issues that prevent you from placing healthy limits on yourself.
This is not an exhaustive list (though it might be exhausting!). But it is a start. And it is imperative that you get a handle on this whole information overload/technology issue, because it isn’t going away, and it does affect us big time.
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[Addendum: You notice how the above article list is not perfectly lined up? I messed with it for 10 minutes, the limit of time I set for dealing with technological issues. If I can’t figure it out in 10 minutes, I walk away and pray. If a solution does not come to mind, I do without. I refuse to let technology mess with my head or body.
Also, there are fewer images in this post. It’s because I found myself at my nervous system limit after I messed with the snipping tool and had to figure out where it saved to. My dear daughter helped me. So here it is, in all its imperfection–a testimony to the fact that I try to walk my talk!]
How I Got Through A Huge Healing/Trauma Response
By · CommentsLast week, I attended three days of an online business retreat that I thought, at the time, was fantastic.
I experienced transformation. I got ideas. I connected with people.
And it threw me into a massive 4-day healing response.
It was, apparently, too much, too fast.
Photo by Marc-Olivier Jodoin on Unsplash
The next day after the retreat, I was the usual Sunday tired.
On Monday, however, I was in pain. More stress hit when I had to drive my husband to a dental appointment in the teeming rain, where I couldn’t see in front of me and I was flanked by trucks also navigating construction barrels on the two highways I traversed.
Tuesday the pain got worse. It seemed to move all around my body. (I learned from a trauma expert that this can be a sign of trauma—trapped energy stored in the body.) I slept poorly that night.
Wednesday I could barely move, I was so tired and in pain. I rescheduled a client appointment–something I think I’ve only done two or three times in the past 13 years of coaching. (I’m nothing if not dependable!)
That day I dragged myself out of bed to meet with my therapist. I told her I think I was in a “dorsal vagal nervous system state.”
She agreed. She said it seemed like the retreat was too much for me. I was aware at the time that being 6 hours on Zoom for three days, taking in LOTS of information and emotional stimuli, not to mention the visual stimulation of the Chat screens whizzing by, overwhelmed my sensitive nervous system. On top of all the extra stimuli I naturally take in as a Highly Sensitive Person, I have to also deeply process it all if I’m not to get overloaded. The final load was the drive to and from the dentist on Monday.
The therapist told me something interesting: that if we have trauma in our background, and we go through an intense experience like my retreat (with someone who is not trauma-informed), or prolonged stress activation where we don’t have enough time to process everything and/or recover through “tend and befriend” (activating our ventral nervous system), there are consequences. It can activate all kinds of wounded and unhealed “parts” of us, and the stress is manifested in physical symptoms, such as exhaustion, fatigue, exacerbation of chronic illnesses like IBS. (Check, check, and check!) In my case, a chronic cough that sparked headaches and all sorts of pain came up big time. (I used to call the cough my Stress-o-meter.)
I also think that, because I had been processing a lot of trauma and am also living in a chronically stress-inducing environment, part of it was that I was detoxing at too fast a rate. My cells were opening up (thanks to the Halo and my own therapies), but my body couldn’t quite keep up with removing the toxins that were released.
However, once I knew what was happening, I knew what I could do to help it along.
In addition to my usual healing practices (Healing Codes and the other processes I’ve developed), I added a somatic exercise I learned from Dr. Elizabeth Stanley’s Mindfulness-Based Mind Fitness Training. I took some Alkaseltzer Gold, which a fellow coach said helps with healing responses. Drank lots and lots of water. Used my tools (Halo, c.Balance Pain boost). And I got some physical release through “shaking” to this video music that a friend sent me that very day. (To complete the stress cycle, we often need to release it physically.)
It all helped a lot.
In fact, I have to give a shout-out for the c.Balance/Holos. I started turning a corner when I activated the Revitalize Boost. Also, one night I woke up and had a splitting headache. I was too tired to get up and find some pain medication. I pressed the button on the Pain Boost and within a minute or less, the pain went away—and didn’t come back that night! I rely on that Pain Boost a lot when I get those sudden headaches, which have been exacerbated lately.
