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How Heart Issues are Like Bamboo …
By · CommentsWhen I discovered how bamboo grows, I thought it an apt image both for how heart issues develop AND how they heal.
Knowing how heart issues are like bamboo may help you both understand the healing process and be more patient with it.
Bamboo’s growth starts underground, where the rhizome system that supports the canes are developed. For three whole years, the plant establishes itself underground and there is no apparent growth. Absolutely nothing appears to be happening. For three years!
In the fourth year, shoots appear. The bamboo canes grow in height and diameter for only 60 days every spring. After the 60 days, that particular cane will never grow again.
However, because of the rhizome system, the next spring the shoots that come up will grow much taller and faster in those 60 days. After a bamboo grove has been establishing its rhizome system for 5 years, the canes that grow in that fifth year can reach as much as 90 feet (for certain species, in certain conditions)–all in 60 days!
This picture also applies to how heart issues form, and then manifest eventually in our lives in some health, relationship, and/or success issue.
Like the rhizome system that forms underground,
memories and beliefs accumulate in the subconscious
mind.
If enough unhealthy beliefs based on negative memories and images gather (whether in the unconscious or subconscious mind, or energy patterns in the DNA or cells, nobody knows exactly yet), they will eventually manifest in some kind of problem. It may take years, even decades for the “shoot” of the negativity to manifest, but eventually it does.
That manifestation can “take off” into a major illness. If the theories of Dr. Alex Loyd in The Healing Code and Dr. Bruce Lipton in The Biology of Belief are true, such illnesses began long before any symptoms or problems showed up.
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Midlife Conversations Deep Dive
By · CommentsMidlife brings changes, and as I say in my post about what happens when you hit your sixties, if we navigate those changes well in midlife, then we set ourselves up for having a much smoother “wisdom season,” as writer Cheryl Richardson so nicely puts it.
Midlife can be quite a rocky time.
We’re not only dealing with hormonal, biological and vanity changes, but we’re also dealing with more aches and pains, work/business problems, family issues, death, securing finances, and questioning our purpose, spirituality and personal goals.
Learn how midlife instead of breaking you, can help you SOAR.
Midlife expert Natalie Jill has gathered a group of 50 incredible experts to show you how you can navigate this challenging time of life with joy, passion and authenticity.
The Midlife Conversation Deep Dive will explore:
- Optimizing hormones
- Preventing bone loss
- Staying healthy
- Considering plastic surgery options
- Managing stress
- Navigating relationships
- Talking about sex
- Boosting confidence
- Living your passion
- Thriving financially
- And more!
You will be empowered with practical tips, tricks and strategies to help you tap into your power and potential so you can flourish in your next chapter!
Be sure to mark your calendar for May 22-28, 2023.
Breaking Free From Childhood Trauma
By · CommentsDid you experience trauma as a child?
I did, but honestly, for decades I thought I’d put it all behind me. In fact, it took me decades to even realize that I had experienced childhood trauma. I didn’t understand that the trauma I experienced in the first weeks of life, when I was operated on for some kind of intestinal issue, would affect me decades later–physically and emotionally.
And I didn’t know the extent of the emotional neglect for decades.
I had adjusted so well–I thought. Made a great life for myself.
My body told a different story. The body keeps the score.
Examples of childhood trauma are:
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Physical abuse
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Sexual abuse
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Emotional abuse
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Physical neglect
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Emotional neglect
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A parent who’s an alcoholic or addict
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A parent who’s a victim of domestic violence
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A family member in jail
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A family member with a mental illness
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Narcissistic abuse
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Traumatic grief after losing a parent through divorce, death or abandonment
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Bullying
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Natural disasters
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Medical trauma
If you’ve experienced childhood trauma, and the after-effects are still plaguing you (even if until now you haven’t linked it to childhood events), I highly recommend you tune into this FREE, AVAIYA University online event: Breaking Free From Childhood Trauma.
Here is the lineup of teachers speaking during the online event:
Dr. Aimie Apigian, Dr. James Gordon, Heather Monroe, Sharon Martin, Michael Unbroken, Kerry Tepedino, Simon Borg-Olivier, Adam Young, Amber Hollingsworth, Marie Diamond, Misa Hopkins, Dr. Joe Rubino, Gail Brenner, Ashanna Solaris, Dana Dharma Devi, Dr. Ameet Aggarwal, Ken Page, Candace Plattor, Mark Andreas, Jeanie Cisco-Meth, Dr. Steve G. Jones, Evelyn Hale, Dr. Ian Macnauton, Megan Smith, Dr. David Hanscome, Ann Weiser Cornell, Dr. Friedemann Schaub, Machiel Klerk, Michelle Masters, Dr. Kate Truitt, Dr. Elizabeth A. Stanley, Mandy Flanders, Aki Omori, Lelia Schott, Rafaella Smith-Fiallo, Dr. Carrie Lam & Dr. Monique Andrews.
Here’s just some of what you’ll learn from these trauma experts, respected psychologists, best-selling authors & more:
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Anxiety, Panic Attacks & Flashbacks Freedom: Learn how to free yourself from the grip these symptoms have had on your life, and/or the lives of those you love
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Toxic Stress Release: Learn techniques to release the painful stress from your childhood trauma
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Creating Your Trauma Healing Toolkit: Explore modalities like Meditation, Breathwork, Homeopathy, Neuroscience & more on your healing journey
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Biggest mistakes to avoid when it comes to inner child trauma healing
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How to use revise the trauma stored in your brain and body & decrease PTSD symptoms like anxiety, shame, guilt & more
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Techniques and strategies to help you heal and complete your past & reparent yourself
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How to rebuild your sense of self after attachment trauma
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The healing power of engaging your story to overcome childhood trauma
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How to “bully-proof” yourself and quiet your inner critic
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How to raise your resilience, calm your nervous system, and decrease overwhelm
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How to find relief from the toll adverse childhood experiences take on your body
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And so much more
It’s your turn to heal … get started now by registering right here for the Breaking Free From Childhood Trauma online event.
Two ways to speed your healing
By · CommentsHave you been trying to heal some issue, emotional or physical, and feel like you’re stuck, not getting anywhere?
I want to suggest two ways you can get unstuck and speed your healing.
First, though, let’s explore why you might feel stuck.
1. There may be some sort of hidden memory that is blocking you, often a generational memory. I remember when I healed a particular generational memory from my mother (which she also was working on healing for herself), suddenly a success block was removed and things I’d been working on for years came to fruition in one week!
I can find those hidden memories if you sign up for my Healing Hearts Circle; every call I test the members for hidden memories.
2. Your body may be prioritizing healing something else that you’re not even aware of. You may be intent on healing your skin or digestive issues, for instance, but your body knows you have cancer forming. It is allocating the healing energy toward the more serious issue that you don’t even know about.
3. You have trauma. If you have trauma, defined as your nervous system’s reaction to an event that was, at the time, overwhelming to your nervous system, it can be stored in your body and causing symptoms.
While I have found that The Healing Codes do a lot to pave the way to trauma healing, I’m beginning to think that you also need some kind of somatic (body-based) intervention. It’s not either-or; energy healing makes trauma healing approaches work better and faster, and trauma healing approaches make The Healing Codes work better. I’ve found in myself and many of my clients, that The Healing Code paves the way for your body, soul and mind to even begin to deal with the trauma of which you might not have been aware.
4. You’re focusing too much on the physical and not seeing the subtle shifts that are taking place. We can be so fixated on our particular goal, that we don’t see the ways we’re improving.
My mother comes to mind. I was giving her custom Healing Codes every week, and she didn’t see any changes. But I sure did. I’ll never forget the day when she started talking about all the fun she and her siblings had as a child, when they went to her uncle’s farm. I said, “Mom! Do you realize this is the first time you’re ever shared any happy memory from your childhood?”
“Oh really?” she said, then blithely went on to talk more about the happy memories.
We coaches call it “Healing Code amnesia.” We forget how far we’ve come when we’re so fixated on the final goal.
(As a side note, my mom had always said she didn’t have any childhood memories. As she healed with The Healing Codes, more and more memories came up. We healed the sad ones, and then the happy ones emerged. But she didn’t even notice! The happy memories came up so naturally after a while.)
The keys to getting unstuck arise out of the above sources of our stuckness.
First, trust that your body wants to heal. And that it knows how to heal. Built into the fabric of creation is this innate ability to heal, to rejuvenate. We see it in the seasons. We see it in our bodies: when you get a cut, you don’t have to do anything except clean it and give it a little more protection. Your body already knows how to heal it.
Not everyone believes in the body’s ability to heal. I wrote about the two views of the body: the mechanical view that body is a machine that falls apart after a while, versus the organic view, that the body is a living organism with intelligence, that always seeks life and health.
It matters which view you take. Believing the latter in my opinion sets you up to work with your body’s intention to heal. Believing you’re just a machine that is now falling apart may lead you away from what you really need, and even cause you to engage in practices that will actually harm you.