I know I’m not out of the woods yet. I need to be very careful of overloading my sensitive nervous system. I have to say no to a lot of things that attract me, simply because it’s “too much” right now.
I reminded myself I’m in a season of “subtraction” and “letting go,” so another thing I did was go through a couple of old files and tossed the information I had kept for “someday.” All it was doing was making me anxious that I wasn’t finding time to learn the stuff. “Let it go, Diane! Be present to NOW!”
Perhaps these suggestions and links will be beneficial to you. We live in a fast-paced society, and some of us have a thirst for knowledge and information. I’m learning that, hard as it is, I have to say no to a lot of good things to say yes to what is best for me, right now.
What helps too is being clear about what my “divine design” is. I know what my “energized abilities” are—those ways I naturally express my true self in the world.
Even then, though, when expressing, I found I can give too much. Less is often more.
I’m trying to learn that lesson. My nervous system is cheering me on.
If you would like to explore what your “energized abilities” might be, and Align with Your Divine DesignTM, I invite you to go here and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire. It now includes a coaching suggestion that, if you implement it, will immediately put you on the path of healing and transformation. The document explains how. (If you have already filled one out, please email me so I can send you this additional assignment.)
Embracing Your Season
By · CommentsA client of mine, Carolyn Schmit, has found a new outlet for her creativity: writing haiku.
One poem in particular struck me. With great simplicity (which I crave these days), it speaks profoundly of what is needed for so many seasons of life.
Teacher
Bough weighed down with snow
Nodding with each passing breeze
Teaches resilience
–Carolyn Schmit
The context of the poem is a particular season: winter. Perhaps the poem came to me again now, though it is summer, as I was reminded in my prayer time that I am in a new season, one that requires great resilience.
Thinking of life as being lived in seasons can help us weather them better. Our “life seasons” may always not be as predictable as the earth’s seasons, but they are alike in that neither lasts forever. One season inevitably gives way to another season.
The key is to discern what kind of season you’re in now, understand what is required, and most of all–most difficult of all–to not resist the current season’s demands.
That is where I’m concentrating most of my healing/transformational work right now: transforming resistance to acceptance, in the face of uncertainty. Learning to let go of what I knew, to let in what is possible. Expecting good things, instead of fearing the worst.
What about you? What “season” are you in? What is required of you in this particular season? What familiar things might you need to let go of, to let in new possibilities? What fears do you have at that thought? Where do they come from? What else might be true now?
And if you are in a season in which you desire more clarity on your purpose in life, visit my Align with Your Divine Design page and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire. I can help you navigate your current season so it bears fruit of love, joy, peace, and purpose.
Are You Open to Healing Happening in an Unexpected Way?
By · CommentsWhenever I come across the same idea two or three times within a couple of days, I figure it’s something to pay attention to.
Especially if it’s from Scripture.
This week, the idea that healing can come through unexpected means came up twice on the same day. So I thought I’d pay close attention, and share it with you.
The first time was through a devotional app I really enjoy. It’s called Lectio 365, and each day there is a morning and evening audio (and printed words), using the simple outline of P-R-A-Y: Pause, Rejoice & Reflect, Ask, and Yield.
Photo by Mathilde Normandeau on Unsplash
The Scripture selection for reflection on July 26 was from John 5:5-9a, about the man who spent years by the pool of Bethesda, waiting for a miracle. Jesus sees him, knows that he has been sick for a long time, and asks him a pointed question: “Do you want to be healed?”
The man explains why he can’t be healed: “I have no one to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up, and while I am going, another steps down before me.” His chance at being healed was slim to none—or so he thought.
The devotional points out that at this point, the sick man knew only one way to be healed: to get into the pool first when the water is stirred up. “But Jesus expands his limited imagination with an invitation to action; ‘Get up, pick up your bed, and start walking.’”
And the man did!
That very same day, I was reading through my two-year Bible reading plan, and came to the story of Naaman in 2 Kings 5, who had some kind of serious skin disease. He was general of the army under the king of Aram, and very valuable to the king. A girl from Israel who had been captured and ended up being the servant of Naaman’s wife told her that there was a prophet in Israel who could tell Naaman how to be healed.
Naaman first went to the king of Israel for help, but that king recognized his grave limitations in being able to heal, and referred Naaman to Elisha the prophet.
Naaman came to Elisha, all decked out with gifts. Elisha didn’t even bother to meet him in person; he sent his servant with a message to Naaman: “Go to the River Jordan and immerse yourself seven times. Your skin will be healed and you’ll be as good as new.”
This totally offended Naaman. He lost his temper, and fumed, “I thought he’d personally come out and meet me, call on the name of the LORD, wave his hand over the diseased spot, and get rid of the disease. Aren’t the Damascus rivers cleaner by far than the rivers in Israel? Why not bathe there; at least I’ll get clean.” He stomped off in a rage.
[Here’s another example of someone believing he could only be healed in a certain way. In this case, he vociferously resisted the new (and simpler) approach given by Elisha.]
Naaman’s servants tried to change his mind. “If the prophet had asked you to do something hard and heroic, wouldn’t you have done it? So why not this simple ‘wash and be clean’?”
Naaman gave in, followed Elisha’s orders—and was completely healed. AND he was convinced that the only true God was Elisha’s God, the LORD.
Photo by Mohamed Nohassi on Unsplash
These stories remind me of the people I’ve tried to share The Healing Codes with. They are resistant to such a strange way of healing. If you don’t understand that everything is energy, and that if you shift the energy from negative to positive, things can change, things can be healed—you won’t be open to The Healing Codes.
Or a number of other healing modalities, for that matter. I don’t believe The Healing Codes are God’s only tool in his toolbox. He can use any tool he wants.
The question, for all of us, is: Are we open to God using a tool that we’ve never heard of, or don’t understand?
Can we, like the man at the pool of Bethesda, or like Naaman, take the step of faith and follow what God may be showing us to do—even if we don’t understand it or if it seems too “simple”?
What “miracle” might be possible if we did step out in faith?
[Note: you might want to share this link with someone who is skeptical about The Healing Codes or whatever else you know will help them, that he or she has resisted.)
I believe God has given me some new tools, besides The Healing Codes, that have worked to not only heal, but transform my own life and that of others. If you are interested in exploring what more God might have for you, please visit my web page and fill out a Clarity Questionnaire for the Align with Your Divine Design program. No obligation.
Breakthroughs vs. Microsteps
By · CommentsWe all want breakthroughs, don’t we?
The sudden insight that leads to a whole new way of thinking and being.
The Healing Code that turns everything around. (This happened to me only TWO OR THREE TIMES in the 16 years I’ve been doing Healing Codes.)
You know in your heart that, despite the wonderful testimonials of people experiencing a great transformation from whatever X product or modality they’re using, it rarely happens that way.
(The rarity keeps the hope alive, though, and that’s not a bad thing. I’ll explain in a moment.)
What actually happens is that, as we consistently practice whatever effective modality we’re doing (yes, it does need to prove efficacious), microchanges happen.
There’s a scientific explanation for this; it has to do with the brain, and bypassing the amygdala, that part of the brain that activates the fight/flight response of your nervous system:
“Small, easily achievable goals — such as picking up and storing just one paper clip on a chronically messy desk — let you tiptoe right past the amygdala, keeping it asleep and unable to set off alarm bells. As your small steps continue and your cortex starts working, the brain begins to create “software” for your desired change, actually laying down new nerve pathways and building new habits.” –Dr. Robert Maurer, One Small Step Can Change Your Life
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So do not despise small changes! They are actually the building blocks for those possible breakthroughs.
Every time you do a Healing Code, you chip away at your issue. You lessen the stress in your autonomic nervous system and allow your body’s natural processes to grow stronger and to heal you.
Every time you make a small change in the direction of that new energy you have set for yourself, you add another brick to firm up your foundation of transformation.