In my view, our human spirit is meant to be aligned with God’s holy Spirit, so that God’s life flows through our spirit (heart/central intelligence/connection to our unique Divine Design), to our body and soul. God’s flow of energy is always about life and healing.
The second thing you can do to speed your healing is to notice every small “win,” every slight improvement.
Sometimes other people will notice and comment before we see it in ourselves, as was the case with my mother. I have many clients who will tell me that their spouse remarks on the changes in them, changes they haven’t noticed themselves. So you might want to ask the people close to you what changes they have notices.
Then, celebrate the changes!
This taps into the principle of gratitude. Give thanks for even the smallest improvement. That will keep you focused in the direction of improvement, which will speed that improvement. Even if you want your skin issue to heal but what’s happening is you’re feeling less anxious most of the time—that could well be what was needed to actually heal the skin issue.
Focusing on the positives will also lessen the perception of the negative. They are opposite poles. If you’re stuck, you may be trying to go two feet in one direction (feeling the frustration of “no change,”), then two feet in the opposite direction (noticing some positive changes but then discounting it—two steps back in the other direction).
Isn’t that the very picture of “stuck”?
So to summarize: Trust your body, and look for and celebrate the wins, however small they may seem.
And be patient. Yes, we want to speed our healing, but ironically, the slow, patient, steady path is the fastest track. Another thing your wise body and spirit knows is the perfect pace for your healing. That’s why I say in my Healing Code prayer of intention, “Please magnify the effectiveness of this healing to the maximum level for my highest good, at an optimal pace.” We want all these things: magnified effectiveness, our highest good, and an optimal pace—not too fast, not too slow.
The spirit guiding the body knows how to optimize. Let’s work with it!
Are you concerned about bone health?
According to the International Osteoporosis Foundation, it is estimated that worldwide, 200 million women suffer from osteoporosis. In addition, it is estimated that 1 in 3 women over age 50 will experience osteoporotic fractures, as well as 1 in 5 men. In the United States, it is estimated that 10 million people have osteoporosis, and another 44 million have low bone mass, which puts them at increased risk for developing osteoporosis.
My endocrinologist, who is responsible for my osteoporosis (he told me the medication for thyroid can cause bone loss, which is why he had to monitor my bone density), gave me some dire statistics about how many people die within a year of a hip fracture. (Why would he tell me this? Medical fear-mongering. . .)
However, the truth is, not all people with osteoporosis will fracture a bone, and not all people who have a hip fracture will die!
Especially if you’re doing all you can to increase and guard your bone health.
That’s why I’m recommending the MORE Natural Approaches to Osteoporosis & Bone Health 2.0 Summit, airing March 27-April 2, 2023 (encore weekend April 8-9).
I attended the first bone health summit by Margie Bessinger, and bought the excellent program. In the 50+ new interviews of this year’s summit, she and others will explore:
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The root causes of bone loss
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Safe exercises (with demonstrations) to strengthen and protect bones
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IMPORTANT exercise guidelines (+ dangerous exercises to avoid!)
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Nutrition and supplements for strong, healthy bones
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Two powerful cooking demonstrations of bone healthy meals + kitchen tips
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Fall prevention tips + movement practices for balance
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The impact of stress on bone health + stress reduction strategies
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How increased happiness can help protect your bones and your health
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Advanced topics, like when to use medication, oxalates, parathyroid issues, MCAS and mold
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And more!
Why attend this important health event?
Your host, Margie Bissinger, began working as a physical therapist with patients with osteoporosis over 25 years ago. These patients were told to exercise to help their condition, but were without guidance. To her dismay, many individuals were performing exercises that actually increased their risk of spinal fractures.
This inspired her to develop a wealth of strategies that have allowed thousands of people to improve their bone strength and live their lives without all the worries … and with more vitality and happiness than they ever knew was possible.
She’s here to inspire you with her expert guidance and wisdom.
Yes, you truly have the means to get started on better health today!
Note: When you register for MORE Natural Approaches to Osteoporosis & Bone Health 2.0, you’ll also unlock early-access interviews, complimentary guides and helpful eBooks about building strong bones and living your most resilient life! Here’s one on exercise that I thought was very helpful.
The Science of Prayer
By · CommentsDo you pray? Have you seen some pretty amazing answers to prayer?
I have. Prayer is a big part of my life. I’ve always known it works (though I don’t get everything exactly as I pray for), but the scientist in me always wondered if there is an explanation for how it works that’s outside of religion.
And perhaps there is. It’s all connected to the quantum field.
What’s the quantum field?