Notice the small changes. Celebrate the small changes. I heard that noticing and celebrating even very small successes does much to counteract the natural negative bias of the brain. You begin to veer more and more in the direction of that change you wish to see.
And perhaps, one day, you will experience a breakthrough. But make no mistake: it was built on your microsteps of staying in the energy of your desired intentions.
[FAQ] Healing Many Symptoms at Once
By · CommentsHere is a question that came from someone who has several debilitating long COVID symptoms and is wondering how best to use The Healing Codes for healing. My answer would apply to any chronic symptoms.
Q: . . . Because of my debilitating symptoms from the long COVID, I can’t do any physical activity (not even cooking or cleaning), or I risk getting worse.
My question is: Should I work on these symptoms one by one until it gets better and then move on to the next symptom?
Or can I work on them all at the same time? But in that case, there are probably many emotional causes, which would make the prayer very long. And my mind could get confused by all that.
I don’t know what to do. Could you help me?
What’s more, there are symptoms where I’m not sure or I don’t know the emotional cause. So if I don’t know the cause, I can’t include it in the prayer. So I don’t know how to formulate the prayer. Could you explain?
A: Good questions! I’m sorry you have long COVID and so many symptoms, but rest assured, the Healing Codes approach is not that complicated.
Start with how you feel about the symptoms. For instance, it sounds like maybe fear is there, perhaps feeling trapped and frustrated. Or just the belief, “I can’t” (you say you can’t do any physical activity; was there ever a time when you felt like “I can’t” about anything at all?).
And then trace those feelings back, if you can, to other times when you felt that same way. When I say “feel,” it could be an emotion, but also pay attention to the sensation in your body as you open up to memories popping up.
If no memory/memories come up, no worries. It could mean that it’s too early a memory for you to drum up consciously, or that it’s a generational memory or other kind of “hidden memory.” Just put in the prayer of intention, when specifying the memory (see below for an example), “from the source memory.” Your heart and body know what it is.
Also see if there’s anything else associated with the feeling/sensation. I like to look for thoughts/beliefs that fuel the feeling, and see if there are any negative coping patterns you’ve developed to deal with the issue (isolation, numbing with some activity or substance, overdoing something like work or shopping, etc.).
If a memory does pop up, you can use that as the presumed source memory of your issue.
You don’t need to be concerned about “finding all the memories” or dealing with all the symptoms. If you can find the key feelings or beliefs or negative behaviors or memories, there is much attached to those that are subconscious but will be healed. That’s one of the best things about The Healing Codes!
Let’s say your main feeling is fear, and there’s the belief “I can’t,” and a memory comes up of when you were 4 years old and you wanted to do something but were afraid. Maybe your parent or other adult scolded you for wanting to do it, and said “you can’t,” and your little brain believed that.
Now you want to live a normal life and you have this long COVID thing going on. Perhaps that whole fear/”I can’t” got triggered when your symptoms first appeared. Now the symptoms are “attached” to that early memory. If you can heal that early memory, the symptoms won’t have anything to “attach” to, and perhaps they will resolve.
Of course, they may also be “attached” to other memories, so you look for other times when you felt fearful and like “I can’t.” When that age 4 memory seems to be resolved, you can move on to those other memories (or just add them to the prayer when they come up).
Alternatively, perhaps you can’t find any specific memories. Then look for an age range when you felt that way. Or, as I’ve said, just use “from the source memory” and know that’s good enough.
If you’ve been subjected to trauma (of the Type B-overt abuse–or the Type A–Childhood Emotional Neglect, the Absence of nurturing), you may not have many specific memories. (Do a search on this blog for “childhood emotional neglect” or “trauma”; I have several articles on each.) Understanding my Type A trauma has enabled a whole new layer of healing for me.
Here’s a way to pray the Prayer of Intention with my hypothetical situation. (This differs from the Healing Code book; it’s how I like to pray, but you can adapt it to what you’re comfortable with.) The underlined words are the variables that will change depending on what you’re focusing on to heal.
“Dear God, please find, open and heal the source of any disease or dysfunction in spirit, soul, mind or body, especially the long COVID symptoms, with any connection to fear and the belief that “I can’t,” from the age 4 memory. Please displace all negatives by filling me with your love, life, light, power and truth. Please also magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good at an optimal pace, and restore everything to Your original, intended design. Thank You for Your willingness and ability to do all this and more for me.”
Then you point to The Healing Code positions, while focusing on something positive (very important, as the key element to THC is replacing the negative energy of your issue with the more positive truth). On my website I have sample Truth Focus Statements and Love Pictures you can use, but it’s fine to use any positive memory or something positive you already believe, to counteract the negative.
Consistency of practice is the key here. Don’t overthink it. Just keep bringing your awareness of the feelings, beliefs, coping mechanisms and memories as they come up, and trust that God and your heart are guiding you, and The Healing Code is a tool that will shift the energy around your issue faster and easier than most anything else.
If you’d like tools not only to heal, but to transform your whole life so that you Align with Your Divine Design, check out what’s available here.
The Call to Rest
By · CommentsThis past week, I had nothing on my calendar in terms of appointments. It felt heavenly.
I put down several things on my “to do” list, fully intending to enjoy a productive day of easing back into business.
Except . . . my body and spirit (and the Spirit) had other plans.
I needed to REST. All three agreed. No room for argument.
As the Spirit would have it, my friend Louise called, smack dab in the middle of when I’m usually the most productive and don’t take calls.
I took her call.
When I told her how low-energy I felt, she told me about an article she’d read on the 9 types of rest. I wrote them down. (And here’s the link to the article, to give the author full due.)
Which of these do you resonate with most?
While I do OK with 4, 5 and 8 through my healing practices, the other forms of rest seemed novel to me.
What especially arrested me was #2, “permission to not be helpful.”
Not be helpful? That’s part of my divine design. Being helpful comes so naturally to me. I seem to know just what a person needs, and share it from the vast reservoir of knowledge I absorb so easily as a lifelong learner and highly sensitive person who naturally takes in a ton of information.
Permission not to be helpful felt so refreshing.
So this week I put off calling the clients back who are patiently waiting to meet with me. I needed the rest of not being helpful for a short time.
What about you? Do you need permission to take one (or more) of these types of rest?
I hereby bestow my permission!
And my permission is based on the One who invited me, and who invites you, into a life of rest: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)
A life of rest, and work arising only out of rest and your Divine Design, is your spiritual birthright. If you would like to discover your Divine Design, go here to fill out a questionnaire and get on the waiting list.
Psycho-energetic Root Causes of Chronic Illness
By · CommentsDo you feel like you’re going around in circles trying to heal despite your best efforts?
What if the solution to your chronic health struggles lies beyond the physical?
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The Psycho-Energetic Root Causes of Chronic Illness Masterclass could help you:
- Recognize what is making you emotionally toxic & gain control of your emotional responses
- Understand how your mind & your nervous system work
- Identify what’s causing you to hold on to illness
- Develop a deeper understanding of yourself & others
- Utilize the most effective tools for healing past trauma
- Redesign your belief system so it actually serves you
- Cultivate a strong sense of self-worth & self-acceptance
- Implement different modalities that can help you balance your energy field
- And more!
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Be sure to mark your calendar for June 26 – July 2, 2023!
Why attend this important health event?
Your host, Dr. Eva Detko, has been studying natural medicine and the human mind for 23 years. She became a health advocate through her own healing journey – beginning with a challenging start to life that included trauma, stress and illness that followed her into her twenties.
Once she realized that her doctors didn’t have the answers to help her, she tried many different natural approaches and modalities. But it wasn’t until she started doing trauma, belief and self-worth work that she started to feel a significant shift. Now having successfully recovered her health by optimizing her mind, body and biofield for healing, she helps others do the same.
She considers it a privilege to become part of your health journey.
Everything I’ve ever attended or learned from Dr. Eva Detko has been top-notch.
Yes, you truly have the means to get started on better health today!
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