A quantum field is a theoretical concept that helps us understand how particles behave at the smallest scales in the universe. Imagine that the universe is like a giant, constantly shifting, vibrating fabric. This fabric is made up of tiny units of energy called particles (the threads, as it were), and each type of particle has its own unique energy field.
Quantum fields are the mathematical description of these energy fields, which fill all of space and time. They are constantly fluctuating and interacting with one another, creating particles that come into existence and then disappear again. It’s all about energy and information. What looks to be matter, is really energy vibrating at a low enough rate that we can perceive it with the senses.
The fascinating thing about these particles is that they do not exist in a definite state until they are observed or measured. Instead, they exist in a state of superposition, which means that they can be in multiple states at once.
This reminds me of some words that dropped into my mind out of nowhere one day: “All perspectives exist in the quantum field. Choose the perspective that leads to gratitude, joy, and peace.”
When we pray, we put out attention on a particular outcome, which already exists in the quantum field as a potentiality. Our very prayer (observation) allows that particle to “manifest” in the physical world.
Then there is the idea of quantum entanglement.
In quantum entanglement, two energy “particles” interact with each other, and there is a full download of information. They become “entangled,” so that each “particle” instantaneously possesses the same energy information as the other, and both experience the same state.
This is mentioned in The Healing Code, referencing an experiment where two strangers met briefly, then were put in Faraday cages (through which no outside electromagnetic energy can pass). The experimenters found that when they shined a light in the eyes of one of the men, the pupils of the other man constricted just as if the light were shining in his eyes at that moment, though he was in that Faraday cage some distance away and no light was actually being shined in his eyes.
That’s the thing about quantum entanglement: distance and time mean nothing. It appears to violate the laws of classical physics, which dictate that information cannot travel faster than the speed of light. In the case of entangled particles, information seems to be transmitted instantly, regardless of the distance between them.
Let’s translate all this to prayer. If God is the creator of this quantum field, and exists within and outside of it as well (I don’t think God is the quantum field itself, but he created it and sustains it), and everything is energy, we too are energy. We are electrical beings, and we can interact on many different levels both with each other, and with God.
Prayer is interaction on this non-physical, energetic level. We can get “entangled” with a certain desire that we present to God, uniting our intention with God’s, and that makes things happen in the physical world, which is just a certain manifestation of energy.
Of course, God always has veto power. He is in charge of what gets manifested: only that which is His sovereign will, governed by His love and infinite wisdom. (Thank God for that!)
We can also get “entangled” with another person and their need, and present that to God.
Important to note about prayer: it must be activated by a certain kind of energy, namely faith.
When Jesus healed on earth, he almost always linked it to faith: “Your faith has made you well.” The person believed that Jesus could heal, or at least that he might, and that was all that Jesus needed.
Remember the man who asked Jesus to heal his demonized son, and said to Jesus, “I believe; help my unbelief”? (Mark 9:24) Jesus said we only need faith the size of a mustard seed, the smallest of seeds, but if we plant it in the soil of God’s power, that’s enough to “move mountains.”
I love that science is now “explaining” things that were revealed thousands of years ago in religion. You don’t have to know how to build a highway to drive on it, but you do have to know a few rules of the highway to use it effectively and safely. We don’t need science to explain prayer in order to pray, but it’s wonderful to know that science supports what we already knew from spiritual teachings.
All truth is God’s truth, after all. True science always reveals something more of God’s ways.
If this topic interests you and you want to know more, I think you’ll really like the book, Quantum Glory: The Science of Heaven Invading Earth by Phil Mason. It presents the science of quantum physics in the light of Scripture. I kept having to put it down to take in the wonder of it all, and give thanks and praise to the Creator who set things up so amazingly.
Hidden Stressors-Part Four
By · CommentsIn this series on hidden stressors, I’ve mostly focused on the emotional aspects.
For many of us, this is the kind of stress that’s easiest to hide, especially if we’ve grown up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), or are high on the sensitivity spectrum.
Another reason I’ve focused on the emotional, is emotional issues can predispose us to being more vulnerable to yet another hidden source of stress: toxins.
All of us are subject to this hidden physical stress.
Toxins lurk in our food, water, air, cosmetics, household cleaners, even fabrics.
They also lurk in the energy around us, in the form of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF) and dirty electricity.
I don’t think I have to go into detail about all this. No doubt you’re aware of it, and may feel a little helpless about what to do about it all.
However, we are not helpless at all. There is one main thing we can do to keep healthy, and that is to focus on the immune and nervous systems. Read More→
Recommended Products to Mitigate Hidden Stressors
By · CommentsAs a wrap-up to my series on Hidden Stressors, I put together a list of things I use to either mitigate the effects of toxins, or support the immune system. Note that I am very picky about what I recommend. (Here’s my criteria.)
This list is not comprehensive, it’s just what I’ve used and found effective.
Also, in many cases I am an affiliate for said product, and will receive a commission if you buy from my links. (For which I thank you. It helps me to provide this newsletter and other resources for free.) You don’t pay more for using my links. Read More→
Hidden Stressors-Part Three
By · CommentsIn Part Two in this series on Hidden Stressors, I talked about trauma.
How there are no “little t” traumas. Traumas have to do with how the nervous system responded to an event that was overwhelming at the time. Some people, especially highly sensitive people, may have more finely-tuned nervous systems that take in more information—hence, may be more susceptible to trauma.
I just finished watching hours of the Trauma Superconference 3 that aired the replays recently. It made me realize that a lot of us are carrying around unhealed, even unknown trauma in our nervous systems.
These traumas may be triggered by the recent (and current) collective trauma of the COVID-19 pandemic.
Especially the trauma of unmet needs. Read More→
Hidden Stressors-Part Two
By · CommentsIn a previous post I wrote about how my symptoms were beginning to flare, and how I prayed and got some insights into why.
The first was that I wasn’t honoring my sensitive nature enough, i.e. that I have the inborn trait of Sensory Processing Sensitivity: a nervous system that’s more finely tuned than 80% of the population. That makes me a Highly Sensitive Person.
The second insight was related to the first, but with more of an emphasis on recovery: Your nervous system needs to recover from the traumas you’ve been through.
I have known for a while now that Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) characterized my past, ever since I came across Dr. Jonice Webb’s excellent books, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect and Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships with Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children. (You can take the CEN questionnaire on my Free Tools page.)
I believed that I had overcome it all by now, between The Healing Codes and some therapy.
However, when my mother died and I had to deal with settling her estate with a co-executor (sister-in-law), I saw just what my family of origin really was like. A plethora of traumas revealed themselves—though a few years ago, I wouldn’t have thought of them as traumas.
That’s the thing—what our nervous system interprets as trauma might not be what our adult minds interpret as trauma.
And what one person’s nervous system interprets as trauma might be different from another person’s. Two people can go through the same event and for one, it’s a trauma, and for the other, it’s not.
It’s a physiological thing. The nervous system becomes dysregulated. It needs to be resolved by some sort of somatic therapy, or it can lead to autoimmune and other chronic illnesses.
Here’s a good video that describes how this works. Irene Lyon explains why there’s no difference, physiologically, between Trauma (the obvious “bad stuff”) and “little-t” trauma. She gives a case study of how this works with fibromyalgia, so if you have this, be sure to watch the video.
Note that CEN is trauma. CEN happens when you don’t get enough of the nurturing you needed. It’s also been called Type A trauma—the Absence of nurturing.
And it probably happens more often than not with Highly Sensitive People. Not only do HSPs need emotional attunement more than less sensitive people, not getting it also affects them more deeply.
There’s a term for this: differential susceptibility. It means the “bad” things affect you more deeply.
It also means, happily, that interventions such as The Healing Codes, somatic experiencing, and probably most any kind of natural therapies and remedies help HSPs more.
(There was even a study of teenage girls for a program helping them ward off depression. Only the HS girls were helped, to the extent that the study suggested they screen people for the HS trait and only work with them!)
Do The Healing Codes help with trauma? I’m sure they do. I’m convinced that without doing THC for so many years, I would not now be at the point where I can really get at the root of my traumas and heal them.
That’s the third part of the insight I was given: You are finally ready. If I hadn’t been doing The Healing Codes and Immanuel Prayer for all these years, I would not have gotten to the point where I can heal my deepest traumas. (The earliest of which happened when I was hospitalized for the first 7 weeks of my life, underwent major surgery, and got pneumonia.)
I had to grow my capacity to even face that I had all these traumas in my life. My body is telling me they’re not healed yet—but they are finally ready to be healed.
If you have unexplained, chronic physical symptoms, I encourage you to take the CEN and the Highly Sensitive assessments on my web page. Unhealed traumas are a huge hidden stress to your nervous system.
Awareness is always the first step in healing. If you’re afraid to become aware (I was; I was a master at avoidance of my feelings), use The Healing Codes to heal that first. Be gentle with yourself. Healing is a process, but remember this: We are wired to heal.
And: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die. They need to be acknowledged, welcomed, felt . . . and then they will heal.